i just turned 17 years old ill be off to college in about 6 to 7 months .im a nice person im a good communicater.i want to answer peoples advices mainly because ive been through some things in my life too and wished during those times that someone could have giving me some advices.i well take your advice serious, only if your serious too .
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Location: northbabylon new york
Age: 17
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16/f
Some guy clicked on me on the 'Are You Interested' app on FB and added me. nbd, its happened before. I'm not really into that type of stuff but I really didn't think much of it. But we started talking and we have a bunch of mutual friends (he lives a town or two over). We've only been talking for a few days but he keeps calling me "beautiful," saying "we're perfect for each other," etc etc. I think he wants to start a relationship & start seeing each other in 'real life' (for lack of a better term) but online dating just seems really weird to me. Like I never use that application and when guys talk to me, I reply but only as a friend, not really flirtatiously. idk I just really don't feel comfortable dating someone I met online, even if I do know that he's a normal kid and not some psychopath. Plus I barely know him - I take relationships really seriously and I'm not going to start dating someone I've had a few conversations with. i might be willing to date him if i got to know him more, but that would probably mean meeting in person, so i'm pretty much contradicting myself, haha.
Should I tell him im not interested in him in that way, or give it a chance?
thanks :) (link)
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life is too short give it a try ,but only meet him in public go with a friend and becareful.
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Have been dating this devorced guy for about a month was going great then doesn't call for a week. I did get a text after 6 days saying he was ok and had alot going on and has his kids again. I sent a text back to see if he would have time to chat later and that I wasn't mad just concerned and a bit confused. So now another 3 days and no call/text. Could still have his kids but I don't know what to do now, trying to give space but for how long???
I'm 34yrs female never married
He is 38yrs devorced 2 kids and X cheated on him and is getting married to guy she cheated with.(ouch) (link)
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his dealing with a very painfully situation and i don't blame him for wanting to spent time with his children's but i do think its wrong how he just leave you in the dark.sounds like your giving him enough space i would ask him if his ready to be in a new relationship?good luck
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hello:) 18/female.
i have a good guy friend ben. we have a different relationship i guess you could say. he use to have a girlfriend of two and a half years but they recently just broke up. i'm the kind of girl who NEVER will text a guy first because i'm always paranoid that i'm being annoying or that they wont want to talk to me. well ben realized that we were not as close as we use to be and this was about 3 months ago when he was still going out with his girlfriend and he mentioned that he was the one who ALWAYS had to text me first. it's true, he does. but it's not like we talk everyday. we dont even talk every week. but when we text or see each other in person we talk about EVERYTHING like i tell ben sooo much because i trust him. the thing is, i've always liked ben as more than a "best friend" which is why its so hard for me to text him first. i overanalzye everything and if he didnt text back i'd feel stupid and start assuming he doesnt want to talk, etc. also when i dont know what to talk about i start being random and i also think that may be an annoyance. i'm just wondering though could not texting ben be a turn off? like making him always text me (when he ever even does) make him feel more distant from me? i just LOVE when he texts me first though because i know he wants to talk to me and it makes me happy :) i dont know what to do. (link)
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if you start texting him first then his going to realize that you care and want to talk to him.then his going to start texting you more too.then slow down and his gonna do it without feeling like his bothering you .if you do like him i would try to get out of the friend zone and sent some messages.good luck.
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having a new b/g friend how do u get them to give u oral (link)
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get to know them and spend time with them when the time is right its gonna work out like it suppose to.
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I really, really, REALLY have a MAD crush on this guy in the 8th grade. I am in 6th grade! He barely talks to me, but sometimes he'll say "bye", help me cheat at cards, and one time he borrowed my pen without asking (because he knows he doesn't need to.. he's so cool!). I think he might like this girl but I hear they're just friends. Do you think that he thinks of me as "some kid"? How do I make him like me, even with the age difference? (link)
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sounds like he might have some feelings for you just try to find out its not like a little sister way or a friend.sometimes age matters even though its nothing but a number you cant be 7 years old dating a 13 year old if you know what i mean.and becareful because boys at that age are really interested in sexual activities your too young to lose your innecences boys dont like sluts so wait as long as you can.wish you the best of lucks.
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I'm 14,i jus turned 14 actually and at school im basically the biggest slut ever,but ive been trying to change that,well ever since i found out im pregnant.i used protection.i was on the pill,but i guess somehow i got pregnant but the worst part is i dont know who the father is and honestly it could be like 10 guys.no joke.im tryin to determine if i should just get an abortion and not tell my parents or tell them then get an abortion or tell them and have it or just have and dont tell them till its ready to come out!its such a difficult decision and lately my mom has been getting mad at me cause ive been eating so much food.please someone help me! (link)
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thats one of the worst things that can happen at this age.cause im sure your not ready for a baby your a baby yourself .well you made a couple of mistakes i hope you learned from this .as for what to do with the baby is completely your choice and only you can decide this.if you wait too long you might not be able to have an abortion and your parents will find out sooner are later cause your body is gonna go through some serious changes.good luck
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He used to like me alot and I kinda did too until he got annoying to me ((asking questions like if he can come to my house which i told him he cant n he keeps bothering me about it)) but when I told him I liked him, few days later he had a girlfriend. I cant believe I lost him just like that because I didnt give him a chance, please help me get him back to me. (link)
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honestly i think his the loser
if he cant take a simple no for an answer then his an idiot if i were you i would just ignore him maybe his with someone to get you jealous.his not worth it try to move on theres more and better guys just have to look harder.
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I like this kid in my school (I'm in 8th grade by the way so that may help) and im not so sure he cares much. He knows I like him and ive given him a few small presents for the sake of giving a present and he really liked I. So I don't know if he liked it because I gave it to him or because he said it looked cool.
Also I'm kinda hyper in school and really tomboyish and I like most guy things(e.g. Videogames shooting movies and hate the color pink) he knows I'm like that. But my real problem is he likes another person but just found out she doesn't like him. How do I ask him out without sounding desperate? (link)
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try to hang out with him by yourself first invite him to play video games with you are something then ask him out.
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okay, so ive nevert had a boyfriend, and ima 16/f.
sooo lately ive been wanting to be more than friends with alot of my guy friends, but i knowi dont really like them.
i just feel this way because i really want a bf.
does that make sense? so i get "hurt" alot, but its all my fault because i trick myself into liking them. i know it sounds like im a freak, but how can i get over this? (link)
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Ive been there theres nothing weired about it sometimes you can feel lonely and it always seems like everybody else has a man except you.try to distract yourself when you know that your doing it hang out with girl-friends instead of guys all the time and if you just wait a while things will fall in to place and your going to find your guy dont rush things that arent met to be.good luck
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I'm 18/f, and I'm currently being pursued by my friend, let's call him Mike. I used to be head over heels for Mike, and about a year ago we hooked up once or twice. But then we drifted apart. Now he and I are hanging out a lot, and he keeps telling me how amazing and beautiful and smart he thinks i am.. and it's flattering and I really like, him.. except he's 25 years old, and that difference makes me feel uncomfortable.
When we hung out last he tried to kiss me, and I told him that I wasn't ready because I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship (that's true). I've kind of sworn off relationships, especially physical relationships. I'm not interested in sex anymore. He said he understood and he felt pretty bad, but I told him we could still be friends, and he said he was okay with that.
He still calls me every night and praises me constantly, telling me how much he likes me, asking when I'm free to hang out.. and I DO want to hang out with him, because he's a great friend, but I don't want to lead him on and make him think I want to date or get involved with him again.
What's the best way to handle this situation? I've already spoken about it to him honestly, and I don't want to start blowing him off or avoiding him.. help! Thank you!!
-YoungAndCelibate (link)
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be as honest as possible
maybe you guys should stop hanging out so much cause it only makes it harder.tell him you only see him as a friend and see no potential relationship.
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14/f
Ok so I have a crush on this guy. He goes to my church and I see him like twice a week. We are friends and he will talk to me alot. He asked if he could sit by me this last week and of course I said yeah. He is so cool and cute, haha. But yeah I really don't know what I should do. He goes to a private school and I know everyone there, its not very big. So I'm really confused. He walks with me sometimes and will talk to me alot. So what should I do? Here is another thing. I'm a quiet person, I mean I'm not waaay shy but I'm in that range. So the only times I talk to him is when he talks to me. I have never started it...maybe once. But I have to be with my friends and in a good mood and all hyper and stuff. So then I have the courage to talk to him. Weird, but yeah. How do I talk to him and is there anything else you can give me? Thanks so much! (link)
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14 i remember those days i feel your pain its really hard having the courage to speak to a boy you obviously really likes .all you need is confident and a postive attitude you can do it your lucky that he made the first move of even speaking to you so its much easier talk about school or church smile head up high keep telling yourself you can do it .try not lookin at his eyes look ove his head cause looking deeply in his eyes can be a little scary at first .good luck remember confidence goes a long way
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my ex and i had dated for over a year a few years ago and then we dated other people on and off until july. we started dating and we were both really happy but i starting noticing that he was becoming more distant and so i talked to him about it many times. so we're both in highschool, same grade..all that jazz.
so it was almost four months and we started getting really tense, so i feared the worse.
then a week before four months he says he cant decide if he's happier with or without me..
so i wait all day, i went into school late, skipped lunch because i was scared to cry infront of him and i had been crying all morning.
so i went the rest of the day without crying and finally at one i broke down in his arms and i felt bad. so we talked a little bit in person but we started texting and he still couldnt decide so at like eleven that night i broke up with him hoping he'd be happier without me.. not so much
its been almost two weeks, and its not getting any easier. he said that if i was the same i was in the summer then he would date me again (happy, go lucky, enjoyable me) but i dont know how to be like that anymore.. any advice helps. thanks soo muchh!
happy thanksgiving. (link)
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his a very confused young man that doesnt know what he wants and its not you so dont beat yourself about it.some people come in our lifes just to teach us a lesson maybe its time for him to go .i hope your not planning on stayin around playing that on and off game .its hard getting over people but the sooner the better protect yourself dont let him play those little games with you and change yourself for noone.good luck
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When me and my boyfriend are sitting down, we hold hands. Well i love holding hands with him, its just something he does that weirds me out! he like holds my hand and he puts our hands on his knee and slowly moves our hands towards his crotch! i dont know if he is purposley doing it or not! does anyone know what i am talking about??? or what his intentions are?? oh gosh.
Thank you verrryy much!! :D
p.s. any answers will help (link)
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if it bothers you definitely speak about it lack of communication will affect you guys ask him why and does he know his doing it and tell him you dont feel comfortable when he does that.
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f/15
Okay so I'm dating this guy, We've been dating for about 2 months. We go over each others houses at least 2 or 3 times a week and we always do something on weekends. We have a really nice relationship and I know pretty much everything about him. When we're over each others houses all we do is cuddle and sometimes I make him do kiddie stuffs with me :D But yeah, I really want to kiss him. Ha. I haven't kissed anyone before, obviously and neither has he. When we cuddle is the worst of all, because I never get enough courage to do so, and I know he's not going to make the first move. So, like how do I? What should I do?
Thankies :) (link)
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how cute:)
well all i can say is to be confident suprise him without him knowing hug him and kiss his upper lip softly then the bottom no teeth just suck on them slightly take one step at a time dont french kiss him just yet. dont rush to do anything else your not comfortable to do wish you the best of luck with your first kiss.
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The other day he got very upset with me over a message he saw in my inbox from an ex bf. We got in the biggest fight about it and I had never even seen the message. He looked at it before I could and blew up about it.
I do get messages from the ex every now and then but I don't even read them, I automatically delete them. He claims that he only got on to do something I asked him to do. But, thing is, I asked him to do said thing MONTHS ago so I know that is not the reason he signed on my account.
So right now, I am in idk land wondering what to do about this whole situation. If it helps anything, im 18, him 19. (link)
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his very insecure dont let it get to you couples always fight well he makes it clear that he doesnt trust you none and that could really affects you guys .let him calm down and explain things to him but other than that theres really nothing you can do his gonna have to get over it.
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my boyfriend and i had sex with a condom...but when we were done he cummed into the condom and then pulled out. the condom slipped off and it got stuck to me. when he pulled the condom off none of the sperm was in the condom...
could i become pregnant?...where could the sperm have gone? (link)
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honestly there could be a high possibility maybe it fell on the bed or something but you've got to be more careful if you dont want to get pregnant like before my boyfriend comes he always takes the condom off and cum.good luck
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I'm considering leaving a note or something for the dude I like. What are some ways to not have him suspect its you? I want to keep it going for a little while before I actually tell him.
16/f
Thanks (link)
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its easy if you guys go to the same school you can put poems in his locker .
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I am a 29yo single male who has never had a girlfriend in his life. It makes me sad to see everyone else with their gf, and then there's me. There are times when I am feeling so alone and depressed. I don't know what the point of living is anymore. Seems like there's nothing left in life to look foward to except for. (link)
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well,you need to try to meet new people if your shy well your gonna have to break that habit go out more dont be shy to talk to girls go to parties try to be physically fit if your not get a new hair cut try neww stuff.
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So my boyfriend want to take me on my first date on thursday, and wants me to choose what to do...
i have no idea lol
help me!!!
me 18, him 20
thanksss! (link)
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dinner and a movie can help you guys connect...
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I have been talking to this girl for about two weeks. She is really cool and I have grown to really like her. But unfortunately she has a boyfriend. The boyfriend lives in north Carolina. We live in PA. She is convinced that they will be together forever. But he is a control freak, and she knows it. She constantly rants to me about it, so there are already problems in the relationship. My question is how do I win this girl over? (link)
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By being the nice guy "support her whenever she needs you tell her its going to be okay .DO NOT try to convince her his wrong for her b/c shes going to think your just jealous.be yourself talk to her hang out with her always give her your full divided attention.good luck
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