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Q: I’m 15/f and I’ve never had a boyfriend

My friend knows this guy at her school..who’s cute and tall and stuff…she says he’s my type…she talks to him at school…so it’s not like it’s a random guy

1.) She wants to get him with me but she doesn’t know what to say or how to bring me up..how can she do this??

2.) And if I do do this I would almost never get to see him…should I do this??..and i really want a boyfriend

go on a blind date... and if it clicks, give him your number, NO KISSING on the first date... then after you guys talk a bit, if you wanna get together, talk to him about how you'd get to see each other, if it works out. then get with him. but remember, guys are jerks, and MOST just want sex.

Q: 15/f. A couple months ago, this guy and I went to the movies and we had a nice time. He didn't talk to me much afterwards, cause he's kind of shy. So, I left him alone and decided to let him come to me when he wanted to. So, about a month ago, he asked me to the movies again. I was at the beach, so I said that we definately could when I got back. I got back a few days later, so surely he couldn't have forgotten? But he hasn't talked to me at all since he asked me. I poked him on facebook but he didnt respond at all. Maybe he had second thoughts? Maybe it was a joke? I don't want to message him or IM him in case he thinks I'm annoying...I'm really starting to really like him and this silent treatment is getting frustrating.

did you tell him that you're back?

Q: So you know how when you kiss a family member on the cheek and you make the kissy noise, and you pucker up, and you suck in a bit? well do you do that when u kiss someone for thefirst time?

lol no dear. that would be embaressing. when you kiss, you part your lips just a LITTLE bit... and you lean in slow, heads tilted (if his/hers is tilted to the left, tilt yours to the right) press your lips against theirs slowly and softly, then lean back out and look them in the eyes and smile.

Q: okay to make a long story short me and my ex have been dating for 2 years and a month and we just recently broke up but when we were on and off we both were talking to other people i love my ex to death and i want to be with him but the thing is i like this other boy at the same time. and i know my ex talks to other girls today we talked about being truthfull to each other and letting each other know everything that went on. I kissed this other boy and lied to my ex and told him i didnt do anything because i know it would break his heart. I feel so guilty but i cant stand to tell him. What can i do to not feel guilty i feel so bad but then again we werent together but we are trying to staart over. What can i do?

tell him (if it's the truth) that when you kissed this other boy, it made you realize how much you love him and that no one makes you feel that way and all that jazz.

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out like 1 or 2 weeks now and we're gonna make out and he's most likely gonna feel me up haha I'm okay with it and everything haha.BUT he said I can feel him "down" if I want to so if I have the courage tonight haha how would I go about doing this without putting my hands down his pants or anything ? I just wanna get him exited haha thnkx a million !! [p.s. no lectures please haha]

just rub him on the outside of his pants, you can unbutton and unzip his pants too, but be careful, you don't know how far this is gonna end up going. you might wanna set your limits.

Q: Hi. I'm 15/f.
Well there's this guy who is friends with my older brother.
Anyways sometimes we "talk", but I like him as a friend. My brother thinks I like "like" him, but is ok with it.
We were supposed to hang out yesterday night, but I was too tired so I stayed home and said we could hang out today.
This morning I called him and we hung out-- and drove around for hours (it was a bit awkward).
When my brother got off work, we picked him up. Then I went to a church thing with my other friend (a girl).
Afterwards, my brother and the guy were being complete jerks. I mean, they usually tease us, but they've never been really mean to me before. It sounds stupid, but I cried (I don't think they saw, though).
My friend and I were going to hang out with them, but instead we just left.

So why was he like that (my guy friend)?

Thanks.

when guys get around other guys, they tend to do that. i guess it's to show off and act like they're big and bad and tough, even though they arn't. give him another chance, and if he does it again, talk to him.

Q: Why do people always think that if your in a serious relationship then the guy loves the girl more then the girl loves the guy?

More than likley it's because you don't see guys falling in love with every girl they get with, girls on the other hand, think they're in love with everyone they date. especially if it lasts two months or longer. guys either have to be brought up right or love pretty strong to not cheat or leave the girl for every little thing. don't get me wrong, there are girls that are like that too, but not as many.

Q: ok so last week i wrote on here that this guy asked me to kiss him but i said no becuz i was afraid some1 would see us...he's a little older thatn me and i didnt want people to talk. well neway sunday night he asked me agian and i said yes. he was really nice about it becuz he knew i was kinda scared and stuff but overall it was GREAT! by the way it was my first kiss* but now i feel guilty becasue i realized he is too old for me. how do i break up with him?

how much of an age difference is there? age is just a number hun... most the time lol.

but if you wanna break up with him, just ask him if he thinks you're too young for him.. if he says no, tell him you think it's a bit odd and maybe you should just be friends.

Q: Im just moving up the street , so its not a big deal.
But the neighborhood I live in now has the boy i like in it.
We are pretty good friends and stuff and i THINK [not 100%] sure that he used to like me and we used to hangout like every weekend.
Everytime i say that im moving or not gonna ride the bus him and his friends will all say " YAY!"
but then online or alone he doesnt act like hes gonna miss me but he doesnt act like he wants me to leave.

but do you think the guy i like might miss me??
Because hes always trying to be around me , its weird.

yea hun i think he likes you. after you move, go to his house every once in a while and hang out with him or show him where your new place is. maybe something good will come out of it ^.^

hope i helped! leave one in my inbox if you wanna talk more.

*~Care bare~*

Q: My boyfriend and me don't talk on the phone I don't know why either. We've been dating since last Saturday. He talk to other girls on the phone plenty of times, but not me. I want to start talking on the phone with him I don't what I should say to him on msn messenger should I just come out and say can I call you or what? Thanks in advance

Make up an excuse on why you have to get offline and ask if you can just call him and talk or leave him your number saying "heres my number if you wanna call..." cause that'd work tool.

Q: How far have you gone for your other half, I am not asking what you are willing to do, I am asking what have you done for him or for her. Like surprises, money spent, romantic places or trips.

Well, at the moment, he's gone. He got in some trouble and he's in canton at a group home till around my birthday (which isn't till May) and I've been waiting for him to come home since June 1st. And I'm gonna wait the whole time for him. I'm working on something for our 1 year which is on March 18th. I'm making a list of 365 songs that I dedicate to him or that remind me of him. I'm going to buy him a dozen black roses (about $30.00) once I get my job. I'm making a picture frame with our inside jokes written all over it and a picture of us together inside. I'm making him a CD of our songs and some of his favorite songs and a personal recording from me that i'm gonna make on my computer here soon. and a long letter telling him how much I love him and i've missed and and all that. and some cute quotes from the internet. then I'm putting all this stuff inside a basket and hiding the basket in his room and putting little riddles around his room for him to figure out where its at lol. and making him a big dinner the night he comes home. it's quite cute if you ask me.

if you need any other ideas (cuz i'm guessing thats what this question is for) then just messege me and i'll be glad to help. i'm full of ideas recently.

Q: So I like this kid.
He has a girlfriend now, but we used to have a thing during the summer.
We are friends and all but like in front of his friends he's mean to me.. etc.
But I noticed that on days that i look pretty , he is less mean to me and tries to be around more
and he'll talk to me on online that day and try and find reasons to talk to me [online].
I dont mind this because i love talking to him but why is this?

ps. one time he even sat with me on the bus, and that was a day where i probably looked the best.

pss, im not trying to sound stuckup , im not very pretty lol.

umm... seriously? I think this guy is a jerk. Think about it, he talks to you ONLY on the days when you look pretty.. he's mean to you any other day... He may just be showing off to his friends when you come around, but more than likely he's just REALLY shallow. And I'm pretty sure he doesn't deserve a doll like you. Watch out for jerks like him ok?

If you wanna talk more... just messege me.

hope I helped! ^.^

Q: Okay I"m 13year old female and i go witha 16 year old guy.. He's experienced and is ready so am i but what if we do it an i get pregnant what then?? I know use condoms... My cousin used protection an got pregnant... I really am ready... i know Birth control but how do i get to the place to get the pills...Or should i dump him and wait for a guy who isn't experienced???????

well unless you guys have really strong feelings... i'd dump him for someone who's at your experience level. because more than likley that kids just using you because you're a virgin... guys LOVE to take virgins "v-card" as they put it. and i know you don't want to hear this part (because I never did) but seriously, you are a little too young for that. I mean seriously, if you got pregnant... do you honestly think he'd stay with you? or do you think he'd run? most guys run. espeicially at your ages. and if your mom and dad don't approve of it (which they probably won't) and you DO get pregnant.. how are you gonna tell them that you are having sex AND that you are pregnant?

Sorry if this made you uncomfortable or mad... if you want to talk, i'm here. Just messege me k?

Q: My bf is such a hypocrite. Well for starters he is about 30 pounds overweight. I am about average; and he keeps telling me I need to lose 20 pounds although he never thinks he has a weight problem. He also gets upset if he thinks I'm too friendly with the opposite sex; but he flirts outragiously right in front of me. He also has said the he thinks he's smarter then me even though I know a lot more things like about movie and television trivia and mental health and other topics than he knows. He thinks he's king sh_t. It is really beginning to tick me off. He also copies ideas of mine and passes them off as his own and he never gives me any credit for them. Should I confront him? He really needs a reality check before his head swells up any more.

Yes you DEFENITLY need to confront him. What kind of bf does stuff like that?! I think if he doesn't straighten up soon... you should probably leave him. No guy should treat a girl like that. i'm sure you deserve better. cuz that is REALLY messed up.

Q: Hey you,
Missc here. My boyfriend, Jesse, and I, have been dating for...going on (7) months at the end of this month (July). Anyway, I know this is kinda early in the year to ask for advice, but I REALLY want to make this special! I want to ask my boyfriend to my homecoming (because he goes to a different school), but I don't know how and what I should do. I want it to be cute and something he will never forget.
Got any ideas that you could share?
~*~Missc~*~

ok i like your roses idea but you may want to make them fake roses and also be holding a rose but let it be a real one. make sure nobody else is at his place when you do this though cuz it will ruin the moment. be wearing something sexy but NOT the dress your gonna wear to the dance. have the lights dimmed and if they don't do that then turn them off and light candles around the room.

Q: Ok i like this dude we call Mouse. My "friend" Gail is totally obsessed with him and loves him to death and has for like 4 years. The thing is, they have never went out, and he can't stand her! he told me and all his friends earlier that he can't stand her cuz she tries to control who he likes and who he dates and she freaks out on anyone he likes or dates so that they get scared off. then he told me on the way home that he likes me and yea i defenitly like him ...a lot! and anyways, Gail said that she isn't going to stop me if i wanna go out with him and that she won't get mad at me. but Louann says that since Gail is my friend I shouldn't go out with Mouse. and that if I did go out with Mouse then she (Louann) would get mad at me and either hurt me or not talk to me (unless its yelling) ever again. but yea, i really really really really like Mouse.....how can i get Louann to accept that me and Mouse wanna go out???

you shouldn't worry about what Louann has to say about it. if she is really your friend as well then she should let you go out with him and let you be happy. but then again...

if your "friend" Gail has liked him longer than you then maybe you are wrong for liking him in the first place cuz that is your friends obsession. and you shouldn't try and take him. its not very nice.

but also if he wants nothing to do with her and likes you and only you then theres really not much you can do. espescially if you like him like that as well.

Q: I was dating someone and he just stopped talking to me after I made a mistake. I keep telling myself that it's over and that I'm over him, but then something happens like a song comes on that we used to listen to all the time and I start thinking about him again.

I've tried talking to him, just trying to be his friend so I could get over him, but he doesn't want to talk to me. I gave up on that, but I still think about him and I miss him, because he was part of my life for a period of time and now he's just gone. It's really hard just to try to adjust your life without him in it.

I still have a few texts on my cell phone that he sent me, but I can't bring myself to delete those either.

He brought out the best in me, after I was depressed on and off, cutting myself, drinking, he changed it all and I think that might be the reason I can't just let him go.

Do you have any ideas how I can talk to him again to thank him, or should I let go?

i think you should find a way to leave him one last messege. thank him for everything he has done for you and tell him you love him but you are letting go and then just try to move on. it took me 2 years and i had EXACTLY the same situation you are in. and i mean EXACTLY the same. don't try and surround yourself with other guys like i did though. it will end up bad because then you could end up dating someone just to get over him and thats not right. i did it and hurt us both. if i knew what the mistake was i could tell you exactly how to fix this so that he will talk to you again because now my ex is talking to me again. if it isn't something really bad then he should forgive you in time. how long has it been since you guys broke up? let me know ok? i'm here for you and i can help you through this. i've been through the same thing. trust me i know what i'm doing lol.

Q: my mom wont let me see my boyfriend at all. he doesnt have a computer so i cant e-mail him or IM him. and my mom has total control over the phone. i havent been on a date with him at all! ever!! and i've been going out with him for about a month and a half. i wont see him in school because we're in different parts. i miss him so much and i love him so much. what should i do? heeelllppp!!

how the hell do you talk to him in the first place? maybe you should try and comprimise with your mom and if that doesnt work then sneak behind her back and see him or call him or whatever. try and get him to get an email adress and go to a library or something to check his email so that you and him can email each other. it worked for me, it could work for you.

Q: Haha just wanna make something clear..When you make out, do you basically kiss with your mouth more open and move your tongue around? I mean do you just like do the wave with it haha, or do you like go side to side..soo confused haha, let me know

you swirl around thier tounge with yours and yea your mouth is open but not like way open and no you don't usually just go side to side. try just swirling your tounge around his...or hers...which ever one your not lol

Q: This will probly sound stupid but what finger do you wear a promise ring on?? My boyfriend will probly get me one for our anniversary and I dont know? I appreciate and will rate answers.

whichever one it fits on lol

or most likley the ring finger that you would put your engagement (not wedding) ring on.

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