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Q: ok well, I am 13 and I just finished the 7th grade I am a young man
I had a friend and we would talk every day and it was the last day of school and i huged her. when i huged her i picked her up because i would miss her. so now it has been about 2 weeks and she told me not to text her or call her but i realy want to be the way we were be for she told me that "good luck not talking to me all summer and 8th grade"
I realy dont know what to do or how to move on if that is the case this freind of mine was the only one who belived in me and thought of me more than "the kid"

Well I'm a bit confused. Why doesn't she want you to text or call her? I'll work with the info you've given me. I say either you call her and tell her how you feel or you meet new people. She is not the only person who believes in you. And you can meet better people, friends who believe in you and think you are awesome and want to hang out and talk to you. Which ever you do, you'll be fine in the end. If I didnt answer your question, ask me another one, explaining more details.

Q: hey i am 15 and a girl
i have a problem i kinda like this one guy who i don't know really well but we are friends. And we are both on the same sports team and we both like the same movies and hes really cute
my friend is friends with him and she said that i sould go for it but when ever i talk to him he always has a 1 word anwser 4 it

but the other guy is so sweet and we both are on the same sports team(again)(lol) and he perfect a little immature but perfect and ive known him 4ever the only problem is that we already went out and i was the one who broke up w/ him. My reasons were extreamly stupid and i like him again but im not sure he likes me we are hugging and its really nice. so im not sure what to do

who should i choose?

Well.. I would personally go out with the first guy, just because you never have so it will probably be more interesting. And you went out with the other one and broke up with him, so thats not a good thing (whether it was for a stupid reason or not.) But this is not up to me. Its up to you, and you know that. Only you can choose. Just follow your heart.

Q: I don't get it. I'm a smart guy but I can't get over her. Its been almost a year, and I can only think about her- the girl that I was going to marry. She's gone now- and I'm miserable. I'm exhausted, on the verge of tears, and all I want to do is "leave las vegas".

What can I do to help with this pain?

I'm really sorry about what happened but you need to get over this girl. Its hard, its got to be considering the situation but you are obviously hurting too much for your own good. I say that you get together with one good friend and relax at your house. Get some junkfood and your favorite movies. Talk about it with him or her. Cry if you have to. That will hopefully be your last night grieving. Then the next night go out and try to have fun. Maybe try to meet another girl, if your ready. Try to go out a lot until you are completely over it.

Another thing. If you believe in soulmates then obviously she wasnt your soul mate. You just need to find her.

Q: okay, there's this boy that i can't decide if i like or not. Half the time, he's the sweetest guy i've ever met. the other half, he's a horrible jerk. he'll be a total jerk to me (although he says he's just kidding, it's still very cruel), then when i get mad at him, he'll be super sweet. Whenever he calls or texts me, i can't help but smile, because it's always something funny or sweet. But in some ways, i can't stand him. He's really shallow sometimes. he's had girlfriends, broken up with them, and had another a day later. i don't want to be one of those girls. but what if he asks me out? i think he might like me. Should i give him a chance?

Give him a chance. But warn him about how you don't want to be a girl that he breaks up quickly and dates another the next day. Ask him if he would do that to you. If he says yes or seems hesitant then tell him you can't date him then. Or you could do what you want and listen to your gut feeling.

Q: My cousin asked me to play on his team in softball this year for the 4th of July (traditional event). I said yes. Then my cousin told me that my crush was going to be on the same team. I thought this might be a really good chance to talk to him. Do you have any pointers? Ice breakers? Anything that can mean us talking like friends?

Just talk to him about whats happening in the game. And then on break ask him about school or sports or whatever and the conversation should flow after that.

Q: lets say this guy I like is leaving a classroom. we are in the same class. Well it was time to go on the next hour and there was someone in front of me, he opened the door and waited until i got out.

does this mean he likes me??

I've had a crush on him for a long time and I think he might know... but what should i do?

It could mean that he likes you. It could mean nothing except that he was trying to be a gentleman. But I wouldnt know because I dont know the situation between you two. But to get this cleared up, just because a guy is nice to you doesnt mean he likes you. But this guy might like you so good luck

Q: What, exactly, does friends with benefits mean?

Friends with benefits. You are friends. With benefits. Meaning you dont have a serious relationship, theres no commitment, no dating, no feelings involved. And you make out or have sex or whatever.

Q: well i started to talk to this boy and then a couple months later i realized i like him....... ALOT. but i never knew his age now that i do know it bothers me. hes a seventh grader when im a sophmore. what should i do?

-Alyssia G

One question. Do you like him so much that you are willing to take the risk of what ever may come? If yes then you date him. If no, you just be friends with him. Its that easy

Q: 15/f

Is it worth it to wait till I'm done high school to start dating again?

I got this idea from my friend, since most guys in high school ( in mine/hers anyway ) are absolute idiots, whether it be logically, academically, or just in general.

I think that if you find a guy you like then date him. Dont not date him because your both still in highschool. Thats stupid if you ask me

Q: Well as some as you might know, ive been dating this guy for 4 months. I dont know if its natural but he keeps flirting and flirting and flirting! I get SO mad, and this one girl specificly, and i know it, likes him. She always is flirting with him and smiling at him and sometimes even winking?! Wow. should i confront the girl or even my boyfriend that it bothers me?

Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel and that you would appreciate if he stops. As for the girl, she doesnt matter as long as your boyfriend doesnt flirt or like her back.

Q: okay so ijust broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago cause he cheated on me.
so tonight i decide to go out on a date with another guy. Turns out hes really nice and sweet, but im not going to rush into a relationship. But if
i do decide to go for this boy theres a problem hes 15 and im 13 and hes black and im white.
my mom woulldddd flip see i dont care about the whole white black relationship im not rasict and my mom isnt either she just has always said she didnt want me to date black guys idk why so what do i do

Here is what you do. You date him and don't give in when your mom says you can't. When its something that unreasonable, then you just shouldnt listen to your parents. Parents think that they ALWAYS know whats best for their kids, but they really don't. And this is an example of that

Q: im 15/f hes 15/m

okay so sometimes i like him..
sometimes i dont. but when i like him i LOVE him so much and think hes the greatest guy in the whole world. sometimes i just get annoyed with him or i feel like im not attracted to him anymore. what should i do?

p.s. weve been going out for almost a year

Well I think that its a bad sign that sometimes you don't like him. I thiink that if you're going to be in a relationship then you need to like him. Always. But its really up to you. Which feeling is stronger, the loving or the not liking? If its the not liking then i suggest breaking up with him

Q: This Guy at school asked for my number, and hasnt called in at least 5 days. I saw him at school a few days after he asked for my number and he seemed like he didnt like me. Im sort of confused. Is it OK for a girl to call a boy first? Cuz I want to call him. I have his number. Anyway, thanks!

Its fine for you to call him first if you are comfortable with it. Just call him and have fun. It would also be good if you asked him to hang out, and then he can ask you out if he wants to.

Q: Hey what qualities do girls look for in guys. I have some basic ideas but just wondered.

Most girls look for kindnes, humour, honesty, sometimes looks, you know normal stuff

Q: 14/f
okay well i like this guy and his name is ryan and he has told me that he likes me back. but he also likes 2 other girls i really like this kid and i kind of want to go out with him is there anything i can say or notice to see who he likes more or if he really does like me..thanks

Oh gosh. The same thing happened to me once. You just need to tell him that you like him and that if he dates you then you will make him happy. He needs to pick who he likes the most and that may or may not be you.

Q: I have been screwed over in a lot of relationships thus far in my life. I'm 18 years old. I have recently been hanging out with this guy who just got out of a 5 year relationship. I stayed over at his house alone last night, he has his own place. I slept on the couch and he slept in his bed. We didnt fall asleep until 8 AM and we slept until like 2 PM. We were up all night talking and playing video games and watching videos on youtube. One minute I will just be thinking hes so sweet and perfect and nice and funny and cute. The next minute I will think "do i really like him? do i really feel anything for him?" am i just scared to fall in love again or do i just want to fall in love so im telling myself theres something there. im so confused.

My philosophy is that if you have to think hard about it and have to ask yourself whether you love him or not, then you probably don't love him. You probably like him a lot, but you may not love him yet. Give it time and you may actually love him soon.

Q:
my boyfriend has me 9th in his top friends for myspace and like 4 other girls are in front of me. and he never puts me in his AIM away message and it kinda pisses me off. one day he'll be like "i love you soo much i couldn't live without youu." then he'll be like ehh whatever the next day and not as sweet. some days he calls me and some times he doesn't. i just want him to call me every day and put me in his away messages and tell me he loves me all the time. some times he does, but other times he just doesn't. it would be kind of stupid being like "yeah you have to call me every day and always say you love me and put me in your AIM away message." but i don't know how else to get the message across..

he's a very loving boyfriend but sometimes i feel that he likes to play hard to get. =(

every other day he's wicked nice and sweet to me. but how come not EVERY day?

Okay. First off, I have never seen a guy put his girlfriend in his away message unless the girl is really pissed at him and he left an apology on there. Maybe take the first steps. Like put him in your away messages when hes on so he sees and is like "oh I'll put her in my away message!". About the myspace thing, either talk to him about it or just get used to it. And same about the rest too. Tell him how you feel, and if hes a good boyfriend then he won't get mad and he'll put more effort into the relationship.

Q: and we've gona out before but we decided to be friends, and like we've hurt eachothers feelings..but we want to be friends soo we have been for the past 6 months..but now he isn't talking to me.like i say hey, and he just ignores me. is there something wrong with me? and on top of that i like him...and like whenever im around him he purposly flirts with other girls..it drives me CRAZY! please help what do i do to get him back[just as a friend.i miss being friends with him]

If he is purposely flirting with other girls in front of you, he's probably trying to get you jealous. Its a good sign. Call him, or just go up to him and start flirting. Haha. No but seriously, just talk to him and ask him whats going on between the two of you. Apologize for hurting his feelings too. And by the way, I'm sure theres nothing wrong with you.

Q: All of the "cool girls" at my school do drugs. All of the guys like them b/c they are easy. This guy I like only likes easy drug girls and I don't kow what to do to make him like me! Help!

I know you are going to get annoyed at me for saying this, but forget him. He is obviously not worth it. If you have to be easy and harm your body by doing drugs, he his seriously not worth it and he is an ass.

This is the answer you probably want, but I dont want you to take it. Flirt with him, and make yourself seem easy. But I seriously suggest that you dont do that.

Q: 13/f

When a guy asks me out, how can I say 'No'?

Can I have an example of what to say?

Everyone else said exuses that may or may not be true for you. If you dont want a boyfriend at that time, say it. But don't lie. Basically just say something like "thank you. I think you are cool and all but i just don't like you like that." Just tell him the truth, but dont be mean. Whatever you do, don't say "ew no. you have cooties!" haha.

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