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im 15.f. i have this friend thatt is not close friend but we do trust each other alot...but were not like realli long time known friend we met this year..and became reali good friends.. she has a b.f and and his name is (D) so then this guy named (D) was talkign to me andhe goe simgoing to break up with my g.f tomorrow..and when i found out that (D) is the same guy my friend is dating i was in shock ..i called right away after talking to him and told her everything she stared crying and said shell call me back and i was liek ok...
but now they broke up ad me and him are talking and he keeps asking me to goona date and like what ever and it old him shes my realli good friend and that i cant do tat to her and he goes wil wait an dimlike will wait a long time...and he oes like not long long but enough time..and now i dont no what to do....and please dont say tell her abot it and ask heror something like that because that not the possibilitu i have right now..yea i do liek him and ye ai like my friend to but it wwasnt beacuse of me they broke up ....
so please i dont no what to do......help!!!
i will rate u thanx =) (link)
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It depends on how good of friends you are with her. Like do you guys hang out outside school? talk? tell eachother everything? Try talking to her and tell her what happened....I will tell you right now though that most people this happens to if you go with the guy you will most likely lose your friend...you friend may be different though so try talking to her and see what she says. But if you really think it's worth it with the guy go for it but just remember that you need to be careful that he's not going to just use you and then dump you...
Friends will be there forever...but boyfriends you for out with for a while and then don't talk to them again...
think about that
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Well i like this boy alot i mean alot and like he knows that i like him and he likes me to but only as a freind. But like i have a class with him and stuff and sometimes he be flirting with me and like im a very shy person andi heard that if u like a guy and he flirts with you, you should flirt with him back but if he dont then thats justt throws them off. But i just cant flirt back with him and i try to talk to him and stuff but i cant because its just to hard. And also i found out there is like two other gurls that like him which is gonna be harder for me. What should i do? How can i talk to hima and how can i flirt back? (link)
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Well....you can either move on and just be "friends" so that notingn ruins the friendship... orrr always ask him how his day is going asking him about how he is is showing him that you care about how he's doing. If he knows about the two other girls that like him ask him about them.. be like "Hey i heard these people like you what do you think?" and base what you do off your answer. Or you can flat out tell him listen I really like you maybe we can go out on a date sometime just to see what happens
hope this helps let me know how it turns out.
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Well i met a guy recently who is really sweet and hilarious. I am into like studying astrology because it is very interesting and sometimes accurate but in this case it seems that i would not usually be attracted to his sign --a cancer, when i am a sagittarius. But despite that i feel this connection with him, like when we talk i dont have to pretend to be someone im not. I mean most guys i have met i end up having some make-out session with and i never get to talk to them. But in the little time i have spent with this guy we mostly talked and he kissed me once. So i hear that he wants to ask me out this weekend, but i don't want to rush into this because in the past i have rushed into relationships and they end really fast. But i also don't wanna tell him that i dont want to go out with him right now. Im not sure what to do but maybe some advice would help =D
hahaha (link)
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I mean the whole astrology thing is cool don't get me wrong, but maybe you should go with your gut feeling instead of what the "stars" are saying. If you guys have things in common and get along great I don't see why it would be such a bad thing to hang out with him over the weekend. If anything that you help you finalize your answer is wheather or not you want to go out with him. Maybe your other relationships ended quickly because the guys just aren't right, and that's ok.
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Hey. Well, I'm thirteen/female. My problem is that when I get to like someone, I fall for them hard. Which I guess wouldn't be a bad thing, but like I can't stop thinking about them. I know like that's a sign of loving someone, but I feel it for everyone. I guess you could say I love flirting, but if there's one bad thing I'm not it's deffinatly a slut. I was wondering if there is anything I could do to fall a little less hard for people. Thanks anyways, even if you can't answer my question, thanks for reading. ♥. (link)
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I'm going to be completely honest, trust me when I say this you really aren't falling too hard, you may not want to hear this.
But in the "moment" and times when you are flirting it may seem like you are falling hard and what not but when you honestly think about it and break it down, you really don't have that much feeling for that person,
so basically what i'm saying is keep crushing and try not to get cuaght up in it that much and take things in at little doses and really think about that if you were to strip everything away would he really be there for you?
-irene
-good luck any more questions just holla~
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What did you decide to do about your boyfriend keep me posted. (link)
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well i decided to tell him everything and he told me he loved me for telling him and then a week later.... this week he broke up with me for that girl.. he called me yelled over the phone we're breaking up then hung up, he didn't explain anything why he did it or anything but he did it on our 3 month anniversery and it really hurt, and then i called him and I told him everything I was thinking and he told me he apreciated that but he didn't care and he said that he would come back to me once he was done with that girl.... i don;t think i'm gonna go out with him, but i'm trying very hard to move on and today is my first day back at school and it's soo hard because we have 3 classes together,..
thnak you
-irene
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lets say if he doesnt pick up the phone...do i leave him a voicemail and tell him to call me back or say everything over the voicemail? (link)
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i wouldn't say it to his voicemail because then he wont take you seriously if he keeps ignoring your calls dial *67 before you dial his number because it doesn't show who you are or your number then he'll pick up not knowing it was you, and if that doesn't work then just say it to his face, so basically give him a choice of, he can either listen to you on the phone or you can yell it at his face, then he'll start picking up your phone calls,
let me know how it goes
-Beanie
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ok i really like this guy and i think he might like me but i'm too shy to talk to him. wat are some things i could say/do to get his attention more?
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One morning just get up earlier than you normally do and spend some more time chosing what you wear and doing your hair and then just give him a nice smile and say hi, and then the next day maybe ask how he's doing and then the next day see what his plans are fr the weekends and then the next da just talk about different movies and stuff that you like and see if he likes them too and then the next day if everything goes well be like would you like to come over friday night? we can order pizza and rent a couple of movies, and see how that goes it may seem difficult but it gets easier as you go, so relax and just have some fun with it and PLEASE let me know how it goes!
if you have anymore questions just e-mail me at
elementskater0615@yahoo.com
bonne chance
-Beanie
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Hi, I fell for my best guy friend. He completely lead me on for about 2 months, then flat out cold stopped talking to me. (For reasons unknown, he won't tell me) I need ways to get over this feeling, I felt like he liked me, but I guess not because we're barely even friends now. Any help on how to get over someone who lead you on? Mind you, he WAS my best friend, and I'd like to at least stay friends with him somehow. Thank you! (link)
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To be honest the only way you're going to get over him is if you talk to him about it, so basically tell him what you asked me, and make it clear to him, it may be very hard but t will show him that you are brave enough to tell him this and then he might wanna be with you or want to be friends again. So good luck and PLEASE message me back with what happened, and please trust me when i say it's most affective when you tell him in person by yourselves and to his face!
aucun problème
-Beanie
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Ok so i have this problem,my ex boyfriend says he doesnt want to know nothing about me anymore and that i should go and f*** another man...he tells this to my friend,he says that all i do is chase him around which is not true because i dont even call him...even though i still like him i dont communicate with him.So i dont know wat to do i believe he was super mean to my friend and he deserves for me to call him and tell him off,or should i just ignore him and let him say all those things about me.Please help thanks
WHEN I CALL HIM DO I ACT MAD AND LIKE TELL HIM OFF OR JUST BE CALM AND NORMAL..AND WHAT CAN I TELL HIM IM REALLY CONFUSED
THANKS (link)
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you don't start off yeloling because you don't want to scare him away be like
" i know what you've been saying an i honestly don't apreciate what your doing and i don't apreciate the lies, i have done nothing to you to deserve that and i don't think you should be treating me like that."
and then tell him that you really aren't following him around and what not, an then if he turns into an ass about it, then raise your voice,
if you have anymore questions go ahead and ask them
and no problem mon ami.
-Beanie
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Ok so i have this problem,my ex boyfriend says he doesnt want to know nothing about me anymore and that i should go and f*** another man...he tells this to my friend,he says that all i do is chase him around which is not true because i dont even call him...even though i still like him i dont communicate with him.So i dont know wat to do i believe he was super mean to my friend and he deserves for me to call him and tell him off,or should i just ignore him and let him say all those things about me.Please help thanks (link)
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I think that you should confront him about it or he probably wont stop and then after you confront him about it if he doesn't listen then ignore him and that'll show him that it doen't bother you, then he will eventually stop because he isn't getting any anger out of you.
-beanie
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If a guy asks me, out of no where, if I have a boyfriend... what does it mean? (link)
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It means he was asking you if you have a boyfriend, maybe he was just curious or maybe he's interested, it's a 50 50 thing.
-Beanie
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hmm okay so.
14/f
i really like my boyfriend and all we have been dating for about 1 month or whatever but recently at church he brought his friend who is like his neighbor.my boyfriend and his friend go to a diffrent school then me.
but yeah when i met hid friend he was really hot and funny and nice to me.he was kinda flirting with me and i liked it but i still really like my boyfriend.
when we dont see each other for a while sometimes i start to crush on toher guy but all the while i still really like my boyfriend.
uhg so what do i do? (link)
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it's really on accident when girls flirt with other guys i do it all the time but not like huge flirting because i still really love my boyfriend and i would never do anything to hurt him and i know that it's meaningless and i'll never see the guy again then it's fine, so if you know that you're not going to see him again don't worry and as long as you know that your heart is with your boyfriend and not with who you're flirting with then don't worry you're still trustworthy, just try not to talk to random guys and you'll be fine.
-Beanie
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so i pretty much just have some questions; any help would be awesome. is second base supposed to feel good for the girl? if i'm moving my hands around and go "down there" but don't want to do anything more then just touch and kiss, will he get the wrong idea? should i stay away from there altogether until i want to go farthur? is it better to unhook your bra or go over, and if he can't do it should i?
thanks for the help, i now its alot of questions! (link)
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yes second base is supposed to feel good for the girl if it is the girl receiving the plesure if your talking about giving to the guy it kinda feels a little good itreally kinda depends on the girl for me it's just there but it makes me happy because i know that it is turning him on. um it may give him wrong messages so you might want to stay away from there unless you're ready to use your mouth or hand. and it's just easier to unhook your bra and yeah if he can't do it it would be nice if you helped him a little so he doesn't feel embarassed fumbling around with your bra.
good luck
-Beanie
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So, i was the rebound girl for this boy, and he left me for a girl and now he has a girlfriend...and i still like him. How do i get him to know i still like him and that things can be different between us (link)
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Dear Rebound Girl,
Pull him aside one day and tell him how you feel yes it's very hard to do but once you get started it gets easier. And things may be different between you guys or it may not, and if worse comes to worse you'll just be friends.
-Beanie
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I like this one guy in my school... he's really athletic, nice, and funny. but heres the thing... i've liked him for about a year and a half and i'm so confused on if i like him or not!
sometimes he's really shy and other times he's just his normal self around his friends. He hangs out with the wrong group of friends, who always get into trouble. He sometimes gets into detention in school, he's smart but then sometimes just is lazy. He plays 4 sports and the last thing is that he's shorter than me by about 7 inches!!!!
sooo i'm always getting mixed feelings about him. I like him one day, then the next i decide i don't like him anymore.
whats going on here? does this mean that my heart truly says that i like him? should i just forget about him? Whenever i try to forget about him, i act as my usual self, but then when i'm around him i'm still nervous!!!!!!!! even when i say to myself "just forget about him, he's not for me"
aghh i'm confused
signed,
mixed feelings (link)
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Dear mixed feelings,
Well it seems that you do like this guy but you're mind hasn't been made up but your heart has so they're playing tug-o-war with your feelings. Just wait a little bit and see what happens. And don't worry about the hieght thing, it doesn't matter. Just ask him to hang out at your place some day after school order some pizza and watch a movie and see what happens than plan your next move off of that.
-Beanie
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how do i have more fun with franch kissing? and how does he make me have fun as much as him? (link)
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Dear French Kissing,
There are tons of ways to have more fun with it, don't use your tongue as much and tease him with your lips a little bit grab the back of his neck let your hands wander let his hands wander, and just have fun with it.
-Beanie
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okay so here's my probelm,,me and my bf have been together for a year and a half, and i really care aobut him , but there's times when im like all excited to see him and really happy about it and sure i love him, but there's times i don't even know what to think about it , i think that it might be cause im on christmas brake and have been hanging out with him more than with my friends and i don't do much things around the house just see him and when im with him i really feel i love him! but when he's gone, i just spend time watching tv or in the computer , and i start wondering things like if i really love him if i want to be with him :S im sooo confuse :S
i think it is cause when i don't go out with no one but him , and i'm just sleeping watching tv and computer all day i think about stupid things , it's these one of those?? cause when i have a very busy week or a week when i go out a lot with friends and him and im just too busy i'm like totally in love with him and wanna see him talk to him every second, i don't know what to think about it ...i don't wanna talk to him about this cause he might think i don't care about us anymore wich i think i really do cause when i'm with him i really like it , or how would i know i like him as a boyfriend and not just as a friend :S im sooo confuse he's really nice and really loves me a lot! and do a lot of things for me but i don't know what's wrong with me!! (link)
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It's ok don't worry it's probably just vacation you've been hanging around with your boyfriend more than you are used to and it's just something different to the both of you, your spending more time and it's getting to you a little bit you just don't know it. Try just hanging out with your friends a little more, so when you're not with him try calling up your friends and hanging out with them instead of sitting at home doing absalutly nothing.
And no owrries there is nothing wrong with you.
And if worse comes to worse talk to him!
-Beanie
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first things first...
I am 16/f and the guy is 16 and my guy best friend...
Ok, well I really really love this guy, and I told him...and well things got all wierd but then one of my friends said don't talk to him for a while 'the lets take a break death-sentence' anyways so i did and well we havnt talkeds since about the 19th dec. and yea. yesterday he sent me an email that read something like "why aren't you on msn anymore!? thats all i have to say!" and well I answered it. now we havbt talked since that, should i wait for him to email me or should i email/call him? (link)
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Dear who says it first,
call him, aprently he isn't going to do it anytime soon so you mine as well, plus you never know what may happen from it, just be like yeah so remember when i told you this, what do you think about it? and see what happens there and then be like what do you want to do about it? and then see what happens from there, if you stay as friends it'll be ok, but what if it could be more? so dive right in!
good luck
-Beane
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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help (link)
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Dear boyfriend problem,
You really need to tell him exactly what you typed, don't just say it and be like we need to talk, instead sit down with him, hold his hands and look into his eyes when you talk to him about it, it'll get through to him more easily, and tell him that you feel more than just being a chick on his side, you need to tell him about the whole how he's allowed to have a BUNCH of girl friends but you can't have any guy friends, it's not fair at all, so try doing that and if it still doesn't get through his head maybe it's just time to move on.
-Beanie
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i recently broke up w/ my girlfriend so have invited lots of girls to my myspace and about .5 have accepted. i need advice about what to talk about when i send messages b/c i don't have much to go by as they are still strangers. and i don't know how long to wait before making contact. please note, i think that all of them are cute and am interested in dating but don't want to come across as desperate or needy. any suggestions? thanks (link)
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Dear new myspace friends,
Just send a little message such as, How was your day? or How are you? and see where it leads to from there, if it keeps continuing leave some comments on one of the girls pictures that you have been getting the most feedback from, leave little messages like "this picture of you is very pretty, or this pic is my fav, or this is a cute pic."
girls love those little messages guyz leave behind, i did. and almost all my friends let me know if a guy comments on their myspace and they like it, so take it slowly and if u kee bringing it up a notch and then once you think it may be safe to ask them out on a date JUST DO IT! be like would you like to come over and order some pizza and watch a couple movies,
it's cute and not too flashy,
so just go for it
and don't hold back
good luck
let me know how it turns out!
-Beanie
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