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Male 31 yrs.
About 5 years ago I meet a girl with whom I fell in love as soon as I laid eyes on her, we talked for a while that day, but after, did not see each other for a while. A couple months after I saw her again, but then I come to find out that she was married, so I gave it up. We ran into each other from time to time, I even met her husband and so on. Time went by and we lost contact had not seen her for almost 2 years now. A little over a month and a half ago, she came into my life, she added me as a friend on myspace. We started talking, and for what she told it seemed she had been looking for me. She also has a little beautiful girl whom i now love. Anyway, she's divorced now and has been dating for almost a year now. We are now BF and GF, but I'm not quite sure about her, at the beginning everything was nice just like any new relationship. As I get to know her more; she has a temper I can't joke with her about anything cos she gets mad, she doesn't value me very much either, she judges people on the street, guys are always calling her cell when she's with me, at a party I asked her to dance she said no but then her boss came to asked her to dance and she went right out, she's tried to break up with me twice already but the next day she's ok, sometimes I try to kiss her and she says I don't let her breath so I back up, but yet she makes plans about the future with me, she's always listening to love songs about ex relationships and so on. I don't know what to do, I love her and she knows it, but I can't go on with it anymore, yet I can't get her out of my head. i feel like she's using me.. please help.
I'm so sorry that I couldn't have answered sooner. I definitely think you should stop and move on. You're only 31! You have so much left ahead of you and if she's tried breaking up with you in the past and is not 100% into the relationship, it will just hurt both of you more in the future. I think you should try to go out and meet other women because I'm sure you're a very attractive young man and lots of women would love to date you and give you a chance. Don't give up hope. You can get over her. She isn't worth it if she treats you as she does and her emotions are so out of whack. You don't have forever so make sure you wake up everyday and are happy and do something productive to reach your goals. Best of luck and thank you for inboxing me.
17/f
I don't think I want a boyfriend. I'm very busy with school. I don't want the commitment. I don't want to trust someone like that right now. I know either we'd break up within the next year or it would be even harder moving away in September for college. I'm perfectly capable of getting a boyfriend. My parents really want me to have one, I think it worries them that I don't.
Am I just putting up a wall to avoid getting hurt or am I just better off being single? Is it advisable to lose the excuses or are they valid enough to remain single? Who knew this was such a big deal. Thanks for the advice!
honestly, it's completely upto you.
although i'm not as old as you, i feel the same way. i am perfectly capable of getting a boyfriend and sometimes i wish i had one, although when i think about it, boys my age (16) are very lustful and horny. they say they care and everything just seems really fake.
i, like you, am a very good student and feel like getting a boyfriend would just create more stress for me. it would also make a huge impact on my very good female friends (and i suppose male friends as well). i remember when my old best friend (she still thinks we are best friends) got a boyfriend a year ago. things were never the same, and i don't want to do that to my new best friend.
those are VERY valid reasons. do not be pressured to get a boyfriend if you already have your priorities straight. i am totally with you on this girl. don't give up on looking fabulous though -- if you wear make-up, keep wearing it. and dress nicely so people know that you're not just being a lazy fart. you don't have to prove that you're amazing with a boyfriend.
plus, while being single, you can flirt with any guy you want ;) and who wouldn't want that?! it's freedom and a lot less stress (e.g., worrying about a great birthday / anniversary gift, how to make him feel better ALL THE TIME, etc.)
you'll find the right guy when he comes. you're still young and come college, you'll be a different person with new priorities. i'm actually really proud of you that you're doing this for yourself. you're still an awesome young woman and there's always the opportunity to get a man in your life, so do not sweat it if you don't have / aren't interested in having a boyfriend now.
Where can you find a quiz that when you take it, it determines if the guy really likes you or not?
http://www.google.com/search?q=does+he+like+me%3F+quiz&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
ANY of those, hahah. if you take a bunch and take into consideration all the answers you've gotten, that's probably what the answer is. :)
heyy, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.
the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...
whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help
thanks SO much!
yeah, i understand where you're coming from. it's hard, but if he doesn't want to be in a relationship, it's his call. a relationship is two-way.
find someone else to have a crush on. don't ignore him / be mad at him, etc. but just slowly drift away as much as possible. don't stalk his myspace, don't call him up whenever you get the chance. out of sight, out of mind. don't be where he is.
well there is this guy that i like and he really likes me. he just dumped his girlfriend (they were only casual--like a month a half?) and so hes going to wait a couple weeks but then hes going to ask me out and i just dont know if i should say yes or not. im afraid to get hurt again because this spring i had a truly terrible breakup. but i told him my deepest secret and he totally understood! so i feel much closer to him and like i can really trust him. i just started at a new school (tho i met him this summer) and moved here in june so i wasnt going to date anyone for a while but he is really nice and like a lot of things that i would want in a relationship. he says im the girl hes liked the most and he thinks hes ready for a long term relationship because thats what i want. but now i dont kno and im all nervous about dating. but everyone tells me to not just go off of one bad relationship and its true but still. i cant bear that pain again. please give me some advice and tell me what you think is best :)
thanks so much!!
life's too short to not date him. just because you had an ugly past break-up doesn't mean that you should be scared of dating again! i'll use an analogy since i've never really had a boyfriend. in middle school, i got into an ugly fight with three of my good friends because of a stupid miscommunication. ever since then, i can't trust anyone. but you shouldn't be like me. GIVE IN to him! every relationship ends (well most.) and so you should just date him if you like him and he likes you. you can only live once, you know
18/m
im a senior and im married to a beautiful girl who i love so much!!shes 16.
anyways i have a problem...i broke up with my ex a year n a half ago and she wont quit buggin me! Shes only a freshman and shes getting on my nerves. I love my wife and our son and i hate that b**ch for trying to ruin things for me and my family. Today at school she wrtote me a note and i ripped it up in front of her and told her to leave me alone!! but she still doesnt get it!!!when will she get the hint? i dont want my lady to think im talking to her cuz im 100% faithful!!
the first thing i'd do is explain the situation to my wife in case something happens & she gets suspicious.
then i'd calmly tell her to stop talking tome. don't be rude or disrespectful, but just say, "look, i'm married and i'm not interested in you. please stop harassing me." just be honest & don't play any mind games by giving her rude glances, etc. just be straight-forward.
Ok, well like he has told people before he likes me, and like i said i know i like him i just cant figure out why. Like he isnt cute nd he can be a real jerk sometimes, but its so cute how he gets jealous and how he smiles everytime he sees me. And how he tries to make me happy if im sad. And he kissed my neck before and i thought i was going to i dont know what :) and he acts like hes going to bite me playfully to get me laughing, he defends me. But i cant tell WHY i like him. Lke if someone says why do you like him? i just stand there like a retard because i fully cannot answer the question because it is like hard to explain. I want you to help me figure out why i like him.
And i have another question, i dont know how true this is because i have never heard it...
Someone told me that if a guy kisses your neck and you enjoy it, that its love...
first of all, just cause a girl enjoys it when a random guy kisses her neck doesn't mean she loves him. i'm sorry but no, it doesn't work like that. you know when you're in true love when you don't need to lie or hide yourself from him and when you can talk and you feel happy when you see him. you can have the longest day and just seeing him, talking to him helps. you're not in love. being in love happens once, MAYBE twice if you're lucky in a lifetime. so i mean. your husband is your true love.
does it really matter if you know exactly why you like him or not? who cares if you don't? so what, you can't respond adequately when someone asks, "why do you like him?' just be honest & say, "i don't know exactly. i like the way he makes me feel." that's it. just being around him, seeing him (even if he's not the hottest guy ever) makes you happy and you enjoy his company. don't kill yourself over trying to figure out why you like him. it's better than being able to say, "he's hot." and that's why you like him. like that's dumb. so be thankful, actually
I like this guy, i know i do. But like sometimes i sit and think to myselp "why"...I can never answer it. All i get is he makes me feel...and thats it. I dont know i just cant explain it. And i dont know why. All i got is He makes me feel...
I cant debate my feelings, i have so many times there is nothing left. Matter of fact thats how i got "he makes me feel..." So please help me because i dont know.
i'm sorry sweetheart i don't entirely understand your question, but i'll try to tell you what i think.
it's okay to have a crush on a guy and not be able to explain why. you're just attracted to him. many couples can't explain with words why they love their spouse; they just do.
if you want a relationship with him, become friends with him and start hanging out with him more. maybe you'll realize you really don't want to go out with him after all if he turns out to be a jerk, or it could be the best relationship of your life!
pleasee add more information to this question so that i can help you further?
i wanna give my boyfriend a hickey but i don't know if he'd be okay with it, i dont wanna ask him thats awkward...so my question is how do i give a hickey and do most guys like it? thankss
most guys like it hahah. begin my making out with him for a few minutes and then slowly work your way down to making out with his chin and neck and then suck on his neck in a playful way (you don't want to hurt him)
Im fifteen, female. Just got held back for various health reasons so Im in the ninth grade again.
Ive had three boyfriends; one in elementary school and two in middle. They all either deny it, ignore me, or dont say it counts. Whatever. But Ive never kissed a guy!
Lottts of people say Im just absolutely adorable and I have to agree :]
im sooperpetite, smiley, give great hugs. But I feel like a total wallflower. Probably am.
Anyways. Im not totally shallow but I can be stereotypical and guys have asked me out,just not great looking ones.
Well when I get my next boyfriend, Im afraid to kiss him. I want it to be both of our firsts just for that extra little spark I guess :]
But I also want a greaaat guy thats just as simple as I am.
Is there such a boy as that? At all? Do you think Im being too picky? Gosh. Opinions, please.
no, sweetheart. every girl wants to meet her prince and you're definitely not being too picky. picky is, "i want him to be 5'4" with hazel eyes and blonde hair and he has to wear a lot of abercrombie and he has to have dimples..."
there is a boy for every girl out there, and so yes there is a boy like that :) but you have to remember that the guys you end up getting will never be PERFECTLY as you imagined. just be open-minded but keep your standards high
How do you love? Not a sexual question.
each person has their each unique way of displaying their love. some people do it with words. some with actions. but everyone has the capability. the potential. to love.
So I just turned 16 yesterday.
and I've been dating my first boyfriend for a month now. I thought he was extremely cute when I first saw him, and now when we hangout I keep second guessing. And I shouldn't be, should I? We haven't kissed yet, and all of my friends insist he was trying to kiss me last night, and I think he was too. But I couldn't, and I don't think I wanted to. I don't know if I like the IDEA of having a boyfriend or if I actually LIKE him, and I'm so so confused! What do I do? And if I'm supposed to break up with him, how? (We work together. AND my sister works there too.)
Thankyou in advance!
okay the first thing you absolutely positively need to ask yourself is:
if he didn't like me right now, and we weren't dating, would i like him?
trust me don't make the same mistake i made to go out with a guy just to say you have a boyfriend. it hurts him and it doesn't make you feel any better about yourself.
if you realize that you don't like him anymore like that, then by all means break up with him and so both of you can go your separate ways. say that you like him more as a friend. honestly, just be truthful and although you may be distant for a while, stay friends. keep in touch and if you're friends then no worries about your job :)
Okay, over the summer me and this guy named jared "talked" for a week but then he had to get a job so he couldn't talk anymore but we still texted as friends but nothing flirty. We still text, but again, nothing flirty. Well today in class one of my friends caysy sat in the same seat as him and was helping him with a worksheet and every couple of seconds i would see them wispering to eachother. I always see them flirting together. So i was standing right behind them and she still wouldn't stop. Then, they both volenteered to run an errand for the teacher and they were gone forever and i bet the whole time, they were flirting. Then, in the next class she was like "Omg, jared tried on my ring (i guess just to be funny) and he streched it out." I gave her kind of a weird look and she said "Me and jared are just friends so you don't have to worry." Then i was like "Does he know that i like him?" and she said that he had known for two days and he said he dosen't know if he likes me. I don't know if she was telling the truth but i think she was. She said that i should wait until he decides if he likes me. Ever since he knew that i liked him he hasn't hugged me or said hi to me every morning like he used to or talk to me any. I don't think he likes me anymore but i'm not sure. I don't really want to ask him. I don't know how to act around caysy now. If i call her out on it, she might go back to him and say that i keep bugging her about him or she might say to him, "she thinks that we are flirting." I don't want him to think i'm jealous. But if i don't do anything, she might keep flirting and just keep doing it and she might think it dosen't bother me. I have never liked a guy this much and now she does this. I don't know how to act around her anymore. What should i do and how should i act around her. Now, every time i talk to him, he is probably thinking that i am flirting. I don't like guys knowing that i am flirting unless that guy likes me to. But like i said, he talks to her a lot more than me but he just has that flirty personality so i'm not sure if he actually likes her or if he is just flirting just for the heck of it. Please help! Thanks!!
your friend is not a true friend. she is flirting with your crush when she is aware that you like him. don't do ANYTHING through her. do not ask her anything about jared -- she can easily lie.
i'd talk to him myself and ask him if he likes me because you shouldn't trust anyone else, sorry to say. if he says straight up "no" DROP HIM. immediately and let your friend flirt all she wants.
another thing you can do is tell her that it makes you uncomfortable how much she's flirting with him. if she is a true friend, she'll stop.
16/f Alright, sorry this might be a little long. I've been dating this wonderful boy since a month ago yesterday. He's so sweet to me. The bad thing is that he lives nearly four hours away. =/ About a little more than a week into the relationship, he was rushed to the hospital for an inflammed pancreas. One side of his pancreas just stopped working, so he was in there for two weeks. He got out Saturday night I think and ever since he's barely spoken to me at all. I know it's only been a few days. He IMed me the next night and told me how much he missed me and that he promised me he'd make up for lost time. Ever since that, he texted me once. Earlier today, when I signed on AIM, he was on, so I waited for a few minutes to see if he IMed me, and he didn't. I IMed him a half an hour later. he never responded, but went away nearly twenty minutes after I IMed him. I texted him last night because I told him I would call him, but I wouldn't be home until late. I called him and left him a voicemail. He didn't call me back or text me. I know it hasn't been long since he's gotten out of the hospital, but before he went in, he would text me a million times a day, and now he's only texted me once since he's gotten home. I know that he's still recovering, taking it easy on the couch, but if he says he misses me, and then pretty much ignores everything I say to him, I think he's losing interest. I sent him an IM earlier that told him I'm sick of making all these attempts to just be ignored, and that if he wants to talk to me, then he will. I know it's been only a few days, but am I making a big deal out of this? Does it seem like he's losing interest in me?Should I really be upset? What should I do?
sweetie, he's not losing interest in you.
he probably has 230948320932 other things to do, and it would make him feel horrible if you broke up with him out of nowhere. be supportive during the recovery process. see where the relationship lies in a few weeks. he told you he misses you, and he means it. unlike other boyfriends, he seems pretty reliable.
in a couple weeks, explain to him that you were feeling ignored and he will make it up to you just like he promised.
if in two weeks he's STILL ignoring you like this, then break up.
what does all of this mean: (love life)
1 on a break
2 open relationship
3 cool-off
did i miss anything? if so, what else are there?
1.) you're still in a committed relationship with someone, but you're "taking a break" because maybe you got in a little fight. it's supposed to be temporary.
2.) you're in a relationship with someone but both parties agree that they can hook up and do things with other people too. the point is so that the people can be close and hang out without restrictions. not serious, really laid back.
3.) i'm not familiar with this, but it sounds similar to taking a break. perhaps a heated fight and one needs time to "cool off."
hope i helped :]
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=open+relationship
Hi, I'm from the UK, hope you can help! I began dating a guy a few months ago through facebook (However, he is from my hometown and I did already know him). He is 26 and im 25 and he lives about 2.5 hours away from me. We got on so well in every way, we are perfect for each other, but the distance was a stuggle. We were emailing and texting every day, but only getting to see each other every 2 weeks which was really hard. He wanted to move back but couldnt find a job in his profession. Then about 6 weeks ago he rang up and said we should not see each other anymore as its too hard as he is skint, falling behind in his job (he has a professional job) and hates the idea of me paying to go up there all the time. He insisted he still really liked me, but i was sceptical. That was around 6 weeks ago and i was gutted, since then we have emailed around once a week, until last week when he text me saying he would be home on the weekend...would i like to meet for a drink? So i met him on Sat and we were together all night, and things were exactly the same - we still got on so well and he said things like if he lived here he would be saying 'l love you' by now! It was so nice, then Sunday he said he would try and come down in two weeks time...i just dont know waht to do though, im worried he'll change his mind again etc. He's text me a couple of times since the weekend, but nothing yesterday(its wednesday now), but it's so confusing. He is a nice, genuine person so i know he isnt using me. My friend said perhaps i should move up there, but i dont feel that i know him well enough and would be scared. Long distance is really hard, but i really, really like, even love him. It's taken so long to find someone I like, usually I just date and end up finishing with them pretty soon after. I hate feeling like this, it's so much easier when I don't like anyone and am single! Sorry for babbling on so much, but i would appreciate your advice - thank you!x
aw sweetheart. that's really tough. but it's great that you're still in touch. it seems as though he's really into you, and he cares so much about you that he doesn't want you to waste money meeting up with him.
honestly, i wouldn't move unless you're absolutely positive that you want to. it's a big step and, financially, you might have some problems. you'll be ten times more upset if things don't work out AND you spent money on moving.
don't worry too much about what he said, but i think you should both try to meet up in a place halfway from each of you. like at a pizza place or get some coffee so that you don't always have to spend money and neither does he.
all the best, and hope everything works out
well yah thats what im going to do..but like i say is al good.
ima talk
okayy girll :) all the best
thank you,ima call him today and im gonna see what happens..or i will probably call him tomorrow.
but im really hurt.
we have a yr an 2 months going out,and i dont wanna brake up with him.
i'm so sorry, babe. honestly, it doesn't matter how long you've been going out but how strong your relationship is. you could know someone all your life and still never click.
you don't have to break up right now, but if he's being selfish and ignoring your calls, you have to make sure he respects you as a person and meets your needs
I am with a girl now that had cheated on her previous boyfriend with me and now i work a 3 week on 3 week off rotation which puts me out of state for weeks at a time and its been eating at me that she might be cheating on me while im away. what should i do? im lost.
first of all, don't doubt her just cause she's cheated on her last boyfriend. maybe she has learned and is a different person now.
second, you have to let her know that it is bothering you. be honest and say that you don't want her cheating on you.
third, if she promises, you have to learn to trust her. how would you like it if everyone always doubted you because you made one mistake? keep it in the back of your mind, and if there are hints that she's cheating, you have to confront her about it.
fourth, which is a must, call her once a day and ask her what she's been upto. if you talk frequently, she'll feel guilty if she does cheat on you.
but before you leave, you have to talk to her about how it's bothering you. learn to be loyal and honest about your feelings with her.
ok i been going out wit my boyfriend for a yr and 2 months.
but now he left to the dominican republic..nd everytime i call him he is never there.i dont know what to think,sometimes i think that he is just cheeting on me.because his brother got a myspace and he cheks it every 4 days,then why cant my boyfriend do that and ask why did i called or something..?
omg im confuse nd sad please give me some really good advice,thank you
hey sweetie.
i'm so sorry about your boyfriend. he seems really irresponsible for ignoring you like he is when you care so much about how he's doing. i know it must be hard. how long has he not been responding? if it's been over a week, you have to first give him a real strict talk when he gets back or when you can talk to him again. you have to tell him how much it bothers you and pains you that he's ignoring you and not calling you back or answering his phone. it's very rude and obnoxious. if he says "i'm so sorry i'll never happen again" and it happens again, you need to break up with him. what is a relationship without proper communication and only broken promises?
hope all goes well. feel free to inbox me again if you have anymore questions.