Hi, my name is Katie and I'm 15 years old. In those fifteen years I've literally been through more than most people go through in their entire life. I absolutely love helping people, and I've been told by many people that I'm good at it. I'll definitely love to give you advice, but I'm telling you right now I will say what I think, I'm not going to sugar coat everything or tell you what you want to hear just so you'll give me good ratings. So if you have any questions, about anything at all, just ask away, I'd be more than happy to help =]
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i say making-out is kisssing for moree than maby 10 seconds but my boyfriend said that making-out is kissing and touching each other while your kissing.he'se convinced of his side but im very sure im right i just wanna make sure. (link)
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Making out isn't strictly just anything. Basically it's kissing for a long time, usually it involves touching, rubbing, feeling.. etc. It doesn't have to though.
-Katie
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Im Thirteen, and im a female.
Im going into 8th grade, and this
guy i like is going into 9th.
We like each other, but im having troubles
trying to get to where I..trust him
I guess you can say. He's had a past
girlfriend, who im very very good friends
with. And they well.. went out for about
two years and had sex. And Me and Him
just recently broke up from like just a one
month relationship, i broke up with him.
And I here him & my friend he had a past
relationship with had started talking,
and said they still love each other,
but im suppose to not know that, so i cant
confront him or her about it. And he says
I love you. And i say i love you too, or
the other way around. All over text.
We do not whatsoever seem to ever talk on
the phone.
So i guess what im asking is,
how do i control all these feelings of
knowing they have a past relationship,
and knowing they have recently talked about
it. Although he says he loves me.
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Well he's lying to one of you girls. Either he loves you, or her. I think the best thing to do in this situation is to just tell him you heard him and her talking and see what he says. Honesty is seriously the best thing to do in relationships. It'll all come out in the end anyway. Talk to him and let him know how you feel about everything.
Do that and come back to me if you have any problems!
Good luck!
-Katie
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i have this best friend, who is a guy and i really like him. but i keep trying to forget him because he doesnt like me in that kind of way. the problem is that he makes it seem like he does so much and my friend kate tells me she thinks he does based on how he acts. i wish he wouldnt confuse me so much because he led me on in this way twice already and he never really liked me.
the other day i saw him and he said he had made me a bracelet out of staples because he got bored. then i left early that day so he and kate were talking and he said out of nowhere..."does sam like me?" and then kate said "why do you ask? do you like her?" and he said "no." so then kate said "she doesnt like you either." and that was the end of that. but then yesterday he and i were on the phone and i couldnt really hear what he ws saying. my phone is crappy. i thought i heard him say "i like you." but then i said "no you dont. you hate me." [i was just playing around though cuz i always say i hate him haha]
but the thing is i dont want to believe he likes me. and i dont want to ask him if he does. he told me he didnt like me 3 weeks ago and why would he like me now? i can handle being best friends because i love him a lot [not in love with him just love him] but how do i know how he feels? even when all the signs are there he doesnt like me because hes done the same exact thing 2 times and its not like he means to. thank you so much!
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That does seem a bit complicated. The best I can say, since I can't even seem to tell if he likes you, is to wait it out. If he asks you out then he likes you, lol. Tell him no if you don't want to go out with him.
-Katie
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my ex boyfriend is telling
people that im a bad kisser,
and that i dont know "how" to make out .
i've made out with more then one person already,
and no one has ever said anything about the way i make out.
is it just him, or do i really suck at life ?!
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Okay, no offense, but your boyfriend sounds like a complete ass.
He just needs to shut his mouth, if he really cared about you he wouldn't go running around telling everyone that you're a bad kisser.
Tell him how you feel about it. And let him know that your willing to work on your kissing so that it meets his standards. Ask him to teach you how to kiss so that he enjoys your makeout sessions as well.
-Katie
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I really need as much answers as possible.
To start off, I'm 16 Female and I have HIV. It got transmitted to me from my mom at birth, so it wasnt my fault what so ever!! So I've been dating this guy for a while now and I told him i have this HUGE secret, which i will tell him when im ready and in the beginning of our relationship, I tested the waters to see How he would handle the HIV situation. So I asked him, "what would you do if I had HIV?" and He replied "I'd still love you, and i would still have sex with you." So, I was SO relieved to hear that, I was happy that he would accept me and we'd still have a relationship without worry! And that was about 2 months ago!! Then last night I asked him Again what he'd do, and he replied "well, if we were getting married then yeah I would have sex with you, but if we werent getting married, then no i wouldnt have sex with you " SO i was SO upset! and said how low that was, because his answer was completetly different before, and i also told him that
"if he wouldnt accept me if i had HIV then he wouldnt accept my "secret" " because IT IS my Secret! but he doesnt know what my secret is. so then he said "well if it was some girl i didnt know and didnt love then no i wouldnt have sex with her but if it was you then I would." so I DONT KNOW WHAT I DO! should I tell him now and get it over with??!! Tell me answers!! HELP! and please dont say that i shouldnt have sex!! BECAUSE I DONT NEED THAT ANSWER!! I've made up my mind that i do want to have sex with him.
I really hope this makes sense! (link)
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Wow, this is difficult. Okay, first off I think you need to come completely honest with your boyfriend. He obviously deserves to know "your secret". Let him know that you have an HIV that was passed down from your mother and that you had no control over it whatsoever. Let him know how much he means to you, and talk about it with him. The talk could last an hour, it could last all night, it could last a week! But you need to get everything out in the open. Let him know that you're scared he won't have sex/love you anymore if he knows you have HIV. But I'm sure if he really loves you he'll stick it out and see a way around the situation. Who knows, you two may even end up married.
If he bails out on you then, who needs him right!? Why would you want to be with a guy who can't accept you and all the little quirks that come along with you? I'm sure your guy will make the right choice in the end.
You just really need to talk it out with him. Let him now. Face to face, not on the phone, myspace or at school around all of your friends.
Maybe you should have the talk this weekend together.
I wish you luck, and I hope everything works out for the best!!!
-Katie
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There is this girl jesse, and she is constantly flirting with my boyfriend! I am sooooo sick of it! cuase not only does she flirt with him she does it in front of me! my best friend told her to stop flirting with him and she's like, omg Amanda (that's me) need to stop being so over protective of him! then she said she's not even flirting with him! But the problem is she never stop flirting with him! she'll go up and start poking him in his sides and belly and will be all touchy on him and it just makes me uber mad! please tell me what i should do! cuase confronting her doesn't work!
Thanks,
Manders (link)
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Hey Amanda,
I can't tell you how annoying this is, but you seem to know ;)
Instead of talking to the girl, talk to your boyfriend. Get him to say something to her. If he won't, then you definitely need to put your foot down and keep your man!
Tell her to back off, and stop acting like such a whore.
-Katie
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well it seems like you have been through a lot and you know what you're talking about. my best guy friend is an amazing person. i dont know if i really like the whole idea of love since many people have done tarrible things to my self esteem in the past. i mean ive been hurt a lot in the past by people i thought that cared about me. this is the one guy that shows me how much he cares about me every single day, he makes me feel special. what can i say hes the only person who can make me laugh and i feel like he understands me, how can i not fall in love with him. and yet, i know that maybe the feelings will never be the same. a lot of people know that he isnt exactly sure about his sexuality. but he told me a while back that he wasnt sure before but that now he is strait. so i dont wanna believe the stupid rumors. i liked him before but he told me that he just wanted to be friends after leading me on. i dont know if he was trying to prove to himself that he wasnt gay by hitting on me or something but it really hurt me. and well i told him i didnt like him anymore and ever since we've become really close. but recently the feelings came back. somehow i like him again, if not love him. i wish he would be clear about his actions. he makes it seem like he likes me too. he hangs out with only me, talks less with his other friends (girls) to spend time with me, makes up pet names for me, and tells me he loves me on a regular basis. other people think that he likes me. my friends always get jealous because they wanna spend time with him too but hes always around me. and hes known them longer. im not sure how this happened. im not sure how he became my best friend, my everything. telling him how i feel would make matters worse. schools almost out and after this year high skool will seperate us so theres no hope for a relationship. my friends tell me that i do have a chance with him but i find it hard to trust others and myself. when im with him i laugh so much and he brings all this happiness into my life. how can i deal with these feelings without hurting myslef or ruining this friendship? thank you so much
btw 14/f
SAM (link)
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Wow, this is a tough one. I'm going to go ahead and tell you what I honestly think though.
I think that if this guy really likes you, then he'll make a move soon. He might just be leading you on again, and that's so wrong to hurt you again like that. I'd say that you need to guard your emotions and your heart and don't tell him that you have feelings for him again. Some things are better left unsaid.
Just be flirty with him, and if he really likes you, then he'll me smart and talk to you about it.
I wish you the best of luck. I know this situation is hard to deal with, I've been through it, and I actually told the guy I liked him the second time. It ended up horribly, so I hope things are better for you!
-Katie
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ok well I'm 13 and I had never really french kissed anyone before last night. I was completely honest with my boyfriend and told him that I wanted to so we frenched. he knew I had no idea what I was doing and I still don't! He said that was pretty good for my first time! But I don't know what I am doing! what the heck and I soposed to do with my tongue? please help!!!
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It's different for everyperson, but whenever I makeout with a guy it's a totally different experirence from the last guy. So I just let the guy lead, I imitate whatever he's doing with his tongue.. whether he uses it alot or barely uses it at all. I think slow, light tongue kisses are the best personally ;]
If you really want to wow your guy, when you pull away from a kiss gently pull on his bottom lip with your lips as you pull away.
It feels good, for both the girl and the boy, and it'll amaze him since you're not an expert kisser.
Good luck and happy kissing!
-Katie
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This may seem like a stupid question..but when you kiss someone, like a boyfriend, are you supposed to feel something? You know what I mean.. (link)
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Do you mean physically or emotionally?
OKay, physically.. of course you're going to feel something when you're kissing someone! You're mouths are going to be together, and if you're kissing with tongue then you'll feel that.
Mentally, if you are attracted/going out with the person you are kissing I'm sure you're going to feel something. If you don't then you've probably become slowly un-attracted to the person, does that make sense?
-Katie
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My closest female friend is always with me. We spend alot of time together. More recently when we are alone we just talk and look giddly at eachother. When laughing, she tends to lean on me and if a song or somthing comes on and we're not talking, she'll lay her head across on my lap (we're in a car). She may even move my hand so that I am holding her, and she gently takes my hand. When we are talking like this or just looking at eachother we are very close (physically). I dont know if she would want me to kiss her, in fact I think about it all the time! Whenever there is an awkward silence and we just gaze at eachother instead of doing anything we just laugh giddly. I am so unsure of what she wants. I know what I want ;-). I would have no problem hooking up with her at the every impulse or at least whenever I read the situation that asks for it. But I don't know if that is what she wants too. I don't want this to be awkward but the constant punding of my head with this confusing situation is driving me crazy! I can't just say, "hey want me to kiss you" because that would destroy any mood at the moment, and who knows! Maybe she is just expecting me to kiss her, and know what she wanted. what does she want, why won't she just say "kiss me" if she really wanted me to. Does that mean she wants to keep the relationship the way it is currently?! Should I just make the move at her and see what happens (We have hooked up before, but she always initiates). It's not that i'm afraid or anything, I just have no 'friggen clue what she wants!
*please also, don't say talk to her about it. because i've tried this. doesn't turn out properly.
so - do i make the move when i think she wants me to kiss her? even though she really hasnt made any suggestion that she wants it
any help at all is much appreciated (link)
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It sounds like she's into you.
Go for it =]
-Katie
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okay, if me and my boyfriend started going out on march 17, 2007, then when is our 1 month anniversery? is it april 17th, or is it before? can you count the days, because everytime i try i get a different number. (link)
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One month will be on April 17.
Whenever you're doing month anniversaries don't count the numbers because every month has a different number of days. Just take the number day, in your case 17, and go to the next month.
Your month anniversaries will always be on the 17th of whatever month.
-Katie
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months, but we've been great friends for over a couple of years. We're very close, and he is very close to my family. However, he won't introduce me to his family. He's had girlfriends before and a few of them met his parents, but he just tells his dad he's "out with friends" when we're together. Its hard sometimes, because my family loves him and its embarressing to tell them he won't introduce me to his family. I'm not sure what to do, he says not to worry about it. I've tried talking to him about it so many times, but nothing works. He usually makes up some sort of excuse.
What should I do? (link)
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Tell him it's really important to you to meet his family. That since you two are a serious couple you want to get to know his parents and/or siblings. Obviously this guy means something to you, so his family should be in your life I think.
Try to find out if there is a reason(s) why he won't introduce you. It's kind of wierd that he won't since you've been dating for a few months.
Good luck.
-Katie
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13/f
ok well I really really really like this guy. I'm not going to see him (on a regular basis, like i mgiht run into him once or twice) until july. Also, he's a few years older than me and it probably won't turn into anything.
I also like this other guy. He's my age and we're pretty good friends, but he's like IN LOVE with this other girl, and i'm really not his type anyway.
Which one should i go after?
How should i go after them?
Thanks! (link)
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Okay, realistically, nothing is going to happen between either of two from the way it sounds. The first guy you aren't going to see much of and he's older than you so probably the only thing he would want from you is sex or anything sexual. You probably think differently and have some romantic fantasy going on in your head, but realistically nothing will happen.
If you were going to go after one of them, then make it the second guy. He may not be your type, but most relationships are like that. Ever heard the phrase "opposites attract"? But if he's IN LOVE with another girl, then I don't know what to say.
If you think you've got a shot then go for it!! Flirt, hug, do whatever you've got to do but be yourself. But if you think you'd be just wasting your time then move onto another guy.
-Katie
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so, there is a guy in my class, and his name is Michael. i REALLY like him! he ism cute and REALLY funny and he is the nicest guy in the class. but i am sad because i know that he will probably neveer like me. i know this because i can tell he likes talisha (my friend). he alsways talks to her and hardly ever me. i dnt care that he talks to her, i just wish he would talk ot me sometimes. i talk to him alot and he talks to me bak but he wouldnt start a conversation. i only met him last here and he knows talisha from ages ago.
PLEAE ANSWER MY QUESTION:
how can i get him to like me more? (link)
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The cold, hard fact is you can't make someone like you. If someone doesn't have feelings for you then you can't make them change their minds.
Imagine some wierd kid you think is gross really liking you. Would you go out with him out of sympathy? Nope, so it's the same way with Michael. I'm not saying your wierd and gross, I'm just setting an example for you.
I know this isnt' what you wanted to hear, but I think the best thing is to move on.
-Katie
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:(hello again everyone
i have another question
at school in my class, we play truth or dare when the teacher doesnt look. when we play we play it pretty bad, we say stuff like "i dare you to touch Jakes balls" or soome thing like that, it is really embarassing and stupid, but we have fun still. when it gets around to me having a turn and i have to kiss some one they always say stuff like "why does she have to kiss ME?" and stuff like that. But if another girl had to do it, for example : talisha, natasha or Stacey. the boys would probably turn their heads so they girls kiss their lips. and i think i know why. i think it is because i am not really that pretty and i have NO boobs, every girl in my class has boobs, except for me. and i hate it sooooo bad. i wanna scream out loud and tell the boys to get over the fact that i was dared to kiss or touch them.
what should i do? and should i worry about it sooo much?:( SORRY FOR THIS BEING SOO LONG lol... (link)
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I know how you feel. I'm not pretty, and my boobs aren't as big as the other girls either. So I know exactly what you're going though.
Just act like it doens't bother you, even though it's hard because it bothers you alot and you probably think about this all the time.
Next time you're dared to do something, turn the tables around. Start complaining about the guy and not let him complain about you. It'll really blow their minds :D
-Katie
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how can i talk a girl into kissing me and plz give helpful advise thank you
p.s. im 13 year old boy (link)
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Well, first off I think she should be going out with you. I don't think you can really "talk a girl into kissing you". It's just not likely to happen unless you two are involved in a relationship. And if you are dating, then you should kiss her first.. she's actually probably waiting for it! So the sooner the better! =]
-Katie
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14/m My friend is a year older than me and has a boyfriend, but she likes me and is not sure whether to break up with him and date me or not. So what do I do...? (link)
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Well, I don't think it's up to you to do anything. It's ultimately her descision. Just let her decided what she wants, and be there for her whatever choice your friend makes.
-Katie
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i loved my ex-bf when we were dating. but now i love my current bf even more. i've been talking to my ex and trying to find out who he likes and i just realized how upset/jealous i'd be if i saw him with another girl. but then i wondered who he felt everytime he saw me with my bf or everytime i spent hours talking to him about problems i had with my bf. i feel so guilty and like im not being totally loyal to my bf who has never cheated on me in any way. wat should i do? (link)
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It's natural to still have some feelings left over for a boy that you once dated. It's natural to feel jealous and upset for another girl going after him. But you're happy now right? You're moving on already because you have a new boyfriend who you love alot. So it's all a natural process of getting over someone. You're already on the right path, just let things continue on the way they are going and everything will be fine.
Good luck!
-Katie
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hi i haven't really had any male role models in my life and its awkward showing my boyfriend affection..
how do i get more comfortable? (link)
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I always have problems getting close to guys too when I'm dating them. Even though I do have a male role model in my life, my dad.
If you're like me then you probably watn to be close with him, but every time it comes down to the alone time together things get akward?
Just express your concerns to your boyfriend, and I'm certain he'll understand. Tell him why you feel uncomfortable with him, and take things slow.
-Katie
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what does play hard to get means? is it like leading someone on? (link)
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Not exactly. Leading someone on means that you are making them believe you have feelings for them when you actually do not. That's a pretty mean thing to do to someone and could really end horribly. I don't reccomend leading anyone on.
Now playing hard to get is a whole new ballgame! It means that you want the person.. they like you and you like them back. You could act like your interested.. but that it doesn't bother you if they don't like you. Flirt with him/her, but also sort of make it seem like they can't get you. Play hard to get. The name says it all. But don't play hard to get for too long, guys (and girls) like a challenege but if it takes them too long to get you, then they'll just give up.
-Katie
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