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ok so, i am only 13 years old. and i think i might be in love! my boyfriend is only 13 too. and i heard that he is like...an intch close to loving me! so now im scared bc i have never been in love before and i really dont want to get hurt. so do i break up with him before i get hurt or do i go with it and get hurt! i really need some help and ill rate high to anyone that gives some good advice.

you stay with him! if you love him then it will be stronger for the both of you if you do! dont be affraid to be heart broken or you will find yourself one of those single 40 year olds in a few years...so, if you get heart broken then it will make YOU personally stronger. and im assumming that wont happen for a while if you both love each other-good luck!

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i kissed my boyfriend on the cheek for the very first time and im thinking now its his turn, should he kiss me? my friend told him "kiss her!!" but he never did. i was thinking he was suposed to be the one to kiss me first but i realized he was too shy so i kissed him, should i be looking for signs of kissing? haha i guess....alright help.

well, i cant give you the BEST information on this topic because i havnt kissed or gotten my kiss yet... BUT i am a guy, and the reason i believe he did not kiss you is because he was scared out of his mind. not in a bad way, but if he is the shy type, it may take a little while. Now what i did (i was in that exact situation, but from a guy's point of view) i kissed my girlfriend on the neck and cheek and forehead and stuff...and you can do that if you want, maybe you being a girl you dont feel comfertable in that kind of situation, kissing a guy and all, so you can take this information, or reject it, but just keep in mind, dont go too fast, i did and i regreted it

Any questions leave it in my inbox

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Yeah, so my guy and I have been together for almost 20 months, and he proposed awhile back.
The thing is, about a month ago we had a big fight over something INCREDIBLY stupid and almost broke up before realizing that it was completely fixable, and that we'd both be miserable without each other. So really, we never broke up...but I want to know if we're still engaged. It's getting close to a year since he proposed. Should I just randomly do something like "You remember what you asked me a year ago today?"
I mean, he still talks about our relationship as if it'll never end, so I think he still feels the same way. I know he still loves me (if anything, he seems to love me more, and I love him)
So...how do I go about bringing this up?

this may sound korney, but its the best advice i can give-what i would do is take him to a very nice resturaunt on the day that he asked you out, and when you are eating dinner and he ever asks "so whats the special occasion" or anything asking why you are at such a nice place, just tell him "well, remember what you asked me a year ago today?" or if he doesnt ask you then tell him "((name)) do you remember what happened a year ago today?" < yeah i know its the exact same, but both ways will work (commin from a guy) then you can get on talking about it, tell him what you are/were affraid of and you wanted to know if he still wanted to get married to you. you can change some of the stuff around to your liking, but thats about what id do

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what do you do if you broke up with ur bf because of family problems and u still really like him a lot and you want to go back out with him but hes afriad you'll break up with him again? ill rate high!

you go to him and convince him that you did not break up with him because of how he is, or the way he is or anything, it was because of somthing that was going on with you. tell him that you still feel an emotion for him and that you really really want him back. if that doesnt work, drop it in my inbox and ill find another way for you

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OMG thnx for all the good advice...but i just have one more thing....for flirting wit my friend he told her to take her clothes off (this was all online tho) so i dunno if that makes a diff. or not thnx again!

~StEfF

online-hmm, thats not ever somthing that I personally would say, but i do know people who joke like that, so it is a very good chance he is telling the truth, if he does it again, talk to him, if not, forgive and forget (is there such a thing though? lol)

P.S. your welcome

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Have any of you ever felt like you couldnt like someone becasue his friends that are girls dont like you? Well thats the situation im in. I like this boy and im not sure if he likes me but hes always telling me how hot i am and stuff. His friends that are girls dont really like me and i kinda dont like them either, well atleast one of his friends that are girls. Shes such a bitch and i find it kinda hard to like him now becasue they would say bad things about me to him.

ok, in this possition, i would be the guy, (i am friends with all girls) and you know what, you just dont tell them that you like him, but tell him (if you feel you really need to tell them) then ask him to not tell them. Depending on how he is, he may, he may not. But thats only the first step, the second step is-well first off, you have to like challenges if you want this guy, because its going to be a challenge to get him to like you, as you said, they would more than likely say bad things about you, or atleast laugh when they hear it if they dont like you that much. But to tell you the truth, that shouldnt affect him THAT much, usually most guys go by what they feel, and 85-90% of the time, a girl who likes them and tells them, they will like them too, unless he is goin for another girl. so, if you want me to repeat the steps then continue reading:
Step #
1) tell him you like him, guys dont like clues, we are too dumb to really notice (yes i will freely admit that)
2) tell him you would prefer the other girls not knowing because-then tell him your explanation, he should be understanding
3) try to make him notice you but dont try TOO hard, but just say hi, or wave to him, there is the chance that he could act like you are the geekiest person in the world, but usually, thats a covor up
4) do not do anything to make him not be interested, dont worry about what the girls say, like i said, guys dont usually listen to girl's gossip about other girls, we could pretty much care less...so dont do anything so bad that HE would notice it

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I don't usually cut myself, but something really bad happened, and I did it again. I know it's wrong, but I was going through a rough time, and I don't plan on doing it again, but anyways, I have to attend a pool party, but how do I cover up the marks, from my wrist up to high up the arm. theres a few of them. please help me cover them up. I don't wanna hear you should tell someone, because I go to a therepist. PLEASE HELP ME. rating high.
xoxo.

actaully, to tell you the truth, and i dont want to sound like some retarded doctor that doesnt know what is going on (i never listen to them) but truthfully, use Neosporine *its prolly spelled wrong* or if your parents, or you (im not sure who old you are) get the off brand, then use triple antibiotic ointment, it heals it quicker and it doesnt make scars, or depending on how bad it is, then it reduces them a bunch!

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Ok, so i have a boyfriend, pico and i like him and he likes me but it just seems like hes gettin kinda like too obsessive and i want to break up with him but i don't want to break up with him and i don't know what do do....please help me!


Notes:
- he's "flirted" wit my friend but it was just a joke (as he says)
- tons of other girls have asked him out but hes said no becuz he loves me sooo much
- he says that i'm the best thing a guy can have

well...comming from a guy, i get the impression that my girlfriend feels ALMOST the same about me, about obesessive...but all i do is what i think i should be doing during a relationship, and thats giving her attention. That is probably all he is trying to do, give you the attention that he deserves, and (this is my opinion) i would think it is absolutly crap to get dumped cause my girl doesnt get that i am doing all i can. All i would want her to do is talk to be about it, thats what you should prolly do to him, tell him that you know he isnt, but you get the feeling he is obsessive and you would like him to "calm down" as my girl said it. Then go a lil slower. Ok, with him supposably flirting with your friend, 99.999999% of the time that a girl flirts with a guy, especally if he is half attractive and used to girls flirtin with him, he will flirt back, its instinct, ive done it, i know other guys do it, its just...i dunno, habit for lack of better word...so try not to get bent out of shape because of it, and everything else he does, well i would take advantage of it, i get really mad whenever my girl ignores me and i do all i can to get her attention, she takes a little advantage, but she doesnt ever give me anything back, if you want to keep him happy (this is down the road info) then give him some attention too, and if you are really getting irritated with him, just tell him you wanna take a break, not break up, just go a few months without really talking or seeing each other, that way you have time to truly think about what you want to do... OR if all else fails, do what i do...flip a coin, God will provide the answers, you just have to look...

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I've always felt that there was no need to be in a relationship at my age(14) but i was just asked out and i think i have fallen in love. but my mother tells me there is no way you can fall in love so young. do you think its possible to fall in love at such a young age? if you dont think so what do you think i should do, i dont want to dump him or anything, but i dont want to waste my time and energy
if there is no point to our relationship.

im sure this happens very rarely, but your mother is wrong, unfortunatly, very wrong... you can fall in love, you know exactly when you do too. you are when you start questioning "am i really in love?" that is when you are. you can show her this if you want, but if you cant fall in love, then how are you supposed to love her? i mean im sure you love your parents, or your friends, its a differant kind of love, but its all "love". I fell in love in the 6th grade with someone, and guess who im with right now... the same person, and my love has only gotten stronger. so yeah, you can fall in love!

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Okay, well I have been talking to this guy for over a year. We get together almost every weekend. We tell each other everything. Here's the problem ..lol I like him ALOT and he knows it. He tells me he loves me and we talk on the phone everday we can't see each other. (he lives in a diff. city like 30 min. away) He tells his friends he likes me. But then again we fight a lot. But they never last long and we are cool again within a few min.(the fighting has stopped now unless we are joking around)He has turned down other girls because we are *talking*. But he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet. Do you think he will or am I wasting my time?

p.s.-a week ago he told someone he was thinking about asking me out...but a week has gone by and he hasnt but we still talk ALL the time? What do you think is going to happen? What do you think he is thinking?
I am 14
He is 14

i would continue to wait, and think of things to talk about that can kinda "set the stage" for him asking you out. being a guy, who already has a girl, im still kinda plotting my first kiss because i want it to be the perfect moment... thats also how i was for asking her out (it was on her front doorstep at night, when we dropped her off) so just think of topics that you can almost clue him that your ready...

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I feel a bit awkward using this site.. I've never asked anyone for advice like this before.. I'm a 15 year old male, and I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. She works at a pizza shop and is surrounded by other people. A few weeks ago a worker from a different location was transferred to her shop.. She got along very well with him. I saw her that weekend and she seemed a little subdued, I tried to talk to her about it, but she said she was fine.. I tried to call her the following evening, but she didn't pick up her phone, nor her mobile.. I was pretty worried.. and I'm known to be a very worrying and fragile type person..

Anyway, the day after, I called her and found out that she had been at the movies with this guy.. She told me it was as a friend.. but later that night when she went to work, he kissed her.. this really upset me.. And she said she was very sorry and would stop seeing him..

However, one day, the following week, I tried to call her, and she wasn't there.. I stayed up until about 1 or 2 in the morning, calling her, untill she finally picked up.. Having been out with him again.. She is very truthful to me, and said that she was just seeing him as a friend, and didn't tell me because she knew I'd get upset.

She said to me that she loves me, and likes him, but she doesn't know what she wants.. I really can't take being strung along like this.. I'm naturally a very sensitive person, and my music is no longer enough to keep me alive.. I'm not at school, I don't have a job, I have very little to hold me together.. I don't know if I can deal with this.. Can anyone help me?

i dont know exactly what you are going through, but i can picture it, and what i would do. you have to remember- your mind is the strongest part of your body. When your body screams for you to stop, then you can still push yourself to finishing. You know what i would do, act like you need to prove yourself again. you need to get her to notice you again, almost like your cooking up the nearve to ask her out again, but you want to make sure she likes you first, so you act extra good, do stuff with her and for her, and just really act like you want her to notice you. You already have a head start on this guy, like she said, she loves you and likes him. So you need to take that (im a football player so ill put it into that perspective) 10 yards you already have on him, and pick up the speed, so there is no way he can tackle you! If you 2 end up doing about the same thing, and getting her attention the same, then she will lean to you, you just have to remember, this is a battle, you dont want to lose. Good luck man, and any other question leave it in the inbox

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what is the meaning of life?

the meaning of life.... life means that you have a choice, a choice to live how your expected, or live the way people dont want you to. It means that you have an effect on what is going on, be it little or major. The meaning of life is a chance, a chance to get somthing that some people never got; the babies that have been aborted, the people that have been killed for whatever reason, and the babies that have been "miscarried" which is somthing that happens. That is the meaning of life, its about choices, effectiveness, and chances. And if you were thinking of ending either yours, or having somthing aborted, dont, because you will be ending somthing great. If you are/were goin through a hard time right now, and you do want to end it, then you need to hold on, let whatever bad thing that is happening. Also think of those who would be heartstruck if you did. And im hoping to God that you are getting really annoyed with me telling you this because the thought never crossed your mind, but i just want to make sure...

hope ive helped

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ok i have a few very close friends and some not so.. But what i was wondering is... if i ended up on disney channel what do you think they would do? be jelouce? would they still want to be my friends? or just use me?
What would you think if you're friend suddenly out of the blue got excepted on a popular show?
+ concerned and worried

if they are true friends, they should be proud to know you! if they are not... well im sure either way you will get popular, i watch 3 channels 90% of the time... ESPN, the disney, and the weather channel, so, if you rate, could you tell me your name???? i think thats so cool to be on that kind of a show!
^my point for all this is it is your chance of a lifetime- go out and make somthing of it, your friends should not worry. IF they do, then they are not true friends!

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omg! theres this really weird b0i i know named adam. hes like so full of himself. his head is as big as the carebear he got me. (ugh) whatever shall i do? signed *Annie...Yeah Ana had something to do with it...

the thing i would say is... he is probably kidding, i know someone like that, and he only does it not cause he has a big head, but cause people laugh at him, and since i know adam is your boyfriend, you should talk to him, tell him to stop having such a big head, and if he loves you as much as i do my girlfriend (which is more than life itslelf) he'll stop if it makes you happy! i hope ive helped, luv ya!

signed-
BiG hEaD

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