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This guy
14/f
Ok so I have a crush on this guy. He goes to my church and I see him like twice a week. We are friends and he will talk to me alot. He asked if he could sit by me this last week and of course I said yeah. He is so cool and cute, haha. But yeah I really don't know what I should do. He goes to a private school and I know everyone there, its not very big. So I'm really confused. He walks with me sometimes and will talk to me alot. So what should I do? Here is another thing. I'm a quiet person, I mean I'm not waaay shy but I'm in that range. So the only times I talk to him is when he talks to me. I have never started it...maybe once. But I have to be with my friends and in a good mood and all hyper and stuff. So then I have the courage to talk to him. Weird, but yeah. How do I talk to him and is there anything else you can give me? Thanks so much!
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Sounds like he is a nice guy and interested in you
make an effort to go over and say hi
ask him questions about himself to show that you are interested in getting to know him as a person
once he sees your interest, he will probably ask you out of for your number
and remember, he is probalby just as worried about what you think of him
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Theres nothing wrong with being quiet, thats just one "something" about you. And you know what, thats probably one of the reasons he likes you. It's different and thats good. He sounds like a really nice guy and it sounds like he is putting in a lot of effort. You don't want to make the mistake as coming off "Cold" if you never make the effort yourself. I'm sorry, you need to, its what you want isn't it. SO! Not to say, you must always step OUT of your way to talk to him, but the next time you see him and he sees you- simply walk over there and its simple. Just say "Hi". Start it from there and I'm sure he'll lead you into a more deeper conversation. If not ask "how are you, how was your day" or if he brushes it off, no worries, tell him about your day (Vague details are an okay too, since you are "shy" or I'd say "A private person" then give him just the little bits, because then he'll wonder and if he is really interested in you, to make sure, he'll ask "oh yeah? REALLY? how was that" OR "hmm what did you do exactly?")
At this point you'll be smiling from being so brave :D
BE YOURSELF! If your quiet, thats fine, just don't be cold. Theres a difference - if he sees you and you see him and he doesn't get the chance to go over to you, but you know he saw you (don't start worrying, what happened, does that mean he doesn't want to talk) No. it just means that, he saw you and he's engaged into something else, he's just another person, he has thoughts and feelings as well, always be aware of that, so ASK him about it. I promise you- you, will, not, seem, like, you, are, anyone else but your own self. Just because you approached him, so confidently or silly (skip to him, who cares!) doesn't make you compromise who you are (if you like to be, well quiet) Another thing - Being Shy.. can be very attractive, but don't be stand off-ish. IT seems like you are a very excited person and you are very lively whenever you are near your friends ,and thats great- you should feel very comfortable around your friends and thats the vibe you want when your with him. SO what will HELP is.. think! think! - why? its okay to question "why am I really "myself" with my friends, and its hard for me to be that way around him" The answer is easy, theres one answer to that riddle- i already know and its "because you just met him". Try not to think of it that much, because then you'll start thinking of the expectations, about what is he thinking, it only creates stress and disables you from the PRESENT. YOu see him? You want to talk to him? If you aren't interrupting anything important, once again, just say Hi. Oh or even, if he is busy or you are off going somewhere, and your busy.. let him know your there and that you did notice him, either brush by him, poke him, smile at him or a simple WAVE hello from a distance and going right back into the conversations with your friends is very friendly.
I think its the nerves, USE Them. Try. Its hard, I know, it comes with practice, maybe talk to some other guys who may seem a bit less intimidating? or a new girlfriend.
Its ALL ABOUT COMMOM EXPERIENCE. And thats finding things in which you have in common. Art? Music? Movies? very good subjects and easy for girls to talk about I'm sure, guys will love to hear what you like, don't be afriad to have your own opinion on things, it'll show character and confidence and you already have both, you just don't know it.
ALL the best!
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14 i remember those days i feel your pain its really hard having the courage to speak to a boy you obviously really likes .all you need is confident and a postive attitude you can do it your lucky that he made the first move of even speaking to you so its much easier talk about school or church smile head up high keep telling yourself you can do it .try not lookin at his eyes look ove his head cause looking deeply in his eyes can be a little scary at first .good luck remember confidence goes a long way
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