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sry its long but i need help!!!
ok heres my problem
i had this boyfriend for a little over a year ( on and off) and i was CrAzY about him he was my first love but he cheated on me about 3 times but i found it in my heart to forgive ( b/c he really was a sweet guy) but he didnt cheat on me for a looong time but we did end up breaking up..
then i got this boyfriend( who i am with now) and he treats me like gold if i told him to do something he does it right then and there...
but i think for some reason im still in love with my ex-boyfriend and my boyfriend at the same time..
i just dont know why i would even think of having feeling for my ex when he did that to me and my boyfriend treats me like gold.
is this wrong should i still have feelings for my ex? what do i do??
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ok, well i would stay with the one that you love, if you still love your x well then your going to have to find some one better like you did, now you just upgraded yourself and you deserve better dont worry if your x really still likes you he will come back for you
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is it wrong?? yep! commen sense, stay with the good one.
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it's ok because sometimes you need a little time to get over your ex, well i am almost positive you'll get over him, don't know how long it's going to take but you will. try and make your realtionship funner now like doing something different, then you might even like this new guy more and easily forget about the old guy
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well im a guy, and i personally think that if a guy cant settle for just you, then he doesnt think your special, any respectable man would have at least broke up with you before going out with another girl, which still would be bad but not as bad as cheating on you, so what im saying is dont waste your time with your ex, you have a guy who would do anything for you, thats love, and never pass up an opertunity for love, it's rare and wonderful. so just try to get over him, he doesnt treat you like you deserve to be treated.
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If your ex cheated on you as much as he did and you still have mixed feelings about him, then he must be really special to you. Try thinking of him as just a friend, because if you think of him as anything more you'll end up getting hurt.
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aww..well dont worry..everyone always has feelings for ex's.. you had a past with him. its not just going to erase that easily. it takes time to get over someone. but you should seriously think about what you want. its not right to be with your bf and be thinking about your ex.. maybe you should stay single for a while untill you know exactly what you want. good luck!
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u r always going to have feeling for him! no matter wat! but if you think that he has changed or that he will treat you better then go bac with him if he will go bac out with you! but if you r relle in love current b/f than you shoodnt break up with him!! if he relle treats you that well he is perfect!! this is wat i wood do rite down things like wat you love bout him and how he treats you then do the same for ur ex! who ever wins mite b better. you never no just give it a try! i hope i helped!! <3 stacey im mee if you need more help xxsexiispankyxx!!
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its not easy to forget a first love. trust me, i know. my best friend and her ex were on and off for like ever, and he cheated on her three times as well. its not wrong to still have feelings, its hard to forget. try spending more time with your current boyfriend and avoiding your ex. and deffantely dont show any affection for him. itll take a little while but you'll graduately starting getting over him, trust me.
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well your ex sound like a player but he still sounds sweetbut who knows if you'll end up break up again but if you had the heart to forgive him then he is someone special but he is the kind you cant change and the new guy sound like the perfect man keep him Your guy is a rare to find: sweet, kind, and loyal.
And as long as he doesn't have three nippples,
You should seriously consider keeping him a long time Sometimes a girl can't see a good thing when she's got one So let me tell you: your guy is a gold medal boyfriend Just make sure you treat him right in return! ask yourself who is the one you rather be with sweet guy cheating on you or one who treat you how he should. and no its not rong to have feeling for your ex just ask yourelf the one you think is more loyal and treats you nice is who you deserve. hope i helped and sorry for the long advice
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I stand by my original comments having been mailed by the person asking this question. Any rational adult will tell you the same things I did. It is not normal to identify with, want to be with, have a fantasy about a relationship with someone who is long gone out of your life or someone who hurt you by cheating.
You should get that this person is bad for you the first time not the third. If he screwed you over three times and you still do not get the fact not to date him you need professional help from a therapist to figure out your wonky ideas about love. Most people would not be asking themselves the questions you do about him. Right now, you and relationships are a disaster until you figure this out.
People who need therapists are normal people who like you cannot figure feelings, emotions out and why you in this case love someone who did this to you. It's a toxic relationship and you have a habit of going back to it. Normal people, every day like you do not even allow for a third or fourth time to be cheated on. People who need help are blind to it. It's a good investment as your view is askew on dating and what is a healthy loving relationship and why or should I love a guy who stabbed me three times? If the answer in your head isn't no, talk about it with a professional as you are not thinking rationally about any of it.
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