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I have only been in one relationship before, and that was with a guy who was completely clueless about everything. That relationship really didn't last long.
But now there's another guy on the scene, and I am aware that he is a little more experienced.
I am very self-concious, I am not happy with my lower body (from the hips down really), and I'm not sure how comfortable I would be doing things with this guy. I really really like him, but I have never done anything beyond kissing before and I think this guy would want more.
What should I do? The relationship is in its early stages and I have made it clear that I want to wait, but for the time being it would be nice to have an idea of what I should do.
There is also the problem of me not knowing WHAT to do, which also contributes to the problem.
All advice welcomed.
well if you dont want to do something then dont do it. but if you do the guy usually takes the lead and if he doesnt then dont do anything you're not comfortable with. good luck with this new guy!
Im a female and 15. Well theres a guy ive liked for a few years that i went out with before. We're really good friends and i know hes someone who i can count on. Well i kind of fooled around with him before but it didnt really change anything, still good friends, and not going out. Well my friends think im going to have sex with him and i kno that he wants to.. He told his best friend whos also my friend before he wouldnt go do anything with someone he didnt care about or have feelings for. i dont know if i should avoid doing that though or not. And rght now im not a virgin anyway so i dont see it as a big deal but ive only been with one guy. I really want to be with him and everything and he's told people he likes me but he doesnt want to be in a relationship rght now but im hoping i can change his mind. I dont know what i could do to get him to want to be with me again... But i would do anything. Please help with tips or advice Thanks
well if he wants to have sex then talk about it with him. tell him that you want to be in a relationship before you have sex with somebody. if he cant deal with that then thats his problem. and dont let him fool you... he might ask you out just to have sex with you so wait a while if you do go out with him. good luck!
ok so i like this boy and he likes me....we like eachother a lot..and i don't want to be his gf but i do! and he wants to be my bf.. .his friends asked me" so do you want to be "" gf" and i say not yet...but inside i totally want to say yes..then his friends tell him and he aslways sais " its ok ..thats fine..i will just wait" and i think that is sweet and all but ...well i don't know what to do...help fast!
tell the truth. go out with him if you want to. if theres something holding you back then tell him what it is but make sure he knows that you still like him. good luck!
okk so theres this boi that im soo inlove with but we broke up like 9 months ago cause well he cheated on me but he never admitted it cause he asked once what i wuld do and i said i wuld never talk to him agen so i think that he did but i uno and then i moved like 15 minutes away and went to a dif school but we stil talkd and then i had a BF and he had a GF and i broke up with myn and even thoguh he had a GF he stil talked to me adn said he loved me and then we saw eachtoehr a couple of times and then i moved agen like 45 minutes away adn he still talks to me and says he loves me and stuff but he confuses me like he says he loves me but up til a couple of days ago he used to call me and talk to me and then foret bout me and just liek decded when he wanted to talk to me (on the phone) bu he always talked to me on the computer and he always is like i miss you and he asks jessie my best friend who lives near him bout me all the time and i cry sometimes cause i dont kno what to do .. ive tried to tell him its sooo over but he keeps talking to me and i cant help but stil talk to him but i wonder if i shuld tell him good bye for good or stay talking to him .. i really need help!! i rate good !!
signed confused
well ask him if he still likes you just to be sure. if he says he does then ask what about his g/f? and tell him nicely that things just couldnt work between you two because you live so far away and never see each other. keep talking to him and keep being his friend but just make sure things are clear about being just friends. good luck!
Okay, I like this guy alot, I even think i love him, i mean i try to stop liking him but i just cant, but i'm pretty sure he likes me too. like... he will write me a note and insist on me writing back, and he tried to grab my hand but i yanked away, but me and him are good friends and i dont want to ruin our friendship by liking him. and I dont want to be keeping my feelings for him wrapped up. what should i do please help... I RATE HI!!!
ohh yeah we are both 14
well if you two are good friends then talk to him. tell him that you like him and all but you really dont want to ruin your friendship. ask what he wants to do about it or if he likes you. just talk it out and hope for the best! good luck!
okay, there was a party last night and i became friends with this boy, i kissed him on the lips as a joke, and then he said "come with me to the bathroom" i brought my friend with me, and then he started kissing me. what should i have done?
Was it a big deal?
Am i stupid for stopping it half way?
find out if this guy likes you and if you like him. dont be upset about it and you werent wrong for stopping it. just talk to the guy and get to know him more and if you like him go for it! good luck!
well.. i have a boyfriend.. and i really love him and stuff but sometimes i feel like hes not treating me "best" although he seems a little obsessed.. haha and theres about 6 other guys that i could go to.. but i know if i break up wtih him for them ill never be able to get over him! hes an awesome guy.. help please!
im a really generous rater...!!
if hes so awesome then think of the certain thing that you feel is missing. if hes so great then dont give him up! dont break up with him for another boy but if you do break up with him give yourself some time to get over him. good luck!
I really like this guy and he likes me but we live really far away.. I want to tell him how I feel but I dont really know what to say.. I have a few ideas.. but if you could help that would be great!
everyone hates when the boy you really like lives far away! it depends on how far though. if you get to see him from time to time and talk to him alot and he likes you the tell him how you feel and ask him what he wants to do about it. after he tells you what he wants to do then you'll have to work with that. who knows... maybe things will work out for you two and you'll be together for a while! good luck!
I was thinking about dumping my boyfriend, but I don't know if I want to now. One of my "friends" found out and told him and one of his best friends! He thinks I'm mad at him and stuff, but I'm not! I keep telling him that I'm not! BUt he still says I'm sorry! Some of my other friends were telling him that I was made at him because he didn't kiss me or anything at the movies over the weekend, and I don't really care. His best friend sent me a message that said that he was shy and he was sorry he didn't hold my hand or anything at the movies so he was gonna ask me to go to the movies this weekend to make it up to me. Now I don't know what to do, because if I do break up with him he's gonna think it is because of that. And I don't want him to think that, because it's not! And I don't know what to do! Someone please help me!!!
well number one- dont keep telling your friends everything you're thinking because they obviously tell him. its horrible when people believe what everyone else says. so stick it out a little longer and if you still want to break up with him (for whatever reason it is) then do it. just make sure to tell him the real reason and tell him not to believe what your friends keep saying. tell him the truth and make sure he knows it. if he doesnt believe you then thats his problem. good luck!
Okay. I like this guy and I know he likes me. The problem is, in school and on AIM he's always talking to this one other girl. (She has a boyfriend, soo..I know they can't go out) But it always makes me mood so mad, and I just hate him
the rest of the day. He can always tell when I'm mad, and asks "What's wrong?" and stuff, and I never know how to answer. I don't want him to think I'm like..a baby or something for feeling that way, so I never actually tell him. But, like, for instance. If it's a Saturday and we're at home talking on the computer, the other girl will put up an away message with something he said..and I realize that they're having such a more fun/interesting convo then we are. He makes himself be more fun when he talks to her, and that just upsets me so much. I don't know what to do, because a lot of days he's just the best..and we have so much fun, but whenever she's around I know it's gonna be a bad day.
okay so if this guy really likes you he should be great around you and try to make you feel great. i think he likes this other girl to and he tells you he likes you because he does but if she doesnt want him then second best is always great. you shouldnt let him treat you like you're second best. talk to him about it and just ask him straight out if he likes this other girl and not you anymore. if he doesnt answer and keeps making you feel this way then he's not worth it. no girl should ever feel second best. good luck!
ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana
dont sleep with him. i know you had fun over the one summer but its not worth it. if he loves his gf too then you're most likely just something to do when shes not there. i know its harsh but hes using you. break it off with him and try to find someone better for you. even if you think you love him dont let him end up breaking your heart.
Ok well I was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend got shot and is now in a coma and might die! Well he did die! I slit my wrist one night I cry my self to sleep every night And I hate my life I used to be a prep but now I have gone goth I guess skipping classes and crying! I went to his funerl and saw him in his casket I just broke down right then and there I fell down on the ground and cried I refused to get up for about an hour and I went bye him like you all said and spent his last hours alive with him but it wasnt good enough he still died. I left the funeral and just went to his house (his parents were at the funeral) and went in his room and cried I swear I smelled him and saw him for 2sec then I just cried! What will I do?
losing someone you love is really hard. talk to your parents and tell them you need help. talk to your friends and family and remember all the good times that you've had. it will be sad for a long time but things will heal. talk to someone about how you feel. dont hurt yourself though. that wont get you anywhere and it definately wont make things better. please try talking it out and dont hurt yourself anymore. good luck and things will get better!
yah well i really like this guy hu ive been friends with since the 2nd grade. i moved after 6th grade and recently got in tough with him. i really like him. hes so sweet to me and i think he likes me but im not completely sure. im going 2 a movie with him and his friend on thursday, should i be laid beck or try 2 get him to ask me out? i just dont wanna be pushy if he doesnt feel the same way
you can be flirty but if he doesnt seem interested after a while try backing off. if he makes a move then go for it. good luck and have fun! :)
this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K)
well im not really sure what guys like more. i personally think that they like virgins more because that way they arent as pressured to be "good in bed" or pressured to try to have sex with you if they are virgins. i hope you'll have the courage to be truthful even though you might not want to at first. in the end it will be better.
ok so ive been on and off with my boyfreind for a year and a half now, and he just asked me back out a few days ago...but i still have other guys i like from wen we werent going out. And some of my old boyfreinds are coming back into my life now..not sure y..i mean i love my boyfreind right now, but i dont get to see him all the time, and i am a reallllllly bad flirt. I dont want to cheat on him, but i dont wanna turn down all these other guys...im too nice to do that. I really wanna be with my boyfreind but i feel like i'll b with him for the rest of my life, so i kinda want time away from him for now...i odnt mean to sound like a slut, cuz it wouldnt be like that, i just want to be able to hang out with other guys, but my boyfreind doesnt like that and gets really jealous, wat should i do?
you are not a slut in any way. its your boyfriends fault for being jealous. sit him down and tell him that you can have friends and he cant stop you. if he doesnt like that then thats too bad. i know you love him but you also do want some time apart. if he really loves you he'll hide his jealousy and you will be able to have all the guy friends that you want. good luck!
ok me and my bf just broke up last night ok and it was all becuz i told him the truth about something i told him that i was starting to have feelings for someone else and i mean i hadn't cheated on him or anything me and the other guy just talk alot and i think im starting to have feelings for him and my ex was asking me what was wrong and i told him and i told him becuz i felt like i was lying to him and i didn't want to feel that way ne more and now he thinks im imature and sex hungry for some reason which im not i not stupid and i don't plan on doing any of that kind of crap any time soon just cuz the fact my parents would kill me and cuz im to young......so really who's being the imature one here me or him??? and should i have told him?? i mean was it a stupid mistake telling him or did i do the right thing???
okay you were definately right in telling him. it was really sweet of you to consider his feelings. i know it might hurt that you broke up, but its really good you said somthing. he is definately being immature here. dont let him pressure you into having sex with him if you dont want to. he is being immature, but so are you. dont fight over something so stupid about who is being immature. work it out together and i hope everything goes alright.
here's my problem..i've had this HUGE crush (i dont even like calling it a crush, i think i love him..but no one thinks it's possible so whatever..)anyway, ive had this huge crush on a guy fro about 8 years (i've known him all my life) but we're not really tight friends. (thats not my problem) The thing is, i've never tried to hit on the guy or anything cuz i wanted to respect his GF and all..They've been together 7 years (since 4th grade)and during all this time i've liked him..and i know he really loves her, but they just broke up 3 weeks ago, im gonna let him get over her cuz i know he needs time (c'mon it wa 7 years!!) but then after that? will i ever be able to replave his first love, his gf of 7 years? its gonna be terrible he's gonna be comparing me with her..and i cant compete with her and what they had. What am i going to do? When he first gottogether with her i decided to get over him..and i've been trying ever since..but it didnt work =( seven years later, here i am, still in love with him..so please dont tell me to get ver him! it wont work..please help me, please!!
okay yes i know its hard to get over boys... so rite now all you can do is get really close to your friend because he just broke up with his girlfriend. comfort him and be there for him and he'll see that you're an awesome person. Then maybe he'll be interested and if he starts to show interest show it back. I hope i helped! good luck!