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My friend's boyfriend broke up with her unexpectedly 2 1/2 months ago after a 10 year long live-in relationship. She is obviously heartbroken, shocked, confused, afraid, angry, etc. Here's the trouble... Several of our other girlfriends are giving her terrible advice (i.e. You should try to make him jealous. You should start dating immediately. You just need to go out and party. If you want him back, you have to compete with the girls he's seeing and fight for him.) It is obvious to me that he doesn't want to be back in this relationship. Her efforts to get his attention and make him jealous are only resulting in further disappointment for her. What can I do to help her let go? She is still totally clinging to hope and hasn't moved into the "acceptance" stage of the grieving process. She is turning 40 this year, and that is also a great fear for her. She feels she gave the best years of her life to him and that she'll never have true romance again.
I wish I had better advice for her than some of my other friends, but I don't. I try to encourage her to look ahead to a bright future, to make plans for a bright future, that she deserves a bright future, that she is capable of crafting a bright future, and that she is intelligent, strong, and loved and supported by many, many people.
She just keeps trying to compete with the new girls he's seeing, and she'll never come out on top because he doesn't want to be with her. How can I help her see that? I am tired of watching her set herself up for what is turning out to be continuous, extreme disappointment.
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Sounds like you are a good friend and trying to help. But sometimes people ask others for advice until someone tells them to do what they wanted to do anyway. That may be why she is listening to "bad advice."
Keep being supportive, spend time together doing things you enjoy. Help her to realize that she is deserving of someone who treats her well.
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me and my bf broke up a couple months ago and he dated other people but i havent and weve talked since then and he says he will always love me and stuff and wants me back sometime but i want him now! more than anything! what do i do cause i already told him that like 5 times and he agrees but doesnt ever do anything! (link)
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He has moved on and it's time for you to do the same. Right now he's just telling you what you want to hear to make things easier for him.
Focus on whats going on in your life, your talents and interests, and someone way better will come along when you're not expecting it.
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bf=m-17 almost 18
we've been dating 15 months going on 16 in december.
i have NO clue what to get him for Christmas.
i dont want to give him something i already have obviously so here is what i Have gotten for him.
-Cologne
-Shirt
-build-a-bear bear
Need good ideas i can spend up too $100 on him cause that about all i have. :(
i'm buying him a not so serious gift too-a mr. potato head!
so this one i want to be like not a serious but i good and semi pricey gift.
thanks! =D (link)
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For one thing, most guys care ALOT less than we girls do about gift giving, so he'll probably like whatever you give him.
If he has a favorite sports team, get him a hat or jersey. Or one of those mini basketball hoops with a ball that can be mounted on a door inside, guys love that.
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15/f
So Im going out with this kid named Kris, and weve been going out for about 3 months, and I definitly love him, like nobody has any idea how much I care about him. He tells me he loves me all the time, and I know he does. But he has only kissed me once, and it wasnt even long, and that was like a month ago, when he gives me hugs there never long and he never seems excited to see me, but then when we talk on the phone hes all love dovey and says he loves me. I just dont know what this means, and its starting to really get to me. (link)
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It's best to get this out in the open and talk to him about it, he could just be inexperienced and scared and may just need some reassurance from you.
If things don't change and you are unhappy with the way things are, it's time to move on.
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14/f
Ok so I have a crush on this guy. He goes to my church and I see him like twice a week. We are friends and he will talk to me alot. He asked if he could sit by me this last week and of course I said yeah. He is so cool and cute, haha. But yeah I really don't know what I should do. He goes to a private school and I know everyone there, its not very big. So I'm really confused. He walks with me sometimes and will talk to me alot. So what should I do? Here is another thing. I'm a quiet person, I mean I'm not waaay shy but I'm in that range. So the only times I talk to him is when he talks to me. I have never started it...maybe once. But I have to be with my friends and in a good mood and all hyper and stuff. So then I have the courage to talk to him. Weird, but yeah. How do I talk to him and is there anything else you can give me? Thanks so much! (link)
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Sounds like he is a nice guy and interested in you
make an effort to go over and say hi
ask him questions about himself to show that you are interested in getting to know him as a person
once he sees your interest, he will probably ask you out of for your number
and remember, he is probalby just as worried about what you think of him
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list some of your guys favorite songs! mostly slow rock kind of songs about love and heartbreak! (link)
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"Guilty" by Bonnie Raitt
makes me cry
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are nokin cameras good? specifically nikon coolpix?
whats better least to greates sony canon and nikon
thanks
if you know any more good please list.. (link)
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sony cybershot were rated well when I did my research
cool pix did not
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besides black friday, what other day has big sales? especially on clothes. (link)
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Cyber Monday is tomorrow, lots of on-line specials
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