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My name is Amanda and I am a proud single parent of a beautiful 2 year old girl named *Brianna Marie*! I am also a child care teacher and a student. I am seeking an associates in massage therapy and skin care. I currently reside in Orlando Fl, but hope to soon go back home to HOTLANTA!! :D If there is anything else ya wanna know hey ... why not ask?! ;)

ADVICE WARNING: You are at high risk of receiving advice containing extreme sarcasm .. among other things! HA! If ya don't like it run while you can .... you're about to reach the point of no return ... go ... before it's too late!! AHHHH!!

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hey im the person that asked bout the guy and inviting his friend too. well its not that im obsessed and ask him out all the time but he is REALLY shy about asking me places. i know, honestly it drives me nuts and in any other situation i would NEVER ask them out but this time i know its one of the things i just gotta do. please share more! your not one of those 13 year old girls that doesnt know what theyre talking about.

Ok again .. be prepared .. it's all a harsh reality I know, but I wish I could've learned all of this at a younger age!!

Most of the information I'm about to give you is from my "dating bible," it's called "He's just not that into you." Please pass it along! :D

When a guy is into you, he let's you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can't keep his hands off you and so on. You may think that he is "too shy," but remember this: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. If they want you, they'll find you.

You're still young ... there's still time for you!! lol Seriously though, you should be going out and having a good time and not waiting by the phone. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he's ok with disapointing you.

Better than nothing is not good enough for you!! There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him!

I hope this gives you a new piece of mind and a new outlook on guys. Enjoy being thirteen and going out and having a good time. You shouldn't be worrying about stuff like this!! Mr. Wonderful is out there waiting ... GO!!

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do...

Who knows if John is telling the truth or not, but do you really need to know?? Don't you have enough reasons in front of you to dump this looser??

Hunny, if he is really into you he would spend anytime he had with you. He goes to a different school ... think about it ... how often does he see his "friends?" Ok ... now how often does he see you?? Hopefully you can understand what I'm trying to point out to you. He isn't worth your time especially at your age. You should be going out and having a good time. Not sitting at home wondering when mr.wonderful is going to make some time for you! I think you know what to do!

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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my b/f and i have been together for a month and last weekend he already had plans (he really did) then he felt guilty for not being with me then when i asked him what he was doing that day. then yesterday, i asked him what him what he was doing tomorrow (today) and he already had plans to spent the night at friends house. the excuse is legit but i really want to spend time with him. today, we would be going to see a movie with a bunch of friends so should i invite his friend too? (i know him and im alright with him going) or should i just let him go and not do anything with him? i need to know soon! thanks in advanced!

Ok...this may sound harsh to you but it has to be said. He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out!! (a quote from one of my favorite books - mentioned in my column) And trust me when I say these things I've seen it all!!

If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will. Men don't forget how much they like you so PUT DOWN THE PHONE! You ARE good enough to be asked out!!

There is plenty more I could say, but I don't think you could handle it all at once! lol. Let me know if you'd like to and I would be more than happy to share it with you.

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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well im 15 and i dated this guy about a year ago and we broke up cuz he cheated on me. well not physically but he talked to sum girl over the phone told her he loved her and mad panns to hook up with her..while we were going out.(which never actually happened)..well its been about a year...we stayed friends but not very close..and he wants to go bac out...should i try again or let him go?..he broke my heart once do u think he wll do it again? is he telling th truth that he really care...or does he just want sex? why did he wit so long?...theres so much that i dont understand..help plez

The only way you can get those answers is by asking him. Yes there is a chance that he'll do it again. He could've also realized what a mistake he made and could really be trying to make up for it. Sex, yes ... he is a man. lol :)

But seriously ...
My suggestion to you would be to talk to him about everything. Ask him why he did it and what's so different now, etc. After you've had a good talk with him decide whether or not you think there is a chance. If I were you and I were still interested I would keep it as a friendship and see what developed from there. But keep bounderies set so he can't use you. Trust me...if he is really that into you he'll do whatever it takes and stick around until you are ready. If he doesn't ... then he isn't worth your time dear!!

P.S. I don't know if you've heard of this book or not but it's definately worth it. My friend and I refer to it as our "dating bible." It's called, "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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I don't know why but I am scared of love, but I want it so bad. I am 19 and have still never had a boyfriend or even a first kiss because I want my first kiss to be special. I am considered an attractive girl and guys like me and I like them too but I won't let anything happen because I personally feel like I don't carry enough self-confidence which my friends get angry about. I think I worry about life in general and I'm scared that I'll just end up alone forever. What should I do?

You need to learn to love yourself. How can you truly love someone else if you can't even love yourself? I'm sure there are tons of things that you like about yourself ... think about it. You even said in your question that you think you are an attractive girl ... good starting point! :D Don't worry about everything soo much. Once you relax about the situation everything you want will happen before you know it. I'm sure there are plenty of guys waiting in line so we know that's not the problem. Just lay back, relax, and enjoy the ride! :D Just don't do anything you don't feel right about. Trust your instincts! :)

Hope this helps you!!

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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i've had this friend with benefits for almost a year now and i decided that i dont want to keep it going. i started having feelings for him and i told him but i don't think he liks me. i think it would be better to just end it because i dont want to get hurt so i wanted to know if anyone has some advice on a good way to end being fwb without ruining our friendship

Well I've learned that having a friend with benefits isn't a great idea! I went through the same thing and ended up having feelings for him. But I could tell that the only thing great about me to him was in the bedroom. My case may be different than yours but I pretty much stopped taking his "booty calls" and started talking about other men of interest and so forth ... he took the hint and it didn't take him long to move on. But our friendship will never be the same ... we don't talk nearly as much as we used to. It sucks, but that's the risk ya take when you have "benefits."

The only thing I can suggest to you really is to sit down with him and be completely honest. Tell him that you want to continue the friendship, but you can't have the benefits w/out a relationship which obviously isn't in the future. Who knows how he'll react. Hopefully he can understand and your friendship can stay!

Best of luck to you ... I hope it goes better for you than it did for me!!

~ Amanda ;)

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Okay heres the deal...
Ive been dating this GREAT guy i mean he's perfect..But im not exactly the most loyal person..So over spring break i lost mah virginity 2 some one else..Yeah i kno its bad and n a way i regret it..But the otha guy well call him Will is soo hot, popular, cute, sweet, and hes jus a lil freak and we mesh good togetha. PLus i think (i know) i could really stop my game for Will which would be a HUGE achievement for me!! Now on 2 mah boifriend again well call him Jay. Jay is okay lookin, sweetheart, says he loves me 2 death, hes perfect ecspect..he cant make me laugh like Will and he thinks hes funni when hes not @ all..Me & Will jus have more n common PLUS he took my virginity!

Well i dont want 2 be with Jay anymore but im n fear of hurting him AND everyone says ill be making a huge mistake because hes so good 2 me.

But I would prefer 2 date Will jus for the simple fact we have more n common..

But i dont know what 2 do OR HOW 2 DO IT!!


-Caught Up-

Dear Caught Up (gotta love that song :D )

If you look back on your question you'll notice what I did....how much you talked about "will." It sounds to me like you are really into him and everything he has to offer. I can understand how you feel about the situation with "Jay" and how you don't want to hurt his feelings because he really is a great guy. But think of it this way ... you can't make yourself love someone. There isn't anything you can do to change him and mold him into a "will." It sounds to me like Jay is more into a serious relationship and I can tell that you aren't ready for that yet. You seem to be looking for someone that you can have fun and laugh with and be carefree .... a will perhaps! ;) You need to explain all of this to Jay and let him know that you just aren't on the same page and one day you may be ... but not at this point in your life. But please don't base your decision on the fact that will took your virginity. I realize that's very sacred, but it's not a reason to date one person over another. Trust me...I've been there ... done that, lol.

Oh yeah and about what everyone else is telling you. You need to listen to yourself and what YOU want and YOU need. Nobody else is a better judge of that than yourself. I've made the mistake of listening to friends when they told me to give this "nice guy" a chance even though I wasn't really into him and didn't find him attractive ... well he ended up being very abusive, mentally and physically. Please trust your own instincts and do what feels right!

I don't really know how to tell you to let Jay down gently. I can't really say since I don't know the guy. Just be as gently about it as you possibly can. Make sure you sit down with him one and one and be completely honest. Sugar coating anything isn't going to make it better for anyone!

Best of luck to you!

~ Amanda ;)

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my b/f is such a jerk he only cares about himself. He calls me names and screams at me. He used to push me around. I can never be mad im always the wrong one. He allways says the meanest things. I go through so much at home and he dont care he still calls me names and says he hates me.

Why are you even asking this question???? Did you even read what you wrote??? What the hell do you need our advice for dear?? Dump his sorry @ss and do it good!! I've been there before and NOBODY deserves to be treated like that!! Oh and if for some reason you are sleeping with this lovely piece of man ... please stop ... I don't even have to explain why! Or at least I hope not!

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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ok,i have a friend,call her terry.well,this may be confusing,but anyways... My friend terry,a girl,is friends with a boy.We'll call him bob.Bob likes me,and terry is telling me to go out with him.Shes saying how hot he is,but i've never seen him.[[only in a picture,and hes seen me only in a picture]]. Well,im not the pretty girl type,im fine with that, but...danm this dude must be desprate!! His whole pro on aim is all about me...were not even together.Hes 16 and im 13 1/2.I dont know what to do in this situation.Can anyone please help me?
**rate to 5's...sorry this was so long**

Well considering that you've never met him it is kinda odd that he has dedicated his aim profile to you. But it seems to be harmless by the way you talk about it.

You shouldn't down yourself like that though, he obviously must find you very attractive. :) So why not go out on a double-date with him and your friend (maybe you can set her up.) It won't hurt to see how you feel about him after meeting him in person. As long as he isn't a stalker I'm sure it will work out for you...lol :)

Best of luck!

~ Amanda ;)

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I started dating this guy when I was fifteen who was eighteen. He and I were together for a year and two months....partially because I ran away with him for five of them. Well, this last December I had his child and my mom and I won't let him have any part of it. But since he was eighteen, I just want to make sure that in two years when I'm eighteen he can't try to fight for custody. Would he have any rights over my son?

I am in a sort of similair situation only myself and the childs father were both over 18.

My advice to you would be to seek legal help and advice. I don't know where you live but there should be what's called a "legal aid society" in your county that can assist you in your case if you are financial applicable.(It's for low income families and is a free service.) If anything you can also look in your phone book and there should be lawyers involved with family law that can give you free legal advice on the situation.

First of all, child support will be ordered whether you or him go to the court to seek custody/visitation. Unless you are found to be an "unfit parent" there is no reason that your child should be taken away from you. Also, unless he is found to be an unfit father he will get visitaion with the child i.e. something like every-other weekend .... as long as it doesn't interfere with the childs welfare.

Being in a similair situation my advice to you would be to seek legal help if you can. I'm not sure how it works in your state, but in Florida the father has no legal rights to the child unless child support is being paid. So if he would try to take the child in question and leave he would be charged with kidnapping.

Let me know if you have any other questions. I completely understand what you are going through and am more than happy to help with anything I can. Best of luck to you and your son.

~ Amanda

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my boyfriend and I have been dating for quiet awhile now.. (1/2 a year) and now he's thinking i don't like him anymore, when he's the one who shows a lack of interest in me.. what do i do? i'm so oblivious to the situation. I really cannot lose him, he means way too much to me... I'm not the perfect girlfriend, i do have my flaws as everyone does, but i never knew i had one of showing no interest.. help

In my own opinion I think you need to sit down and talk to him about this. You need to explain to him exactly how you feel about the situation....tell him exactly what you said here, how you feel oblivious to the situation. You obviously don't want to lose him and care for him deeply. I don't know what his goals in the relationship are due to lack of info, but that's always a good question to ask him as well. Don't be afraid to be blunt. It's better to find out how he really feels now then later down the road when it could be too late. You could be setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

Best of luck
~ Amanda

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Theres this boy that I used to like and he didn't even know what I looked like. Recently, I said hi to him in the halls and now he knows what I look like. My friend asked him if he thought I was pretty and he said yes. We have been talking online everyday for a long time and we feel we know each other pretty well. We don't know each other well enough in person, which I'm going to try to accomplish soon. I had a friend talk to him and he was saying that I wasn't the right type of girl for him, all though when he described to me the girls he likes, it sounded so much like me it was scary. He says I would be a better friend, like I am now, then a girlfriend. I really want to change his mind! Maybe if he gets to know me in person, he would! What can I do? I know we are perfect for each other, and his friends and my friends know it too. I have started developing feelings for him again, but he doesn't know and if I tell him, i'm afraid he'll reject me. Help!

~ Does he like me!? ~

Well before I answer your question I have a suggestion for you. Oh and feel free to pass this on to all of your girlfriends!! Go to your nearest bookstore and bring about 15 dollars with you and purchase "He's just not that into you," by Greg Beharendt and Liz Tuccillo. It will literally change your outlook on relationships.

Anyway, to answer your question..... If he told you to your face that he thinks you would make a better friend then a girlfriend then he meant it!! There isn't anything you can do to change his mind, hello...he is a man! And even if you do happen to pursuade him into a relationship or courtship, whatever...it more than likely will end up with him using you in whatever way makes him happy ... i.e. sexually.

You can tell him that you think a relationship would work out, but in my experience with relationships all you are going to do is piss him off. If he was really into you, trust me....you would know....he obviously isn't afraid to tell you the truth.

I'm assuming that you are young. The right guy will come around. You shouldn't waste your time and energy with this guy.....he obviously isn't worth it!

Hey, you never know.....if you stop showing so much interest in him and pay more attention to other things and or guys he may see you in a different light and say what the hell was I thinking...I gotta be with this girl.

Best of luck to you.....hope this helps :)

~ Amanda
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