My name's Erica, I'm 16 years old. I may seem young but I've experienced a lot more than you'd think. I joined this site because my family and friends always end up coming to me for help on various subjects, whether its just be help on homework or help on relationships I always seem to know exactly what to say or do, and they always end up thanking me graciously. I hope everyone here has a question to ask me, and I'd be really glad to help anyone out who needs it!
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my ex and i dated for 2 months. i broke up with him. 2 years latter, and I'm still not over him. and i wanna get back with him. what should i do?
we don't talk anymore. and we don't have each others numbers any more help:( (link)
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That was exactly my situation, and now i'm back with my ex and never been happier. My advice to you is find him and talk to him, just start saying hey to him whenever you see him. Tell him you've missed him over the years and wish you could talk again. Get his number back and start off as just friends. Gradually as your relationship gets better, or if he shows he really likes talking to you again, get right out there and tell him you never got over him and that you still like him. don't pressure him into it though! Make it simple, just tell him you're not expecting anything to happen...yet...but you want him to know how you truly feel. If he feels the same way, things will all work out in the end. I know it did for me :) & hopefully it will for you too! I hope this helped, good luck with your mann!
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Okay so I've had a crush on this boy brian pretty much since the day I met him.. which was about a year and a half ago..we've been hooking up for the past year on and off..sometimes drunk sometimes sober.. I really want to ask him how he feels toward me because I honestly don't believe its solely physical..how do I go about asking? I need it to be casual, I'm so nervous! Thanks (link)
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If you two have been hooking up on and off for a year or so and he hasn't confessed to anything yet, I wouldn't be surprised if you asked him and he told you he thought it was just a hookup. The best way to go about it, is just one day while you're talking ask him if you could ask him a serious question without it being weird or ruining your friendship. Then just say something like, do you have any feelings toward me, besides sexually? There's really no other way you can ask him.
He might also just be nervous to tell you his feelings honestly, so he might be hoping secretly that you ask him. If he does like you, he might think YOU are the one who just wants a sexual relationship. Some boys are like that. But it really depends on the type of person he is.
Hope this helped! Good luck :)
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Hello, So I met this guy(derek) in 6th grade (I'm now getting ready to go to college) and I liked him a lot, we lost our virginity to each other and whatnot. He never wanted to date me and so i figured he just wanted me for sex.Deep down i thought he liked me because we would talk all the time and he cheated on every girlfriend he ever had for me but like i said..didn't want to date me. Mid 10th grade,he got serious with a girl and it broke my heart.He stopped talking to me and eventually after lots of time,i got over him and started to move on. Around 11th grade,him and the girlfriend broke up and he began talking to me again,i was so happy but i knew it was wrong so I wrote him a letter basically saying how i love him and if it's never gonna be,then to never talk to me again. I found a new boyfriend (garrett) and dated him for 5 months and was so happy.Me and Garrett broke up ,and Derek started talking to me again. He would call me constantly ,and text me all the time ,and i didn't have feelings for him so i'd barely write back and just didn't care.One night,he convinced me to hangout with him and he poured out his feelings to me telling me how much he really likes me and how jealous he was when i was with Garrett. I decided to give him another chance at friendship,and my feelings came back again. It's been a few months were we are on talking terms and he seems to be so confident and doesn't treat me right. He tells me he likes me and still treats me like shit.He never wants to hang out,only to have sex.He is rude to me and just makes me unhappy.I've told him to stop talking to me and then a few days later ,he'll talk to me again and i fall for it because I like him so much. I'm trying to get him out of my life for the better,but I don't know how to go about it. We see eachother every day and it's so hard to deny his phonecalls like i used to.help! (link)
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If you're completely serious about not wanting to be with this guy, then you have to be more than serious with him. Tell him you don't want to associate with him, if he really likes you, he wouldn't treat you that way. Seems to me he definitely just wants the sex. Tell him you won't have sex with him anymore, and don't want to do anything with him. Say it's beyond your nature and don't want to go any farther with him, and that any relationship you ever had with him is over. If he keeps calling and texting you, have his number blocked, or delete it. I know you've said you've tried ignoring it, but if you really don't want to be hurt, even though you really like him, then you have to let him go. Both of you should go your separate ways, and tell him that. If he keeps bothering you, then all I can say is get angry with him, if you act like a complete bitch to him he'll leave you alone. Deny his every want from you, and when he calls you answer saying "stop calling me, bye derek" and hang up. everytime. no matter what he tries to tell you to keep you around. You can't fall for guys like that girl, it'll be better without him. Hope this helped!
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i asked you that other question about how to tell whether a guy likes you. i like this guy, but im not sure where i stand with him. we have been texting for about a week now, all day. he flirts with me so much over texting, and i obviously flirt back. it's not just generic flirting either, he says stuff thats specifically about me, meaning that he wouldnt be able to send the messages he sends to me to anyone else, cause its like on a personal level if that makes sense. we hung out in person finally the other night. he acts like we're just friends in person. i think hes just shy, because he says that he is. he also basically said that i make him nervous. and he said that he's not a playa. but i dont know if he wants to be just friends. when he hugged me goodbye after we hung out, it was a one handed hug, so i dont really think he wanted to hug me, but who knows. he was the one who held out his arms. the next day i hugged him goodbye, and i think i held on too long because he seemed like he wanted to let go. :/ im really confused. after we hung out he said i looked beautiful and that he actually had fun. he says he wants to hang out again and he says he wants to go to the movies. i just want to know if he wants to be friends or more. i dont know if hes talking to other girls, but i think he might be. and he doesnt try to touch me or get close to me really. his body language most of the time seems like he doesnt really want to be in the more than friends territory. but then again hes definitely flirting with me, and a couple nights in a row we stayed up till 4am talking. is he just shy about acting like he likes me or do you think he just wants to be friends with me? also any advice for the next time we hang out? i dont want him to think im coming onto him. i just want to know where i stand. (link)
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It sounds like you're off to a good start with the whole texting and flirting ordeal. If he says he's shy, he's probably not lying. Unless he's done stuff with A LOT of girls, he's probably not confident enough to make the first move, and if you're not exactly slightly bit flirtatious in person or showing that you wouldn't mind being more than friends (body language wise) he might be confused too. If you put yourself in his shoes he's probably questioning the exact same thing as you.
I'm guessing by the way he talks to you, saying he's nervous and stuff, that he does really like you, and probably does want to be with you. He probably just doesnt know how to go about it just yet, and wants to wait. Going to the movies is a good place to go, if he pays for you, he's definitely into you. Then see how he acts in the actual theater (holding hands, cuddling, etc).
As for what you should do when you hang out, try being a little bit flirty in person, so he gets the idea that it's okay to flirt with you too, so he knows YOU'RE into him. But try not to go over the top so it's not like you're trying so hard.
I hope this advice helps, and good luck with the boy :)
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how do i know if a guy likes me? (link)
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you can tell if a guy likes you when they just like talking to you. a guy will always be talking to the girl he likes. if he REALLY likes you, he'll try to be with you all the time, or be close to you. when you hang out with him, watch his body language, if he's constantly close to you, or trying to touch you or makes certain moves toward you, then he most likely likes you. also it could never hurt to just ask him.
hope this helps! good luck.
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I just started talking to this guy that I work with. We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only? (link)
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There are a few signs a guy can be a player. First, notice if he's always talking to other girls, or talking about other girls. Or the subjects he talks about. If all he's talking about sex or wanting to "get some" from someone, then he's most likely a player.
To be nearly positive, hang out with him, and if he seems to be texting other people all the time while you're with him, he may be a player. Ask him how many girls he's been with, after you've gotten a bit closer. Players lie a lot, and are very sneaky. So you can never be sure they're a player until they play you.
Just be careful and watch all of the moves he makes. If you really want to be straight forward, just ask him. Tell him you're not into being hurt, and you just want to know if he's got other girls too. Trust is key.
Hope this helps! Good luck :)
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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First off, he may have wrote those things about your relationship to kind of vent about it. He might've not even known that it would be public for anyone to see. When you asked him about secrets, he may have realized that anyone could've seen the page and thought it was bad that the rest of the facebook world could read about it too. Not likely, but it's possible.
Besides that, any boy who's going to keep secrets and hide things from you is not worth any girls time. If you're crying about it and it's really hurting you that badly, try once more to work it out with him. Talk to him about it one last time, ask him all of these questions you're asking me. Ask why he hid it, and why he's denying it (especially since you know he's lying) If he continues to try and lie his way through it, give him the boot ASAP. Don't stick around, because relationships are about trust; lying and hiding things are the exact opposite.
I know it'll probably be hard for you to deal with at first, but trust me, he's not worth your suffering. I hope all goes well, and good luck :)
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Okay, so a couple of days ago, I had a really weird dream.
I was in our classroom with my seatmate. He was sitting on a chair and then I sat next to him on the same chair. The next thing I knew, he grabbed my shoulders and pointed me towards him. I saw his lips leaning towards me, and we ended up kissing. I woke up shortly after that. (If anyone can interpret this dream, it'd be really great!:D)
Anyways, pretty much after that dream, I couldn't stop thinking about it and him. Although I know it's a dream, but for some reason I can't get it out of my head. That's when I started to wonder if I liked him. Did my subconscious mind tell me that I liked him or am I just making stuff up? Since he is my seatmate and everything, I do kind of think of him in that way sometimes, but it never got serious. Like my heart was never pounding when I'm around him.
Whether I genuinely like him or not, I still can't seem to stop thinking about him. So maybe I do like him..a bit. But it might be the dream's fault.
So, my problem. Do you guys think what I'm feeling is real? Or am I just fooled by my dream? And in case I do like him, what should I do? We don't hang out in the same group, I think he's kind of brainy, so he hangs with the smart people. I'm not sure what I'm feeling and I'm not sure what to do. Help? I'd really appreciate it. (link)
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First of all I'd just like to point out the fact that dreams are not "signs" or anything, they're perceptions of reality. In lighter terms this means it's something that has already happened to you, or something you wish would've happened. Probably something such as a moment that happened, but you've twisted around to be more toward your liking. (Trust me, I know about this, I'm studying psychology)
To answer your question, there's no yes or no answer based on your dream. Most likely you have a CRUSH on this boy, and are craving for something like your dream to happen between you and him. But I wouldn't suggest trying to attach a relationship to him. You never mentioned if you were close with him or not, but assuming you aren't you should probably start talking to him and just being friendly. It may just be a crush now, but you never know, deeper feelings can develop and maybe you two will work something out. No matter what groups of friends you hang out with. If he is brainy, and you're not, what's it matter? People who are happy, are happy people, and there's nothing that should get between that.
Mostly what I would say is your dream is just proving you want some sort of fling in your life, and the guy you're crushing on is this boy. It's not really a sign, it's what you're feeling, but your dream is just making it more of a reality for you. Crush's you can't really do much about, but befriend this boy, and just become close, that'd all I can advise. Then whatever happens, happens.
Hope this helps! :)
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I Kinda like one of my friends but he is a total player & gets in every girls pant's he's with I want him to change for me but I don't know if he will , what should I do ? (link)
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Chances are he won't change for you. The only way a guy will change is when he meets the girl he really cares for. And only he'll know when that is. He'll always be the player he is. Until the right girl comes along. For all you know it could be you, but he would be chasing after you, if it was you, but he could lie, and still play you. So you'll never know. You could just let him hurt you...but that's not the best idea. I would say ask him to change for you... But he'd probably get offended if you asked him to anyways, and he probably wouldn't change. So just don't even bother, find another guy who's actually worthy of you. It'll all end up better in the long run, and you'll be happy. Hope this helps, and good luck with the guys!
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Ohkaay so my boyfriend is the main star of the team ,hes #24 & hes known as Lil Beast bcus his older broda is known as Beast , and im ditching a weekend in LA to stay and watch the most important game at our school , he doesnt know it yet . And im going to show up at tha game whidd his jersey and a poster buh i dont kno what to put as a saying in the poster any ideaas?
P.S last year we made one for his broda and it said :
"#11 Beast Of All Beast (link)
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The first thing I thought of when I read this was "Unleash the Beast!" Because it's something my school soccer team says. So I don't know if you like it, but maybe try something like "#24, Unleash the Lil Beast!" Personally I think it's kinda cute and funny. But it's all up to you! Hope this helped :) Good Luck with the poster!
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alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :) (link)
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I'm in the same boat as you. Trust me, if you're not comfortable with having sex just yet. DON'T DO IT. I'm 16 and I'm going to be a junior, but most of my friends are younger than me and have had sex already. Personally I feel they've made a huge mistake. I'm waiting until I meet the right guy, and have been dating him for a while. I don't think it's worth throwing away your virginity for some guy you're going to talk to for a few months, have sex and then don't talk at all.
Sometimes I feel like I should've had sex already too, just because everyone else has. I know I'm not ugly, I've had boyfriends, but it just makes me feel kinda lame and out of the loop. But actually in reality, I'm proud to say I'm a virgin. And you should be too! There's not reason for you to lose your virginity just yet. And you still have many years ahead of you to worry about having sex. Right now you should be focused on bigger things in your future, not just who's going to be entering your body.
Just stay strong and do what YOU want to do. Don't let anyone influence you otherwise. It's your life, live it to the fullest, but do what you want to do, not what everyone else is doing. Hope this helped ! Have fun :)
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Hello ,
So okay , show story is me and this guy hung out we met up after 1-2 years and so , we did things got phsyical. And I went down on him and his thing was hanging out while I went up to kiss him and it was on me , but the thing is I haven't gotten' my period yet , am I pregnant?
Please help:(
Thank you ,
Betty (link)
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As long as he didn't cum you're fine, the only way for you to be pregnant is if he came and it went in your vagina. Your period is probably just late, that happens sometimes. Don't sweat it girl! You're not pregnant, nothing to worry about :)
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Ok so I just got into a relationship with this guy. He is really sweet and cute. Last night we were chatting over facebook and he told me he wants to go to the movies and finger me when we are there. I am 13 and i wanna know if i should? and if i do what should i know.. when he does is my cherry gonna pop? And is it gonna hurt? I think he only likes me to have sex with me but I am only 13 im not ready to have sex.. Ok well Please Help Me! (link)
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First of all, you're only 13...way too young to be in that kind of relationship. If he's only in the relationship with you because he wants sex (which is probably the most case since you're so young and that's all guys are starting to care about) then you should break it off, especially if he's asking things from you already, when the relationship just started.
As far as if you should or not, it's really up to you, I can't tell you what to do. But being as young as you are, it's not a good idea...especially when it's so public.
The facts about cherry's being popped is, no, he probably wouldn't pop your cherry if he did finger you. It's possible, but there's no definite way to tell. For all you know it could already be popped. (it can pop very easily, ex. horse back riding, bike riding, tampons, etc.) But you won't know for sure until you have sex for the first time. (Which shouldn't be anytime soon!)
Also, if you did decide to let him finger you, it shouldn't hurt. Unless his fingers are too little, or he's doing it wrong. Truth is, you'd probably like it. But that is no reason to start sexual activity at such a young age.
My advice would be, if you really want go to the movies with him. But tell him he can't touch you "down there" and see how well he responds. If he doesn't seem angry or upset or argues back and just accepts it, maybe he actually does like you for more than just sex. But there's no way to be sure. Tell him you're not ready for a sexual relationship, say he's rushing things too fast...you're only 13. And if he can't deal with that, then honey, it was never meant to be.
Hope this helped!
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Ok, so the first question is easy really. Though it's something I've kinda worried about for a while about myself. To put it simply, I prefer to be friends with girls, perhaps date them, over sleeping with them. I'd rather stay in for a movie and cuddle than have sex. Does that make me weird, for a straight guy? None of my guy friends see what I like about it. (But my female friends tend to love it haha)
My main part to the question is, I see this aspect of me ruining future relationships. I tend to have a couple of female friends at all times, who I often spend an evening with alone. We might go out together, or watch a movie, or whatever. Nothing happens, we're just friends. At the moment I'm single. I worry though that when I have a girlfriend, she'll be always jealous of the fact that i'm alone with other girls (Because I thought about it, and I don't want to stop haning out with friends the way I do because some girl doesn't want me too). I do think that this will make it incredibly hard for me to start a relationship. When the trust isn't built yet, how do you persuade her there's nothing going on?
Any help would be appreciated, but don't insult me, I get enough of that already. (link)
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You're not weird for liking to watch movies and cuddle instead of having sex. It just makes you different from the normal horny guys out there. Which is good in the girl world. As for having a lot of girl friends rather than guy friends that you like to hang out with, good for you. It's good to have a variety of boys and girls around and you're probably more sensitive and used to girls feelings, which will make your future relationships a little easier.
However, a girls trust is hard to gain, and when you're with these other girls alone, you're right, it will be difficult for a girlfriend to understand. But compared to other guys you could probably understand why a girl would get worried by you being the only boy alone in a group full of girls.
Upon getting a new girlfriend, make sure to gain a strong connection with her right at the start, where you can be completely open with her about everything that ever goes on, and make sure she's well aware of your close girl friends. Make sure that she knows they're just friends, and if she wasn't involved in your group of friends to begin with, introduce her to your other girl friends so she realizes there's nothing going on. Maybe they'll even get along well and you can all hang out together, but when you're all not together you and your girl can be alone or you can hang out with your girl friends with out her. A girl is more likely to trust you with another girl she trusts, than just some random girl she barely knows.
Good luck with the ladies, hope this helped!
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How to turn on a guy on when kissing him?? (link)
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When ever I kiss a guy I usually play with the back of their hair, moving my hand up and down the back of their neck. Guys LOVE that. Every guy I've ever done it to tells me to never stop, haha. Other things you can do with your hands to turn them on is to run your fingers up and down his body, some guys like it, but if not they'll stop you (probably if they're really ticklish)
If you want something to do with your lips, guys like it when you kind of pull on their bottom lip with yours, or nibble on it. Sometimes even if you try to get a little more frisky with it, or just pull him closer it will edge him on a bit more.
I hope this advice helped, and good luck with your guys in the future! ;)
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how do u make out with a guy at the movies this is my first time n i need to now what it means an how to do it (link)
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I know this is a late reply, but I hope I can help you for the future! ...
In words there is no right way to describe how to make out with anyone. Mostly it comes naturally, and hopefully you can go along with whatever he's doing.
For the most part I could tell you that when you begin it starts off as a normal kiss, then slowly open your mouth slightly and he'll follow (or vise versa, he opens his and you follow) then you slide your tongue in his mouth and he'll do the same. In a way your tongues kind of...dance. You'll both continue to open and close your mouth in sync and play with each others tongues for a while, or as long as you decide to before stopping. I know it sounds a little weird, but like I said it's not very easy to explain in words. It just comes naturally, and you'll know what to do when the time comes.
Most people say to spell the ABC's, but trust me, avoid spelling any type of letter/word/phrase while making out. DO NOT SPELL THE ABC's!! Hahaha. I hope it's not too late, and I hope my advice helped! Good luck!
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I am a fifteen-year-old student. Just a small-town girl. Living in a loooonely world~ XD Just kidding. I have an amazing boyfriend; we've been together for a solid ten months, and I know I love him with all my heart.
But I've started asking myself a lot of questions lately. It all started at a summer boarding program, in which I was a part of the Theater program. It was basically me locked in a room with fifteen other unique, creative people. This was the first point in which I really noticed a change.
We were playing Truth or Dare. After having so many stereotypical dares (kiss this guy, hump that pole :P :P), everyone just decided to start kissing everybody. I, not really awkwarded out, joined in, making sure to avoid the guys because I knew my boyfriend would be bothered about it.
When I got back to my room, started to think about it, and realized that I had actually enjoyed that night. Later on in the week, at the big dance, I even danced pretty intensly with one of the girls; there were sparks flying everywhere.
A few days later, back at home, I really started flashing back on my life. I finally understood for the first time that I had been pretty attracted to girls for a while, especially my best friend. Also, soon after the whole kissing incident, I found out that one of my idols that I had met a while ago had kissed a bunch of people I know. I had no idea that she swung that way; honestly, it made me suddenly want to get to know her even more.
Since then, it's been growing. I am really magnetized to certain girls, but still am so confused. I've always been a hard-working Catholic, but I find I'm unable to block these strong feelings I get every time certain people are near me.
So my main question is...am I bisexual? And if I am, how do I deal with it? (link)
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It's common for people to have these feelings toward the same gender. Most people do question their sexuality, but everyone eventually picks a side. There's no real way for anyone to tell you if you are bisexual, only you can decide that for yourself. But, whether you're bisexual, straight, or gay, you will figure it out. But the most important thing is not to force yourself against any decision. Do what feels right and nothing except what you want.
The only honest advice I can give is to just be yourself and everything will soon fall into place. If you end up deciding that you are bisexual, the best you can do is accept it and stay happy. Tell your parents, but make a gradual change. Let your close friends know and be open about it. There's nothing wrong with being bisexual, a lot of people lean towards it.
In the end, as long as you're excepting of yourself, there's nothing you need to worry about. Hope this helped, good luck! :)
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