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i like this guy but he's giving me mixed signals
i asked you that other question about how to tell whether a guy likes you. i like this guy, but im not sure where i stand with him. we have been texting for about a week now, all day. he flirts with me so much over texting, and i obviously flirt back. it's not just generic flirting either, he says stuff thats specifically about me, meaning that he wouldnt be able to send the messages he sends to me to anyone else, cause its like on a personal level if that makes sense. we hung out in person finally the other night. he acts like we're just friends in person. i think hes just shy, because he says that he is. he also basically said that i make him nervous. and he said that he's not a playa. but i dont know if he wants to be just friends. when he hugged me goodbye after we hung out, it was a one handed hug, so i dont really think he wanted to hug me, but who knows. he was the one who held out his arms. the next day i hugged him goodbye, and i think i held on too long because he seemed like he wanted to let go. :/ im really confused. after we hung out he said i looked beautiful and that he actually had fun. he says he wants to hang out again and he says he wants to go to the movies. i just want to know if he wants to be friends or more. i dont know if hes talking to other girls, but i think he might be. and he doesnt try to touch me or get close to me really. his body language most of the time seems like he doesnt really want to be in the more than friends territory. but then again hes definitely flirting with me, and a couple nights in a row we stayed up till 4am talking. is he just shy about acting like he likes me or do you think he just wants to be friends with me? also any advice for the next time we hang out? i dont want him to think im coming onto him. i just want to know where i stand.
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It sounds like you're off to a good start with the whole texting and flirting ordeal. If he says he's shy, he's probably not lying. Unless he's done stuff with A LOT of girls, he's probably not confident enough to make the first move, and if you're not exactly slightly bit flirtatious in person or showing that you wouldn't mind being more than friends (body language wise) he might be confused too. If you put yourself in his shoes he's probably questioning the exact same thing as you.
I'm guessing by the way he talks to you, saying he's nervous and stuff, that he does really like you, and probably does want to be with you. He probably just doesnt know how to go about it just yet, and wants to wait. Going to the movies is a good place to go, if he pays for you, he's definitely into you. Then see how he acts in the actual theater (holding hands, cuddling, etc).
As for what you should do when you hang out, try being a little bit flirty in person, so he gets the idea that it's okay to flirt with you too, so he knows YOU'RE into him. But try not to go over the top so it's not like you're trying so hard.
I hope this advice helps, and good luck with the boy :)
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