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hey, im jane and i love helping people out with their problems even though sometimes i can't help myself and trust me i've been through a lot so i won't judge you with anything that you ask me. anyway i love giving advice to those people who need someone to tell they're problems to. so ask me a question and i'd be happy to answer. c:
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My boyfriend has just gone away for just three days!Even so,I'm already missing him as if he had gone a year ago,or as if he had gone for a year,I cannot focus on my things,I'm thinking about him all the time,I'm going mad,it's not normal,what can I do till he comes back to hug me and kiss me?thanks:)
I know it's hard, but your really should just stop thinking about it. maybe hang out with your friends more often or do stuff that you like instead of continuously thinking about him. just think that another gone by is another day closer to seeing him again.
Hello everyone thanks for taking the time to read this!Well right now i like this guy that is 19 and graduated high school i am 17. He was the shy kid in the back wall all time.He never talked unless he was spoken to and always seemed depressed. i talked to my guy friend in that class most of the time and that friend sat next to the guy i liked obviously my guy friend didn't know i liked him but it was because at that time i wasn't sure if i even liked him. he was way too quiet and i almost gave up on him until he brought his skateboard in the class and my guy friend asked him to show him some tricks and well i commented that he was good of course he answered with thanks but even that made him shy. well eventually we talked more.He was less shy and we got to know each other but one day he asked for my number well i did and from there we text we talked about our personal experiences with life. He asks me for advice about things like opinions and i guess i always helped him boost his confidence to even make more friends.He felt comfortable talking to me. We even hanged at a skate park once one of my friends came along and he said he didn't want my friend to get the wrong idea about him and me going out and well that sucked its hard to tell if hes like a friend or more were even hanging again...
Well if you have a wonderful friendship like that maybe you should just leave it alone and not try to make a whole new relationship. Sometimes making a friendship become more could just ruin it. For now maybe you could just try to be there for each other as friends and when you feel like theres more to that then talk to him and see where your relationship goes.
I am still in love with my wife but she is with another man while we are still married what should I do I dont want to divorce her but I dont know what to do
Well i really think you should have a divorce. It will obviously hurt but at least you'll have a chance to meet someone new. Try to move on and be happy for them. And find a way to make yourself happy. Try dating again, give yourself a chance to find someone better.
I have been going out with this boy for 1months now,but I still love my ex boyfriend,we were together for 6months but I found out I was being used cause he didn't like being lonely,he broke up with me about 4times in them 6months saying he didn't love me and that but I was stupid enough to go back to him,cause I loved him,now I'm going out with a new guy,he was my ex's best friend:-/ I'm not going out with him for spite or anything like that,but I do love my new boyfriend he treats me better but I still love my ex:-( he is always flirting with a girl now she's 4 years younger than him and 2years younger than me and she's always telling me that she loves him so much,what should I do:-( I love my new boyfriend so much but I still love my ex:-( help!
if you know that you love your bf now then try to stop thinking about your ex. do more stuff with your new bf and give him a chance. let go of your past and start paying attention to the present. don't mind that girl and your ex. just try to be happy for them and try to be happy with the guy your with. ;)
I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 20. He means the absolute world to me. He is, hands down, the sweetest guy I've ever known. However, he's black.
My dad was perfectly fine with that fact that I had a boyfriend, until I told him that he's black. He won't even give him a chance. My dad knows that my boyfriend is important to me, but all he does is complain.
I told him that if he's just going to act this way, then I'm not so sure I want him around. He said that that was his plan and that if we ever get married or have children, he won't be there for us or for his grandchildren.
It's really upsetting me that my dad is doing this. I'm not too sure what to do. Help?
you could talk to him about how you feel. tell him everything that you want him to know and tell him that if he loves you then he'll respect your decisions. it's really hard to choose between the person you love and your family, but if you can't let your bf go then just give your dad a little more time and space to think about it. i'm sure in time he'll have to accept it.
Okay, so I've been engaged for about 8 months. My fiance and I have been together for almost two years. Lately, I've developed trust issues with my fiance and I feel as if I'm losing a lot of our connection, and it hurts a lot. My fiance's best friend, who is one of my closest friends as well, has been there for me, and when we all go out together, I feel like I don't even want my fiance there. I think I'm developing feelings for my fiance's best friend. It sucks because I know we could never be together, and I'm still in love with my fiance, but I also have feelings for our friend. I'm so confused, I don't know how to handle this! Help? Please and thank you!
well you could try spending more time with your fiance first instead of his best friend. maybe you guys just need more time with each other or you could try to stay away from his best friend for a while and see how that works out.
i need help finding a guy who likes me ( i am a tomboy).
simpliest advise i could give is be yourself (well as a girl), just try talking to guys that you like and hang out with them. have a conversation with them and try to get to know them better. i'm sure they'll like you for who you are.
So there's this guy and I have had a crush on him all of my life and now he has a girlfriend. Is it a bad idea to tell a guy how you feel even if he has a girlfriend that he really likes?
Thank you to everyone in advance!!!
it's not really a bad thing but if you're going to tell him, you should be prepared to accept the answer he tells you. but if i were you, i wouldnt tell him right now. maybe just wait for the right time.
So that guy I met on the interenet over 6 months ago, ( we meet once ) has really really liked me but then he kinda seemed uninterested, (but we were still talking) in last few weeks so I said that I'm ending things with him as I'm tired of feeling like I'm bothering him, and he hasn't replied to me yet. Is it possible that he will miss me,( even if he did lose interest in me) when were talking every single day, and had plans for the future, his friends really liked me and so on? I kinda regret I said that now, but I feel like I've done the right thing. What you guys thing?
Any reason why would he not replay to me :/?
honestly, i think your right. maybe he has lost interest in you. but, don't feel bad or don't regret what you told him. it was the right thing to do since he was treating you like that. their are many men out there who would love to have someone he could talk to everyday and won't make her feel like she's bothering him. just don't regret anything that you did if you know you were right.
Hi,
Ok so I'm nearly 17.
I go to college and therese this guy who I'm not sure likes me. Firstly we're both very quiet and shy so thats why I'm unclear.
Like sometimes I'll look up and he'll be looking at me, and although we don't speak to each other he does mutter stuff to me pointlessly when handing out class papers and stuff.
I think he's 18 and nearly 19 and I'm only 16 still. But do you think this is a kind of turn off?
well age doesnt really matter once you like someone. you should just go and talk to him sometimes. it's not a bad thing to like someone older than you, it's pretty normal. just give it a shot. you'll never know unless you try.
I have had a huge crush on this guy since high school, but we never talked to eachother,he was basically my senior in high school we would see each other but we never said hello... Right Now I am in my 3rd year in the university, his not in my school, and I just got his blackberry contact from a friend and I added him up and he accepted but I don't know how to start a conversation with him, I feel like he may just turn me off, and I have liked him since then this shit won't go away pls what should I do
just message him and say hi. you could simply introduce yourself and start a conversation with him. maybe you could ask him to hang out with you sometimes, and if he does turn you down or something then just leave it at that.
I'm 17/f. I see all my friends have long-lasting relationships and they go everywhere with their boyfriends and they're happy. I've never had that. My "relationships" were all about sex pretty much. I have quite a past of guys that I thought made me happy, but really I look back and I've never had a good relationship. I'm attractive, have a good personality, have a promising future, and I can get along with any type of person. What's wrong with me? I'm almost 18 and I'm sick of feeling like I've been used.
I honestly don't even want a relationship with sex in it because I'm sick of it. I've never been on a date and I've never had a fun time with a guy that didn't involve sex. And thinking about it makes me mad. Why can't I have that? I want to stop doing the same things.
And now I like another guy and I have a bad feeling that it will turn out the same as my past relationships. How can I have a good relationship with someone? Please help. Thanks in advance.
maybe you should stop worrying so much about that. theres always that one special guy who will come in to our lives and make us happy. you don't have to rush in relationships cause you could just end up getting hurt. And, this guy maybe you should give him a chance. make him work hard to get you. i'm sure if he really likes you he'll make an effort to show it.
I have had a crush on the same guy all my life (and no, that is not a dramatic exaggeration) and now, he has a girlfriend. I am surprizingly not bothered by this, why? All I really care about is if he's happy. Does this mean I've given up?
well it doesnt really mean you've given up. it just simply means that you love him so much that seeing him happy even with another girl makes you happy. you love him in a way that you want him to be happy with whoever he wants. it's really normal when you love someone, that the only thing that counts is they're happiness.
14/f i've liked this guy for about a year. i was going through really hard shit with my family and everything a year ago and he helped me through it. last year we just started talking, i have a lot of guy friends so it wasnt unusuale i didnt even like him like that in the beginning. but i started realizing we have a lottt in common. even our signs go together perfectly. but at the time i was really self conscious and i knew people were going to start to notice that we were becoming more than friends. usually i wouldnt care because i dont give a fuck what people think about me, but at the time it affected me. so thats when i started liking him. and im pretty sure he liked me too. but his ex girlfriend is this popular girl who is such a jelous person and is just demented. so i was having a hard time with friends and family. so i thought oh you know what i respect her as a person im not going to date her ex boyfriend. but in reality thats just crazy becase she had stopped dating him for about 8 monthes and she wasnt even my friend. i relaized i should've picked him over her for sure, because me and him would i guarantee still be going out. so i jusft started ignoring him and i could tell it hurt him that i wouldnt give him a hug and talk to him, it hurt me too and i did it anyway. and i totally regret trying to push him away. so then going into this year, 8th grade we didnt have a lot of classes together like we did last year and we dont sit next to each other like we did last year. so it makes it hard for me to to talk to him. but about 2 monthes ago our class was going to the computer lab and i called him over and was like hey sit next to me and as he was walking over he looked really puzzled hes like why? im like idk bc i feel like we havent talked in awhile and he said something like oh well im going to sit over there, and he sat with his friends. im like wtf? it never crossed my mind that he would reject me. but then again thats what i put him through for a year. i wanted to cry and punch my computer screen because it really hurt me. i thought if he had sat down i would have been like hey whats up what are you up to? and eventually saying look i know we havent talked in awhile but im sorry for pushing you away i feel really bad about it, but no he didnt even want to sit down. but he also now gives me alot of mixed signals like saying hi to me occasionally when its convenient for him but he goes up to other girls and hugs them like he used to do to me. but i think hes also scared of me a little bit becasue i come off as this very tough girl and not afraid to tell you how it is and hes a little more sensitive and hes tried so many times that i think hes given up. but i guess the good thing is he wont ignore me he still says hi. i know that if we talk more or if we have more classes next year i know our relationship is still there we just need to work on it, and i need to say im sorry. i mean i have his number, but we havent texted in over a year, were not close anymore and that would just be awkward. and i dont know if should just go up to him and tell him how i feel or what. im really confused and scared. i mean on the other hand i think he'll accept my apology but im still nervous. what to do?? thankyouuu
well first of all don't mind his ex. if your in love with each other go for it.
okay, well i really think you should go up and talk to him. when theres not to many people come up to him and ask him if you guys could talk. if he doesnt want to then just tell him to listen to what you have to say, and if he doesnt response then just leave it at that. at least you told him how you felt and he knows.
Okay so I've seen the answers to a previous question that I asked. in my eyes I think that I am very mature for my age. It's really not a good thing of why, but I've been through more than an average 20 year old has went through. I've been abused and misused over and over agian. When I lost my stepdad it's ike everything got worst. I started having sex with any and every man that wanted to. I let them take advantage of me and kept letting it happen. I met a guy my age and we stayed together for like four months until he thought that i was pregnant then he left me without any last words or anything. I stopped looking for love and stayed to myself. Then in July of 2010 I met my current love. We didnt start dating right away. We just talked all the time and hung out alot. He was and still is my best friend, then we started dating as of November 17, 2010. I fell hard for him and he showed me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me every day from that day. Here's the catch though: He's 25 (as I stated earlier) and i'm 17 (18 in july)People call him a pedophile but I don't see how (well i know how) but he's not off or anything. PLEASE HELP!
Don;t listen to what other has to say. the hell with their opinions. if he loves you and you know you love him and if your happy with each other than go for it and don't mind the people around you.
I met a man through friends and we have been dating for the last ten months , in that time we have gone from being best friends to tolerating each other. I love him but im not sure whether I want to keep it going. We have spilt up a few times and always got back together stronger but this last episode has just crushed me. i had a party on Sunday and a few people told me that my BF was oggling my best friend now shes a big girl and they are on display so i took no notice but then I caught him doing it and then to top it off another member of my family told me if my BF had the chance he would get in with my best friend (Happily Married) when I asked him he didnt say no he just muttered something about maybe not. I told my friend what he had done and she was embarrassed and upset about it. I have to decide do I carry on or do I let it go ??? I am suffering with the menopause at the moment and seriously think I am losing my mind !!!!!! Can someone give me some advice before I do loose my mind
if you think your BF is not capable of being loyal to you anymore then you should just let it go before he really does something that will seriously hurt you. being happy with him is nonsense if you feel that he's gonna do something wrong or if your unhappy with him. confront him with your feelings and talk it out and then decide if you still want to be with him or not.
So I have worked things out with my boyfriend after a terrible situation we both went through,I wanted so much to sort things out with him once again so we had a second chance,but now that everything seems to be right again,I feel like I'm not that happy anymore with him and just think that it'd be best if we just finished our relationship,help?I just don't know what to do since I know this is not quite normal.
Actually it is just quite normal for you to feel that way. You guys had a second chance at love and you just don't feel the same anymore. maybe i would give it another week and if you feel like you really want to end it then tell him frankly.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. He changed so much. He doesn't text me in the morning to say "good morning". Or at night if we are having a short conversation on text he just disappears without saying goodnight. I don't even get an explanation the next morning. When I do the same thing he gets mad. But I told him how I felt. I told him that I feel no affection from him at all. I am the one that does these things that I wish he would do. Simple things. I also just don't trust him due to him talking crap about me to one of my close friends. I ended the relationship because things are just not the same anymore. He doesn't motivate me with anything that I want to do. Its very annoying. And for some reason I would rather hang out with my friends than him. What could all these feelings mean? By the way he is 21 and im 19
Well it just simply means that you don't love him anymore and that the spark between the both of you is gone. It was the right decision for you to end your relationship cause it looked like it was going no where anyway. So just go find someone who will give you more effort and who will love you more than you'll love him. You deserve BETTER :)
i am so head over heels with a guy who i get long really well with he dosn't notice me when he is with his friends but he and i have a good time when they aren't there and he already said i would never go out with her to one of the other girls i was crushed but then at lunch he was helping me and having a great time counting tokens i no it is so stupid couting tokens for a school libery but yea i jnust dunno what to do about it.
plese help me.
Sometimes, it's just much better to accept the relationship you have with each other as friends. try not to show him that you like him so much and just be happy with what you guys have. And don't worry if he never notices you when he's with his friends (boys are just like that). Besides, if he told someone that he wouldnt go out with you maybe he just wants you guys to be friends. you just have to accept that.
hi i'm a 17 year old female, about to be 18 in july. my boyfriend is 18, turning 19. anyways, we've had quite the past where before he was really very bad to me, lying all the time talking to other girls. but now everything is better (that happened over a year ago). but i can't seem to get over the trust issue, i try really hard but i can't help it that little things make me upset and i easily get jealous. he's in the marines so i never get to see him, and i get a little worried when he goes out to the bars with his friends, and i worry his friends will talk him into going to the club since that's something they all like to do. i'm more worried about girls going after him, than him going after someone else, but still. okay, so i kind of like to know who he's friends with on facebook, and this is my problem currently...but he added a girl i didn't like so i asked him to delete her, so he did, there was no problem. but then she magically appeared on his friends again...so i got a little ticked off, cause obviously he approved this, and i asked if he could remove her again, so he did. but now he's hiding his friends from me.. is it because i'm too controlling? or is he hiding things from me? i don't care that he has girl friends, it just depends on the girl, like some random girl i wouldn't be okay with, or a slut that i know of, or a girl who has a history of trying to ruin our relationship (she happens to fall in the last two categories) i just don't want to push him away, but i'm curious as to why he did this? i want to ask him but i don't want him to get pissy. we're usually really open, and we've been together almost 2 years now. thank you for your help! sorry for the length haha
I don't blame you for getting jealous and ticked off sometimes because he has a bad past. Anyway as you said you guys are very open with each other so maybe it's best if you be straight with him and tell him how you feel. if he gets pissy and all then let him know that your just worried that he'll be what he was before.
Also, you should just give a little trust whenever he goes out with his friends. if he really loves you i'm sure he won't do anything stupid to hurt you.