I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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I dont know wat I should do. Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18 and for his friends 18th birthday he is inviting all his close friends to his party at a stripclub, and my boyfriend is invited. I first heard about this when I was on my boyfriends myspace. My boyfriend go an invite and had told another friend that he should come as well. I didnt think i should ask about it so I just kinda decided to wait to see if hed bring it up with me at least. A few days later he told me that his friends wanted him to go but he knew that I wouldnt want him to so he wasnt going. But he also told me that his friends were trying to convince him to go and just not tell me anything about it. Im glad he told me and Im even more glad that he said that he wasnt going to even if I gave him permission, but Im still a little nervous. I know he wont hook up with girls there, and I trust him but Im worried hes going to go behind my back. I heard from a friend of his that he had told them he was going. What should I do? Do i confront him? I really dont want him to go but I dont want to be unreasonable. I dont think its right if we r in a committed relationship and hes out looking at other girls... Am I overreacting?
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No. Strip clubs are demeaning to women. And if he is truly your boyfriend, he should understand that strip clubs aren't okay. You're not over reacting. Don't give him an ultimateum or anything, but definately let him know that it sure would hurt you if he did go.
Add a little ps of if he's going to watch naked women for fun, you want a stack of porn up to your eyes. If he can watch naked women dance, you don't see the harm in a bunch of pictures of naked men. Even if you don't want them, it will sure open his eyes to how wrong he's being.
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EVERYONE i know always says that your first love will always stay in your heart no matter what, etc.. Do you guys think this is true? Even after a year or longer after breaking up and gotten with new ppl and not talking at all, you think that those feelings for your first love are still there? (link)
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i think its harder for guys to fall in love, so there for, maybe he broke up because he wasn't in love.
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Okay I have this guy friend who is one if my best friend's boyfriend and i was talking to her today. She said she wanted to dump him and said she wants to be single again. I know he will be heartbroken. How do I help him through his hard times without completely dumping one of my best girlfriend's? (link)
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Don't say anything about her. Just be there for him when he needs you. Stay friends with both of them. You can poke fun at each of them (if thats what you normally did, i know i did), but nothing like flat out mean.
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So I'm 16 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet. I have alot of guy friends but they are all what it sounds like "guy" friends not boyfriends. I'm not a tombboy or whatever..Am I missing something here. (link)
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You don't want to be kissing guy friends anyway. Kiss the guy that makes u feel special. Date some one that you really care about and kiss them. You don't want to rush it, because your first kiss is something you'll remember forever and ever, and you want it to be special.
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Say you like a girl and you know she likes you. You've hooked up once or twice and promised to call her so that you can arrange a proper date. How soon should you call/meet/talk to to arrange this date? (link)
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a couple days, not the same day though, cuz that seems desperate. Make it so she's wicked excited about this date by making her wait just a little bit.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years... and in this 3 years I have always bought the birth control pills and condoms (i know about prescription plans but i couldnt get one until like now) I have always tried to get him to buy or help pay for it but he never does, or always forgets just recently i told him he was going to pay for the next batch of birth control pills i was buying and he got all mad, and said i should pay for it? Is that fair? I think since it is for both of us we both should pay and seeing how i have paid PLENTY of money that he should put in some money? What should I do to help him understand? (link)
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no. don't have sex with him unless he pays up. Just be like, oh sorry baby, i ran out of pills rubbers and money. Guess we can't have sex . . .
That'll change things very VERY quickly.
Good luck.
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My boyfriend is amazing. I love him to death. But he is a little immature sometimes when I need him to just be serious. Any way I could tell him in a nice, non-offending way?? (link)
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sometimes when people are faced with important issues, they shy away by being silly.
when you need to talk to him seriously, just say hunni, i need you to be serious right now ok? This is really important to me.
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well my boyfriend is sweet and everything but he is too sweet , I mean he watches out for me and he said that I was the only one in the world for him , he even promised that he didnt like no other gurls like cheerleaders and movie stars , stuff like that, but I cant stand it any more! he calls to check on me at 4:00am! what do i do ?
I dont want to break his heart but I need some time alone, plz HELP!!!! (link)
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your lucky he's sweet and stuff, but your right, thats like obsessive.
but that doesn't mean you've gotta break up with him.
nah, instead tell him your parentle units are really pissed that your getting calls at 4 am (even if its on ur cell if you've got one). just be like i really care about you to, so you don't need to worry about where i am. i wouldn't do anything to hurt you.
He see that you care about him too, and he'll lay off. just don't yell at him, cuz then you'll break his heart.
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what is the real definition of cheating on someone?
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having intrest in another and expressing it. like if you told another person you cared for them if your dating some one else, that would be cheating.
kissing, and any other signs of affection (except hugging. thats ok) is considered cheating.
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Well see i'm 15 and i'm a female and i'm not going out with this guy, but i gave him head and he ate me out at a football game in the back of his van. I was caught up in the moment and now everyone is calling me a slut. I have no idea of what to do, should i stick up for myself or just ignore them. The advice would be very helpful. thanks! (link)
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if you can handle it, just ignore them, because if you defend yourself, they'll see that it gets to you and continue, even after they forget what you did. and you also wouldn't want to say something you regret, like that you didn't do it, because then well your doomed as a liar and a bitch and all sorts of other things. people will make up worse rumors, like you're pregnant or something with stuff you "said" back at them because you were angry with them.
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I haven't heard from my boyfriend at all since friday. He hasn't called or texted or anything. I've texted him but he hasn't texted back and I called him yesterday but he didn't pick up. I know that he's gone away for the weekend but he would always have his phone on him. I'm getting worried. (link)
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chill darling. maybe his phone died. no offense or anything but being an overprotective significant other is definately a turn off. You don't need to worry about him. He's probably fine and forgot his phone, or maybe where he went he doesn't have reception.
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Situation: I'm involved in a long distance relationship.. Neither of us can drive right now.. and my parents wont let me date yet. His mom doesnt have her license right now (not sure why) so we dont have rides to see each other. My older sister doesnt approve of me dating him.. so she wont take me to see him.. and i barely know anyone that lives in his town.
Can anyone think of a way we can make this relationship last.. we're deeply in love.. but its hard not being together...
we've asked friends for rides.. and they wont take us.. Could someone please tell me how we can be together.. and it not be so hard on the both of us?
Thanks!
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well, how long distance? like is it too far for the two of you to walk and meet some where?
if it is, try and attened the same social events, like for example if theres a charity event going on, maybe you could convice him to go, and have your parentles drive you there.
If not, call every day. IM often. email. cell phones! everything you can think of!
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Ok, there is this boy at school that I think I love and I want him to be my boyfriend but he thinks he's to young to have a girlfriend, Well I kept on trying to tell him in secrets and notes that I love him and I want him to be my boyfriend, But he just wouldn't listen, so then I would start saying it out loud that I love him and stuff so everyone could here but now he is getting anoyed and now I dont know what to do and I realy need advice on what to say, and I dont want to ruin his and mine friendship! (link)
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umm, i would get annoyed with you as well, no offence.
Don't say anything to him. He probably just doesn't feel that way about you, and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying that he doesn't like you. Just don't come on so strong. It might be like a major turn off. Instead, let him come to you.
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I like my best friends boyfriend and I think he likes he too, because he is always flirting with me, but I know she really likes him, what do I do?? I am so lost!!! (link)
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as much as you don't want to hear this, here's usually a good rule of thumb:
Boys come and go, but best friends are here to stay.
Basically, put your best friend before your *might be* boyfriend.
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Mkay.. im 13 and i am really falling in love with my boyfriend. Like i want to be with him for the rest of my life and ive never felt this way before. How do i know if this is really true love? Is it to eairly to have a serious relationship?
p.s. my aunt found her true love in Jr.High. they got married so maybe it will happen to me! (link)
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no you're not too young. Corey fell in love with Tapanga in like kindergarden ;-) no i'm just kidding. Love knows no age.
True love is when you would die for your significant other. You can't see yourself with out them. Sometimes you think about them so much you forget what they look like (don't ask). You think about them more times in a day than you do yourself. You're your happiest when you're with them.
No, you're definately not to young. Just don't go crazy with it.
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I am not racest at all..but I have a problem..Okay well I have a really good friend..hes black..im white..I have liked him for about a month now..I really like him..hes all I think about! I found out a week ago that he liked me and wanted to go out with me..he even wrote the sweetest peom ever about me..I cant go out with him because my mom would flip if i went out with a black person..she just doesnt believe in black and white..and neither do some of my friends..It just wouldnt work..I really like this kid and I need to get over him! what should I do?! please help...
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dong get over him. say screw you to mom and your friends, and date him. don't let race rule your life.
you might be surprised and find out that mom doesn't mind, and that your friends would be ok with it. there's no reason that they wouldn't be.
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I don't know what's wrong with me... Maybe it's low self-esteem or something but I never think i'm good enough for any guy. There haven't been many guys that I've known liked me. Most of them look right to my friend... So the guy i reaaaallly liked likes her now. But whenever guys flirt with me i never take them seriously because I always think "oh he would never like me" and then I turn kinda mean to the guy... can anyone help me out here? (link)
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guys need girls to be mean to them . . .
ok but if you don't wanna be the girl to do it, just be nice to them. flirt back. think highly of yourself the next time a guy compliments you.
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ok me and my boyfriend are close but theres this one girl we'll call her Ashley and like my boyfriend broke up with me 2 times with me for her and now we're together and hes broke up with her for me 3 times and when we are together *me and my boyfriend* we are together a lot longer than them..and "Ashley" likes him I found out but she promised not to interfere but I'm scared that if he finds out that she'll inerfere..what do I do to keep her away? (link)
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nothing, that'll make you seem like a bitch. try hooking her up with another guy, like on a double date.
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Hey...I'm not sure how to say this but I will anyway...I want to start dating but I don't know If I can build up enough courage to ask my parents if I can have a boyfrined. They are the most protective people in the world sometimes the don't even let me go anywhere with my frineds. I do have a guy and we're frineds but they get suspicious of him...I do like him but they don't know that
Do you have any tips for me to ask them if I can ask him out?
It aould be appreciated
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well this all depends on how old you are. if you're like under like 11 years old, then like don't bother.
ok but if you're older, just be like "hey mom (mother units are usually less protective than father units) i met this really awesome guy at the ________(insert place here). He's really awesome and sweet. I think he's into me! We're gonna go out next ________ (insert date here), is that alright with you?" If she's hesitant, then bring up the whole, "oh mom, why don't you trust me? I've never done anything to have you not trust me before." if it really breaks out into a "no end of discussion" go, "Mom, i'm not your little girl anymore. What's you're deal?"
if they say yes, inform your significant other that your parentle units would care to meet him before your first/secound date. explain to him that (only if you think they are) your parents are over protective and just want to know who he is.
hope all goes well for you!
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Well, Ive liked this guy named Wesley for a while, and hes not supper popular but I stil like him and stuff. So, my friends asked him if he liked me because I was too much of a chicken. So then he was like "i want her to tell me" so i did, and he still isnt telling me anything. I kinda think he likes me and all his friends tell me that, so What should I do, why do u think he isnt telling me anything?
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he's probably shy. guys can be shy to, no matter how perfect he is. guys with "unpopular" reputations tend to be on the quiet side as well. he's just as afraid of being rejected as you are.
what does it matter if he's not popular anyway? its the unpopular ones that are going to make all the money in the world out of highschool.
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