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OMG I know its weird but help!!!
HI um...I'm a 13 year old gurl((GOING 14)) and I'm dating a 17 year GUY his the best boyfriend a girl can ever ask for his sweet romantic AND I LOVE HIM SOOOOOOO MUCH well the point is that our anyversary is comming real soon is going to be A YEAR sense we've been dating YAY MY B-day well I want to get somenthing really special and well one of the things that came to my mind was SEX he has never really pushed me into anything but well his a 17 year old dude thats one of their main "goals" and well I don't know wat to do....I NEED HELP plz should I DO THIS??????
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ok so in some states statutory rape starts at 18 but in some states actually there is none in colorado my cop neighbor told me statutory rape isnt here in colorado you can have sex within anyone at a nine years age range. he went to law school in most states though you have to be 18 so if you guys can have sex before his birthday or still have sex. caus its not like anyone will find out. im 14 and i am involved with my 18 year old neighbor and i dont feel bad about it cause i like him and my mom knows. but if you really want sex then make sure you guys are both ready and no all guys at 17 shoot for sex some are really sweet your boyfriend sounds really sweet and it sounds like you guys really love eachother im happy for you!!!!
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okay. it is you life and should be able to do what you want with it but heres the thing. you love him and he loves you. well. as far as you know right? Im really glad you have found someone for you but you need to think. "what if i get pregnant?" he could get in a lot of trouble. there are also a lot of STDs and things you shouldnt get when your 13 years old. He is going to be you first time and next year if he goes off to college things are going to dramatically change for you. What happens if he ditches you? i know you think he won't but he is 17 years old you never know. You would be heart broken if he ever left you. you shouldn't have to go through that.
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He may be 17, but remember you are only 13? you might have been going out for a year, but that doesnt mean anything. If you are really ready to face the consiquences of having sex and you as an individual are ready, then you can, no one is stioing you, people might tell you not to, but it is yor descion. I am also a 13 year old girl and, i have a boyfriend and he is ready to have sex, but i will not have sex with him because i am 13, just because i wont have sex does not mean i dont want to, because i do, i just know the consiquences and know how to say No to myself. You may love him but dont go rushing into things, you are 13 and you might think you know what love really is, but as a 13 year old girl myself i can honeslty say, i have no idea what love really is.
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Firstly: In most states a 14 year old having sex would be considered statuary rape. Most states say you need to be sixteen before you can legally consent to sex. So check and see if your 'gift' is going to land your boy in jail if anyone finds out.
Secondly: Sex shouldn't be a gift. If you feel ready for sex (and I strongly advise you to wait you are still quite young, and he is even asking for it either, maybe he doesn't feel ready?) at least make sure to have sex on equal footing. Don't do it for him, don't 'give' him sex. Be an equal participant.
This isn't something to take lightly and it definitely is something you need to talk about, not spring on him on his birthday. If you are virgin your first time really needs to be relaxing and comfortable, or else you wont enjoy it! Nothing can ruin it like the performance stress, and that is all you'll feel if you make a gift.
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No don't try to have sex because you gone out for a year. Some guys know that some girls think they have to. They think it's something easy to do and get away with.
You should really read into sex and know all of the STDS, etc and have more knowledge of what you're thinking of. Sex..it has some goods and bads.
Sometimes sex ruins the relationship. So wait it out and since he hasn't pushed you into doing anything. I think he's a great guy, you don't want to change him.
If you have sex once, he may want it again and again. There's always things to think about. Your parents. Pregnancy. Protection. STDS.
It's too much to think about right now.
You should go somewhere special with him.
Maybe start off at an amusement park?
Then a romantic dinner date?
Or maybe a movie?
Don't worry too much about it. I know a year seems like a big thing... but he should be happy, with you spending the day with him.
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I'm sorry, but YOU do the math:
13 (nearly 14) + 17 = ?
Hint: Statutory rape, and jail. And after he's out, a lifetime listing as a sex offender.
In other words, sex would be a BIG mistake. Try to think of some other present, if you love him.
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In my opinon you're only 14 (almost) I don't think you're ready for sex, but if you think you are ready I wouldn't give that to him as a birthday present. Maybe as part of one... make sure you talk it out with him say stuff like I like you and I think we're ready...
*Hope I Helped*
&& GooD Luck
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