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I'm single but I have gone through tough relationships so I can help anyone on that field...


I'm a tracky and I love soccer and most of my close friends play diffrent sports... so sport questions I can help with...


I have awesome friends but we have had our tough times so friendship problems, I know almost all...


I'll tell you straight out what I believe whether good or badd... but I try to be as nice as possible... I answer any type of question...


I'm a Junior in high school... which means I'm in 11th grade for those who don't have any special names and such... i'm 16 since july 9th


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~Gomesy #11~

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Im 13, im goin out with this guy Joe. I really really like and we have gone out 4 other times. we had broke up a little while ago,we had still really liked each other so he asked me out again. but hes always with this girl deena and they're like always standing RIGHT next to each other. and he doenst talk to me like at all amd he'll blame everything on me. we hardly hug, he doesnt hold my hand, and barely ever puts his arm around me, so i dont know if he really likes me although he says tht he does alot. and we've been going out for a week. i dont kno wut to do about him and i really like him. plz help!
signed~ confused

GRAB HIS HAND... meaning take some charge... when he is near deena you go in for the hugg... show her he is yours... even if she doesn't want him just do it... if maybe you start this he will learn to do it on his own... like training a dog... lol... good luck

Gomesy11

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Ok, so im 13 i have this boyfriend joe and i really really like him. We have gone out 4 times before, but i dont know if he really likes me. We hardly ever talk in school and im a shy person so i hate to walk up to him by myself, especially because he is usually by these people who hate me, and this week i have had a cold so. I dont know what to do like i dont know if he likes me and hes always with other girls and hiss best friend is a girl and i guess im a little jeolous of tht and i dont want to be and my best friend is a guy and its one joe hates, so i am sooo confused.
signed ~confused~

Confused,
If you like this guy you have to go for it... i know that seems like shitty advice but there is nothing else... see if you guys have something... than worry about your friends... take chances... good luck

Gomesy11

P.S. If you need more help just ask

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hi,
so there is this guy... and he's two grades older than me so he isn't in any of my classes, but he is really cute and i did track with him so i know a little bit about him... from what i know i really really like him... but i never see him anymore cause track is over(for my school at least im not sure if urs is). i see him in the halls but i wasnt great friends with him so i dont say hi cause i dont know if im supposed to so i just smile... and i really wanna get to know him more but i dunno a way how... im kinda sorta friends with his younger sister but obv. im not gonna use her to get close with him... and one of my best friends is the type of person who can go up to anyone and have a convo.. so i was thinking maybe i could ask her to start talkin to him and become to know him and we can becom friends threw friend... i dunno it was just anything... i know i sound retarded but i really wanna get to know him so please please helppp!!lol thanks a bunch if u can

You don't sound retarded... you should defiantly try to talk to him... be friends with this guy... well if your friends the type like that ask her for some help... make sure she knows you like him though... so she won't try to make a move... try that out... good luck

Gomesy11

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im having a really tough time right now. im going out with someone who will stay unmentioned..but the thing is i used to like this other kid who we will call **matt** ok well *matt* and i were talking for the first time since he found out i had a boyfriend and he told me about how he used to like me a lot. the problem is that i really like him even when me and my bf began going out. but i also love my boyfriend. they both live in different towns than i do and i have no idea how i am feeling right now about both of them. its really confusing me and i just feel like giving up. pleaseee help me.

well **matt** should have told you he liked you before... he probably want to keep you for himself and such... don't let **matt** ruin your relationship with this new guy... don't lead **matt** on and tell him the truth... don't have one guy and another one... that's messed up and i bet yopu wouldnt want your boyfriend to have another girl... good luck

~Gomesy

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Do you think it's possible to find your soulmate at 12? When I was 12 I got my first bf and we're still together. (I'm 14.) We've been through a lot together and I feel really close to him. But I don't know if that's just because he's the only person I've ever been with, or if my feelings are real. I can't imagine us not being together. He's my best friend. So... Do you thinkit's possible he's my soulmate or am I too young and am being fooled?

It's so sweet that it is soo sweet you guys have been going out for so long and that you guys are best friends and such... but your still young and you can change... let days pass or weeks or years and see how it goes... maybe someone will come and your feelings might change...

GOOD LUCK

~Gomesy

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i am a 14 yr old girl and of my boyfriend always wrestles with me what does that mean ?

Means that you guys are close... if you don't want anything to happen than don't let anything...

~Gomesy

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Me and this boy are really serious. We have been talking for like3-4 months.But this other guy asked me to the dance and then we started to talk cuz i kinda said yea since the first boy doesnt go to my school.Then he asked me to come outside and we were walkin around all day.Then he fingered me like 4 times,. But i feel really guilty cuz i love the other boy.What do I do? IS this cheating? Do i tell the other dude.

If you do something with another guy sorry to say but it's cheating... but at the same time, are you and this guy official going out?... because if your not than it's not but if you are it is... just see where you and the guy you like go... he'll probably ask if you have done stuff with guys and if he does than tell the truth... good luck

~Gomesy

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hey... im 14 and to new people i am really shy but with all my friends im kinda the crazy one that no one takes seriously... but my problem is that i dont know how to make friends...expecially guys... i feel like its time that i finally get a boyfriend or even just friends who are guys but i never know how to start a convo or keep a convo goin
help!

I have the same problem... just talk to people like you talk to your friends but don't say everything exactly... I talk to people i know from sports and we talk about certain things... for example a really cute guy on the track team... i would never say a word to him but at one point i talked to him about track and soccer... just find something you have in common... when you get going you won't be worrying about nothing to talk about you'll be worrying if your going to forget to say something... Good Luck

~Gomesy~

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I went out with this boy for 4 months and we broke up. He has a new girlfriend now. I don't know her, but one day she messaged me out of the blue and started asking me if I still liked him and have feelings for him. So I told her that I don't because I kinda do, but only a teeny bit. Anyway, she won't leave it alone and everyday she asks me if I want him back and blehh. What do I say to her to make her stop, cause I'm really tired of telling her that I'm not trying to steal her boyfriend.

She is trying to make sure your not a problem... most of us girls do it now a days... she will stop sooner or later... if she doesn't she has major problems... next time she asks be like... "the more you ask me the more he comes on my mind and the more i think about him and think if i do like him or not..."... maybe if you say that she will be too scared to ask...

Gomesy

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So, theres this guy and he shows all the signs that he likes me and this other chick but I dont know if Im really his type.We have gone out sevral times and it has been GREAT but it seems everytime it ends he goes back to his emo ex!!! and I alwaz get hurt what should I do to get his attentions and make him love me NOT HER!!!??!!
Sighed,
~Helpless~

This guy seems as if he is trying to play a game with yah... if i was you i would try to find another guy who will be focused on you... it won't be easy to get over the guy but be strong and find another guy... don't play his game... don't be the chick on the side

Gomesy

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hey i have a friend and him and his girlfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago and he still likes her so me and her hungout friday ane he got mad at us. But now i like her and like shes my bestfriends ex. What should i do?
P.S. were both 14

It's not always good to hang out with your best friends ex... unless you and her were already friends... i can see a love triangle in the making... if i were you just back off for awhile... its not always good to be with your friends ex it can cause major problems... just seee what happenes with them and let her decide...

Gomesy

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okay.. so theres this boy that likes me who i really like also... he told his best friend that him and i were going to go out.. but he hasnt asked me yet... his best friend tells me that hes most likely going to cheat on me... so thats a bummer right? well.. i realy really like him you know but i dont want to be cheated on.... so i thought maybe i could go out with him but not think much of it.. but that wouldnt make the relation ship work... than i decided i could realllly dedicate myself to him and that would stop him from cheating on me.. but no one wants their heart brokend.. WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?


signed... helpless!

So he's a cheater and such... and maybe a bit weird???... Weird cause he told his friend you gys were going out when he didnt ask you... idk how you guys are... Maybe him saying this shows that he likes you???.... there is nothing wrong with taking a chance... every relationship is going to hurt... that's what helps it grow and become stronger...

Take a chance... ~Gomesy

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hey my name is Ashley and i'm a feamle(of course) and i'm 14 yrs. old heres my question for anybody with good advice!!!

I like my best friends ex!!! Heres the scoop... they broke up because my best friend was confused and she cheated on him. Well now(two months later) she starts telling me she now knows what she was missing and she really did love him and she wants desperately to go with him again. Now i've been talking to him since they broke up because he needed a friend cuz he really liked her but she cheated on him.(yea i kno guys actually have feelings...well at least the good ones) and i'm starting to like him now i mean he's the perfect boyfriend he's cute, hilarious, loving, i don't know he's just soOoOo great!! the thing is that my best friend who i've been friends with for almost 11 yrs. still "loves" him i really really think she'll be so mad if he askes me out or if i ask him. I dont know what to do cuz i dont want her to be mad at me but i dont get very many guys nowadays and i really like him and he told me i was hot yesterday please help me!!

Luv,

~~~ASHLEY~~~

P.S. i rate high

A love triangle isn't what anyone needs... just try to let him go... if he comes on to you it isn't your fault... let him pick i guess

Gomesy

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Me and my girlfriend are in a delema she is makeing a dission between me or another guy she says she is confused. and she says she loves me but my point of view is if she loves me as much as she says she does then i would this it would be no comp. I love her like no other. Im thinking she is playing both sides she wants me to be here if she picks the other guy and it goes wrong with them. my prob is what should i do if she picks him. I would hope she'd pick me though.

Girls point of view... you should talk to the "other guy"... see what she is saying to her... she may be sincerly confused and loves you but from out of no where this guy comes... or she could be trying to have two guys at once... i don't really now her to say witch she is doing... just ask the guy and such... and talk to her... tell her whats on your mind... if she loves you than you two shoudln't have a problem... good luck and i hope i helped...

Gomesy

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So I'm sorta about to be going out with this guy. My best friend, hits on everyone, including him. lately i've been trying to hang out more with him (but i haven't like ditched my friends for him) so today, im sitting behind him in math, and my "friend" walks up, and sits on his lap.This made me angry but, he didnt appear to happy about it either but is to nice to say GET OFF ME! So then, she's trying to get her hands either up or down his shirt claiming she's "cold". then. when we are leaving math, i walked out with him. she runs up the hallway, litterally, shoves him off to the side, somehow wiggles between us cutting my totally off from him! i havent told her yet that we r going to go out, cause im afraid of her reaction. how can i tell her to lay off him, without being rude?! ty in advance, i rate high/

You have to tell her... just be like i like so and so and he likes me... if she is a good friend she should listen to you...

Gomesy

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Okay here it goes, my boyfriend is really unexperienced, and really shy. I want to know if I should just go for it or wait untill he goes for it (it being the kiss) Or is it more of a "we both will know when its right" type of deal. I was the one to initiate most everyhting else such as holding hands and whatnot,...now what?

OK... dont ask him to kiss you!! Its awkward my ex did and i wanted to slap him... you should let him come... the best kisses in my opinion are the ones you just look into eachothers eyes and know when its coming and know its right... sounds corny but most like it... i do atleats... just hang out with him one day and tell him how you feel about you and look into him eyes and such... hopefully you will get this kiss... good luck....

Gomesy

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theres this guy at school that all my friends are friends with, but i havent really liked him from the start... maybe its b/c i hear all these bad things he says behind one of my best friends back... anyways what should i do...
i've tried being nice to him and talking to him more but, he just obviously doesn't like me eigher...if i could learn to be friends with him... that would be great, but he doesn't really want to be... or at least thats what i heard from one of my friends
One more thing... should i try to forget all of these mean things that he has said behind my friends back??
-confused

Dont try to be friends with someone cause everyone else is... just ignore him... his lost... he seems like a ass anyway... and it depends how your friend is with hima nd hw badd the thing he said was... if your friend thinks he awesome and such you shoulk tell em what he said so they wont get too into him... hope i helped

Gomesy

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okay well there is this guy that has liked me all year long and he tells me all the time that he always thinks about me and he dreams about me and it really didnt bug me because i just ignored him when he told me stuff like that. But then all of the sudden he put something in his xanga that scared me and has haunted me ever since. It said that he would take a bullet for me thats how bad he wants me. And i have been scared that he will do anything just to get me. I dont know if i should talk to the police or a counselor but if someone could please help. He stalks me all the time and he knows everything about me like where i live, what my mom's car looks like and the sticker on the back of the car. To me that is very scary. If someone could please help i am afraid for my life here... i feel like one day he will bring a gun to school and shoot me thats how bad he really wants me and if i say no to him then that makes him really mad. Please help ASAP! ITS URGENT!
thank you

he is definantly a stalker... the way you are discribing him... you should tell someone... no one wants anything to happen to you... go to the police or a councelor... do this asap... hope i helped... good luck

Gomesy

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ok so heres my problem- i went out with this guy a couple of months ago and we only went out for like 2 months but i'm still not over him! im so in love with him! but i also think i'm in love with my best friend(hes a guy). we are soo close but i really think i love him. but my other best friend(whos a girl) also likes him a TON! but he deosn't like her.she doesn't know i like him but i'm just so confused with what to do. cause a lot of people say he likes me but i dont wanna be mean and go out with him. so i really have no idea what to do! help me PLEASE!

ok girl... lets breath... in and out... ok... i know what ur going through... i went out with this kid for like 4 months and i was soo into him and when we broke up i didnt get over him for awhile... try to get over him... someone new hels and you have found someone... but its not only you and him your friends in this too... you should st down and talk to her... i guys you should find out who likes him the most... sounds dumb but its a good idea... and you should also talk to the guy... find out how he feels about you... be like "so who do you like", put this in a convo with him... i think if you are with this guy riend than it will be easier to get over this guy... hoe i heled girl

xoxox Gomesy

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I am a 15 year old female. There is this boy i really like and he flirts with me and i flirt back. He pokes me all the time and makes fun of me and everything. He went out with one of my friends but they broke up in January and only went out for a week. What should i do?

Going out with one of your friends ex isnt always good... first thing is check with your friend and see if its cool... make sure... and if ts alright with her than make your move... ask him to hang out and see if yah really like him, if it works than it works, maybe your friend was ment to find him to get ur attention so he could end up with you... love works in crazy ways

Gomesy!!

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