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Heyy my name is kayla and im brunette medium toned skin im 13 i LOVE music uhh HAD a boyfriend and i have been through alot of experiences so i could give you great advice you never know cuz it might have happened to me so please ask away and ill be sure to answer you

im usually best at LoVe SiTuAtIoNs cuz ive been through some bad ones and my past one was the best on i ever had and its a funny story the way my past one and i ended up together so i can help you in that area!

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You are like soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
hot!!! luv ya (kiss kiss)
from ur stalker

uhh hi uhhh thanks lol it would be great to find out who you are thanks

hey i jsut want to kno wut up and also i dont kno y i pick this topice but yeathat wasnt me about the hole kellen and andy thing but we need to kno who and talk to kelen but write back soon
rachel knoxcheeer

RACHEL AHH!!heyyy i know!! we better find out who wrote that cuz thats creepy i wrote back to that and was like hey bestest friend in the whole world!hmmm...omg i have to tell you and marissa a story today march 29th ull probobly already hear it by the time you read this lol welll ill talk to ya today love ya!-KaYyLa

I have liked this guy for a while and we have become pretty good friends...but only over the internet. we go to the same school and we know what the other looks like and we even say hi to each other sometimes. its really odd because i feel that i know him so well online but at school he's a total stranger. he hangs out with a weird group of guys and i noticed that all his previously girl friends r sluts, blond, and skinny (no offense to skinny blondes). i am a brunette and im definately not a barbie doll. i wouldnt consider myself ugly tho. i think that if he hung around with a different crowd he might like me. i noticed that he wont talk to me if hes with his friends. i think hes a really great guy with the wrong group of friends. i want to tell him me and him should hang out more in person, but i know his friends are going to say no to that. theres absoulutly nothing wrong with me. what do i do? sorry this is so long. i rate really great!

~ Loves a Guy in the Wrong Crowd ~

heyy I hope this helps I think that he does hang out with the wrong people if he is afraid of saying hi to someone in front of his friends. I think his friends maybe take self advantage of him but you should tell him you guys should start hanging out more and if his friends tell him somethings wrong with you then that guy is a fag for doing that. Alot people would say it's my choice and i will have whatever girlfriend i want.Ya know?well i hope i helped feedback please♥KaYyLa

Ok, Im in love with this girl Renee. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I went away with her for a weekend and I was really happy... she was really happy.. We kissed and stuff. We fell asleep in each others arms. The next day when we were heading home she was kind of distant. I noticed it and asked her if she was having second thoughts. she said she didnt like me as much as I like her and that the feelings the felt that night had gone away.. I still love her, deeply, I think about her all the time, and we still talk, but I dont want to love her but I cant help it and its killing me, I'm afraid if I stop loving her, I'll stop liking her all together, and I really dont want that to happen.. Im not entirely convinced that her feelings for me are gone, I think she is just hiding them, not wanting to be hurt... but I'd never hurt her!

What can I do? Should I just keep trying to get over her? Should I persist? Could my theorys be true that she is just hiding her true feelings? HELP!!

17/m

heyyy i hope this helps i dont know this girl but im sure she is just scared that you might hurt her i think thats what every girl goes through when they finally find someone they truly love but i think i agree with you that she might just be hiding her true feelings. I think she is just scared of whats to come. Maybe you should just spend time away from her for a while and see where things go from there. Hope I helped feedback please-KaYyLa

ok..i really like this guy ...he is perfect..but the only problem is that he is in 7th grade and im in 8th should that stop me from liking him?
-confused

if you really like him then there is no stopping you what so ever to like him. i mean look at 60 year olds goin out with 20 year olds THAT is a little wrong but nothing is wrong with liking a guy one year younger than you i hope i helped feedback please-KaYyLa

this guys keeps calling me prude. i just dont want to waste my first kiss on someone i dont care about. do you think i should just kiss someone and get it over with or just keep waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect guy. i am 14 years old. please help.

hey i say you dont listen to them and it's your choice if your waiting for that perfect guy and the perfect moment just tell those guys why do you care if im waiting for the right guy cuz dont you think i would have kissed someone already if i found him? my right guy is obviously not you so back off or soemthing like that but it's your desicion i hope i helped feedback please-KaYyLa

Okay. I like this guy and I know he likes me. The problem is, in school and on AIM he's always talking to this one other girl. (She has a boyfriend, soo..I know they can't go out) But it always makes me mood so mad, and I just hate him
the rest of the day. He can always tell when I'm mad, and asks "What's wrong?" and stuff, and I never know how to answer. I don't want him to think I'm like..a baby or something for feeling that way, so I never actually tell him. But, like, for instance. If it's a Saturday and we're at home talking on the computer, the other girl will put up an away message with something he said..and I realize that they're having such a more fun/interesting convo then we are. He makes himself be more fun when he talks to her, and that just upsets me so much. I don't know what to do, because a lot of days he's just the best..and we have so much fun, but whenever she's around I know it's gonna be a bad day.

wow i just went through the smae experience with my ex i got jealous of his best friend gracie and they kept on talking and talking and everyday when she came up behind him and hugged him id get overraged with jealousy and id have to run off soemwhere before he noticed but i know how you feel and i think you should just lay off it alittle or you could try and make him jealous the way i did ;-) i used my guy best friend and everytime he came up with gracie id come up with my guy best friend but i got one of my friends to ask him are you jealous of kayla and derek and hed say no there just friends and thats waht helped me there probobly just friends i hope i helped feedback please -kayla

hey i really like this guy but he only likes people that are pretty and i guess thats not me what do i do cuz i dont wanna change i just want for him to notice me! please help! but i mean its not really anything that we can do cuz its a boy and we dont think just like him.

heyy i hope this helps are you guys friends, you and him? If not get to know him and show off when you guys are hanging out. Eventually he will notice you I promise. If you guys are already friends maybe you should confront him saying "hey i dont know what youll think of what im about to say but i really do like you" but dont put yourself down like that. i dont know if your pretty or not but im sure you are (im not lesbian)lol but try to get to know him and maybe that will help and see where things go from there hope i helped feedback please-KaYyLa!

About a week after i start to like someone asks someone else out...its happened to the last 3 guys. I don't know what to do. The last one got dumped by the same girl that he had tryed to go out with a week before after 2 days (Which happened the last time he tryed to go out with her) and now i think he likes one of my best friends. Help me.

wow this is weird im practicaly going through the same situation me n' my ex had the best relationship imaginable but my firends and his friends hated eachother and we broke up and now hhe likes my best friend what i wanna know is does he know you like him? if he doesnt confront him about it and maybe that will change his whole perspective on this because if he doesnt know you like him how will you guys ever go out so i say you confront him. i hope it helped feedback please-kAyYlA

ok here it goes, sorry if its a little long. but i really need your help.

ok my friend well she went out with this guy, and she used to be like a good friend of mine, she used to say that like we are best friends and all, but really she was never my best friend.
so now her boyfriend broke up with her, but she sill loves him, and she said that she cant get over him, and that hes the only guy she can ever go back out with. now that guy told me that he likes me, i mean i dont know for sure but it really sound like it, cuz ok he told me he likes me and he always tells me " i love you" and i went to the movies, and he was there and he asked me to sit by him and he putted his arm around me and he kept telling me that he loves me and sutff like that, and he was askin me if i love him! he kissed me on the cheek. so than i called him like 2 days later, and he asked me who i liked and i kept asking him who he likes and he didnt want to answer until i did, so i didnt asnwer so by the end he asnwered and said that he likes me, and i said that i like him, and i think he was serious about it, because i told him to be serious. and i said well what do you want do about it? and he said if i asked you out would you back off on me for your friend? the girl he went out with! and i said i dont know. and i was like so wat do you want to do? and he said he has to think about it. now my other friends keep telling me that i like him, and they cant know that because i dont want my friend to know that i like her ex. and now she asked me if i liked him and i said "no" cuz she still likes him a lot! but i do, and i dont know does he like me to? and what should i do? its really annoying this whole thing.
SORRY ITS SO LONG.
but i really need help on this. thanks. i'll rate 5's.

heyy i hope this helps i think you have two options

1.chicks before dicks and maybe she wasnt your bestfriend but she considers you one and you have to decide would you rather lose a friendship or would you rather lose a guy when theres a million more guys out there that will win your heart one day but theres only one of her

2.you could try and talk it out with her see if its alright with her but dont get in afight over it talk it over calmly and see where things go from there.

i hope i helped feedback please

ok....i like this guy ALOT and he likes another girl....my best friend is trying to hook us up...i find out that he might end up liking me but he doesnt know me well enough....now i am really embaressed to see him in person...am i being too pushy?
- confused

heyy ur not being pushy at all but maybe your best friend should lay off a little but i think you should try and hang out with him more and you never know maybe you guys will end up together i went through the same experience my ex liked my best friend but me and him got closer and got to know eachother alott more and we ended up together and that was one of the best relationships ive ever had so just try and get to kknow him more and see where things go from there good luck hope it helped-kayla feedback please

f/13 im going out with this guy....lets call him bill. ok well i met bill at a convention thingy away from both of our hometowns. we got each others numbers and talked on the phone after we got back to our houses blah blah blah and now were going out. he lives about 2.5 hours away. now i was talking t this other guy who i recently went out with and ever since we broke up weve been pretty much best friends and talked on the phone all the time. he lives about 5 minutes away but he is moving about 30 minutes away(no biggie) lets call him fred. so im currently going out with bill right...and im was talking to fred on the phone and we still both love eachother more than anyone would believe and we got to talking about our relationship (i was thinking about dumping bill to go out with fred anyways) blah blah blah and i ended up asking fred out. of course he said yes and the problem now is that i have 2 boyfriends and ive never been the person that cheats. so what i want to know is how do i dump bill with out hurting his feelings and still be really good friends with him???? HeLp Me pLeAsE!!! ThAnX!

Heyy i hope this helps
i think you should IMMEDIATLY break up with "bill" before things get too out of hand. Since your already cheating on him you shouldnt lead him on. Maybe you should do it by saying listen my x, that i loved with all my heart,and i started talking the thing is we still love eachother i know this is hard to hear but i cant lead you on like this and hurt you even more i hope we can still be friends
maybe something like that i hope it helps feedback please

When my boyfriend and I talk on the phone, he always switches over to another call. Well with his phone I am able to hear the voices, and it's ALWAYS another girl's voice.. could he be cheating on me? How do I bring this up with him...

heyy well maybe its just a friend of his dont consider that possibility yet until youve talked to him about it but by bringing it up just say maybe im not trying to get into your personal life i was just wondering who it is you talk to on the phone when you switch over and im sure he will understand hope it helped
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My boyfriend of over a year used to treat me really bad, he'd ignore me and barely talk to me in school, but when id threaten to break up with him he'd be like do it do it and i would and he'd be the one gettin mad.. i dont understand how he'll let me do that and he wont care but after he gets mad becuase i did it. A girl wrote i love you on his hand and he acted like it was nothing but he wont let me write something on his hand. I do get jealous fast and he knows it, and i feel like he takes advantage of it. What should i do to make him appreciate me and make him say sweet things like he used to. I tell him to just break up with me if he doesnt care but he doesnt b/c he says he cares. I wish he would show it more ut how?

Hey i hope this helps it sounds like he does take advantage of your jealousy and I think you should try and talk it out with him one on one about it without threatining to break up with eachother cause that will take you nowhere if he says he cares tell him that you wont to see him caring more because it's hurting you hope that helped feedback please

Ok, I'm like head over heels in love with this one guy. I know, cliche. But i'm only 15, and he already is planning us getting married and all this stuff. Now, dont' get me wrong, i wanna marry him, but i dont' want him to start saying all this stuff and end up hurting me. So i'm having trouble telling him i love him, but he means the world to me. How do i tell him without the risk of gettin hurt?

If he is already talking about getting married he must love you with all his heart so i dont think you should worry about getting hurt tell him you love him because it seems like you guys love eachother alot hope it helps feedback please

Ok i like this girl who is going out with my best friend. I really like her a lot and i haven't told her that i do. What should i do?

I say you talk to your friend about it first but dont tell her straight off while she's going out with your best friend so talk to him about it first and see where things go from there i hope this helps good luck too who knows she might secretly like you too feedback please

Ok well Brett i/med me...my boyfriend and he said will you kiss me i dont no if it was a joke or if he was serious..i dont no what to say to him....help me!?

PLEASE Help,

Confused

haha i would PROBOBLY say why did you ask if you know I would but i dont know if you would lol but i hope that helps feedback please

14/f
OK well theres this kid at my school. (Hes in 10th im in 9th) Well we always got along because we have alot of the same friends and do one sport together. But I never really liked him that much untill we both started spending alot of time together. I really started to like him and he even kissed me once. Well after that we kinda stoped talking, but then one night we talked again and i started to like him again. He even asked to go to the movies. But I was talking to one of his friends and he said "well hes not looking for a relationship" but im confused because i was messing around with the kid and i said "What if I was like I love you and can't live without you will you go out with me" and his response was "i would proally be a little shocked but then prabably say yes" Help im so confused!

i say you do tell him you like him and if he said hed probobly say yes then go for it because he probobly is looking for a relationship and maybe he's not but since he said hed say yes to that then maybe your the one hes lookin for good luck feedback please

I am 13 and a girl. i like a boy and he is my friend and we went out and then he dumped me 3days later and he still liked me or thats what he said. now i like him again but he is going out with some girl who i dont no! what do i do to get him back?

i say you tell him you still have feelings for him and see where things go from there good luck

Ok What should i do?? Ok i like my really good friensd and we went out and now i like him more then i did when we were going out!! hes going out with some new girl and i dont no her!! and the thing that confuses me is that we flirt alot and during art he stills my markers and i when i try to get them back i have to lik tackle him and sometimes we end up face to face were we r going to kiss but i pull back what can i do to get him back??

i say you tell him how you feel still i know you havent tried that cuz ur one of my best friends yea thats right i know who you are haha but try and tell him maybe he will understand because the marker thing is obviously a sign of flirting and thats a good sign so you never know how he feels even IF he is going out with someone else good luck feedback please ;-) lol

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