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how to get a guy I like... alot
Me and this guy I have a huge crush on are in our schools band together. We know eathothers names and say hi to eachother and we chat somtimes at band practice and competitions. The problem is, I dont know how do get any closer to him! Yesterday, I went out of my way to sit by him in the bleachers at our band competition, and I talked to him alot durring it, but never really got into any real conversation, just like little comments. I am not shy at all, but I really just cant think of anything to do to get his attention and get him thinking about me. He probably just thought it was a fluke that I sat next to him for all that time yesterday, if he even thought about it at all. I want to invite him to do somthing with my freinds, because he is sorta friends with some of the guys in my group, but my friends havn't done anything lately as a group that would be appropiate to ask him to come to. Another problem is, we only have one week left of band practices and competition... then its totally over for the year, and I dont even have any classes with him. So please help! I really really like him but only have one week to get him! Any ideas?
Oh yes, and I want to flirt with him, but I just dont want it to be too obvious, because you know how it is when you're with your friends and one of them is getting flirted with really hard, and as soon as the flirter leaves you all talk about it and discuss it with the person who was getting flirted with... you know what I mean? Like, I dont wnat to flirt with him alot and then as soon as I leave all his friends will turn to him and say "Woah! She was really trying hard to pick you up, huh?" So what are some really subtle ways that I can lure him in without making a scene?
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He could definately be shy. It sounds like you need your friends help! Me and my friends used to do this all the time..if we liked a guy we'd get our guy friend who knows him to invite him to something. Something like bonfires..movies..hanging at someones house..hot tub..anything! He does sound shy..so you wouldn't make it a lot of people. Movies are good cause he's not on the spot. Set up a date with your friends and work on getting him there. AND do not worry if it doesn't work out..it does seem like the end of your chance but its not. I used to change the way i went to class in school JUST so i can pass by a guy..so lame but so worth it. You can pass him in the hall and wave and say hey and occasionaly ask him where he's going. I know this might be OUT there but you could always just be like Hey what are you doing this weekend cause me and my friends are doing ___ and are trying to get people to come so it would be cool if you could come.
FOR NOW, don't follow him around the room to try to get him. Just stay cool..look good and walk by him and say hey without looking at him like your busy. If you happen to sit next to eachother..then talk to other people around you and then ocassionaly say something to him. Striking up conversations like.."So whats up?" "Hows your day" and stuff like that can sometimes lead NO WHERE. Telling stories can be annoying to guys sometimes so if your trying to get him interested in what your saying..keep it short. Always smile when you walk in like your happy. Getting a guys attention can be so hard and confusing i gotta tell you. But really, don't worry if you can't get closer to him this week. You will see him in the hallways or before school and you might even run into him out and about. Overall, i really just suggest smiling and saying a nice Hey when you see him at band. Make eye contact with them like your going to sit with him..and then look somewhere else and sit there. It kinda makes them think "Why did she look at me and then sit over there". Of course you don't do it in a way that makes it seem like you hate him..cause that would just be bad. But by the end of the week, really just go up and ask if he wants to hang out with you and your friends and have a bonfire or play a huge game of flashlight tag or manhunt( its actually so much fun). If you feel like he thinks your coming on strong..just act liek your talking to one of your friends and be like "its cool if you can't or don't want to we just want a lot of people". I swear its not awkward if its just an open invitation and he wont feel on the spot.
Good luck!! And let me know if you need more help.
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you said ure not shy, but he may be..
maybe he likes you back but just isn't saying anything or making a move to show you.. alot of guys are like that. but, maybe one day after band practice you could invite him to go get something to eat or something, just you two or maybe a couple other people.. but, not just people your friends with because then that will make him feel akward.. but, when you do hangout with him in a group you should pull him aside and talk to him just you two or have a conversation just you two to show that your interested in what he has to say.
and yah, i know what you mean about the obvious flirting, it's happened to me many times.. but, it's not always a bad thing, because it will get him thinking more and more about it.. but, if you still don't want to make it that obvious ask him to come sit with you, or just sit with him alone.. and i know right now this seems kind of a big step, but he'll get the idea that you want more than just some friend action. :p and if you two do start dating, later on it will be easier to hangout with him, just him if you start doing it now when ure just friends.
hope i helped.
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