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hey,i'm Nicole. I'm 23 years young. I'm from New York...i do the best i can on giving advice on this site.drop one in my inbox n i'll get to it as soon as i can.i like spending time with friends, shopping,and playing soccer. my interests are music, singing and dancing.
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So, I'm 14 and this boy has already admitted he likes me and I have done the same. We arnt in a relationship but we both think it's likely to happen, we get along really well and we always talk. Over the last few days I feel like he's been dropping hints, the other day he was asking me about how far I had been and as I'm only 14 I have only kissed a boy, then the next day he asked me how far I would go with him and I just said 'I don't know' he replied saying would you ever do stuff like blow jobs and stuff, I didn't feel too comftable talking about this with him but I didn't say anything, I just kept saying 'not sure' ect...
Last night he asked me if I love him, obviously I said yes because i do, he said 'prove it;)'
I said 'how?' And he asked me to send him a picture of me, dirty or not.
I haven't sent one I kept saying 'I look a mess so no' and stuff, I don't want to send him a picture of me, I think it's cringey...
He also said 'when we meet tomorrow what do you want to do?' (This is this afternoon now) and I said I didn't mind.
He said 'I'm sure we can find a bed somewhere;)'
I'm pretty sure he was just joking when he said this but I'm just curious, why is he asking all this?
He is 16 and I am 14
Thanks :)
I completely agree with lightoftruth. I know that you like him, but I'm going to be honest with you-he doesn't seem like he is genuine.
I would suggest that you let him know your boundaries, and if he doesn't like that, then there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If he really cared for you, he wouldn't be pressuring you or making you uncomfortable as such.
Stay strong & hold your ground
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Well that was the question I submitted before. The thing is that me and this girl used to be good friends until a week ago when I supposedly "played" her friend around. I spoke to her, apologised to her in a large manner (writing a large essay!), she said everything was cool and told me that she's "willing" to talk to me IF I put in the effort, but when we used to talk, our conversations were dry, so I got rather annoyed and told her that "if I'm wasting my time trying to build back this friendship, let me know" and she told me, "there's no point in wasting your time, I don't want to talk to you".
I don't know what to do, I wanna get back with her, but she treats me like shit, so I want to get over her...help? thanks!
I would suggest to just not even bother. She is not worth your time, and clearly you can do so much better than her. If she doesn't want you, then she is not worth your time. Get some of your friends and go out. Try some new things. You WILL find someone new and who is genuinely interested in you.
Hope i helped!
I'm 17 n a guy..well its been well over a year since me and my ex broke up, I still can't get over her! I find it really depressing, I can't seem to get the courage to find another girl to get with after my ex. I'm not sure if I can ever get back with my ex, but I want to try, without seeming desperate or anything. If I can't do that, can you help me find a way to gain courage and talk to and meet new girls?
Thanks, helps appreciated!
If you want her back, tell her. You'd need to talk to her about where you went wrong and what you want to do differently and she needs to know that things will be good.
If you want to talk to/meet new girls, go out with your friends in a group and talk to some girls. Maybe have a friend hook you up with someone. Go to a party, or strike up a conversation with someone new. Have confidence in yourself!
Good luck & if you need anything else, message me!
-Nicole
14/f
I know its a while away(like a month and a half- 2), but i like to plan ahead of time.
our anniversary(one year) is october 25. and his birthday is november 12. i wanted some ideas of what i could get him. and for our anniversary i wanted to get him something to show how much i love him.
idk, he had a great idea for my birthday present (which he told me, but never gave me, and my b-day was a month ago...)
so ya, can you please help me?
ok the whole him not giving you a birthday present thing is not very cool of him.
but guys LOVE food. i think for one of those things you should find out his favorite meal and make it for him! (probably your one year)
and for his birthday...you could get him a videogame that he wants or something...his friends or parents should know.
hope i helped!
how do you guys get over crushes? my friend says to focus on his negative qualities.. but what if you dont really know the dirt on him? lol
go out with friends...go see a movie, go bowling...shopping helps!
going to a teen club or the mall and meeting new guys helps! new guys ALWAYS help! you need excitement and new things to distract you. focusing on his negative qualities will only make you think of him, and you want to ignore him and not think of him...that's the point of getting over him! lol
hope i helped!
This question is mainly for guys.. but girls can answer too =)
Well lately Ive been frenching these really hot guys in nightclubs... although I had my first kiss not a long time ago. I know that its not just experience that counts towards being a good kisser... but how can I tell if Im good by the guy's expression? Is there some trick to tell by how he reacts? I mean, most of them smile and lean in again after a little while but maybe they just want some... idk =/. So anyway is there a good way to tell from a guy if you're a good kisser.. without asking?
Thankyouu
from what i've seen, if they keep kissing you, or pull away and smile and then kiss you again, it's a yes. if they pull away and are like "i'm gonna go dance" then it's a no.
hope i helped!
Do you believe that people are "made" for each other. (so to speak) That there is a fish in the sea for everyone...and you're just waiting to meet them. Or do you believe that love takes work, and that there cannot possible be love at first sight and fait plays no hand in it?
thanks =]
i do believe that people are made for eachother. it's a combination...once you find the right person (and it can be by love at first sight), you will know, and it will take work, but you'll be willing to work at the relationship. it is your fate.
hope i helped!
that i like and i dont know how to talk to her can anyone help me with convos and short talk and long term talk. Im not one of those guys who can think of anything to talk and then talk about it. So can anyone help me.
find out what she's into. bring up some things that you like....example:sports, music...etc.
ask her some things about her...her favorite color, her favorite band, what she likes to do, when her birthday is...and remember what she tells you. by asking her what she's into and also by remembering it, it'll definitely hint that you're into her and it'll also help you and her connect and will probably help you with getting her to want to be with you since you'll be getting to know eachother more.
hope i helped & good luck!!
I was driving home from swim practice when I saw this really cute 17 year old boy playing catch with a 6 year old. It was about 3 houses down from mine. My little brother told me that they recently moved in and that he knows the boys sister. I'm not too shy, but not brave enough to march up to his house and ring his doorbell. I have a dog I could take on a walk, and maybe I'll catch him outside and could say hi, but that seems very time consuming and stalker-like. Does anyone have any good plans for me to meet this guy?
i have 2 ideas.
1)if the sister is around your brothers age, when you see the boy and his sister outside, bring your brother over to ask if she wanted to play with him or something like that. that should get a conversation going
2)you can make some cookies or something for them and bring them over when he's outside or something. that should make him notice you and strike up a conversation
hope i helped!
I really like this boy...and when ever i talk to him i dont know what to talk about it always ends up in an akward silence. i need help on things to talk about cause i really like this guy. thankss a lot.
i'd say to talk about music first. because everyone loves music. and then ask him questions about him. such as if he's into sports and if he has a favorite team. then remember these things so that he knows that you're actually listening to what he's saying. and maybe if a relationship develops, you can remember these ideas and they will help you with gift ideas if the time comes.
hope i helped!!
Okay so I like this guy. He likes me too. But then a really good friend of mine likes him too. And he likes her too. Ughh what do I do?
he seems a bit indecisive...as if one of you wont go out with him, he'll use the other as a back up. i'd say to talk to your friend, tell her that since he likes you both, that you want to make a pact that neither of you will go out with him while the other still likes him. that way no one will get hurt.
hope i helped!
would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong.
nope, it's not wrong to date a guy a year younger than you. people do it all the time...i mean...look at demi moore over there lol!
and i would think that his sister would be cool about it. i mean...if you're friends and you hang out, then she should be happy for you!
hope i helped!
do guys only find skinny girls with absolutely no fat on them attractive? is just a little bit of fat okay do you think? what else do they find attractive personality and looks?
i decided to go on a quest for this...
i asked all of my guy friends that were online. and all of them said that they don't find skinny girls with absolutely no fat on them attractive. and this is 48 guys we're talking about. yes, i counted.
they like sense of humor, sense of adventure, they like girls who'll try new things, girls who arent obsessed with self image, girls that they can talk to about pjretty much anything, and girls that don't complain about everything.
as for looks, they said that looks do count somewhat. every guy might prefer a different looking girl, but personality should overcome physical features for the most part, unless the guy is a complete jerk and totally shallow and relies on looks.
well, i hope i helped!!
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Ok there is this guy I like, lets call him Mike. So Mike is a year older than me (I am 15). So last week, he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies. We ended up going Friday with some of my friends and in the beginning I felt bad because I was kind of ignoring him. I was really like..scared which was why I was ignoring him (I know, it doesn't make any sense)
After the movie was over and everyone left but the both of us, we talked for a bit until my dad came to get me.
So then a day later, Sunday we talked for a little.
Then since he mentioned the day we were at the movies about just the two of us going next time, I asked him online and he was all like "It sounds like fun" and then said Wednesday would be the best and he hasnt brought it up since then.
It just seems like hes lost interest in me because a couple of days ago he would IM me as soon as I got online. He doesn't do that anymore and he barely talks to me. I asked him why he doesn't call me and he said its because his cell is broken or something. I don't know what I should do anymore. Any suggestions?
guys are like this at this age for some reason...it's like they jump between people and cant decide what they want to do.
the same thing happened to me, and it's really annoying...i know the feeling. and you're probably confused and i can't tell you whether his cell phone is broken or not, but it seems like he's trying to avoid you.
i say just try and lay off him for now, and see what happens. like...try to not talk to him for a while, and then after a day or two, try talking to him again, but as a friend, not asking why he doesnt call and such.
hope i helped!! ((&& keep me updated!!))
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Well how to make a long story short? OK first.. Yesterday was my boyfriend’s birthday, all his friends including me and my best friend went out for drinks to celebrate with him. When my best friend (it’s a girl) left for a different club, I went after her, because she was a bit tipsy and I didn’t want her to be on her own.
Then when my boyfriend arrived, he came up to me and just told me that I picked my friend over him and that it is over (he stated it MUCH worse). Yeah I know it was his Birthday, but he was busy with his friends. Should I just let it go? I mean how insecure can someone be if they are jealous of you friend???
i say that you should tell him why you went after your friend.
and then apologize and make it up to him in a special way. he should like that.
hope i helped!
What should you do if you have had a steady boyfriend for about 7 months and really like him, but this new guy came along and is interested in you and you kind of like him too? Should you break up with the one and go for the other and see how it goes? or what?
Age- 16
Gender- Female
usually i would say follow your heart, but if you love him (the boy you're with), and i mean REALLY love him, this is what i have to say:
never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they like
hope i helped!
If the guy you like, asked you if you liked him, what would you say? Should you tell him the truth and take the risk, or just tell him you don't like him and keep it all inside for him to find out?
Thanks.
I think he would ask that if he liked you.
If I were you, I'd just come out and say that I liked him instead of taking the risk that if he did like me, him possibly moving on.
hope i helped!
My guy is mad at me because he thinks it's fun to be mad at me . This is totally not cool by my rules. What can I do?
THanks soooo much !
if he thinks it's fun to be mad at you, show him that it's not and dump him because that's lame and if it's not working for you, he's a loser in your book. sorry you have to put up w/ someone like this! hope i helped!
Hi, I am 15 and I will be 16 in March. My ex boyfriend broke up with me cause his parents were afraid he would get introuble with the law cause he is 19. We weren't doing anything sexual, is it still illegal to even date? I live in Michigan and I know the age for sex here is 16, but what about just dating?
Now he wants to wait till he moves out at the end of March or later to go back out. Cause he HAD to leave me or get kicked out of his house. Should I wait for him.. or move on? I really love him.. and he doesn't even know if we will ever get back together. I'm confused and heartbroken, any advice?
it's not illegal to date him. if you really did/do love him, then you will wait for him because you know he's worth it. hold out til the end of march and see what happens, or just go back out and keep it secret from his parents, like just talking on the phone when his parents aren't home and stuff. it'll be hard, but i really think you should wait for him. hope i helped!
I really want to find the right guy
the right guy for you will understand what happened. if a guy calls you a slut, he is definitely not the right guy for you. try not to look so hard. if a guy's interested in you, look into it, but dont try too hard. he'll come around when the time's right. hope i helped!