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i don't think its mutual anymore....
let's start off with im 16, he's 17 (both juniors) and we live 20-25 mins away from each other so we only see each other on weekends. we've been dating for 9 months.
the first 6 months were amazing, he was the best boyfriend and always used to text me to see how i was doing and used to wake me up with those cute "good morning beautiful" texts and all that cute stuff to show that he cares and was thinking about me.
these past few months he never texts me anymore and i talked to him about it and asked him what was up and he said he's just been busy with school work since his grades were bad. but is it THAT hard to send a simple text at any point of time in the day? and when i text him he usually doesn't even answer. so yeah we pretty much don't even talk during the week and i don't feel like i can go on like this having this gut feeling that im with someone who doesn't even care. i've talked to him about it but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other...when we're together he's so nice but i just don't know what to do..i love him with all my heart and he's my first love and i'd be absolutely lost without him, but i don't want to do this to myself...what should i do? =[
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Well, when you say you're in love, you know that you're in love with who he "was" & how he acted during the first 6 months, seeing as you called those 'amazing'.
Then, you explained that during these past few months & now, he ignores your texts for schoolwork & he only listens half-heartedly.
After this, you said that you can't live without him. If he's already ignoring your texts & not really conversing with you & doesn't care, then you're already living without him in every sense but the physical sense...and, still, you only see him on the weekends. And, now, you're still alive, right?
Keep in mind that if you've nagged him to text you more often, he's probably just going to text you less often out of irritation at your request.
I think that you have two options:
a) give it time.
b) end it.
Good luck.
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well girls and boys are very different expecially when your in a relationship with someone very different from you. the thing is that he could be growing off you, he could be cheating but dont think that dont worry about it that much. he could be busy too but that is no excuse to not even send a small text saying "hey im busy, call you later, love you bye." in his mind it could just be doing what he thinks you want. so what you should do is when the next time you hand out with him sit him down and get him worried by hesistating to talk when you do talk make sure he's listening tell him that you are very interested in this realationship and you want whats best for each of you, sometimes men need some time to them selves thats why you need to let them know that if he wants to be alone you'll let him sometimes, as long as he lets you know what hes doing and if hes gonna call/text you, and that he loves you. when two people love eachother they have to make sacrifices and that might sometimes get unfair so you have to balance it tell him you'll leave him alone if he calls/texts you atleast a little. if your not willing to make sacrifices of hes not willing them you/he is not ready for a steady realionship. talk to him about everything, you shouldnt be afraid to talk to him about what your feeling because if you plan on being with him a long time you cant keep what your feeling inside or when you finally let it out it will hurt him more than it would if you told him the first time.
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This guy sounds like he needs a wake up call :/
This is where an ultimatum comes in. This should be the LAST talk you should have with him about this problem. If he says yeah i know im trying, let him know that you haven't seen a difference. Tell him you understand his education comes first, but let him know that if he doesn't at least try and check up on you everyday, it's going to end because there's no affection whatsoever. Have you told him what he was doing the first six months that you loved is what he should STILL be doing? He needs to choose, whether he can be responsible and balance both his studies and you (WHICH HE CAN!) or if he has no sense of balance and just do his studies. School is generally what? from 7 or 8 to like 2 or 3? Lets assume by 7 he's home, by 9 hw is done... After that at least an hour or two of talking.. It's not hard. Or he can simply send a text saying he'll be doing work and whatnot... Guys tend to need an ultimatum sometimes lol... Don't worry, if he chooses his studies over you, and you guys choose to be friends, he shouldn't be getting another girlfriend, since he couldn't even balance you and his studies. If he does, then wow, he isn't worth your time. Good luck hun!1
-Uniq :]
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