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guy asks out girl simple right....wrong
ok my best guy friend asked me out, problem is im gay and her doesnt know it....neither does anyone else. (he's liked me for 2yrs now) so how do i tell him that im gay without breaking his heart?
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Unfortunately, dealings with emotion are rarely simple (and this time is no exception).
Honesty is *always* the best policy. Easy to say, not so easy to do however. I recommend that you tell him the truth.
However, it may be easier for you to deal with this as two separate things and tackle them one at a time. The first issue is about him. Obviously you have no romantic feelings for your friend, so tell him. It may cause some heartache, but good friends stick around no matter what. Be very clear that the way you feel for him is nothing more than a good friendship. Throw in some compliments about his personality, or how much he helps you out and relate them to how they make him a great *friend.* You don't want to mislead him.
The second issue is about you. You may choose to tell him your sexual orientation, or you may not. I recommend you do so only if you feel the time is right and that you are ready. You must be very comfortable with yourself before you can be comfortable with anyone else knowing. Keep in mind, that friends are friends. They aren't judgmental, and they want to support you. If they act the opposite, then they really aren't your friends.
When you finally do tell him you're gay, don't beat yourself up over any reactions he may have. You have to remember he's known you for a while and it may come as a shock to learn something very new about someone very close. Don't take it negatively.
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Unfortunately there's probably no way to do this. Get together with him and sit him down and just tell him how you feel. Tell him that he's your best guy friend and that your friendship is really important to you. Tell him that since you're so close, you would like to share something very important to you that you haven't really told anyone else about. You might want to explain how long you've known you're gay, etc. or just come straight out with it. And then just let him know that you trusted him enough to tell you this and that you love him as a very good friend. Good luck!
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