Oh dear... this is a toughie.
Your angel is telling the truth- don't be a man-stealer. It will pretty much kill you socially, and he won't STAY with you if you do.
Vibes are good, but they can't always be trusted. It could mean he likes you as a friend, it could mean he thinks your hot, but those things aren't QUITE the same.
If he looks at you in a "sad" way again, take him aside(don't do it in front of his buds), and ask him what's wrong. Don't be seductive, just as a friend. Use that as a door to becoming the "girl bestie". It will help later on.
You should definately ask for a number. Thats not exactly flirting, but try to say it in a non-flirtatious way just in case. Be very careful.
Now... once you're his confidante, if he comes to you with serious need of relationship advice, play it like this "I don't want to tell you anything against her, because you guys are so happy together, but... (make him press you for info) well... she really shouldn't do ________. But I'm probably just reading the situation wrong. Its probably all cool. Cuz. You're happy right?"
That will plant the seed of him breaking up with her, and it could cause him to do it of his own volition, without you "stealing" him.
IF THEY BREAK UP:
1. Wait a tactful amount of time. AT LEAST a week and a half. It would be better if it was three weeks. I've been the wronged party before, and its really easy to talk about the "slut who stole my boyfriend" even if she's YOUR best friend.
2. Wait for him to ask you out, not vice-versa. That would kill the whole "not stealing" vibe.

GOOD LUCK!

The only way I know to completely give up a person you adore is this:
"Immature love is wanting the other person to be happy only with you. Mature love is wanting the other person to be happy."
"If you love someone, set them free."
MY STORY:
S. was the first person I think I've ever loved. It lasted about six months, then our parents effectively kept us apart. I could have kept in contact, but because I knew it would make things harder for S., I stayed away- not due to lack of love, but out of respect.
If you care, really care about this person, enough that you want them to stick around, back off a little. Go do something else for awhile. Slowly wean yourself off. Cut out an hour a day of him, until you only have about an hour of "you" time with him left. If that's still too much, alternate days. Then maybe twice a week.
In the time you spent with him, do something productive, such as studying.

**IN RESPONSE TO YOUR FEEDBACK**- if you'd like to vent, I'm black_lipstick_kisses@hotmail.com
email me there. :)

That makes sense. A lot of guys are "goof off"s in school, because they're scared they won't be liked as the "nice guy". My little brother is the same way. If you like the guy(which, by this, it sounds like you do) then it really shouldn't matter what other people will think.
Now, If you're worried about him being "mean" at school, I wouldn't worry. If you guys were going out, he couldn't be mean at school. He might not be the "nice version" he is when you're alone, but his personalities SHOULD come to a common person. Maybe someone nice who likes to crack a million jokes?
GO FOR IT!!!! Rose.

I like doing suprise things. Like... steal his phone, and change the banner to say "I love you". Chances are, he won't notice until you've left. ;)
Take chalk markers, and write "I love you" on his mirror in the bathroom.
Take all his favorite foods, and plan a picnic, even if its just on the living room floor, and eat together.
Roll up little love notes, and put them in weird places, like in the fridge(if he has his own place) or in his locker(if you're still in school). Letters are chill, but TINY little notes everywhere is kind of... kitchy cool.

Bet him ice cream sundaes from a particular place... winner buys both! ;)
Then its a date, without being a date.

A LOT of guys eat like that...
I think if it really worries you, you should NOT say anything in public, but tell him you need to have a private conversation later, and tell him calmly that you're worried about him.
CALMLY state your worries, and make sure you make it clear that you're worried about his health, not his weight.
:)

if it's cold, you could do a REAL snowball for the snowball dance. Get that crushed ice, like for a cno-cone, and hide a note inside. Be sure to use something that won't melt inside the ice. show up after work or a practice with a "treat" for him... and when he finds it... voila!!

If you remember exactly the type of roses you left last year, you could do the exact same thing, putting the roses in the mailbox, with a note telling her to look out her window, but when she looks out you're not there. Suddenly, there are hands over her eyes, and you ask "Will you come with me to the winter formal?". It'll trigger her memories of prom, and all the romantic and sweet feelings then, as well as the element of suprise.
Another option would be to leave flowers in her locker, or on the front of her locker, anonomously, one for each word of "Be my date for Winter Formal" or a similar statement, finally showing up with the same type of flower at her locker. This works well if you time it out to last five days, with you showing up on a Friday. I don't really know why, but it everything's better on a Friday. :)

its not wrong, but it IS dangerous. Okay, I know, if you're an adult and everything, its supposed to be okay, but I've tried the online dating thing SO MANY DANG TIMES, and they have all turned out to be really upsetting/weird/downright SCARY. I had one threaten to kill me, and the other straight out type my address he'd found online and say he was going to rape me. Its not safe, no matter what anyone tells you.
Be very careful.
However, a very close friend of mine has an online/telephone boyfriend whom she has no intentions of meeting, and she's doing just grand, so be careful, but have fun!

*hugs*
If you really want to forget him:
>go find another guy
>join a new club
>start doing something new [crafts, sports, ect...]
>keep busy, don't sit around doing nothing
>when you have to sit around, play loud music so that you can't think[use headphones, your parents might be upset otherwise ;)]

If you don't REALLY want to, you can try to have him visit, or you visit him, and go to movies or other things in between your two house/towns. Long distance is hard, but it can work. [you think a few towns is far? try IRELAND!!! ;)]

If you love him, than he'll be hard to forget, but you can. Don't LET yourself remember.

Lots of Love,
Rose

Okay. So you really love this guy. In this case though, with him leaving, is it really worth it to stay behind and be left where you are alone?
I know you'll miss some time with him. But with your new salary, you'll be about to see him more over his college years. Explain to him, and really talk it out. hope things work out, and if you need me, e-mail. Lots of Love, Rose

Okay... in personal experience, wait for someone who you actually like a lot and likes you back for your first. I was so desperate that I ended up kissing my best friend[who's a GIRL], dating her for 2 days and then breaking up. Still bffs with her, but I regret giving her my lip virginity. :( tough it out. Lots Of Love... Rose
P.S. I can bet that you won't be a lip virgin at 36... you'll get kissed. I promise.

I had the same problem with making out, because I don't breathe through my nose normally. I have horrible allergies about half the year, so I normally breathe through my mouth. It works well if you make out with a rhythym. Kissing with tongues for a few seconds, and then bringing your lips together for a few. when you're moving them from open to closed or closed to open, you can usually get in a breath. Sitting his lap and kissing him that way is good too. Sometimes [I don't know about him personally] guys like it when you bite their lips. If you want to open him up to feeling you up, slide your hand inside his shirt and rub his back. Unless he's the super tough type, try not to put your nails in his back. Hope I helped! :)

hmmm. I know exactly how you feel. I've been in similar situations before, and its really rough. It sounds like a definate maybe, but I can't tell you that you love her or you don't. It sounds like it to me, but I don't really have enough to tell you. For now, I wouldn't say anything to her. If she has a boyfriend, she probably won't break up with him for another girl unless she's publicly bi. If and when they break up, and you still feel the same way, tell her. Until then, you have to live with it. As for your mom, if you really don't think she'd be able to deal, don't tell her about this. Don't write about it, don't tell other people. One or two close friends is okay, but not the whole neighbourhood. I'm sorry if I'm not much help, I really don't want to embarass you like this and post too much. If you'd like, I have AIM [BringBackElphaba] and msn&& yahoo... so yeah. Lots of Love ~Rose~

Okay. This could sound stupid but whatever. I felt the same way about a guy for the longest time. Before that, I'd just been crushing, nothing serious, but this guy made me feel like nothing could ever go wrong. I didn't tell him how I felt for about six months. That was a really stupid mistake. He started liking a friend of mine. When I did ask him out, he went out with me, but promptly "forgot".
Don't wait around for the perfect time. This guy sounds really great, and you sound totally head over heels. Talk to him!!!
*hugs*
Rose
P.S. don't let the fear striking out...

I completely understand. I am bi, and my parents don't know.
If you don't want to make it obvious, you can take two routes. Be VERY flirtatious, and people would think you were metro. Or you can simply try to become bff's with this girl. Then when you're close, you can sort things out.
If you're going to admit to her, do it WHEN YOU CAN SEE HER, and do it alone, or with a close friend who sympathizes. Going somewhere somewhat private is a good idea, because broadcasting it is probabaly not sensible. I don't know if you're open about this with anyone, but it would be good to talk to someone else, a real person who understands the situation and get advice. I really don't know what else to tell you, because I don't know the situation. If you'd like to e-mail me with details, I can help you more.
LYL
Rose

Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose

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