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Okay you know how like in cartoons you have a devil and an angel telling someone what decision to make? Well i feel like i am having that dilemma myself. You know how sometimes you get this feeling or vibe that someone likes you?? well i get this vibe with this boy. And he has a girlfriend. I know not to be a man stealer cause first come first serve right?? But like if he is around me he looks at me a lot and looks really depressed but he will always look at me for like 2 minutes then look away and repeat..Like he is kinda sad about something, but i dont know what, i just know he looks at me a lot or he will talk to me or someting. Well people have been telling me that i should take him. At first i was like no way! not doing that! but then after a while i started to think, maybe i should take some action. And it began to progressively build upwards..so now i have the devil thing telling me to take him and the angel saying not to...im so confused...
PS i know i should get to know him better, but i only have one week in that class left with him..should i ask for his number and tell him i will text him sometime?? thanks
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Oh dear... this is a toughie.
Your angel is telling the truth- don't be a man-stealer. It will pretty much kill you socially, and he won't STAY with you if you do.
Vibes are good, but they can't always be trusted. It could mean he likes you as a friend, it could mean he thinks your hot, but those things aren't QUITE the same.
If he looks at you in a "sad" way again, take him aside(don't do it in front of his buds), and ask him what's wrong. Don't be seductive, just as a friend. Use that as a door to becoming the "girl bestie". It will help later on.
You should definately ask for a number. Thats not exactly flirting, but try to say it in a non-flirtatious way just in case. Be very careful.
Now... once you're his confidante, if he comes to you with serious need of relationship advice, play it like this "I don't want to tell you anything against her, because you guys are so happy together, but... (make him press you for info) well... she really shouldn't do ________. But I'm probably just reading the situation wrong. Its probably all cool. Cuz. You're happy right?"
That will plant the seed of him breaking up with her, and it could cause him to do it of his own volition, without you "stealing" him.
IF THEY BREAK UP:
1. Wait a tactful amount of time. AT LEAST a week and a half. It would be better if it was three weeks. I've been the wronged party before, and its really easy to talk about the "slut who stole my boyfriend" even if she's YOUR best friend.
2. Wait for him to ask you out, not vice-versa. That would kill the whole "not stealing" vibe.
GOOD LUCK!
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There's nothing wrong with talking to this guy. But, don't go after a guy who's taken. Listen to the angel here; it'll only make you look bad ("boyfriend-stealer" reputation, anyone?) and it's honestly not worth the effort. If he has a girlfriend, he's off-limits in the dating department.
If someone tried to do that with MY boyfriend, I'd be none too pleased with her. He's taken- hands off! Yaknow?
But like I said, there's nothing wrong with being friends, that "vibe" may just be because YOU like him or something like that.
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