Hey gies . I probably deal with a lot of the same problems as you do. So go ahead...ask me anything. This is so that you know that someone's here for you no matter who you are or what your problem is.
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16/m a couple of days ago i asked this girl out and she said that she only liked me as a friend and she wanted us to get to know each other better first and then maybe we could try it. i'm ok with that but i dont really know how to get to know her better or anything i dont know what to do. any ideas? (link)
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Well you need to ask her to hang out. Take her out and pay for her and open doors for her and be polite. Dont take it too seriously but do things to let her know you care about ehr and you're not giving up. Tell her things you would tell your guy friends and include her in your life. When she's having a bad day or something is wrong, be there for her. You dont want to move in too close but you want to let her know that you are there for her and that you can be more than just a friend. Hope that helped. Asked if you have anything you want to add.
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well me and my boyfriend are back together he asked me out and i said yeah...but he is being nice but he wants to go to this place where all my friends hangout and all his friends play soccer and we all hang out there and im just worried that he will hit on my friends...and tommorow he is going to new jersey with his friends but i dont trust his friends because they always try to break us up and i dont know what i should do should i be mad that he is going to the those places?...well thank you (link)
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I know how you feel. That's how i feel about my boyfriend's friends. I think that if he did hit on your friends when you go to this hangout place then he's just not worth it but at least you will see what he is really like. But it's all about trust. When he goes to New Jersey, his friends might try to push him to hit on girls but you need to trust him that he wont do it. Plus, he already likes you, or he wouldnt have asked you out so there must be something about you that he doesnt see in other girls. Also, who could he possibly pick up in new jersey?? Lont distance relationships never work. Believe me...he knows that just as much as you do. Just trust him and hope that things will work out.
Good luck.
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Could I please get some good suggestions on what to do to get over someone? I just want to move on, but I can't seem to. Any ideas? Thanks so much. ps: i'm 22 and female :) (link)
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Well unfortunately all you can do to get rid of your heartbreak is to wait it out. But in the mean time, go out. Have fun. Hang out with friends and take this oppurtunity to get closer to them and rely on your friends instead. But whatever you do, keep yourself busy so that there's no opportunities to think about him. Make sure there's no moment that you're just sitting around and doing nothing.
Hope that helped.
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My boyfriend & I have been together for several months now. He has recently told me he loves me. Since then, I've felt weird. I'm not sure what love even is! I care about him alot and I can't picture my life without him, but how do you know when you truly love someone? I've tried saying it to him, but the words never come out. I don't know if I'm scared of giving him that part of me he could break or if I really don't love him. How do I determine from the two? (link)
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Well you're the only one who can tell whether it's love or not. If in your heart, you think it's love, then it is. If you're not sure...then it's probably not quite there yet. Dont rush it. Just be honest with him even if that means you have to tell him that you think love may be developing but it's just not there yet. He will understand. You might be scared too though. But that's a big part of relationship...in order to love him, you have to trust him. You have to trust him that he wont break your heart or use love against you. Love is a strong word. If he has said it to you, dont be scared, just take it in and wait to find out if you love him back.
Hope that helped.
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i really want a cute loveing boyfriend that is sweet. but i cant find him and idk how to...i mean im not fat or ugly. but i still cant find some1 who likes me. i neede aome advicee.
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honestly...you cant rush love. If you want to find a guy that respects you and is everything you want, you have to wait for it to come to you. That's the best way for it to happen. If you go out looking for guys, you'll look desperate. Just have fun with your friends and enjoy being single and being able to flirt. Then when the right guy comes along, you'll be ready to make a move. Plus guys will want you more when they see that you can have fun and that you like being with friends and hanging out and you aren't dependent on other guys. Prince Charming will come around. You just have to wait for him.
Hope that helped.
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Hey im 15/f and i broke up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago. I told myself after we broke up that i wasn't going to date anymore. But i think im ready now. See.. ya guys ask me out but they are never "my type" or i consider them just friends. I really like this junior and his friends told me that he likes me too. But he doesn't want a relationship.. i dont think hes ever had one before because he hasn't had a relationship in quite a while. And im afraid to ask him why he doesn't want a girlfriend. But im not exactly sure how to do that. I just want a boyfriend now really bad.. even if its not him i just want someone who likes me for me and doesn't take advantage of me. And now im going through this stage where all i want is someone like that and i cant seem to find the right one. Any suggestions? Thanks! (link)
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Well honestly....if the junior likes you then go for him. But you need to keep one thing in mind...every girl out there is looking for the right guy. Unfortunately, they dont just come when we want them. They come when we least expect it. You have to be able to be strong without a guy. Be yourself and hang with some friends and show guys that you're strong on your own and that you can have a good time. That's the best way to find a guy...trust me....i would know.
hope that helped.
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i have a boyfriend and we've been on and off for the past 2 years.I found out he cheated on my 3 times.Stupidly i got back together with him 1 week ago and now he sais he didnt know we were dating and he got a different girlfriend.He also tried to kiss me afetr he told me this!What should i do?
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Hun-i dont mean to sound harsh but this guy is a jerk. you deserve better and there's a guy that WILL treat you better. i know. i've been through something similar. there are a lot of sweet guys out there. just keep looking. dont give up on them....just give up on the jerk you thought you were dating. hope things go well. and tell him he needs to learn the right way to treat a girl for me. okay?
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I'm in love with my best friend. But unfortunatly he is going out with some girl I really don't like. She's the type that will hurt him really bad inside and will leave him for someone else. That is her process. How do I break them up without him knowing I did it on purpose?
Oh and he (best friend) knows im madly in love with him.
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Well...dont get involved with his relationship with her. You dont want to be the one to break them up. But make sure that when they do...(since they obviously will if she does do that)...You be the first one to tell him that no girl like that deserves him. Tell him that he's too good for any girl...especially one who would do something like that to a guy like him. Just be there for him. He'll get the point that you care about him more than any other girl. That will give you a better chance of being with him.
Hope that helped.
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Me and my ex-boyfriend (first love) might try to try it again and see if it works this time. I still love and care about him. But there's another guy who I like and he likes me as well and wants to be with me. He hasn't caused me nearly as much pain as my ex (actually he hasn't caused me any) but I don't know who to choose or what to do? I love my ex even though it's been over a year since we broke up, but I also am starting to catch feelings for this new guy. Please help me . I will rate (link)
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Its not really about like and love. Choose the one that you think will give you the most respect and treat you the best. you can always learn to love the new guy and if the old guy loves you then chances are he will wait for you if you end up wanting him more. Just listen to your heart.
Good luck.
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Hey!
So my boyfriend and I have been just about everywhere there is to go as far as dates are concerned. We've done the dinner and a movie thing a million times, we go to Barnes&Noble/Starbucks for books and coffee, etc., but it's all getting dull.
There aren't any museums in town except for an art museum, but we've already been there!
If you have any date ideas involving food, books, or the like, I'd greatly appreciate your helpful advice!
Neither my boyfriend nor I can drive, and we're not of drinking age. =) (link)
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Have picnic in the park. Or swimming. Or just out for ice cream and a walk. Or make lunch for him one day and invite him over. Or even just a night under the stars can be special. But im sure anything you do for him will be special to him. Good luck. And remember..not all the special things cost money. Something cute and creative are usually what gets a guy's attention and makes him more interested to hang out more.
Good luck.
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Hi, I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend (he's also my best friend)is moving to Belgium, which is bad because I live in the US. My problem is that though 4th grade all the way through 7th I was a cutter. Now that I found out he's moving... I started again. He Knows what's happening and gives me all the love and support i need... That makes it worse. I love this guy more than ever, and we recently got sexually involved. I'm sooo scared.
P.S. I'm 14, I know young. For what you just read at least. I'm a girl! (link)
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Stop cutting. i dont care what the circumstances are, dont do it. it's not worth it. You have to be able to be strong without a guy on your own before you are strong in a relationship. So if you're already cutting yourself just because he's moving, then that proves that you arent strong enough without him. I hate to tell you...but that relationship just isnt going to work. But i promise that things always turn out for the better. You'll probably end up meeting someone new or he might come back. Dont get your hopes down. And dont make him spend the last couple of months with you making memories of how you cut yourself. Make these last couple of months worth it. Hang out with him as much as you can and make memories that you will want to look back on later. please be careful. cutting is NOT the answer.
Hope that helped.
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer.. (link)
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not at all. remember your friends will always be there but guys can come and go. If yo feel it's best to break up with him then do it. however, if you think he might change then try just talking to him about it and see if anything changes.
Good luck.
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So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind. (link)
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well...saying something to his girlfriend might only upset him more and leave you being hurt more.
you need to just confront him and all you have to do is tell him that you know about his girlfriend and you dont need a guy like him in your life...
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About 2 weeks ago I got into a really stupid fight over msn messanger with one of my closest male friends. I am pretty sure he liked me romantically- but so far we had just been good friends. Well he is kind of a hot head and it takes him a while to cool down. He lives in another province, but used to live in the same town as me. U was hoping one day we would end up together.
Well last night when I was at work one of his best friends came into the store that I work at. He didnt talk to me but was staring at me and this sort of concerned look on his face. Do you think (because my friend lives far away) that he has been asking his friend to come into the store I work in just to check up on me and see if I'm doing okay? I am almost possitive that his friend new about his (romantic feelings) for me. (link)
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yes, that could be. Or...the guy that is coming into your store might be checking up on you just to make sure you're not doing anything that his friend needs to know about. he might be doing it by his own choice just to be a good friend. If you dont like it, i would suggest talking to him about it.
Hope that helped.
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okay so i like this girl. But there's 3 problems...we've dated before and i pretty much screwed it up,she has a boyfriend, and i have a girlfriend. We still talk and we're pretty close friends but i want to be more. Her and her boyfriend have been dating on and off for like 3 years now. I like this girl more than my girlfriend but i dont want to leave her if i dont even have a chance with this other girl. What do i do to get her back? Do i even have a chance with her? I think you're about the only person who could give me the right advice if you know what i mean. Thanks. (link)
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Well...I think i know what you mean by im the only one who can give you the right advice...and my advice is...
You have a girlfriend. You're first step would be to stop using her as backup and have some confidence. This girl cant like you back unless you're single. And even if you were...She likes her boyfriend or she obviously wouldnt be with him. So until you see them break up...you need to move on. Because she obviously has too. You dont have a chance with her anymore.
I know this sounds harsh but I think that you've probably heard this from her before. right? So stop bugging her about it. You messed things up. You have to learn to except the fact that she doesnt love you anymore. I'm sorry.
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14/f...ive been going out with my boyfriend for about three weeks and his birthday is on the last day of school. One of my friends is throwing an end of school party on the last day of school (his bday). I can't bring him to the party because ALL my friends don't like him at all; they won't let me bring him basically. We've already talked about his birthday but I haven't had the courage to tell him that I would rather go to my friends party but I don't know how to tell him. What should I do? (link)
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well...i understand that you would rather go to this other party & i know it's a tough decision. But sometimes we make sacrifices for people we care about. It's you boyfriend's birthday. It's his special day. Shouldn't you be spending it with him? It's not your fault your friends dont like him but if they dont, then they need to understand that they're making you make a tough decision. Go and be with your boyfriend :]
Hope that helped.
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ah ok.where do i begin,alright well me and my ex-boyfriend had been going out on and off for like 5 months.on memorial day he dumped me.He said he wanted to still be friends but just didnt like me like me and wanted to be single for summer.i got over it fast, but im not sure about him.On the last to days of school he kept starring at me ALLLLLL day,didnt talk to me,passed me a note about the brake up like saying he wants us to be friends a lot still,and he got jelous of me flirting with other guys(i could tell).and when one of my best friends thats a guy came to my house to get something he was like trying to get him to get away from me.he flirts with me alot still and im pretty much over him and he dumped me so what should i do?i dont no what to say to him about it.PLESAE HELP!!!i rate!
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You cant really do anything. Let him do what he is doing. You both know that the relationship is over, this is just how he is reacting to it. However, dont flirt back. That will make him think you're still interested and the last thing you want to do is lead him on when you've moved on. It will get better, i promise.
Good luck.
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I recently sent some pictures to a male friend of mine. They were of me dressed up as a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding. Well I looked REALLY nice- normally I'm just a casual person. I had my hair done; makeup on; and a beautiful strapless empire gown on. I also had been dieting before the wedding and was slim and trim. Well I just got an email from him. He said that I looked awsome and that he could barely recognize me all dressed up; then he thanked me for the pics and said they were GREAT! My question is do you think he's attracted to me by what he said? (link)
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Well, you were dressed up so who knows. He was probably attracted to your pictures. But you need to let him see the you without the make up and without you in a strapless empire dress to see if it's your looks he's attracted to, or your personality.
Hope that helped a little.
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So there is this kid i like, a lot. we are in the same school, and a couple of the same classes. he and i are both scorpio, and we get along great. we have so much fun together! tonight, i was txting him, and he asked if i thought he should go out with anyone this year, and i said idk, so he said that he would like to go out with his ex, which made me a little jelous. then he told me all about how good he is with parents, and then he said, " who knows. maybe youll see it for yourself some day." so i asked what he ment, and he was like "idk." what do you all think?
thanks,
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As for the comment he made about his ex, guys never think before they say things. That's why they have girls to keep them in line. But dont take it the wrong way. He didnt mean anything serious about it. And as far as the comment he made about you goes...i think he's trying to hint to you that he likes you or that you have a chance with him without actually saying it in those terms. Keep talking to him about it, but dont get too carried away with it. Who knows? Ya'll might wind up hooking up. Good luck.
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13/f well there is this guy i went out with for like 1 year and we broke up but that was a while ago and we always flirt but lately he seems to be liking this other girl. but its weird because these past few days have been different he seems to be talking to me and when i tried to pass through the isle to my seat at school he blocked the way and it was just flirty and he is talking to me alot and stares me but he is my ex. he broke up with me but now i think he likes me. and i really like him alot because he is hott and i like the way he acts. so is that common? i wonder if he likes me? why did he break up with me then? help soon because i rate 5's for good advice!!!! (link)
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Well...he broke up with you because he obviously saw something in you (or thought he saw something in you) that he didnt like. So now he's flirting and realizing he made a mistake. I couldnt tell you if he likes you or not, but i say flirt back. What could it hurt? If he winds up asking you out again, dont hesitate to say yes. He's giving you a second chance. Dont question it, enjoy it :]
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