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How do you love??
How do you love? Not a sexual question.
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how do i love?? hmmm 1st i show him the real me.. then if he can take it., then he is the right one. ofcourse i should also check his real personality/attitude, etc.
sometimes i can't really define how to love. or when, how, did i fall into love.
you just feel it..
then you know love...
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First you have to define what love is properly and then you simply go from there. Once you have the right definition of love, then things are pretty much self-explanatory.
Love means caring about someone more than you care about yourself.
This means you look after the other person first. You let them have the better one of something. You do things just to make them happy, even if it's an inconvenience to you. Your first thoughts no longer revolve around yourself, but the other person instead. You take care of your loved one before yourself.
I'm not just talking about relationships between boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife either. This applies to all relationships in which you love someone--such as mother and daughter, father and son, brother and sister, etc. You show love the same way for all types of relationships.
You cannot make someone love you, of course, and sex is no sign of love really because it isn't showing care--it's just animal instinct. Showing love comes from your heart--not your body. You don't have sex with your grandmother because you love her but you try to make her smile, keep her company, and brighten her days by spending time with her and showing her that you...CARE.
It doesn't matter what the person looks like, but you want them to have good health. It doesn't matter how the person walks, but you don't want them to be made fun of by others and get hurt. It doesn't matter if the person is deathly afraid of something, but you want to help them overcome their fears.
That right there is where a lot of people get lost about love. I hear all the time, "If he loves you then it won't matter if you're fat! Don't change yourself for someone!" If he loves me, then it WILL matter. He will want me to be healthy and happy. It would make him happy for me to live an extra year longer if I was healthier. You should WANT to change yourself for someone--to give them what happiness they deserve in life.
I think hearing, "I love you, please lose some weight so you are healthier," is not an insult at all. The person is showing that they care about you. They care if you're unhealthy. They care and want you to do something to make yourself healthy. They are bringing a problem to your attention because they LOVE you.
You try your best to be what the person deserves, whether that's a better mother, father, husband, wife, brother, sister, etc. You change what needs to be changed and improve what needs improving.
As my loving boyfriend says, when you wake up in the morning, the first thought to come into your head is, "What can I do today to bring a smile to [LOVE]'s face and happiness to his/her heart?"
I really think that's all that love is, and it seems that today a lot of people don't realize that. A lot of people claim to have love for someone but they never think if anyone but themselves--I've always wondering how in the world that can be loving.
I know I'm loved. I don't hear it all day, every day, but I know it so well. I don't have to hear that I'm loved because I have proof every day. I'm thought of first by someone. I'm taken care of by someone. Someone does whatever he can for me without asking anything in return--simply because he LOVES me.
I hope I've helped you see another perspective on love, what it means, and how to show love. If you have any other questions about this sort of thing, please feel free to ask me :)
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Love isnt something you "Do"
Youll understand love when your accually INlove.
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each person has their each unique way of displaying their love. some people do it with words. some with actions. but everyone has the capability. the potential. to love.
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love is not something you learn.
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