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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering.
when my boyfriend wears cologne it makes me wanna jump all over him and kiss him til the cologne wears off honestly. i love cologne and everyone i know loves when guys wear cologne to. even the gay guys haha
Ok, so theres this guy and I like him. He flirts with me a lot, but idk if it's intentional or not. We have a really small class and I'm the only girl he admits being friends with. We used to talk a lot. He told me he thought I was the prettiest girl in our class {but keep in mind we have a super small class}. Then, I wanted to go out and he pretty much said no bc he thought I was ugly. Since, then we're still friends, but I have no self esteem. Guys give me compliments, but it doesn't matter bc I always think back to what that guy said. I'm just confused because there's always "accidents" in which he'll hit my ass or boob, but I'm the only girl it happens to with him. Everyone thinks he likes me and that I like him. I just don't know what to do, I moved on but then he kept coming back and flirting so, what should I do? sorry its long, I do rate!!
ok this is obv. he likes you. its like a fact. you just need to make him realize that what he is saying does not affect you and laugh about it. I have the same exact problem and move on. when a guy gives you a compliment smile and take it in and forget about what the guy said. he should know that your not going to give your self esteem up for him.
there's this boy that lives like two houses down from me and he's like sooooooooooo cute. he's 19 and i'm 15 and i really like him but i don't know if he likes me. he's always staring and smiling at me like he as something to say but never says it. should i go up to him and ask him does he like me or should i just wait and see what happens?
im in the same situation im 15 and hes 19 and hes my next door neighbor and he is so cute and funny. anyways i decided to be agressive and talk to him one day and we became good friends, you know what it led to? we made out once kissed a couple times we hang out every night and make out some more and i have his number he has mine we text its great you should start talking to this guy!
does age really matter when it comes to dating someone?
age can matter in some states but as i always say age is just a number. but if they are older and you dont really love them then you could be considered a hoe so keep it on the down low
HI um...I'm a 13 year old gurl((GOING 14)) and I'm dating a 17 year GUY his the best boyfriend a girl can ever ask for his sweet romantic AND I LOVE HIM SOOOOOOO MUCH well the point is that our anyversary is comming real soon is going to be A YEAR sense we've been dating YAY MY B-day well I want to get somenthing really special and well one of the things that came to my mind was SEX he has never really pushed me into anything but well his a 17 year old dude thats one of their main "goals" and well I don't know wat to do....I NEED HELP plz should I DO THIS??????
ok so in some states statutory rape starts at 18 but in some states actually there is none in colorado my cop neighbor told me statutory rape isnt here in colorado you can have sex within anyone at a nine years age range. he went to law school in most states though you have to be 18 so if you guys can have sex before his birthday or still have sex. caus its not like anyone will find out. im 14 and i am involved with my 18 year old neighbor and i dont feel bad about it cause i like him and my mom knows. but if you really want sex then make sure you guys are both ready and no all guys at 17 shoot for sex some are really sweet your boyfriend sounds really sweet and it sounds like you guys really love eachother im happy for you!!!!
OK. well theres this boy josh that i love. and he has a girlfriend named alle but josh bites my neck and like always flirts with me and like hits my show under the table and like acts like hes haveing orgsums just to be stupied LOL. and hes like we shud study so he came to my house and we ran around and i didnt mind alle bc i felt like i was his girlfriend they didnt seem to close. then on friday there were facts that this boy adam was flirting with alle and josh was crying at lunch and HE NEVER CRYS i saw how much he loved her ... and alle told him adam flirted with her.. yah.. but then this whole WEEK hes like not been so much flirty but still iss.. its sooo ODD and he like was showing me this poem he wrote her for there anerversy which was yesterday.. and he iunO! its soo WERID he never ever talked about her before.. but i guess he saw loseing her.. and it made him think.. BUT ITS SO WERID AND ITS LIKE he can go past the line BUT I CANT like he was makeing me throw like sweettarts into his mouth and so i was like opening my mouth and his hand did this like .. OK WAIt no and then he just gave it to me on my desk??? HELLPPPP i needa kno i mean i have liked him for lik 2 months.. and hes been going out with alle sence the begging of school or more??.... Help. vdont make me cry anymore please.
maybe you should back off with the flirting and a little more support, don't make it worse by flirting with him, try to help him with the alle situation. he seems like a tease to me. if you support him enough he might just start crushing on you. flirt with him to much and he'll think of alle as more of a girlfriend and you more of a makeout buddy
my bf, his friend jason, my friend and her bf and some other ppl all went to the movies. my bf sat in between me and jason, and most of the movie he seemed more interested in talking to him! meanwhile my friend and her bf were making out like right next to us. and they've been going out less than a month! when jason told him (my bf) to kiss me he said "i dont want to kiss her now. i will soon" (we havnt kissed yet) the problem is tho that that was the same thing he said to his other friend when he told him to ask me out, and it took him like a year to ask me, and even then i had to bring up the subject and stuff. i dont want to wait forever just for him to make a move. like i said, its been 3 months already. i definately dont want to kiss him first tho. what should i do?
he is obviously prude, scared, and a weaklink, when this stuff happens to me all i think about is "i got to take charge" so what i do is grab him, look him in the eye, pull on a sexy look, nd say are you going to kiss me?. it sounds hard but it's easy, either that or you could make the first move but you said you didn't want to. start looking really sexy and keep asking him to make out with you, it works with me all the time because i'm always in the same position. if you don't want to do this this might help. close your eyes and say to yourself "I am taking charge of my man!" wrks like a charm. hope i helped
my ex boyfriend from about 3 years ago saw me in april of this year for the first time since we dated. he was flirting with me non stop and i was returning the favor. i never got over him after we broke up so it felt as if maye i had another chance. my friend and i called him on the phone that night and chatted a bit with him... but he hasn't talked to me since then. it was his birthday a few days ago and he didn't pick up the phone. i should probably give up... but i can't. i've loved him from the first day i met him and he was my first everything. my birthday is in 7 days and i really want to see him for my birthday. i would be the happiest girl on earth... but i can't even get him to pick up the phone. can anyone help me? or, nonetheless... tell me what my problem is?
signed,
an advicary going advicee.
well, first off are you for sure he doesn't have a girlfriend? secondly, go to another one of your friends houses or a phone with a number he doesn't recognize if he answers that phone then somethings up. before you go to that phne call him on your phone and see if he answers. then go to the unidentified phone. act casual and simply ask him "are you avoiding me" but doint be to dramatic. then if he says no then say "in that case, i want to see you on my birthday, watchya think?" for right now treat him like a friend. then if you do see him on your birthday flirt. hope i helped, if this is o confusing go ahead and mail me and i'll be glad to break it down a little. happy birthday
ok heres my problem
i had this boyfriend for a little over a year ( on and off) and i was CrAzY about him he was my first love but he cheated on me about 3 times but i found it in my heart to forgive ( b/c he really was a sweet guy) but he didnt cheat on me for a looong time but we did end up breaking up..
then i got this boyfriend( who i am with now) and he treats me like gold if i told him to do something he does it right then and there...
but i think for some reason im still in love with my ex-boyfriend and my boyfriend at the same time..
i just dont know why i would even think of having feeling for my ex when he did that to me and my boyfriend treats me like gold.
is this wrong should i still have feelings for my ex? what do i do??
it's ok because sometimes you need a little time to get over your ex, well i am almost positive you'll get over him, don't know how long it's going to take but you will. try and make your realtionship funner now like doing something different, then you might even like this new guy more and easily forget about the old guy
Im 13 and i really like this guy Brandon and hes a friend of mine but he liked my best friend until she said no when he asked her out. I have a boyfriend but I like Brandon more and hes really cute and i really want him to like me so what should I do? Im also a girl.
you should try getting a little bit mre closer to him, try flirting with him more, then if he starts flirting back then find a time where you can get him alone and tell him you like him or something, you could even ask "do you like me?"
as i have said many times before i have a crush on my best friend but she doesnt like me like that and i want to talk to her about it but its hard any advice on how to talk to her about it
i rate 5s when good advice
just don't get nervous, think what do i want? then go talk to her. ask to speak to her privately then tell her everything as quick as you can but not to quick and make sure nothing gets awkward
me=13/f him=13/m
my friend is trying to set me up with her friend on a blind date i have no problem with this but he is not going to like me no boys like me ???
i have no idea why boys dont like me also i cant manage to hold a relationship together for more than 2weeks help me please any advise is good advise
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from w.o.o
you don't know for sure if he won't like you. when you go on the date just try and be yourself, as normal as you could be. i have the same two week relationship problem, if you get into a realtionship with him just don't change, be exciting, funny, have lots to talk about. if you get tired of him do something fun with him like amusement park to show that he could be exciting as well
Well I met this guy. He is a year younger than me but he really likes me. He is my cousins best friend. I like him just not a whole lot I hate it when he calls me b/c he gets on my nerves alot. He only gets on my nerves because he acts shy around me and he doesn't what to talk about. Do you think that I should give him a chance or what?
if he gets on your nerves then don't go out with him, that's the last thing you want. also you could just talk to him and tell him you hate it when he's shy.
ok... so i've liked this guy for like 2 years. he is one of my bff's and his sister is too. I don't know if I like him anymore, but i think i might like this guy in my class. We talk alot and anyway... the other night.. our youth leader was giving us a devotion on waiting for the right guy/ knowing he's the one and i know im too young, but which one do I love? That night I had a dream about i got married to My bffs brother and then the guy in my class was all "I love you" after I married the one guy and I started to cry because i felt bad... what does this mean? Which one do I like?
i think you like the guy in your class, because you had a dream about you 2 getting married (no surprise there!) then you saw him come chasing after you saying he loves you and all that and then you get all excited, it's obviously the guy in your class
my doyfriend aways as started to leave me at his hose while he goes out wit his boys every weekend.He tells me he is only going to the store and he'll be back in 10.When is friends come around he waya treat me like im not nothin to him.He talks to me like im some kind of an animal or something.My mom tells me i should leave him and come back home.I really don't know what to do because i love him.What shold i do?
you should try and get more romantic or something with him when his friends aren't around, try and be sexy to him, if nothing works then leave him.
I have this gigantic crush on this guy named bob, and i think he likes me too. But, theres also this other gut named billy who i also like.Now, i know for sure that billy likes me, he's even said so!I mean both guys are smart, funny, cute and nice, so who should i pick?
if you don't know for sure if bob likesyou then find out, also you could ry sitting down, losing all thought, then think of them and whoeverss face comes into your mind first is most likely the one you hould choose
well ive had a fwb for awhile and its been going pretty good up until now .. hes my best friends ex from a while ago and she doesnt have a problem with it .. but me and him dont really get along anymore so weve decided to stop. the problem is now i like my other best friends ex boyfriend and i dont know if i should tell her or not because im afraid she'll be mad. She told me she thought it was wrong of me to hook up with our other friends ex so im scared shell think its wrong to go out with her ex. i really like him and she told me she noticed me flirting with him lately but i dont know if she cares because she doesnt like him anymore .. i don't know if i should just ignore my feelings or let her know the truth? does anyone know what i should do?
well, definitely do not do anything to this guy until you find out for SURE she is ok with it, try hinting like saying "what would you do if i asked blah blah out?" and if she says why then just say something like "just want to know" try not to make it to obvious that you like him. it usually depends on who broke up with who, like if he broke up with her there's more of a chnace she won't let you. do you get what i am saying? if not leave me a message on my inbox. good luck
How bad is it that I hate my husband's parents and they hate me? Will this ruin my marriage?
you're not expected to like everyone, you should try and give them a chance though, go out on a weekend trip with them, do something to get to know them if your husband doesn't know you should try and tell him because if he finds out later or almost to late then he will be mad at youu because you never told him the truth
*good luck*
this guy has liked me for practically two years now, but hes so shy and he never did anything except tell me he liked me. well now we've got this big dance coming up and i think hes gonna ask me. the only thing is that he is kinda weird and listens to all those really sick songs by sublime..no offense to the fans out there..but he is still really cute and mysterious..and really nice..do you think i should give him a chance? i rate...
i think if e's liked you that long give him a chance and have fun. also, just because he listens to sublime doesn't mean he's different, he's got his own style and so do you, give him a try.
Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends?
sometimes, but mostly girls do have a problem like me and my best friend we made a promis we would never date eachothers ex boyfriend unless we asked. which no matter what they'll feel uncomfortable. maybe you shouldn't ask your friends friend out. they might have made that same promise me and my friend have.