If you truly like him it doesn't matter what your friends say, if there truly your friends they'll understand, but because your young and i guess your friends are too they might not understand. hopefully they do. when i was in school i had friends like that, but i didn't care, i would listen but i didn't respond because i knew what i wanted and i knew that if they cared for me they'd care for my feelings as well. I know you love your friends and you don't want to lose them but do what you want to, but don't push your friends away. i did that to my friends, sad to say but some deserved it and some didn't. remember who your friends are and remember who you are, and do what you feel is right, consider your friends thoughts but follow yours. he sounds sweet and maybe your friends will think so too one day.

Try to understand him more, study him, see what ticks him off, and do the opposite. this worked for me when i was in your situation. relationships can change for the better, as you learn more about him, you'll slowly learn how to gain his trust. show him your all his make sure he knows you love him and only him. i honestly think he's over protective, but it could be an emotional problem maybe he's insecure and has had previous relationship problems, and now with you maybe he doesn't want things from his past to repeat itself because he cares for you. Greatest thing for you to do is to show him he can trust you, this will be hard. for me this was the hardest times of my life i cried so many times because i would try so hard to get him to trust me but, it didn't seem to work everytime.
sometimes seperation helps, not like taking a break or anything but like a school trip or a vacation. this helped me although during my trip i had never cried so much in my life, because his trust sunk so low he almost dumped me, but the thought of not seeing me so long and then finally seeing me again changed his trust for me a little.

honestly find ways and try, don't give up. its gonna be hard but if you truly love him you gotta keep going. what i did to finally gain his trust was understanding what he liked to hear and what he didn't, then i told myself what would he say. because most of the time a human will interpret something the way they would say it. so after that i would decide to say it or not. i really changed the way i spoke and said things only if they needed to be said.

but understand that all relationships are different and the ways to fix it are as well. you'll find a way. not to scare you or anything but it took me 4 years to get him to trust me enough for us to be in a normal loving relationship. but you only lied to him, i was talking to another guy, but i never met him. if what you lied to him about isn't that bad then maybe you'll be able to gain his trust must faster than i did.

good luck

I think that you can't trust him, but you know a month is not that long and its perfectly fine that you're still finding things out about him i mean he has years of life before you that you don't know you can't expect him to tell you everything so soon and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and still finding things out slowly and even couples together for 20 years are still finding things out about each other, honestly this situation is very confusing because i would say that if you trust him that much then let it go, but you know you can't really trust someone so easily in just a month and just because you feel he won't hurt doesn't mean he won't, its a lot easier to leave someone after they hurt you when you're with him for a short period of time, but when you guys are together for long it gets hard, so i would make your decision or fix things up soon or your gonna be hurt more than you hoped. good luck

Well Marissa i want to tell you how i feel about it honest and i don't want you to feel as i am talking in a bad way because i'm not. I feel that you ruined you're chances but don't give up because you know you're only 16 and i'm guessing that he and you're friend are around that age, so maybe they might not last as long as they feel they are. but sorry to say but don't hold on too strong either because they could last, you never know. All you can do now is wait and hope for the better or the worse depending on what is what to you. i hope everything works out and i'm sorry if or that i couldn't answer you're question as well as you wanted. i hope that i didn't make it harder but instead gave you less confusion. now with that guy, let me ask you this: do you feel what you felt with Ian when your with Connor or Do you think you could anytime in the future? Think about it and maybe your answer could help you.

that is so sweet, your a great boyfriend. honestly i dont think anyone should decide something like that besides you. if it were you getting something from her what would you want, im sorry i know you wouldnt want anything as long shes happy. but maybe you do somethiing that can help you too, do something you know will make her smile, and honestly she is very special because she has a caring boyfriend that not everyone can get. good luck

first of all, what really pisses me off is that you have horible friends... why should they decide your love life and why do you let them, its not up to anyone but you, so if you want to go back out with your old boyfriend then go for it, once again: why do you let your friends decide just because hes your friends cousin doesnt mean you cant go out with him, if she was your friend she wouldnt care infact she would be happy. naturally distance shouldnt be a problem its up to you, if you can handle driving for hours every once in awhile. if you cant do it and your afraid of you guys drifting then dont be with him, but whats a few hours compared to a life time right? not to be mean but alot of these things you shouldnt be asking, i've noticed your the type to rely on people, and its okay but sometimes you let people make your decisions, dont let it happen again, might not seem like it but if you make your own decisions the answers are always there. i hope everything goes good and you make the right decision and i hope i helped a little, im not the person that gives you the answer but i give you easier options so i hope i helped. and i hope you make the right decision by yourself, by the way every decision you make will always be the right one for you, atleats at the time. please remember to think it through so you are positive its what you want. have a nice day.

- lisejose

there is nothing wrong with that. even love can inspire you, and if he inspires you to do better in life then maybe he's good to have around.

that kind of guy will just break your heart. he's a christian you said, yea right you should be careful, he doesn't really like you just watch what you do.

sometimes yes and sometimes no.. innexperienced means tighter. experienced means well that there experienced

me and my boyfriend are going through the same thing and i know it hurts. let him have his time but dont give up on him. 3 years and im sure he still loves you he just needs to be redirected. find a way to show him that he does love you to where he can say it and mean it. at the same time make sure he knows you love him. see me and my boyfriend have trust issues and he had a really hard life and hes really insecure and sometimes he thinks i dont love him so just make sure you let him know you do. dont be too much in his face but dont go too far away. if its just the fighting that made him feel this way maybe he just is afraid of being hurt. you guys have been together for a while and you should be able to sit him down and talk it may hurt but if theres tears then its real. just show him hes special and make sure he knows everything.

if you really want to do something about it. have you thought about moving in with him. tell him you really love him and you cant stand being apart from him and that you'll do whatever it takes to get him back. ask about moving in, if not moving closer just for him after he breaks up with his girlfriend.

i think the flowers would be really cute but is that what she wants. since your her friend you should know what she likes, think about what kind of things she likes to do and turn it into something cute like flowers, if she likes flowers attatch a note to it, or not your decision. dont text her. dont be embarassed, if your worried about that think it over a little more until your ready. the best thing to do is to talk to her but you loose your words so try saying what you can it doesnt have to be perfect as long as she knows what your talking about, sometimes choking up is cute, even mumbling just try if you cant you'll think of something else

no, but you can get std's, sti's.

well girls and boys are very different expecially when your in a relationship with someone very different from you. the thing is that he could be growing off you, he could be cheating but dont think that dont worry about it that much. he could be busy too but that is no excuse to not even send a small text saying "hey im busy, call you later, love you bye." in his mind it could just be doing what he thinks you want. so what you should do is when the next time you hand out with him sit him down and get him worried by hesistating to talk when you do talk make sure he's listening tell him that you are very interested in this realationship and you want whats best for each of you, sometimes men need some time to them selves thats why you need to let them know that if he wants to be alone you'll let him sometimes, as long as he lets you know what hes doing and if hes gonna call/text you, and that he loves you. when two people love eachother they have to make sacrifices and that might sometimes get unfair so you have to balance it tell him you'll leave him alone if he calls/texts you atleast a little. if your not willing to make sacrifices of hes not willing them you/he is not ready for a steady realionship. talk to him about everything, you shouldnt be afraid to talk to him about what your feeling because if you plan on being with him a long time you cant keep what your feeling inside or when you finally let it out it will hurt him more than it would if you told him the first time.

if you really love him then you should talk to him tell him what your feeling and if he feels the same way you feel about then he'll respond and say what you want to hear. is he doesnt care then you should break up with him depending on how he responds. you guys have been together for 9 months for alot of people thats alot bu6t if you really love him you should be thinking about forever and 9 months is nothing. if you really want to and need to break up with him to save yourself you should put him down softly but if he doesnt care for you you just show him what hes done to you by explaining and he might have feelings for you and realize he would lose alot if he doesnt just tell him you cant keep up the relationship if he doesnt meet up to your needs. if you guys do stay together tell him that if he really loves you he will make sacrifices for you and do what you want every once in a while you want him to call you tell him and make sure he hears do your best so he does, and the same for texting you. if you want to break up with him do it before his birthday or after it doesnt matter just not on his birthday only if he hurts you really bad and you really hate him them you can ruin his birthday.

if you have a hard time to tell him you should maybe tell him in a different way. theres many ways.... a poem, a letter, maybe get mediated it might be easier because other people will talk for you you'll still be nervous but your not talking and there wont be turning back.

I am 18. I like giving advice about love, I feel as though i have a clear idea of love in some ways, at the same time as i feel love is not explainable i can explain it, but in weird ways. I also like to give advice about sex questions, although i'm a big hypocrite when it comes to this topic, I always say the right things although i do the wrong ones. there are a few topics that i answer that aren't in my favorite categories but if the question interests me then i answer it. I hope you can trust me and i hope you can appreciate what i can try to do to help you.
- LiseJose

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