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I joined this thing because I thought it would be interesting to help people and give them some advice. Basically, I'm a crazy, freakishly weird, extremely blunt, unpredictable, lazy, fatass at heart, funny, random bitch. =P And you're probably wondering; "Why in the hell would I want advice from THAT?" lol ^_^ But trust me, I'll give ya some useful advice. On the otherhand, I enjoy playin guitar, music[anything except country], writing, laughing, open-minded people and so forth. If you want to chat, hit me up on my AIM screen name.

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uhmm..ok...this guy (that iz my frend) asked me out a lot but everytime i give him some sort of excuse. This past time it was cuz of skewl. Now i like this guy n i wanna go out with him but i cant say yes 2 cuz then the 1st guy will kno that i lied n that i just dont wanna go out with him! i kant b mean! Help me pleeeez!

Sugarcoating things is the worst. It's just stupid how you can't go out with the guy you want because of your excuse for the first one. Go out with the guy you want... and if the guy you lied to says something about it... tell him how you feel. That's the only way he'll be able to understand... and you won't be lying to him this time. Good luck, hun.

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Ok..here I go...
I was going out with Aaron, and dumped him for his best friend, Josh. Now since his Josh hates me(we went out he dumped me), Aaron wants to go back out with me...and i said yes...but it's a long distance between us. Is it a good idea? Or no? Please help me!

I honestly don't think it's a good idea. I know this isn't my place, but it's probably not going to work out. First, long distance relationships are very difficult to handle. And secondly, the whole dumping him for his best friend probably jeapordized the relationship more. Anyhow, that's my opinion. Do what you want though. :] Good luck.

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My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?

Tell him exactly how you feel. He's never gonna know unless you tell him. Tell him that you're not ready because obviously you're not. And that you love kissing him but you'd like to keep it how it is until you're ready. If he really loves you, he'll respect and understand how you feel. Good luck, sweetie.

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Ok, I'm 14 and im a girl. I like this guy named Alex B. (i dunt wanna give out his last name). I have liked him ever since school started last week. We used to go to different school but we are now going to our freshman campus together. I really like him but do not know how to tell him that i do. I think he likes someone else, but i am not sure.

Well, become friends with him first... see how he acts around you too. If you really like him... I think you should just tell him. That's the only thing to do right? Plus, you never know unless you try. If he doesn't feel the same... still be friends with him. I'm sure everything will work out.

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okay so there is this boy that ive liked for a long time... but yea c hes a mayjor playa and everytime i hook up wit him or w/e he always plays me over but his charm is sooo good and cute that i fall for him no matter wut! how can i just forget about him! and erase him from my life cuz i knoe that the next time i talk to him hes gonna b all flirty and touchy feely to me and then i'll fall for him all over again. please help me get over him.

Yeah. Guys will be guys. Think of the charm as a trap sweetie. Everytime he's all flirty or touchy just think that it's going to get you no where except stepped and played on. So, to forget about him... date other guys, meet new people, stay away from him! Anyway, good luck hun. :]

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there is this guy I know his name will be Fred okay so I sorta like Fred but today I was talking to him and he kept telling me how he wanted to go all the way with me but I have been telling him that Im not ready for that and the farthest I will go with him is making out but he won't leave it alone help me please

If he's not leaving it alone, he's not respecting you. He's not worth your time if he keeps doing that. Basically what he wants to do is take advantage of you. Find a guy that IS worth your time and that will respect you. Trust me. :] Good luck.

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is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out?

Definately. Why wouldn't it be? :]

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my boyfriend he doesn't like to do anything fun.. he's so boring!! and i went to this party n made out with his bestfriend, what should i do????

As much as you might hate this... tell your boyfriend what you did, and if you don't like him anymore then obviously break up with him.

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I've had a huge crush on this guy for almost a year now. He know's I like him, but he tries to ignore it like most guys do. He's in with the "popular" croud, but he's still acts really sweet and out-going and doesn't care what other people think. He waves at me a lot, he stares at me a lot, he plays with my hair and asks me to do stuff with him (in school, i.e. be his partner), and he also talks with me a lot more then other people. And just little stuff like that.

I know that a lot of people say "If you like someone, you automatically think they like you back", but I really think he likes me. But that's just me, and my friends think it's stupid to talk about, so does anyone have any adivce? Does he like me? o_O;

Well... the only way to find out if he likes you is if you confront him yourself. Confrontation can be hard, but in your case... you might like this one. :] Just be like.. "You know I like you, and I'm just wondering if you feel the same? If you don't I understand. I'm just wondering." Something to where you won't sound like you're asking him out or whatever, but you just want to know how he feels about ya. Good luck on that!!

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hey im 16 my bf and i have a long distance relationship he broke up with me and my feelings for him r still really strong. when he broke up with me he said that there could be a "us" again and i was all like ok whatever. but i was thinkin bout it do u think he is just using me?? also i kinda wanna get over him so how do i do that?? please help thanks

Well, first... I think you should tell him how you feel and see how he feels. Long distance relationships are hard... especially for your age. I think you should just meet some new people around your area. That can also be a way to get over him. It usually takes time; but dating other people will definately help make the time fly by. Good luck, hun!

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ive never kissed a guy before and all my friends have, im scared people will call me frigid and fall out with me.

has any one got any tips 4 me??

You shouldn't worry about what people think. Bottom line. You should kiss a guy because YOU want to; not to show off to your friends. I don't get why it's a big deal anyway. But, you should kiss a guy when you're comfortable and when you're ready. It's not about other people. Good luck, babe. :]

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ive noticed that alotta people have questions on people they believe they are in love with and so on but sum of the people are realli young and i dont think that they notice that being in love and loving sum1 are 2 totally different things....well thats what i think i was just wonderin other opions on bein in love and just lovin sum1

Oh gosh, tell me about it. lol. But honestly, I'm not the one to say that there's some certain age limit when someone can expierence "being in love" or just the meaning of love. Nobody can tell you what's going on in your mind or your heart. But some of the ones that I read... it's like if you're really in love with someone; why do you need someone elses opinion if you are? Shouldn't it be definate to yourself? Heh. Sorry, I'm blabbing. But good point. :]

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I REALLY like this guy named kyle and he goes to my school. and he likes me too! and ive only talked to him for a week but i have gotten to know him REALLY well and have have LOTS in-common, and im still waiting to get to know him more but if i really like him and he really likes me should i tell him that i love him even if were not going out?? please help because i want to tell him but i dont know if it is to early or not!
(im 14)

Oh wow. First of all, not trying to be critical but how can you totally love someone within a week? Eh. Well, I guess that's not my place, but I love you is suppose to be used if you really mean it. I believe you should wait. I'm sure ya'll like each other a lot, but why say you love him when ya'll haven't even gone out yet? Anyway, be good and have fun.

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everyone says how ther bf does this blah blah and when ther upset he drives over to see t hem and just is perfect...i havent found a guylike that and thats all i want i want to find sum 1 who i can go to w/ no make up , hair a mess and hell still love me bc he loves me for me not looks/body...i wish i found a guy like that...im pretty and ive had alot of bfs but theyve either cheated on me, can never see me or just rnt very close tome like theyll call but wont b very sweet...i want a sweet guy who will love me ive nvr had ne 1 says he loves me and mean it..im startin h.s this yr....how old wer u when u furst had ur furst love?? how did u meet him?? =\

Well.. babe.. you usually don't meet guys like that in middle school. Don't worry about it too much. That's just how guys are at that age; immature. Pfft. Guys don't mature until they're like 20-somethin anyway. On the otherhand, high school will have a larger selection of guys. So maybe you might meet your prince charming then. Have fun babe. ^_^

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omg ok this may be confusing..please just try to follow..im 15..my b/f is 16..he's really experienced..unlike me the farthest i go is like touchy feely/kissing..we absolutely love each other and it's obvious we WILL be 2gether for a LONG time..but anyways..he;s extremely touchy feely & like he wants to make - out constantely & i mean i love it, but at the same time im scared, i could SO easily so myself doing things with him that i'd regret..like i love him and all, but i was brought up to respect myself & save myself til i'm a lot older, if not married..and like i want to do things with him, but at the same time, i feel kinda guilty..like iduno i guess i'm a moma's girl ..& everytime he touches me or sumin go a lil but farther..[like yeah ya'll know how i mean], i hear my mother's voice, and i want to but iduno..i'm just confused and scared..what would ya'll do?..don't tell me to only do something if i'm ready and feel comfortable, because i do and i am!..but at the same time i think i should respect myself and my mother and listen to what i've been brought up to do..ya'll know what i mean..hmm ..please help me out here..
xOx ..thanx

Well... obviously you're not ready and comfortable if you keep having these second thoughts. I think you should first, talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. If he doesn't know this, then he's just gonna keep doing it. If HE respects you, he should understand. But just do what you think is right. Have fun and be good, kiddo. :]

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hey

ok, well this guy and i r good friends we talk like for 3 hours every day. well i dont know if i should say he is my boyfriend because he never asked me out but he calls "boo-boo"(i dont why) and babygirl and all ways says i love so he acts like hes my boyfriend but i dont know if he is or not. plz tel me what you think thnx alot

~*~Emily~*~

The only way you're gonna find out is if you confront him about it. Just ask him how he feels about you... and tell him that ya'll act like ya'll are boyfriend and girlfriend, but ya'll aren't really going out. Tell him you're confused. And see what happens from there. Good luck, hun. :]

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On Friday I was with this boy it was our first time hanging out we've been friends for almost a year. We made out and stuff and he went up my shirt. He kept asking to finger me and I said no and then he would ask again and again. I dunno I think this is a little werid don't you? We're not going out like bf and gf but I can see us doing that. I really do like him but should I let him?? and please don't tell me o0o wait until ur comforable bc I don't want him doing it then never talking to me again. sry if this is long

If that's all he wants do to you... then he obviously wants to take advantage of you. Aside from that, tell him how you fell... and how he responds to you should give you an idea. :] Hope I helped somewhat. Good luck, hun.

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Kevin1986 here again. I've been hearing a lot about guys only look at looks and everything like that. Lemme set the record straight here. If a girl is hott,she's a lot more likely to get asked out,true enough. But very few guys will tolerate a hot bitch. We're much more likely to go for the average looking girl with a great personality. I get pissed when we're made to look the bad guy and not every guy is as shallow as you describe. And besides,who are you more likely to ask out,Brad Pitt or the nice fat guy down the street? Stop being so hypocritical.

So true. :] Nice post.

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is it weird that i don't like anyone? i mean all my friends obsess over who they like, but i seriously can't think of anyone that i like. and im 14!

and that's perfectly normal. I think you should keep it that way :P You won't have to worry about all that relationship drama shit. Anyway, be good and have fun! :]

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ok me and my boyfriend have been having a bad month - he tried to break up with me the other day but knew i was sad and ended up not .. he told me he loved me still and was being an idiot and crap like that .. but it stil doesnt seem like he still likes me.. i dont wanna bother him but i want to know the truth! sry its long!

Well, all relationships do have there bad months and fights or whatever. But you really need to talk to your boyfriend about it. Find out what he wants whether or not it's going to hurt you. He can't keep you wondering if he really likes you or not. If he keeps acting the way he is after you tell him how you feel; you need to reconsider doing something else. Good luck, sweetie! :]

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