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talking to her...
as i have said many times before i have a crush on my best friend but she doesnt like me like that and i want to talk to her about it but its hard any advice on how to talk to her about it
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Hi there,
Crushes are addictive - they make life exciting, and give you hope and focus. This is why we let ourselves make the same mistakes over and over again, it is the thrill of the chase, except it is often more of a loiter!
Here are just some of the symptoms:
You love them yet you don't even know them
All you can think about is them and what if...
You've planned your whole future
You follow them round like a puppy on your lunch break
You go red whenever you see them
You lose the power of speech and co-ordination in their presence
Butterflies in your stomach
Pounding heart
You stammer/stutter something like "have you got the time?" at them
You imagine hours of conversations with them
How to cope
Try not to tie yourself up in knots about this - you've set yourself up with a fantasy relationship, but that's all. The emotions feeding this fantasy can seem very real, but the advantage is you don't have to deal with the actual person. It's like a sexual encounter without the real-life hassles.
It is fairly unlikely to turn into reality as often crushes are formed on the unobtainable; they may be attached, a famous film star or totally unsuitable. You have to accept that this romance will never exist outside of your own head. Often, just confiding in someone you trust will help you get things in perspective.
If things get too intense try to limit your time spent in their company. In time, you'll get a grip on this fantasy, and see it as a learning experience about some powerful emotions. If anything, it'll work in your favour when it comes to dealing with real life, realistic relationships.
Unobtainable crushes can hurt like hell - the object of your affection may walk past like you don't even exist or, perhaps worse, notice your drooling and laugh about you with all their mates. If this happens, deal with the rejection - treat yourself, see your mates or curl up at home with a DVD of your choice.
On the practical side, try to fill the time you would otherwise spend thinking about your crush. Plan your day. Promise yourself some crush-free time, and set up a reward afterwards. Once you've defined the boundaries, a crush like this can be a positive experience. One that can set you up to deal with the emotional side of future, more realistic relationships.
Try to move on, she obviously has made it clear that she is not interested
Best Wishes
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Everybody gets nervous when it comes to liking your best friend. you probably dont know for sure if she likes you or not but it never hurts to ask. If its easier try writing a letter. Stay srong
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just don't get nervous, think what do i want? then go talk to her. ask to speak to her privately then tell her everything as quick as you can but not to quick and make sure nothing gets awkward
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Just tell her, be like yea i think i may like one of my close friends then when she say who be like i dont know if i should say they might not like me, but shes my best friend and i can tell her evrything... if you just kinda hint at her she'll realalize you like her and if she like you too she'll say something but if she doesnt most likely she try to ignore it but just keep hinting until she knows forsure like if she says huh or what dont say nvm just keep hinting...
Good luck...
...LIVE STRONG...
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