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hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks
hey, im pretty open and i think that age isnt so much of a facter as maturity and love. maturity is really important, you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences and emotions that come with sex, as for making out its the same you just need to be ready. also you need to be in love for sex, or at least respect yourself enough to do for the right reasons. Have fun but be safe and always respect yourself and your body
when it comes to guys im way behind. im not so good at handling them. a lot of guys have approached me and like me.. but i seem to always turn them down.. not because i dont like them, but because im scared. theres only one guy ive ever trusted and he has a girlfriend. he said if he was single hed go out with me in a second. which is why i think i turn guys down. im scared that if i get into a commitment with a guy.. when the guy i really like(the one with the girlfriend) is single ill be taken. im also scared because my parents are super strict and i would have to hide a boyfriend if i had one. im 16 years old btw. ahh i dont know what to do. im missing out and i want it to stop. any advice?
hey, im the same way and i know that it sucks to be "saving yourself"(not in the sexual way lol) for that guy but i think that you should do what i did put him on the back burner(dont forget about him jus put him on hold), you dont have to go for that serious relationship right now but broadin you herizon and look behind this one guy. if it works out for you two in the future awsome but for now look at the other boys around and have fun! i hope this helps and good luck with everything
-kimberly
Heyy. There is this guy that i REALLY like, but i'm too scared to talk to him and i have no idea what to say. He's not in any of my classes, i only see him in the hallway. Some of my friends say they think he likes me because he blushes sometimes when he sees me and stares and me sometimes, but he is really shy too so he wont talk to me. Honestly, I have no idea if he likes me or not. I want to say something to him and maybe become friends. but i dont want it to be ackward. Please help. ♥
hey, ive experienced something similar, this guy i saw like in between 3 classes kept smiling at me and finally during lunch he just said hi and asked what i was up to and i finally got his name(he somehow knew mine) and we exchanged numbers...so you should first try to smile bac at him whenever you see him, this way he knows your thinking about him. then try finding him during lunch or even jus in the hallway and say hi/introduce yourself, just keep it simple. once you sorta know eachother start talking to him more and ask if he ever wants to hang out. try being friends first(not for too long though) then hint that you like him and ther you go!or if you are more foward(lucky you) try introducing yourself next time you see him and then hint how you feel. i hope this helped i tryed to put it in a simple way that doesnt cause too much embaressment. good luck and tell me how it goes cuz i like to hear if i actually helped!
-kimberly
I am 21 yrs old and have been dating this guy for 3&1/2 yrs now (started my senior year of highschool) and I love him very much, but for the last year or so Ive gotten to the point where I just don't know if I can see us together forever anymore (like all girls dream) and am wondering if I should stay or go. We have been getting into alot more fights, way more easily than before and most of them are due to the fact that he is obsessed with video games and puts them ahead of hanging out with me all the time. Lately, hes gotten into this new game that has quests with alot of people on certain days of the weeks; scheduled quests. And he decides to not hang out with me and play instead even though its a friday night which is one of my nights off (no college the next day or work). We rarely see each other the way it is this semester due to classes and work and homework that this is ruining my time with him and it bugs me how he doesn't care. Even when we do hang out, when I come over to his house I have to get him off his game and its hard work. I just don't feel like a priority anymore, and because of this I get angry easier and then make him mad and we get into fights. He thinks I nag on him too much and I think he doesn't prioritize me enough. I love him sooo much, hes very honest and true to me, but I'm to the point where I'm jealous of a game?! This just doesn't feel right. The only other thing (other than his good points) stopping me from breaking it off with him is the fact that we have a class together and i don't want to have this stuff affect my grades and I am very 'addicted' to him (i love him soo much and dont know how to live without him anymore). Should i stay With him? Should i break it off? If so, when? Thanks for any advice you can give me.
i think that you need to jus talk it over with him, you dont have to give him a ultamadum but tell him he needs to make some sort of unofficial decision and figure out whether a great girl is more important that a fiction game! through this question you need to decide whether he is worth your time...and if it doesnt work out then dont sweat it, it wasnt meant to be. comment bac if you need more advice and tell me how it goes.
ther for ya,
kimberly
sorry, but this is really long, but its easy to understand...
ok so ive liked this boy since like september, and we started going out last week, on tuesday. hes a really shy person, and hes only had a few gf's before. our relationship...isnt what i would call.."normal". well like at first when we werent going out, we barely talked. and then when we did start going out, we talked a lil more. and i was like getting pissed, because he was so shy, and he like couldnt sit with me at lunch, he was to shy to walk to class with me, and like to shy to even come over to talk with me. but now our relatoinship is getting a little better because all of my friends kept telling him that i was getting pissed, and he said he would try and talk to me more. and ive been talking to him online about talking to me more, and he said he would to. so now hes talking to me more, and like hes actually started waiting for me after we get out of a class, and walking with me, but we sorta walk in silence sometimes. he barely talks, he just says cool about everything i say, and laughs, and i know he really does like me because hes told me. and like i really want our relationship to work because i really like him. but i seriously cant take this anymore, all the silent walking, the no hugs, or barely any talking, he doesnt really come over to me unless i ask him to..and i like said at the end of this week, if he doesnt start changeing then im going to have to break up with him because i cnt go through with this. but then i thought like i really like him and i dotn want to have to sit tehre everyday looking at him thinking that i had the chance to stay with him but i like blew it off. so please i need some advice on what to do...
hey, try asking him questions that arent like a sentence answer type q's and start to hug him and hold hands with him just be reaaalllllyyyy forward! go for it and give it your all. if it doesnt work then you know you tried and maybe for now it wasnt meant to be but who knows maybe he'll change and it will all work out. tell me how it goes.
ther for ya,
-kim
Ok I'm still talking about the same girl that I'm in love with, ill tell the whole story now though. Shes tends to like the assholes and i always try to show it to her that she needs a better guy, not necessarily me but someone good for her. I would do anything for her, and i want her to know that, she may already from some things in the past i just dont know what to do. I need ideas on how to get her, that might actually work, shes a really nice girl so i can do anything trashy, shes just perfect for me and i will never feel complete without her. Please give me some advice on how to get her in my life.
hey,
i dont know if you already go to movies alone or how close of friends you are but try asking simply to go see a movie(either romantic or scary) in the movie act mosty mormal see where your hands go...but after ask her to take a walk or something and just tell her that you are the right guy, the one who wont treat her like crap. if she isnt insane shell at the very least consider her feelings for you...as for the friendship(the thing that puts so many of these relationships on hold) tell her even if you decide to be friends it will never be the same. You will always know that i want more and oneday you will too, tell her you will always be friends no matter what and you can both let the relationship not effect the friendship it is possible! let me know how it goes i like the happy endings!
there for ya,
kimberly
i've been with this girl for a few months now even though we are usually in different towns. i don't konw if she accepts me as her boyfriend yet, even though when i asked her about it she does not give a yes or now but merely keeps communicating with me amorously. How do i find out form her if she takes me to be her boyfriend, if she akes me seriously if she has someone else,etc. Thank you.
hey, i think that you should try asking her what her intentions are...if she wants to become serious or wants to give it a break. try not to make it too serious like a ultimatum otherwise this might spark a fight. good luck and tell me how it goes!
ther for ya,
kimberly
so my boyfriend of last year and i had a really great relationship we were in love, but then my boyfriend began to like someone else so we broke up. then me and him stopped tlaking for awhile. about 4 months later i saw him at a football game and we began to talk and decided to hang out. it was like we were going out again everything was normal and we were both having a great time. unfortuanately we were both in other relationships. after that we didnt talk to each other any more. but then one day i went to my friends house and he was there also. me and him hooked up then. i can't keep my mind off of him since then and i dont no what to do about it all. i dont know what it is but we keep running into each other randomly. i dont no what to do any ideas?
hye, i dont want to tell you to just gie up on this guy i mean i really dont know if your in love with him or something and you didnt really specify if you were still in a relatonship with another guy/how serious...but try to give it time. wait things out and try to find out how serious he is about you why break it off/get hurt when you could have the guy? if you dont want to wait it out then next time you see him dont jump his bones although you might want to lol try talkin to him and seeing where you guys are and if you are on the same page with this little love affair. comment bac with more details if you want.
here for ya
-kim
After 3 years of dating my true love, she decided we needed some time apart to get our priorities straight. its going on 3 weeks, and not a day goes by without her calling me, we hang out from time to time, however, there is ovbiously no intimacy. I love her so much and I know she loves me cause she has told me. My question is, with valentines day comming up, iam not sure if i should get her the flowers and a present...I dont wanna look like im trying to push her into getting back with me, and at the same time i dont wanna look like i dont care about her if i dont give her anything...what should i do?
i think that you should get her something plutonic and not to serious...
-yellow roses(symbolize frienship)
-daises (simple pretty)
-a cute card and stuff animal (something i would get one of friends)
-a no pun intended kinda funny joke....
heres an ex. of one for saying sorry to someone:
i feel sheepish...plz forgive me (give a lamb)
-kimberly
okay .. so theres this boy i like && ima buy him something for vday i guess .. but like i dunno what to get him ! what do you get a guy ??
hey, here are some different ideas depending on what type of personality you are or your age.
sexy idea:
-cologne:try Very Sexy For Him at Victoria's Secret...i swear the best cologne ever!!!
sweet thoughtfull ideas:
-a poem
-make something with a not too tacky valentines theme
-watch a horror(time to cuddle) film, try the movie...Valentine. heres the tagline for the movie "love hurts" its creepy but theres always time to hold hands and duck your head into his chest during one of those scary movies.
tell how it goes!
-kimberly
One of my best friends is dating the guy that I like. And this is the 2nd time they're going out. The thing is I still like him and I can't stand being around them when they're together. And I'm good friends with both. One other thing is she tells me almost everything and she doesn't really like him that much. Is there anything I can do about this?
omg deja vou(if i knew exactly what that meant) lol ok first does your friend know you like him cuz if she does that is horrible! but if she doesnt then your situation is like mine...this guyfriend i liked asked out one of my best freinds like 3 times...but she never liked him although i guess she kinda led him on. for months i watched him like her...but good news i kinda encouraged her questioning how much she liked him and then she finally told him she really was not into him but someone else(true not trickory). Although i never ended up dating this boy(both too shy :( ....he did end up liking me according to everyone of our friends for a lonng time) so try to telll your friend you like him, while still keeping your friendship in mind and if shes really a true friend she'll understand that your definite feelings are more important than her "kinda" feelings. good luck and tell me how it goes i like a happy ending!
hearts always,
kimberly
So I know this guy likes me and I like him but he doesn't know I like him. Anyways, this one friend of mine who's friends with both of us is telling me to ask out the kid who likes me because he knows he's going to say yes. Anyways the problem is, I don't ask people out anymore because of really bad experiances with it, and apparently he wont ask me out because he's to shy and thinks I'll say no. Even when the middle friend tells him I will say yes he wont do it. Should I give it time or forget the whole thing?
PS please dont say ask him out because im not going to
hey, ive been there over and over again...although you dont want to actually ask him out, maybe you should just say how you feel and tell him that you feel the same way(scared maybe frm past experiences)let him know that you care and your not going to hurt his feelings. I know it sucks to like a shy guy who wont take action but be brave and know not all guys are like the ones in your past. good luck!
-kim
Theres this guy; and I really like him. He seems to be interested in me but hasn't made a move. I was thinking about making the first move to speed things up but idk what to do. I don't wanna ask him to the movies cause I know my parents wouldn't approve.
hey, i think that making the first move is a modern and cool look, he'll know that you care and are comfortable with him. if your parents would definitly not let you guys go to a movie, try a school activity like a b-ball game or even if your parents would feel more comfortabe, going to your own house and renting a movie(more time to talk alone, more snacks, and more of a comfort zone for you)i hope my advice helps!
hearts,
kiki
Ok I have this friend who just got married back in september of 2005. Now before she got married her husband was very sweet and all this and after they got married he was for a little while. However, the other day the went on a trip and she started joking with him because he was joking with her. Well he got mad about something she said and backhanded her in the face. I mean He acts as if there is something he needs to tell her or something like that, but he is scared to lose her and so he's being hateful about it. If any of you guys know why he is doing this I would love to know, before my friend loses her life and her unborn childs life!
i think that yor friend needs to leave him. what i learned from a reletive of mine is that anytime you are being disrepested and especially abused mentally and or physically you nedd to escape and realize that you are better than that and deserve way better. my aunt was beaten by both of her husbands one who was an alcoholic and she never tried to leave on her own my mom and her sisters and children had to convince her to get an divorce from them. your friend needs your help so dont let her be alone with him make sure that she is always safe and feels safe in this fragile time. good luck!
hearts,
kiki
i like this person and i think he might like me back to some extent, how can i tell if he does or not?
you can never be completely positive if someone like you, but you can try to pick up on some hints. when this guy i happened to like liked me he'd always smile when we saw eachother in the halls and find excuses to procrastinate after class so that we would leave at the same time and have to walk most of the way together. some other ways to tell are if he tries to find excuses to be near you or sit next to you, if he picks on you especially(guys are always in that kindergarden crush flirtin mode) or if he is especially nice to you. when this guy liked me every single day we volunteered at this school together he would buy me a soda but not any of out other friends one and then we'd go to the same teacher to volunteer. i hope my tips helped and good luck with this guy!
lotts of love,
kiki
theres this guy thats a year older than me (he=8th grade).. he likes me a lot. I get nervous around guys... but he got really nervous aruond me. Were going to skate nite tonight and I have to teach him how to skate (mind you this guy is amazing). He gets so nervous and I'm just wondering some good tecniques to break the ice. If we do, than he's gonna actually ask me out tonight. (he already told all of his friends that know he likes me a lot that we were going out and i really don't have a problem with that) lol
So please help me..
I rate.
lucky you! i think that you need to calm down and know that things like conversation just come naturally(mostly), talk about eachothers interests, aspirations and hobbies, jus play it cool. here are some handy tips: try not to talk about yourself too much, if you're holding hands while skating dont start to panic if you know your hands are getting sweaty most likely it is a majority of his sweat, and finally just be honest and sincere, guys like to know their girl isnt a liar or well trashy lol! let me know how it goes good luck!
lotts of love,
kiki
me and my boyfriend went out for 9 months and it was great until the last 2 months.. all we did was fight and we spent more time fighting than being happy so we broke up, and it was kinda both of us. anyways he's with someone else and it's so hard because i know we'll never go out again and i cant seem to get over him. i just need to know how to get over him because i know it'll work out again? needing advice on how to get over him.
hey, ive experienced the same thing, if your like me its going to take some time. at first i was really sad and it was all i thought about then i was ok with it and told myself it was time to move on and even though that sounds impossible you can do it, finally i started to get chrushes on other guys and now im ok. you will be fine in all good time jus enjoy some big bowls of ice cream or what ever your junk of choice is and try to vent your emotions by doing something productive and kinda fun like poetry or music. good luck
lotts of love,
kiki