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how do i tell him that.........
14/f...ive been going out with my boyfriend for about three weeks and his birthday is on the last day of school. One of my friends is throwing an end of school party on the last day of school (his bday). I can't bring him to the party because ALL my friends don't like him at all; they won't let me bring him basically. We've already talked about his birthday but I haven't had the courage to tell him that I would rather go to my friends party but I don't know how to tell him. What should I do?
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dont listen to your friends- what are they going to do?- kick you two out because they dont like him?- iftheyre real friends at all- then they wont care who youre going out with.
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i understand what you are saying...BUT DONT LEAD HIM ON!! You dont want him thinking you are going to hang out with him if you arent and you dont want your friends thinking you are going to the party if your not.
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I think I would have to tell my friend this...
I'm sorry but that is my boyfriends birthday and we are spending the day together. Since you choose not to get along with him and we ARE a couple, I'm sorry I won't be able to come.
If you would rather go to the friends house, then maybe you don't care enough about the boy.
It happens. :)
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How do I,
Ahhh...this is a great learning moment and an opportunity for you to discover who and what is important thing to do. Ask yourself this question...what's the right thing to do? You obviously know that ditching your boyfriend on his birthday wouldn't be nice. I think maybe this moment is allowing you to assess what is more important to you. Here's a few questions to ask yourself...do you care for your boyfriend despite how your friends feel? If yes...then you should put his feelings as a priority since it is his birthday a special day. Also think of this...how would you want to be treated, if the situation was reverse? The only other honorable option for you to do is be honest with your boyfriend about the situation...but I wouldn't recommend this option, unless you know he wouldn't be hurt from it.
Sometimes doing the "right" thing may not seem at the time the most fun...but I promise you...it is a growing moment and you will become much wiser because of it.
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well...i understand that you would rather go to this other party & i know it's a tough decision. But sometimes we make sacrifices for people we care about. It's you boyfriend's birthday. It's <b>his</b> special day. Shouldn't you be spending it with him? It's not your fault your friends dont like him but if they dont, then they need to understand that they're making you make a tough decision. Go and be with your boyfriend :]<br>
Hope that helped.<br>
♥ Me
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Ask your boyfried to postpone for a day.
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Awww..I know what you mean. This is a tough decision, but personally, I would spend the time with your bf. After all, it is his birthday, you want to make it special. I understand you want to go to that party, but sometimes you can't always do exactly what you want. Your friends aren't going to get mad at you if you don't come to the party, there will be other people there. However, if you ditch your bf on his birthday, there might be a problem. Avoid that problem and just hang with him. Plan something sweet and fun, then you'll forget about the party altogether. If you need ideas, you know where to find me. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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