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hey everyone, i'm kaleigh.i've been through alot, so feel free to ask me
anything, i'll probably be able to relate.
im not a shit talker and ill tell you straight out what i think, im no afraid of what people think of me, i'd acctually like to know, so inbox me and let me know.
feel free to inbox me or ask me a question.
ill try my best to help yah out.
advice
If you know that a guy is interested in you and he sometimes caresses your legs and you dont tell him to stop but you dont make it seem like your even phased by it, what impression would the guy get?
well, if you act like your not phased by it
then eventually he will get the impression that you dont want him to do it, or hes notgeting your attention, hense your not interested in him.
and idk what kind of impression you want to give off, but if you do like him, and you want him to keep doing it, if hes looking at you, look at him and smile.
but, if you do like him but you dont want him touching you like that, then just hold the hand he is doing it with, make eye contact and while your looking at him grab his hand.
hope this helped. :)
Me and this guy I have a huge crush on are in our schools band together. We know eathothers names and say hi to eachother and we chat somtimes at band practice and competitions. The problem is, I dont know how do get any closer to him! Yesterday, I went out of my way to sit by him in the bleachers at our band competition, and I talked to him alot durring it, but never really got into any real conversation, just like little comments. I am not shy at all, but I really just cant think of anything to do to get his attention and get him thinking about me. He probably just thought it was a fluke that I sat next to him for all that time yesterday, if he even thought about it at all. I want to invite him to do somthing with my freinds, because he is sorta friends with some of the guys in my group, but my friends havn't done anything lately as a group that would be appropiate to ask him to come to. Another problem is, we only have one week left of band practices and competition... then its totally over for the year, and I dont even have any classes with him. So please help! I really really like him but only have one week to get him! Any ideas?
Oh yes, and I want to flirt with him, but I just dont want it to be too obvious, because you know how it is when you're with your friends and one of them is getting flirted with really hard, and as soon as the flirter leaves you all talk about it and discuss it with the person who was getting flirted with... you know what I mean? Like, I dont wnat to flirt with him alot and then as soon as I leave all his friends will turn to him and say "Woah! She was really trying hard to pick you up, huh?" So what are some really subtle ways that I can lure him in without making a scene?
you said ure not shy, but he may be..
maybe he likes you back but just isn't saying anything or making a move to show you.. alot of guys are like that. but, maybe one day after band practice you could invite him to go get something to eat or something, just you two or maybe a couple other people.. but, not just people your friends with because then that will make him feel akward.. but, when you do hangout with him in a group you should pull him aside and talk to him just you two or have a conversation just you two to show that your interested in what he has to say.
and yah, i know what you mean about the obvious flirting, it's happened to me many times.. but, it's not always a bad thing, because it will get him thinking more and more about it.. but, if you still don't want to make it that obvious ask him to come sit with you, or just sit with him alone.. and i know right now this seems kind of a big step, but he'll get the idea that you want more than just some friend action. :p and if you two do start dating, later on it will be easier to hangout with him, just him if you start doing it now when ure just friends.
hope i helped.
im 16 and i just met this guy at the beginning of school and hes so sweet and nice but hes also such a flirt. For a few weeks we talked every day on the phone and it seemed like he liked me too. But now im not sure because he always talks about other girls. Should i just give up and move on? He still flirts with me alot and occassionally calls, but he could be doing that with other girls tooo. im also way to shy to just come out and tell him i like him. help me!
well, if you know for a fact he flirts with oither girls then i'd say stop before you get yourself into something that will be harder to get out of later. he may be sweet, and he may be nice.. but he's also being the same exact way to other girls. you can't trust guys like that.
being nice and sweet over all is a great quality. but being a flirt isn't.
I'm so confused. Let me start way in the beginning. Well, there's this one kid, Tom. I never talked to him before, just saw him in school. He found out I thought he was really hot, so he sent me a message on line saying we should hang out. This was back in November. We never hungout but occasionally talked on facebook that week, and he invited me to a party that weekend to meet up with him. I never went and ignored him in school, because literally, a week after he asked to hangout, he was dating someone.
So we stopped talking for about like a month or two. And in that time he was in 2 relationships. He broke up with his girlfriend a week after they went out to date someone else like 2-3 weeks later, and that relationship didn't last long either, because she broke up with him within 2 weeks.
About a week later, he started talking to me again. (because he finally saw me in school i guess? And this was like the second week on Jan). He would aim me like everyday through out all on January, saying we should hangout and stuff. But i didn't want to hangout with him because i didn't want to get used. But he still talked to me, even when we never hung out. I even would still ignore him in school, but smile occasionally. Then i found out he was going to ask me out, to like date. I told him no because i liked being single. BUT he still kept talking to me online like everyday for hours. During February he was constantly calling me gorgeous and all that weird shit, and he acted as if we dated online or something (he was REALLY weird). I still never hung out with him, but kept on saying we should sometime. He also brought up dating me. I asked him what he wanted out of me, i told him i don't care if all he just wanted to do was hookup, just tell me before i started “hanging out with you and liking you”. But he said he still wanted to date me at some point. Through out these months though, i know he has been planning to “hangout with other girls too” and i know he's hooked up with a few ones too.
Well, we started talking in school since the beginning of March, and he waits for me and walks to my classes and stuff. We hung out last weekend, and hooked up. I was drunk Friday, and told him I wanted to date him. (i know, sorry). But he hasn't brought up dating or anything. I know he was planning to hangout with other girls too, because i read there comments on myspace and facebook.
My question is, is should i still try to talk to him, or ignore him. He's asked me out twice, and admitted to liking me. But both times i told him no, and i think he got the impression was all i wanted to do was hookup. And he still talked to me for like 2 months even though we never hungout. However, then why is he still trying to hangout with all these other girls then?! Like, wtf dude? I don't know, I'm so confused. Like he still aims me all the time, and shit, and trys to talk to me in school whenever he can and even trys sitting with me at lunch. But if he's “supposedly interested” then why is he still talking to all these other girls. I'm starting to like him, but don't want to get hurt, so I'm debating if i should just ignore him. My friend asked him what was going on between me and him, and he said if he had an idea he would tell her.
What the hell should i do?! Thank-you
k, well first off. that was really loooonnnnngg. :p but, anyways.
i say ignore him, hes trying to get you to like him then eventually date and whatever but, im sorry and u may not want to hear this but i really dont think he likes you. i think hes using you and i also think that you should maybe after you stop liking him start talking to him andbeing friends with him, but after reading that i take it hes the guy you cant just be friends with, and i have had experience with those kind. :P but, yah. hes saying all this stuff to you and probably saying the same stuff at the same time to another girl, don't give him the impression that you would hook up with hiom because i have a feeling thats what hes trying to get out of you. and, i know people make mistakes but, if u do it again hes going to keep wanting it and expecting it.
hope i helped.
well now my friend knows i like her
cousin but i dont realley know how to flirt =/
any suggestions on flirting???
myjellybean.com/guys/flirting
Should I get my boyfriend a picture? In a heart shaped frame? And if yeas, should I get him a picture of us, or a picture of me? We've been together for 15 months...any help within the hour please.I'm also getting him a card I'm making with a picture of us inside of it, and a cupcake from school with a message in it. What do you think??
yeah, i like the idea of a heart shaped frame, but get a picture of you guys. 'cause idk if it's just me but i think it would make you seem kind of conceited, but if you do that don't get him a card with a nother picture of you guys, and yeah, i like the cupcake idea, it's random but very cute, i never would have thought of something like that.
Me and this girl have been talking for a while and we both sound interested in eachother but i was wondering how to ask her out. We hardly get a chance to hang out and now i'll almost never see her in school and i want to ask her out very soon so she doesn't think we arn't going anywhere and move on...cause i seem to find that happen with girls lol. So would it be ok to ask her out via text message or what? Thanks.
don't ask her out over text messaging. thats kind od tacky. but, asking her to hangout over text messaging is a good idea. i suggest ask her to hangout(however you want, texting?) but then if everything goes well when ure together ask her out. like, to date. :p then go from there.
hope i helped.
okay so me and this guy cj well we have been getting to know each other...like friends. But a while back i thought that he liked me because well we never talked and he would just like look at me a lot and he started a paper wad fight with me. But then this past thursday, we was doing this project and he said he had a girlfriend. and there was like 4 people in the group including him, and they all raised their hands but me. and when he raised his hand he kinda looked at me. I cant explain it, it was just like he was trying to tell me something. I didnt know what it was but when he looked at me it was eye contact and i just got this feeling. But anyways, ever since then we have been getting to know each other, like i always talk to him when we are in that class. And like last night i went to an away game with a friend, a basketball game. And he is on the team. and i sat like right behind him, my knee was touching his chair. And he would look at me and smile, and i would smile back (we was like saying hi.) But i didnt talk to him cause i didnt want to take his mind off of the game. and he didnt talk to me. And after we won, me and my friend was standing in the corner trying to get service on our phones. and the team left, but as they were leaving he kinda looked at me then looked down like he was disappointed or something. But we are still like friends. People say that i wouldnt have a chance because he is a senior and im just a freshman, and my friend says that he is ugly and he dont like his personality but everytime i say something about him she says well he told me that he dont like that class....so my question is what do you think about this?? what does everything mean..?
and when he smiled he half smiled, and he says he dont even remember of know the girl so what do you think about all of this. He is a great NICE guy and i dont think she was tryign to warn me...
alright well, i think ure right. i think he is trying to tell you something. he seems like a sweet guy to get to know, when you guys were at the game and he looked over and then looked down i think he was disappointed that you wernt there to talk or congratulate him on his game. Which, wouldnt have been a bad idea. I think you should talk to him, like it would have been a good time to talk to him at the game, but not while he was playing. but, maybe he smiles at you and doesnt talk to you or say anything because he doesnt think you like him. which, i dont remember if you said you did or not but if you do i think you should try to hangout with him and maybe flirt with him so he knows you like him too, because if theres a guy out there the smiles at you everytime he sees you without coming over and trying to get something out of you seems great, usually if they do come over and try to "get some" their just in the relationship or wanting a relationship to "get some" so, i thinky uo should tell him how you feel. maybe ask him how he feels about you.
i really hope i helped, if theres anything else just inbox me. :]
I am in 8th grade, girl. I had a boyfriend last year, in 7th grade, but only for two months. It was my first and only boyfriend. We never hooked up. Only kissed. I want a boyfriend now, but all the guys only like experienced girls. And everyone knows i only had one bf, and they dont want me. What should i do? Any flirting tips to make someone, ANYONE, like me?
[I know i seem desperate, but i am. I know i dont need a guy, but they make me really happy, when i have a bf]
Sorry its long...Thank!
well, first off. im going to tell you that a guy that doesnt want an experienced girl is only looking to "get some" you will find a guy that likes you for you, go at ure own pace and respects you. but, i looked up some sites anyways.
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveSCat/192
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
i've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. we're really in love but ever month almost he does something so selfish and stupid i don't know what to do!!! I'm tired of getting mad at him, because he doesn't mean to do stupid stuff and it just tears us apart when we fight, so i started to let alot of stuff go. but now he's blowing me off all the time and lying. when i do get mad at him he acts so cocky he doesnt even try to apologize he just says alright fine and avoids me the whole day - doesnt call or anything. then he'll text me saying "hey whats up lets hang out" im like no!!! his mom always used to tell him to ignore a girl and she'll forget she's mad because she'll be to busy trying to win his attention - but i've told him more than once games don't work with me.
he used to be the sweetest boyfriend ever, he was always there for me and always honest. he would call me just because he said he wanted to hear my voice. but now he's acting like he owns me. i know he loves me, he doesn't wantto break up and when i mention it he goes crazy. I don't want to break up but he never really listens, what should i do? how can i convince my boyfriend to stop acting like this! i love him i just want to work it out
well, first off im going to say. no relationship is perfect everyone comes into trouble once in awhile. But, he seems like hes taking advantage of you. like, hes doing the stuff hes doing because he knows he can do it without you doing anything about it. kinda like hes walking all over you. and i may be wrong, but talk to him because you both have to put in effort towards therelationship it can't just be effort from obe side. you can't have a one sided relationship, if you dont talk to him he's just going to keep doing whatever hes doing, but then again maybe somethings going on that he doesnt want to talk about right now but he will come around.
i hope i helped.
my boyfriend has recently been avoiding me, he walks away when he sees me, and when i walk by him or he walks by me he never smiles anymore, it seems like hes almost glaring at me...what could this mean? is he nervous?does he hate me?
thanks:)
uhm, talk to him. relationships are about communication. so, if you talk to him then your going to answer your own questions.
hope i helped.
Hi there. So, I'm in a bit of a dilemma these days. I'm at a fork in the road where I have to make a decision that might change the rest of my life. Let me just get to it.
A few months ago I got to hang out with a friend of mine... we begun to really hang out a lot, go on trips together, and just have a great time in each other's company. I began to realize that she is an incredible person who I could actually see myself possibly settling with. Nothing physical happened, though, b/c she is getting out of a long-term relationship and wasn't ready emotionally to move on yet. We just enjoyed hanging out with each other (practically everyday for 2 months) but, didn't talk about moving forward b/c of reason mentioned above. She's not from the U.S. and has recently traveled back to her home country to take care of a few things but, plans on being back here in a few months...
On the job front, I've just been potentially been offered a position that would start in a few weeks. The thing is, the job goes until October and, once I'm there, there's no leaving, visitors, packages sent, or any other contact other than e-mail and an occasional phone call. Except for the 40 or so other folks I'd be working with, it's total isolation. This is what I believe to be a once in a lifetime opportunity and, I could use the money. Like I said, I'd have to stay there until October at the minimum.
So, do I forget about the job, go after this incredible woman and hope something comes of it or do I take the once in a lifetime job and hope that she's still available/interested when I get back?
Ii just read that I should include my age, as it might make a difference... I'm in my early 30's.
okay, well. i'm not going to tell you what to do because this is up to you. i'm just going to point out a few things that you should think about.
first, the girl.
you said she just came out of a long term relationship and wasnt stable, and you also said youve hungout alot. Not to burst your bubble or anything but she might just be using you as a rebound, but like i said im just pointing things out. Also, she might just be looking for a good friend she can talk to and spend time with because she needs to keep her mind off things. and out of it you may or may not get a relationship out of it. so i suggest you talk to her.
second, the job.
you said it was total isolation until october, at least. e-mail and once in awhile a phone call. Thats almost 10 months of not talking to your family, not seeing them. or your friends. like, if i were you. i don't think i would be able to handle that. if it pays good, then maybe you could save up and then go to wherever this girl lives and make a surprise visit or something.
k, well i hope i hleped a little at least. but, i'm only 13 and i don't know much about big decisions like this yet. but, i tried.
me and my long term boyfriend just broke up. and i'm taking it really hard. even to the point where i take it out on my mom. i really want to move on but i don't know how to. can some one please give me some help?! cause if i don't move on, i know i'll end up self-destructing myself.
go out with your friends and have fun. do what you like to do. if you play a sport play it, if you draw then draw. whatever you like to do as a hobbie then i'm sure that will take ure mind off it. and for awhile it's gonna hurt, which is perfectly norm, if it didnt people would think you didnt care about what happened. but, being with ure friends, should be able to take your mind off it. and try to JUST have fun, dont waste the night talking about the guy.
hope i helped. :]
gender: F
age: 13
So i really like this guy.
lets call him C
But we are best friends
I want to show him how fun i really am
i want to become more than jsut friends
everyone thinks that we make such a cute couple
why wont he just try going out with me
it seems like he really likes me
but he says he doesn't
anyway here is the story
♥ Last friday my school had a dance. So I didn't hang out with C, but my other friends. So M, one of C's friends randomly comes up to me and asks me what i think of C. I told him that i use to like C but i didn't anymore because this was to
awkward. then M walked away and told C. What do i do... why did M ask me that?
so i asked C and he said that he didn't feel the same way,
SOS HELP ME
i'm also 13 and goign through a smiliar problem, but i suggest just talk to him. thats what i did and well at first it's a little akward but it gets easier after you start talking about it. and if he says he likes you back beause right now hes probably denying it. oh, and dont forget to tell him you like him.
hope i helped.
I have a friend who knows i like her more than a friend. She has a boyfriend, she tells me almost EVERYTHING!
Today she told me she's going to break up with her boyfriend. He only has one more chance which is a day to make it up to her.
If they do brake up, what's a good way to ask the girl out??
Thanks so much for all suggestions and advice!
And if it wouldn't be a problem, what's a good activity for a FIRST date?
Thanks in advance.
Kronix
well, if they do break up i think you should give it some time to let her "recover" but, before you acctually ask her to be ure gf hangout a couple times first then if you "hit it off" ask her out.
and for ideas about the first date,
well, i wouldnt go to the movies becuase she might feel a little akward.
uhm, maybe go out for something to eat, like a slice of pizza or something.
maybe, a hockey game, basketball or hockey.
ask her what she likes to do and think of ideas from there.
hope i helped. :]
hi. 15/m
i've known this girl for about a month. i met her at a football game. she's really pretty and just all around great. great personality, etc...all the good stuff.
so last night, at another football game, i asked her out. we'd been talking over aim/facebook since we'd met and i really like her.
well after i asked her she thinks for a minute, then turns to me and says "i need to think about it". then i give her a hug because i had to leave.
well i got a message from her this morning after i got home from saturday varsity swim practice that said "i really really really like you but i don't really want a boyfriend right now...not saying i wont in a couple weeks or months but i dont want it to be awkward around us..." etc.
well we've been talking litterally like....all day. and so i think what i'm trying to ask is do i try again in a couple weeks or what? i don't really have much experience with girls...i've only ever had one girlfriend and so idk if i should try again later or if i should look for someone else...
thanks a bunch
G.M.
i think you should just give her some space right now, because you never know what could be happening with her like maybe shes going through a tough time and doesnt need anymore stress, not saying your going to stress her out but with trying to hangout and make plans might. so i suggest, if you see her at a football game or basketball or whatever hangout with her, become better friend with her then later, in maybe like a month or so ask her again.
hope i helped. :]
i have a boyfriend that im in love with! we've been together for a year and a half and in general he makes me happy but we do argue alot, thats just what we do and it doesnt bother me. but... theres this guy i just met, i cant believe it but he takes my breathe away everytime i see him. hes incredible, and i love everything about him(atleast from what i know about him). i really like him and i cant get him out of my head!!!!!! he makes me smile, and has the most sexiest dimples EVER!!!! i love my boyfriend but the fact that im thinking about even considereing being with another guy breaks my heart. and i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i try everything to get him out of my head! i'll sit there and think about how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and ill convince myself that this other guy is just a silly infatuation and i forget about him. that is until i see him again and i totally forget i even have a boyfriend. im having a mental breakdown. please help!
i think you need to think about everything you and ure boyfriend have been though, i bet theres alot... since you've been dating a year and a half! and i think this guy you just met is an oubstcle put in ure way just to see how much you truely love& care for ure boyfriend.
i really hope i helped. :]
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and recently we started hanging out with this guy. I am really getting to like him he's cute, nice, funny etc. I still love my boyfriend but i feel like I'm distancing myself from my boyfriend because of this guy. What should I do?
well, youve gotta think. you have been with your boyfriend for almost a year now and i'm guessing you knew him before you started dating. and you just met this guy i think you should give it some time and if you feel you like the other guy more then ask ure bf for a break or break up with him.
hope i helped& best of luck.
So I'm a 19 year old guy, and to sum it up I've never been in a real relationship. I've had lots of opportunities to go out with girls and I've been asked out by about 5 so far. The problem is that I really want to be in a relationship and I'm very attracted towards women, but whenever things start going right with girls it's like I need to get out of it. And no, I'm not gay. I feel really confident in myself physically and mentally, I'm very involved at my university, and I have lots of friends both guys and girls. I don't have lots of experience with girls as far as in relationships, but I feel very confident when talking to them. Sometimes I plan to ask a girl out, but then I lose interest in her within a week or so. It's like I have to make sure it doesn't work out even if things go well. Everyday I think about how I still don't have a girlfriend and it drives me insane!
What advice can you give me to start dating chicks and getting more comfortable with dating? Anyones advice is welcome of course.
-Thanks a lot
it sounds like your looking at all the negatives, like maybe thinking that oh, shes nt going to like me because i don't have alot of experience.
I think you should focus on the positives, like wow, i really like this girl and she likes me back.
well, good luck :]
she cries and does things so sweet and fights to keep me but shes always so secretive.is she a true lover?
well, maybe she just needs some time to break out of her shell.. she should come around, i suggest talking to her about how you think it effects the relationship. she could also just be going through a tough time that she doesn't feel like talking about at the moment.
-hope i helped.