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So there's this guy I like (let's call him A). He started hanging around with our friend group about a month and a half ago. The day we met, A talked to me quite a bit, made eye contact with me. The next day, everyone was saying that he thought I was really hot. However, he did have a girlfriend (G) at this point. One night after that, we were all out, a bunch of people, and it was dark and A came up to me and asked if I wanted to sit on his skateboard with him. Whenever someone asked him about G, he always acted really disinterested.
From then on, A would always smile and talk to me if he saw me at school, as well as high fiving me, staring at me a lot, and doing things like making me wear his hat. Out of school, he would always sit next to me, compliment my clothes and seemed really happy when he found out we're going to the same college next year.
Then, while I was away for a week, A and G split up. When I got up, he was the same, always looking happy to see me and hugging me all the time.
We went camping just over a week ago, and everyone told me A wanted to share a tent with me. There were actually four of us in the tent, but me and A did sleep next to each other. However, G made an appearance that night, and he did seem to talk to me less when she was around.
Then I went round his with a bunch of other people, including this girl (W), A hugged me and acted the same as usual, but I couldn't help but notice that him and W seemed pretty close. When I dropped obvious hints that I would have liked to sleep in his double bed with him, he didn't acknowledge them, and then W slept there instead.
A few days later, I was out and someone mentioned that A and W had had sex and there was something going on between them but it seemed to be a secret. It was this same day that A was constantly complimenting me, putting his arm around me and basically hanging out with me all the time. We were standing next to each other, and he just started playing with my hands and then he held my hand and didn't say anything. Later, I asked if anyone wanted to come to the cinema, A straight away said, "I'll go!" He asked who else was coming, and when I said I didn't know, he said "It'll just be me and you then." jokily. However, W showed up a bit later and then he didn't really speak to me that much.
The next day, although we didn't go to the cinema, we were both out and he kept apologising about not being able to go, and we kept making eye contact, like the kind you make when you both understand something that no one else does. But then when we were all talking, someone teased A about making a move on me (S), and A said, "No, I wouldn't make a move on S. Unless she wants me to." and then he looked me right in the eye and we just stared at each other while everyone else carried on talking :S
Later, everyone was ahead of me and A, we were walking and he put his arm around me, and then asked who I was going to prom with. I said I didn't know, and he asked me if I'd go to prom with him. Embarrassingly, I acted all shocked that he didn't have a date and asked him why he wasn't going with anyone. He said that he was going to go with G but then they broke up, and then he was going to go with W but if he did, everyone would think they were together, when they're not. So he wanted to go with me.
That night, he texted me asking if I wanted to go to the cinema the next day, just me and him. I said maybe, but then he didn't reply and the next day he still didn't, so I just went out and he did too and said that he thought I was gonna call, and then (in front of other people), "We're not gonna be alone now then..". Later he made me promise him I'd go with him sometime soon, and referred to it to someone else as "our first date."
A couple days ago, loads of people were round, and me and him slept in the same bed and we spooned and held hands all night, and my friend said he was staring at me all the time. But then the next morning W phoned him, and someone else was talking to her and said something about me and A, and A looked really worried. He also said that W thinks he fancies me, and then joked around saying "Because I do, just kidding". But then jokily said to me that him and W were just friends. Since then, we've been texting and he always asks questions, which means he must want to carry on talking, but then he always takes ages to reply.
He's always complimenting me, saying things like, "I really like the way you dress.", "I love your (insert item of clothing here)", "You look gorgeous.", "I think you're a lovely girl.", "Your hair looks nice." etc. and although he's a bit of a charmer, I havn't noticed him complimenting any other girls half as much. He always notices little things about me, and comments on them and asks me questions about them. He ALWAYS sticks up for me and helps me out and asks me about my interests.
I'm pretty sure he likes me, but the problem is know there's also something going on between him and W.
How can I:
get him to like me more?
move our relationship forward?
find out more about him and W
and, What do you think everything he's done means?
Please don't tell me to give up on him, because I've already decided I'm not going to do that.
To me, it's obvious that A likes you. It's possible that he did have sex with W or have some sort of thing going on with her, but I feel like his relationship with W is one thing and he wants to be with you in a different way. If he has slept with W, I think their relationship is purely sexual, whether she wants it to be more or not.
I feel like A really cares about you and isn't so shy that he won't bring it up to you, but is waiting for a sign from YOU. Not doing anything or playing hard to get at this point is not going to help you out. Be direct. Do you want to go out on a date with just him? Tell him you'd really like to go out with just him. He obviously really wants to go out with just you, too.
I wouldn't ask him about W. Doing so would make you seem jealous. If you are jealous, that's fine, but A isn't going to want to know that. For now, just BE DIRECT. If he compliments you so much, try complimenthing him back.
If you and A end up taking your relationship forward, then ask him about W.
Hope everything works out and you have fun at prom!!
okay, my friend, A, was going out with this guy J; it was a long distance relationship and it had ben going on six monthes. but last night he broke up with her because 'he couldn't handle not seeing her all the time. and everytime he did se her he didn't want to say goodbye.' but i think theres another reason he broke up with her, i think he may have cheated on her or something like that. and she's not angry or anything she's just depressed. but should i tell her that i think he cheated or not? and do you have any ideas how to cheer her up? i've done evrything i usually do but none of it's worked. any ideas.
You probably shouldn't tell her you think he cheated. You don't have any solid evidence and it's just based on speculation. For now, just work hard to cheer her up and be there for her. Have a girls night, be there to talk, watch her favorite movies with her, etc. It's all that you can do.
ok my best guy friend asked me out, problem is im gay and her doesnt know it....neither does anyone else. (he's liked me for 2yrs now) so how do i tell him that im gay without breaking his heart?
Unfortunately there's probably no way to do this. Get together with him and sit him down and just tell him how you feel. Tell him that he's your best guy friend and that your friendship is really important to you. Tell him that since you're so close, you would like to share something very important to you that you haven't really told anyone else about. You might want to explain how long you've known you're gay, etc. or just come straight out with it. And then just let him know that you trusted him enough to tell you this and that you love him as a very good friend. Good luck!
heyy ,
i wrote kinda wrote about this earlier.well i wrote about how my boyfriend (17) is more experienced than i am. he came over my house when my parents were gone and we weren't doing anything big. And he tried to have sex with me but i said no cause im not ready to yet and i dont feel like its a thing to be rushed into.But i was wondering is it possible for someone to get pregnant when im avirgin..and he tried to have sex with me but "it" didnt go all the way in.. it wasnt even to a point to where it hurt me . but i was just wondering if there wwas anyway it could happen. i wouldnt think it would. but im just making sure. what im really wondering is do you have to have "it" mostly all the wayy? pleasee helpp thankyouu !=)
It's extremely rare, but if your genitals touched but his penis didn't enter your vagina, then you could possibly be pregnant. Like I said, it's EXREMELY rare, but it's possible.
i'm 15 and me and this guy are boyfriend and girlfriend for a week now. he's truely amazing and i do love him. the problem is that we have never been on a date before. we've seen each other because he goes to my school and we had classes together last year, and i see him when i have sports practice. so its not like we haven't seen each other for a long time. its just that we are both so busy that we can never really hang out just the 2 of us. so i need advice on what to do about this. is he really my boyfriend if we have never been on a date before? even when we see each other, we give each other hugs but thats it. no kiss, no holding hands or anything. and the reason for that is because we are always with other friends and we have never done that together before and it would be really akward. we would do it if we were alone but since we are not its kind of weird. help!!!
If you're both busy then schedule something ahead of time. It's only been a week so I really wouldn't worry. But here's the deal: if you say you're boyfriend and girlfriend, then yes, you are. But if being boyfriend and girlfriend means more than just words to you and you still haven't dated or done anything more (such as kiss, hold hands, etc.) that you feel constitues as being girlfriend and boyfriend in a few weeks, I'd take a step back and look at this--are you guys two friends that have chemistry or two people who want to be something more?
Like I said, schedule a date or a hang out ahead of time. If you want to kiss and hold hands then make sure you're alone. Best of luck!
Ok i met this guy a month ago and he's really nice and funny, we would talk online EVERYDAY for 3-6 hours and also we would call and text each other a lot we would flirt and sweet to eachother he likes me back too and i used to be so happy and i get the butterflies when i see him and smile a lot and stuff, and i used to be crazy about him (not obssessed) and miss him a lot, but when he started saying "i love you" i dont feel that much anymore when i see him i just smile a little bit and i dont have to butterflies anymore i dont know why but i suddenly and started to lose interest a little bit i dont know why because he's funny, nice and everything am i losing interest or what?
From the way you talk about him, it's obvious that you still like him, so I don't think that you've lost interest. You don't say that you feel weird when he says I love you, so I can't say that you're not ready for that commitment or anything, but that could be the case. If you don't feel like you love him, then that's okay--you can discuss it with him if you feel comfortable doing so (and that's important to any relationship) and enjoy your relationship with him now--maybe you'll fall in love with him one day.
Also, you could be starting to feel more comfortable and relaxed around him. In long-lasting relationships (though this hasn't been that long) people usually experience butterflies for the first few months or years and then just feel comfortable with one another, but still love each other.
Overall, since it's only been a month, I'm going to have to say that he's been too eager with the "I love you." Whatever the case is, if you still like this guy, continue spending time with him and having fun! You never know where it might lead you.
i met a guy at a training class and he seemed like he liked me.
the last day of training came and he kept giving me hugs and when i was in the store with him before we were about to leave and both head home he came up behind me and wrapped his arms around me and gave me a big hug and it felt so perfect.
he was really flirty and often asked me when i was gonna come visit him since he lives an hour away. we exchanged numbers and its been 3 weeks since i saw him. we dont talk much but the other day we were textng and i felt like he still liked me cause he was like yea i miss those cute eyes blah blah so the next day i was like... "hey i like you" and he didnt say he liked me back!!! he was like no you dont you dont know me. im soooooo confused i thought he liked me. and now i feel like an idiot and yesterday (following day) he texted me and i was like dang seems like you dont want to talk to me anymore and he was like no. and today he didnt even text me or anything. i feel so confused. was he just a big flirt???? or maybe did i scare him??? please help!
It seems like he's just a big flirt and doesn't like you as more than a friend or someone to flirt with. Find someone new who isn't so flirty if that's not what you're into. That doesn't mean that you can't still be friends, but this guy doesn't seem like he's worth your time if he thinks it's fine to flirt with you but doesn't realize that this may affect your feelings for him.
i'm 17/m
she's 15/f
tomorrow is my first date ever, which is pathetic in itself because i'm 17 and i'm gonna be a senior. i just got off the phone with this girl and set up the date and now i'm getting really nervous and i'm just downright buggin. we're gonna see 1408 at 4:15. i had to pick an early movie time cause my license doesn't let me drive past 9. we both really dig each other but when we're around each other its weird cause we both have the plague, shyness, really badly. i think we're perfect for each other cause we both love heavy metal and we have divorced parents and we both for the mostpart hate life. i just don't know what do do. my friends are no help cause everyone tells me to just bang her, even my dad but i don't wanna bang her. i have no desire to do that with her because i know that if both connect with each other verbally, it will be more fulfilling than any sexual act. to be honest, i just really want to hold her hand. the most i would wanna do is kiss her, not make out though, like a real like cute kinda kiss. i sound gay, i know. i could be bi but thats a question for another day. the movie will end around 6ish and i dont know what we should do after. i'm just completely lost and i'm freakin out man. i need tips, please no jackass tips that tell me to bang her. its times like this when i wish i did drugs cause i need a big fat blunt.
First off, the only people I know who've had sex at 15 or 17 have been in long-lasting relationships or are sluts.
The good thing about a movie is that you don't have to talk during it! But make sure you talk on the way home.
If you want, put your arm around her during the movie or hold her hand. Girls like that. =] If she seems to be having fun then I don't see why giving her a cute little kiss good night would be a bad thing, considering that she already likes you. But if you don't want to kiss her that's fine, too. Just make sure you set up another date soon!
Hope you have a good first date. =]
I am not in 1st grade thats when we first met!
i moved to that town and went to that school
the instant i saw him i was in love with him aha
i know thats first grade love! but i have had feelings
for him for 8years i know pathetic we kinda lost
touch in middle school bc we went to differrent
schools and now i see him every once in a while
should i tell him how i feel or should i just wait
and see what happens in the future?
i am afraid though that he will reject me which he
probally will.
should i tell him and risk being rejected?
please i need advice!
First start talking to him and try to become friends. After talking for a bit tell him that you had a huge crush on him in elementary school. Ask if he's ever liked you. Then ask him how he feels about you now. If his answer is something possitive (he likes you as more than a friend, he's not sure how he feels but he likes you at least as a friend, etc.) tell him that you still like him or like him again.
I hope that works!
omg, so last night was the 8th grade dance, and this not really RANDOM but like, he's friends with one of my guyfriends, he started like grindinggg me and my hand accidentally brushed up on his pants and omg he was so hard... and like last night i couldn't stop thinking about him and i was wondering... should i continue like talking to him? he is in none of my classes & never was, so he was pretty random. like i knew who he was though, always... so, should i smile at him on monday? cause the last day for school for us is wednesday. should i just ignore him? i don't think i have a full-blown crush on him.
I'd totally talk to him. Something might come from it, you never know! At least smile and say hi.
there's diz boy i really like
i don't know i to get his attention can someone help me or give me tips thankz
Just try to talk to him. Be nice and flirt. If you're too nervous to do so yourself, don't go up to him with a bunch of girls. That might intimidate him. So if you see him, just smile and say hi and strike up a conversation.
sorry this is gonna be supper longg =/
ok lasttt summer my best friend (lets call her A) was going out with this guy(lets call him M) and every time we would hang out it would be me my best friend her boyfriend and his best friend(lets call him P) , and then i started liking 'P' but i only told 'A' because i didnt really make a big thing of it bc he was a BIGG flirt , and then one night after we went to the movies 'M' told me that his friend liked me and me and him were pretty close and i REALLLYY trusted him , i would have trusted him with my life , and i talked to the guy i liked a few times and then like a week later he was at a different friends house and i was talking to him and then every once in a while like he'd say some like heyy babbbyy and stuff like that and thats not the kindof guy he was so i new it was his friend so i basically ignored it and then a few hours later , he went home and he imed 'A' and told her to tell me that he doesnt like me and hes not sure if he ever did. and now everytime we see each other its REALLY akward like we both just like look at each other for a second then look away and we have talked like twice since this whole situation, like 2 weeks later he imed me while i was away and i saw it but like i was soo pissed at how much he hurt me that i didnt respond.(it wasnt an im saying anything important it was just he was making funn of something i had on my a/m) and at halloween we talked a little but besides taht thats pretty much it but like im still like in love with the kid and i DONT want to be like he hurt me so much like i just want to move on, but like then again i dont bc i like him so much. so basically im in DESPRETE neeed for advicee bc i dont no what to do
He's obviously not into you. Good luck & just move on.
I've never really done this advice and answer thing, but I've always wanted to and really need some advice from an outsider because it feels I can never talk to anyone about my problems.. Its just that me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months and we are very serious. I really do like him and we really do have a great relationship. He makes me laugh alllll the time. And he shows me he cares about me a lot. Its just that he acts very immature sometimes and hurts my feelings a lot. I cry sometimes too. He kinda gets mad at me when I hang out with my friends because he feels like I'm ditching him. I would probably be mad too. Its just he never does it to me b.c we always hang out with his friends. B.c he's 2 years older then me. But its just, I really think that I love him. But he thinks of himself a little too highly. Like he is really really cute and he's the big hotshot on the fb team and baseball anddddd track. Not even joking. He's scores all the touchdowns, and is the best guy on the badeball team. And is county champs for track. Soooo what do you expect. His parents don't really like me that much either and they think we hang out too much, and I don't like them much either. he has threatened me all the time in going and hanging out with his old friends, so that is just what he did when I went and hung out wit my friends. B.c we got into a fight, He went to his ex grilfriends house and then after they went out. I do trust him and I don't really think anything went on, its just that it upset me . We had a big fight over it. But I think everythings alright. I do think he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I think he uses me to do stuff. If u know what I mean, in a sexual way. I don't want to make him sound like sucha bad guy, b.c he really is great to me. But he sometimes makes dumb fights about the stpidest thingsss! I hate it. But he's just does it for attention.. I usually get really jealous becuase he flirts sometimes and kinda talks about girls sometimes to get me jealous. But I think he's doing it on purpose. He's stupid like that. What do you think I should do. I really hope you can help me. Thank you so much
He doesn't sound like he's the nicest guy in the world, but he doesn't really sound like a bad guy, either. I mean, he deffinately has some really undesirable qualities. He shouldn't feel that way when you want to hang out with your friends--he obviously has some major jealousy issues.
If he's trying to use you sexually, and you're not comfortable with what he's doing or ready for it, just tell him so. If he doesn't understand, make sure you tell him "no", and if he doesn't understand after that--I'm sorry, but no matter how sweet he is to you otherwise, you need to get out of this relationship before it becomes a disaster.
As far as hanging out with your friends goes, tell him it's really unfair that you only hang out with his friends. Tell him you really care about your friends, and that it's unfair that you barely see them anymore. If he doesn't understand this and gets angry with you, I don't think this is the best relationship for you to be in. This guy sounds really possessive. I'm sure he has his good qualities, but he's going to end up controlling your life, and you don't want that, do you?
I hope everything works out!
There is this girl I know and I really really really like her, and i know she kind of likes me back, but im not sure of it. Since I've asked her to the movies like 4 or 5 times and she said she had to do something like all of the times, so this is why I don't think she likes me. How do I make her like me more, and what can I ask her to do that she might possibly do with me?
Sadly, there's not always something you can do about this sort of thing. There's a guy that keeps asking me out, and I'm just not interested in him, so I turn him down in the same way. Move on--you'll find another girl that will be worth your time and effort.
If you really really like her, you can try inviting her to hang out with you and your friends. If you don't have the same friends as her, tell her she can invite her friends as well. I'd be much more willing to hang out with a guy I didn't have that sort of interest in if there were other people there. Hope it all works out for you!
There is NO ONE in my school worth dating. I keep reading guy's questions on here about "what should I get my girlfriend" and stuff, and it's driving me crazy! I want a nice guy... where can I meet someone at? BESIDES MY SCHOOL!
Thanks.
Do you have friends from another school? If so, try to meet some of their guy friends. I met the most amazing guy that way--through friends from another school.
okay. so my boyfriend writes songs/sings/mixes songs/plays guitar. and whenever he writes a song his away message says new music listen and then he has a link. and I honestly don't know if I should say like ohh I like this song it's so cute! or this song is awesome! or something because I don't want him to be like ew why is she judging my music she knows nothing about music. and If I don't say anything I don't want him to be like oh she must not like my music I must suck. PLEASEE HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I SAY PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!!
If you're his girlfriend, or friend for that matter, I'm sure he'd like to hear how you feel about his music. Of course, I wouldn't tell him, "OMG THIS SUCKS!", but just give your honest opinion on it. Tell him if you like it or which ones you like better, even. Of course, I wouldn't be too discouraging and criticize him too much, but he might even want some criticism as well.
If he wonders why you're judging him, then it's his fault for putting it up like that. Everyone who hears it will judge him, whether they share their opinion or not.
Hope everything works out.
okay..well im a female 14 and i went overr my friends house yesterday and we invited over her bf and our guy friend jake(
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if he was just cuddling with you. Yeah, it's flirting, but flirting isn't cheating. If you don't like how he does that to you, and if he tries to do it again, just tell him.