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About Me: Hello & welcome to my advice column! My name is Jennifer and I'm 19 years old. I'm married to my high school sweetheart, Eric, as of 06.09.07! ♥ He is in the United States Navy, and right now we are stationed in Virginia Beach. Eric is my best friend, and my hero..I love my sailor! I also love helping people and giving advice on all kinds of things- I'm a very good listener. I'm in my sophomore year of college, majoring in psychology, and will eventually be going to med school to be a psychiatrist. Feel free to leave anything in my inbox. I'm always looking to meet new people and give advice!!

My interests: my fiance, music, eating, sleeping, gymnastics, dancing, partying, going to the beach, shopping, taking pictures, & there is so much more to me than all this! ;)

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Hey, um...there's this guy I like and I don't have a chance to see him much, but we've got like everything in common. I can't tell if he likes me, but if I catch him looking at me, he either looks away nervously or smiles. Sometimes he acts macho or like he's trying to impress me.
I've never felt this way before. If I ever think about him, I smile and get all excited, and I miss him when he's not around. I keep thinking about him, it's driving me crazy! But, if I want to see him more, how can I do that? I'm too nervous to ask him. Help me!


It really sounds like he's interested in you, the best thing to do is talk to him!! =) Who knows, maybe he feels the same way about you too! Good luck! ♥ Jenn

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Whenever I like a guy, I feel nervous around him and feel it hard to talk calmly with him. In our computers class, i sit next to this reallynice guy, but I'm afraid to just talk to him. I don't want to be rejected or seem desperate. In fact, i don't even want him to know that i'm interested, because then i'm afraid that he'll be weirded out.

hey! whatever you do, be yourself! don't try and be somebody that you aren't to make guys notice you. ask him a question about something, or find something you have in common with him to point out to strike up a conversation. then gradually begin to talk to him more. try not to think about rejection.. i mean after all, whats the worst that can happen from trying to talk to someone? he's a person just like everyone else! just because you talk to a person doesn't necessarily mean you have to be interested in dating them, or that you're desperate. you're simply trying to make friends! good luck hun, don't be shy! ♥Jenn

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ive been with this girl for 2 weeks and i like her and everything but the first date we went on, she pretty much ripped off her shirt and was offering herself to do anything to me, ya it was ok at first but i like girls that dont want to give something at first to me.. i like a challenge, everytime were together she wants to do sexually stuff , i mean im a guy, and im all for that trust me but its every single time i see her.. i like taking a girl out, going to chill at home watch a movie or go out to one, go out to an amusement park.. not always doing that kind of stuff to eachother now that i realise how she just seems to want to give everything up to me i dont like that and i want to break things off with her, but im not sure on what to say to her when i break it off with her.. my chick friend advised me to do this, so all your help would be appreciated!

Sometimes girls are willing to do anything it takes to hold on to a guy, even if that means giving them anything the want (sexually.) Maybe this girl thinks if she does things sexually with you, that you will not want to dump her and that you'll stay with her? Talk to her. Tell her that you like her for who she is- not just for sexual needs. Try and take her out on a few dates and just take it slow for a while. If you talk to her and she STILL just wants to do sexual things- then she's probably just a slut. Lol. =) But really tho- explain to her how you feel before you just go ahead and dump her. I hope I helped you, and if you still wana talk you can always drop one in my inbox. Good luck sweetie.
♥Jennifer

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Okay so Im only 14, but i really feel like I'm in love for the first time and i want to know if thats stupid for me to be "in love" at such a young age or if its normal?... please help me

I think you can fall in love at any age. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we started dating when I was 14 and he was 17. I'm almost 17 now, and he's about to be 20. We're still together and we love eachother more every day. I honestly feel like I've been in love since I was 14. It's possible- just be careful and don't rush into anything you aren't ready for!

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soo theres this guy i like brandt, but he has a gf now in 8th grade, im in 9th grade by the way.. i cant get over brandt until this past break, theres this guy i like named jesse.. but it seems as if he only wants friends with benifits, ive asked him if he likes me, and he said, yeah i do, but not enough to go out yet...also, im still thinking about brandt.. what should i do

Well I really can't tell you who to pick. This is something that you just have to follow your heart with. Choose the guy who is going to treat you the best and make you feel good about yourself! Thats what boyfriends are for. =) Good luck and I hope you figure out the right choice!
♥Jennifer

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no haha its not really a fantasy.. but no 13? i know ppl that r younger than me and have had sex.. but anyway. no i just like really like him and yeah

Well anyone under the age of 13 having sex should just die or something, because sooner or later they are going to die of aids anyways. If they kill themself before hand- they won't have the chance to pass it to anyone else. I hope things work out with you tho- and good luck.
♥Jennifer

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hey okay.. i'm 13 and i know this guy thats like 14 or 15 that will like kiss me and stuff.. and i like him. but one thing, i dont know how :-/ please help i wnat this fantasy

Kissing is your fantasy? Well.. okay then! Just relax and take it slow. Kissing definately comes naturally to people and you should't worry about it hun! Just don't get all tensed up and nervous because it won't be as enjoyable- and there isn't anything to worry about anyways. You're only 13, this guy can't expect you to be a pro anyways! If you're still worried, try looking up on a website tips on kissing- that might help you out. Good luck and have fun!
♥Jennifer

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Latly i have been having sexual dreams about my best frind. i dont have any feelings for him what-so-ever. we are like brother and sister. What do you think it means?

When you dream, alot of the time it is because there is alot running through your mind. When you sleep- your brain has a chance to rest and it sorts everything through. Sometimes the resluts come out wierd. This doesn't exactly mean that you want to/should have sexual relations with this person. Maybe you are confused about something else in your life and these dreams are trying to help you somehow think through them, but it might not be saying to do stuff with your best friend. Dreams can be crazy like that sometimes, don't let it get to you. If you really want to know what it means, try looking something up online about it. Maybe you can find a website that translates dreams? I hope this response made sense- it's kinda hard to explain! Good luck, and I hope you figure it out.
♥Jennifer

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So i have this friend that lives about an hour away(Zack)(wink wink) and i like him and it seems like he likes me too but he lives so far away that its really frustrating. Should i make something happend or just stay frinds and find aoneone around where i live?

Robynnn I love you babyyy! I hope you take the advice I gave you on the phone tonight!
♥Jennifer

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i just got a new bf and i like him alot my friend dared me to kiss him but i said no. He wants to talke me to the movies and i said ya but if he tries to kiss me what should I DO??

-boyfriend dinial

Kiss him back..?
♥Jennifer

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When I was still with my boyfriend, I never really and truly loved him. I loved him but I wasn't IN love with him, if you know what I mean. He broke up with me, saying we had nothing in common and I thought I was okay. My friends came round to cheer me up and I thought I was over him. Then, yesterday I couldn't stop crying and I realised that I loved my ex. I need him back, I can't live without him. Everyone's telling me that I'm still young and that my heart will be broken a thousand times until I find the right guy, but I don't care. I'm scared that if I don't get my baby back then I'm going to hate christmas forever. What should I do?

Why would you hate Christmas forever because your boyfriend broke up with you?! =\ Anyways tho- I know this isn't what you want to hear but your friends are right. There's so many more guys out there who will be good to you and will have more in common with you. Don't waste your time crying over this one guy. But if you try everything and you still can't get over him- talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication is the only way to make things work out. Hope I helped!
-Jennifer

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Hey girl!!! umm so how come i dont have a boyfriend? it kinda sucks....i hate waiting, i see all these couples together and I WANT THAT. You and Erik are too cute! damn you haha

love ya, Bethany!

Haha! Bethany I love you. =) And honestly- I don't know why you don't have a boyfriend because you are so fun and cute. =P Waiting does suck though, but remember that good things come with time. Mr. Right is definately out there and I know you're going to find him because you TOTALLY deserve it! I love you hun and we're going for ice cream soon! CALL ME. =)
-Jennifer

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Hey Jennifer, i have kind of a problem here. i like this girl in my 5th hour class but i dont no if she likes me at all and i am too affraid to confront her about it. what should i do?

Hm. Well you definately need to talk to her and let her know you like her! If you are too scared to confront her in person- ask her for her screen name and hint at it over the internet. Make sure you let her know though because you never know.. she may feel the same way! =)
-Jennifer

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month now, But we've dated before for three months, then we broke up. but now we're back together. anyways now he acts different, before he would always be holding my hands or holding me arount the waist,but now he wont even touch me. I've confronted him about it, but he hasnt changed.what do i do? do i confront him again? Please help!! thanx!

Talk to him once more time and make sure he knows how you are feeling. If things still don't change and you aren't happy, then maybe you two just weren't meant to be. Find someone who will treat you like you want to be treated and tell the guy you are with now that things just aren't going to work out. Hope I helped you, please rate me!
-Jennifer

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i've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. he comes over almost every day, considering he lives in the neighborhood next to me. every time he comes over, he thinks we always have to do stuff sexually. and the last time i saw him, i asked him if everything has to be about sex and he said yes. should i dump him, talk to him, not see him as much? help! thank u! i rate high =)

In a healthy relationship- everything is NOT about sex. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel about him always wanting everything to be about sex. If he doesn't respect you and stop always trying to get you to have sex with him- then hunnie it means he's only in this "relationship" for one thing- and it's not for love. Definately break up with him if he won't respect you and your feelings. I hope I helped you!
-Jennifer

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I have a question that I've been wondering about. Okay, so, can you give a guy a promise ring? Friends say that you're not supposed to give a boy any kind of jeweraly only when you get married, is that true?

Psh! Whoever told you that you can't give boys jewerly?! It's absoultely fine! I gave my boyfriend a promise ring a few months ago. It's a nice thing to give boys if you are willing to spend the money, and my boyfriend loves his ring. How would you just give jewerly when you are married?! What about engagement rings? Tell your friends that they're very wrong. Hope I answered your questions!
-Jennifer

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we just started going out and i have a feeling that he has girls that he flirts with and makes out with and stuff. I know he likes me and i like him so much but i'm affraid he just wants to have sex with me. I cant talk to him about because he gets all touchy.What should i do?

If you don't feel there's any trust in the relationship and that he's not being true, DUMP HIM. It will never work if you don't have trust. If you are really serious about having a relationship with him- talk to him and tell him how he's making you feel! If he gets all touchy like you say he will- forget him. He's a stupid boy who just wants to get some if he can't even have a sensible conversation without getting all up on you. Do the right thing before you get hurt or in trouble!
-Jennifer

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I'm 14 and a female. My ex boyfriend is 16. He broke up with me a little over a month now. We dated for 6 months. He broke up with me because he said he wanted to concertrate on school and he didn't want a girlfriend. I think it was just an excuse. When we were dating he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I believed him and told him I loved him back because I truely meant it. After we broke up we still talked and he told me that he wanted to get back with me after he brought his grades up. He ignored me for a week and I was upset. We started to say hey and gave hugs whenever we saw each other and I told him to call but he never did. The next day at school I found out that he made out with another girl(this was 2 weeks after we were broken up). I try to get over him and move on but it's hard because I still have alot of feelings for him and I still love him. I wouldn't mind getting back with him even though what he did was totally wrong. I don't want to chase after him because if he wanted me he would come after me...right? I don't know what to do because I still love him and I dont know how he is feeling right now. His friend is supossed to see how he is feeling about me. I don't know what to do though. Can you help? Thanks!

This probably isn't what you want to hear- but you definately need to get over him. It's wrong of him to keep you waiting while he goes off and does stuff with other girls. There's so many guys out there who would be better for you and could make you feel special and loved. I know it's hard now, but things will look up. Once you find the right guy you will for sure know, and you will feel so much happier! Don't chase after this guy because he might just try and keep you on the side incase things go wrong with another girl, and you definately dont wana be in that position. Get rid of him and move on to a real man who will treat you like you deserve! Good luck!!
-Jennifer

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Ok.. so it goes like this. I like this guy but my best frin likes him & see the guy is new & he hasnt known me all my life like the other dudes at school and lets say that I've made "changes" over the years (physically & personality wise). I have many more frinz than I did when I was like.. lil but enough about that. Ok.. this guy. Anyways.. see I like him alot & he has became 1 of my best frinz since school started and I've only known him 4 like 4 months but I like him lots & I kinda already know that he MIGHT sorta like me but I dont wanna say anything to him cuz I dont want our frinship 2 change! HELP!!

If you feel like there might be that "more than friends feeling" between the two of you- then definately go for it. If you two are meant to be, it can only make the relationship stronger! It might bring you closer together too. Talk to him and see if he feels the same thing as you do. But.. I think I understood that your best friend likes him too? Talk to her before you make any moves on the boy. Tell her how you feel about him and make sure she isn't really into him either. The last thing you wana do is ruin the friendship between you two. Whatever you choose to do; I hope everything works out for the best and good luck! Please rate me! =)
-Jennifer

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hey.. about 3 months ago i got out of a 2 yr relationship.. i thought that i would never be in love again or it would be hard to find a guy. Ive been eying this guy at my church for a while and about 2 weeks ago i went up to him and said hi and introduced myself to him. I come to find out that in middle school he useto be my friend. it was one of those hi, bye things. But till this day i dont remember. Today i saw him at church and i said hi and i gave him my number to go out this weekend. He is the cutest thing ever. The thing is im not sure if he has a girlfriend and hes a senior this yr and hes leaving to orlando this summer. but i dont know what else to talk to him about and im not a shy person anymore, i could pretty much go up to a guy i like and talk to him. and i did that with this guy but its been so long since ive done this and i dont know what to do around him.. any advice?.. tanx

Wait and see if he calls you. If he does- he's probably interested! Strike up a conversation about how you're single- and try and figure out if he is. Like you said- you're not a shy person so this shouldn't be a problem for you. If he doesn't call you, then maybe somehow try getting his screen name and talk to him online or whatever? He could be really shy about calling you too! Good luck hun and if you need anything else- don't be shy to leave something in my inbox! I hope I helped some-what!
-Jennifer

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