Im 16. so my ex boyfriend is dating another girl and she believes in no sexual stuff before marriage and he was the one I lost my virginity to when I was 14 and he was 17. i wanted to ruin the relationship so I told her that we had sex. So anyway she got really insecure. I said " I hear you're dating my ex, how do I taste?" Every time they kiss I think it's funny cause his mouth was on my vagina before and how shes getting my leftovers. every time she kissed him my friends said its like her kissing my vagina. Was that mean? do you think it stopped them her from kissing him? i had a boyfriend after him so I have moved on I just want to make my ex mad because he deserves it cause he is my leftovers.
Yes this is mean. Some question \" Did you think the boy you dated after never had a girlfriend?\" What if she were to say the same things to you when you were dating him? Yes its mean and it is not nice at all. I\'m not sure if you are writing this because you feel sorry about it, or you wanted validation. Either way karma is a bitch, and I only hope that it doesn\'t hit you too hard. I would apologize, and ask for her forgiveness. Its up to you, but to answer your question you were not only mean but also being a vengeful. Good luck with whatever.
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i am 13 and my boyfriend is 19. he wants to have sex with me ? what should i do ?
I\'m not the one that is saying you\'re too young for sex because I am not your parent nor do you live under my roof. But for one he is too old to be your boyfriend, and if you have sex that is rape. No matter if you wanted it to happen or not. He could potentially go to not jail, but prison for those actions. I would recommend you to not see this guy anymore, and maybe start dating boys around your own age. 6 years is a big difference now. When you turn 18 then legally you may do whatever you want, but for now just let him go do him. Not trying to lecture but you either need to tell someone or just end it now.
Lillian Garvin
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Question Posted Wednesday August 21 2013, 3:37 pm
Hi there my cousin and i have been together for 6 yrs secretly we hve a 5 yr old daughter together and no one knows about it weve managed to keep it a secret this long but late last year she decided to end it recently saying she cant pretend anymore and alota people will get hurt if they found out i know shes my cousin but i just fell in love with her and even now im stil madly in love with her i havent seen or spoken to her in a month now and im heartbroken is it true u cant choose who u fall in love with? and i miss my daughter too and ive Also been told by people shes been seen with another guy this is just a very big mess at the moment i dont know what to do
I'm so sorry if this is late. Ive had so much on my plate lately. Well lets take being cousins out of it for a minute. She is tired of keeping secrets. All she wants to do is to have a clear mind set and heart. Holding things in can be very stressful no matter how minor or or major. I'm pretty sure she still has feelings for you for sure. You have a magnificent child together. You just need to allow her to do whats she needs to and then come in with a open heart. Be honest ask her what is missing in the relationship and how you both can achieve what you want.
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well im female/19.
Me and my ex boyfriend are still in contact were still friends, and well we have them conversations where we always talk about the past, like we bring up memories and our sexual experiences together..
we've spoke about us having sex again, he was the last guy i had sex with to be honest.. and well we both want to do it would it be wrong? cause inside it's something i really want to do and i would o it over and over again, like i know it would be just sex but since he's my ex we both know what we like, and I have that feeling that by us having sex feelings would be there he once said it himself..
I agree with the person that wrote you the first time. None of us should be telling you who to have sex with because its not are place to, its only yours. Though what I will tell you is this you are 19 and an adult now who gets to make her own decisions. If you decide to have sex with him, and only sex, you are the one who is bound to have more feelings. There is something in women that triggers us to attach ourselves to the person we sleep with. And I'm not talking about emotionally, I mean biologically. We can't help it. I just will say be safe, if you choose to go down that road.
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Do you know the specifics?:/
Not too much because I'm not in the situation myself. Though I do know INS has cracked down on marrying an immigrant because of arranged marriages in the past. People would get married and after the illegal citizen would get his/hers visa and would get a divorce. So I would maybe contact someone from INS to help you further understand. I'm sorry if I wasn't much of help, but I hope all ends well. But always keep in mind if you do decide to get married for all the right reasons you shouldn't have too many problems.
Lillian Garvin
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His name isnt jason but im gonna call him that Jason came here from Ecuador and i wanna know are immigrants allowed to get married? :/
Yes, but there is a lot of legal issues that come along with it.
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So my bf broke up with me about a week ago saying he wasn't really ready and wasn't that interested he said we were friends for now but he blocked me on IG and doesn't respond to my kiks and he didnt defriend me on xbox. Then today, his cousin texted me and said to take him out of my bio (one of my back up IGs I haven't been on and I had him as a friend) he doesn't like you anymore. And all if this has made me so depressed to the point that I wanna kill myself because he really loved me and showed me that he cared and he changed my life and I really loved him. I really want him back so badly and i want him to talk to me but what should I do? Thanks.
(Btw: we were together for 3 months :/)
Defiantly do not kill yourself for starters. I know this is cliche but there are other fish in the see. Because there are, you got him and later on you can get another. I am not going to tell you to just get over him, because saying is a hell of a lot easier than done. I can't get over Chris Brown and we've never met before haha. Though I know that him leaving you was the best thing for you. Just think about it, he let you go so that another guy can who is actually right for you can come along. There are 4 billion dudes out there, you are too great to cry over ONE. Sulk for like a day, then delete him from everything and then add some more cute respectable guys to take his place. Trust me when I say, HE ISN'T WORTH IT!
Lillian Garvin
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So I'm in the uk from usa and I took a trip to visit friends with friends. So my on friend ron I began to like like him and I began flirting and like randomly he would grab my hand with is hand hold it and then like stroke it but the problem is he is like a really friendly guy with girls he's a big lovable guy so i can't tell if he likes me bc he puts his arm around other girls to but my friends want u's to kiss but I leave soon with him bc hes with my group that came. So like I don't know bc tonight I just feel like crying tonight bc we were all walking around and on of the groups uk friends came along and he was like all over them but he like left me for them instant. I just want someone to like me I'm 15 f bc I really fall hard for guys:(
You wrote the answer in your own question. He flirts a lot a guy likes that usually tells you that he likes you because he does everything thing else with other people. And another thing I think you might not want him but just a relationship in general, sooner or later you will find that boy to like you. Until then live your single life free and without care. That boy will find you once you start doing that.
Lillian
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18/f
I'm sorry, this is long... But advice and responses would be much appreciated! Thank you!
So me and my ex-boyfriend broke up a month ago. But we were still acting like we were together for a while. A couple of days ago, he was acting a bit weird and he was becoming less affectionate. He said that he didn't notice, and that he was just stressed out about a lot of things. And 2 days ago, he told me he loved me and 30 minutes after that he texted me saying, "we need to talk. I read your blog." My blog was a place I write in private and he was the only person he could read it (which he only does once a month).
My blog was about him. How he's been treating me a bit badly, and I was writing out how I felt and afterwards I would feel better. (He usually doesn't like it when I talk to him about how I feel because we're not not together).
He texted me the next morning telling me that I should make my life easier and just move on.
During the beginning of those text messages, I said "if you don't like me, then just say so." And he said, "ok. I don't like you. Take care" So because of that text message, that's when the whole conversation happened. And I asked him if it was true because it didn't make any sense when he told me he loved me the night before. And he said, "it doesn't matter." And I said, "I want you to be honest with me. I don't want you to say that just because you want me to move on." He replied, "On what conditions would you move on?" And I said, "Idk... But is it true?" And he said, "Whatever you think." "I want to know." "I don't care."
We messaging back and forth that day, until I basically got the last word. He didn't answer because I was "too stubborn to get through." and because he was "tired of this."
And after all of the text messages, he texted me 4 hours later randomly saying, "my family are at ______" Me: Huh?? Him: "They're going to be back tomorrow." Me: Oh. Him: "Let's have sex. Come over. Just kidding." Me: What??" Him: I was kidding. Me: K. Then afterwards he said, "bye" and I asked why, and he said that he was moving to another country for a year to study there as well.
And of course, I'm a very gullible person so I called his best friend and asked. His friend told me that he's most likely joking because he already applied for another university and he got a loan to go there. So I tried tricking him into telling me the truth after I heard that. And at the end he said, "He needs to eat. Plus, I don't want to go over there to tell you. It was a joke."
I'm not sure if he did that because he was bored, or because he wanted to get a reaction out of me since I wasn't talking to him much after that conversation. Or he was saying that to try to get me to move on. And right now, he's acting cold-hearted to me. We haven't spoken all day today. But he still kept our relationship status up on facebook.
So does he still like me?
Yes, it was my fault for venting on my blog. I should've put it on private for him not to see.
He is basically trying to get a reaction out of you. I believe he still some what cares because when dudes move on they really move on. You should feel if he is really playing you. But that might not be the case. Only you know him and wahat he is capable of.
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This coming school year will be my senior year. My boyfriend graduated this past school year. We live in two different states and have just recently been allowed to visit each other. Last school year we agreed that due to the fact that I couldn't go to my junior prom with him that I wouldn't go and since it was his senior year he could decide whether or not he wanted to go. He decided that he wasn't going to go and promised that we would go to MY senior prom together. Now, with senior year approaching he has said flat out that he doesn't want to go to my senior prom, because he "wasn't allowed" to go to his. I really want to go but I have no idea how to convince him?
Not to be rude but you guys might not last fforever that is just how life works. If you want to go its your choice, just like you gave hm a choice. He should respect that this is your last year and you want to do it big. If he doesn't understand then maybe you have to talk about something more than just prom. You don't have to go with a guy just your friends. Hoped I helped.
Lillian
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i am from india..i am 19 years old female from india , mam i am really helpless i am still crying while typing , mam when i was 14years old i had some famly problem due to my dad he never liked me and same was from my side and also he used to fight with my mom then i took up mine mother n mine responsibility and always kept tried keeping her happy then i got ditched by my friends then i met one person (he was not my bf)i started liking him i loved him its been 4years that i still love him but i couldnt tell him about my feelings he used to love someone else , then i spoilt my self when i came to know that he has passed away , then i kept my self away from everyone , i am taking different different pills ( sleeping) since 2years but i dont sleep whole night , and now its been 7days i met one person over yahoo messenger i have started liking him as a friend , i feel good when i talk to him but now i want him into my life because i am all alone and also hes very much appropriate , but hes married but his wife left him and hes not intersted into love..please tellme why does this happens with me everytime why with me mam??????????????????/ my email id is payalgulati86@yahoo.in
I just want you to know that your not the only one who has a lot of tragedy in their life. Its a part of life. I want you to know that before you start looking for someone knew you need to make sure youself is stable. You can't meet anybody who matters until you get your self ready. You have to be comfortable being yourself alone before you can do that with another person.
Lillian
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About a month or two ago one of my co-workers and I started talking/texting pretty much everyday. HE STARTS THE texting. We will text for hours. I recently got out of a long relationship, and I am not looking for a boyfriend. It is just nice to talk to someone I guess, because he is a really cool guy. I am 20 years old, and I am not the kind of girl that just talks to whoever because I am bored. I think I am actually interested in the guy. He is cool with my ex, who does not know we have been texting a bit. I suggested friends with benefits ( we had sex once, and again I do not get around) until one of us got into a relationship because I do not want to get hurt. He was excited about the idea. I asked him if he had a crush on me and he said i am funny, hott, and cool but he does not see me as a future girlfriend. I don't even want a boyfriend right now anyway, but I have never really gotten rejected before. I don't think I am all that or anything, but now I feel so insecure like what's wrong with me! I'm confused, please any advice?
I don't care if your a ugly person or the most beautiful person in the world. Whenever any one gets rejected its kind of painful, its just a part of life. So nothing is wrong with you. But the key thing is to think positive. Think of the rejection as an opportunity for someone better to come.
Lillian
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im 15yr old girl and the guy is 19
we started going out and everything went well but when we were dating for 3 months my parents made us brake up...(legal stuff) so we broke up but we still have feelings for eachother and we still talk the way we used to except we dont say we are a couplee so what does that make us? He is not my boyfriend and i am not his girlfriend but we still talk like we are. We dont have sex or anything like that but when we get to see eacohter we cuddle and stuff sometimes do stuff but nothing more to it. When a new guy asks me if im single i dont know what to say because i AM single but in a way im taken and same goes to the guy i like. We are not confused of what we feel but we are comfused of the title we have. What kind of relationship is it that we keep?
No matter what you say you are girlfriend and boyfriend. Your emotions label you not what you say. But you need to be careful with relationship just because there are some serious legal issues that can be charged on him.
Lillian
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how do u know if a guy is attracted to you? Do every guy think about sex at one point. Even the nicest guy who is really modest. How do you know if he wants you but is to shy to act or make the first move. What does it mean when a guy talks to you and looks straight into your eyes? I just have these questions so hopefully you can answer them that would be nice :))
There are many ways that you know a dude may like you. One is when they look at you for while, tease you or talk about you a lot. Some guys dudes go straight for the sex proportion about the relationship but that also depends on the age of the boy. If a man/boy looks you straight in your eyes meas really nothing, because he could be lying,telling the truth, or like your eye color haha.
Lillian
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Ok when a guy proposes and gives a girl a ring, does she get him an engagement ring too or does he just get the wedding ring? How does this work?
Just wondering, thanks!
It really about your money situation or how you want to do it. Women of course naturally get two rings. But men can live with just one. You can also get to for the man also.
Lillian
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So here's my question.. What exactly does it mean when someone says "I'm a virgin again"? My boyfriend told me that. When we first started talking he told me this. I mean, I guess it might pretty much mean what it says but I'm not sure. When he first told me this I guess I didn't see the "again" part. But one day we were talking about sex and he told me about this other girl he had sex with and I was so surprised! I thought he said he had never had sex since he was a virgin but I guess I missed the "again" part.
How in the world can you be a virgin again? If you had sex in the past then you arent a virgin.. Like what the heck.
It's kind of like that saying of being born again. You have a new take on life. But in his case it's sex. It's kind of being celibate. Your never a virgin again but he's trying to not have sex I suppose.
Lillian
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Ohkay , so its this boy name Zachary , andd I think I like him well i know i do . hes in my first perios class and mee and him talk but not alot he sits right infront of me . But the thing is I dont know how to tell him and Im scared he wont even like me and would reject me . CONFUSED , Help ?
Try to catch his attention a little. Spark up a conversation and see if you really do have something in common. And if you do . Do it when the times right. Do the classic yes or no boxes do you like me test! haha hasn't failed me once.
Lillian
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Hi! Help me please! You'd be doing me a solid.♥
I'm Spencer, female, 17, college freshman. So, there's this guy I like, he's my classmate. I've kind of liked him for a month now and for the past few weeks I've been trying my hardest to do all the right moves but somehow I don't feel like I've progressed. But despite that, I don't wanna give up. But I don't even know what to do.
So this guy I like, he's 18, college freshman and we have 3 classes together. But we also have friends in those classes. About our relationship, well we've known each other since the schoolyear started but we belong to different groups. We're not like, 'oh we're friends and we're nice to each other', no, he actually likes to bully and joke around with people (me included). I always try my best to make small talk with him or something but sometimes I fail or sometimes I succeed (for like a day and then never again).
So please help me? I'm out of ideas and I just realized I don't even have much of a plan to win this guy over. I've put on makeup for him, watched his favorite show (men wrestling btw) just so I could talk to him about it, punch him lightly just to get his attention, IDK anymore. So, advice? Please? Pretty please with a cherry on top?:(
P.S. Every Monday I get an opportunity to be alone with him. We walk together to our next class because we're in the same building. That's roughly 8, 10 minutes? I've tried to like converse with him but usually I'd just ask and he'd just answer. Conversation ended. Then it'd be super awkward. I don't wanna sound desperate, asking another question over another after every answer like an interview (is that desperate?) so sometimes I just allow the silence between us. Any advice on how to maximize my opportunity here??
P.P.S. We have PE together. His partner's a girl and I can't help but feel jealous when they're talking, laughing, seemingly having fun. But at the same time, I don't think I can intervene because we perform by different groups. Maybe I'm just paranoid but I don't wanna lose to her or whatever. Advice in this area would be great too.
Sorry if that was long. But I honestly need help!:( Any great advice would be incredibly awesome (and if I succeed, I promise to let you all know). So please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please,
PLEASE HELP ME! God rewards good people..:)) JK, but seriously though! I need your help!
Thank you in advance! You guys are awesome.♥
xoxo,
Spencer
17
Female
I hate saying this but he might not be into you. But also with the 8 to 10 minutes walking say something that will last a long time. Play around with him. Ask him this one question " I like this guy . He's really cute and stuff but I don't know how to get his attention. What do you like girls to do?' Though try to imply that the person is back home or something. Something that he knows its NOT him. Just to tell you usually if a guy likes you he will tell you. Though there are guys out there who play hard to get. Good Luck!
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I lied to my friends about what was going on with a guy I loved, he found out and now he doesn't like me, did I blow it because he still flirts and talks back to me, he is embarresed to be with me though, around his friends he treats me very badly and I want to know if I blew because I still love him... I hope he still likes me.
Truly it depends on what you lied about. But you hurt his ego. He probably still likes you but you screwed up his train of being. So thats why he doesn't show it around people because I guess you didn't.So why should he be truthful when your not.
Lillian
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this guy goes to a diffrent school now ever sicne 4 weeks ago and im just not happy without him i use to see him everyday and now i barely see him and ive been trying to get over him for some time now i even gave time im just not happy..and im going to like a dance thing soon with a boy that i dont want to i asked him but thats when he said he was leaving the school..and now i dont know how do i get over a boy that ive liked so long...p.s. im a kind of girl whose kinda awkward shy around guys so im not to open to people i like to keep things to myslef....what d o i do to get over him because i still cant stop thinking about him.btw he like a year older andi allways see girls posting on his fb wall which i think there just firends but they could possibly something more? i dont know i dont even know why i still like him i mean i do but hes kind of a bad boy (hes not the sharpest tool in the box either as in not that attractive) but i find him amazing..anyways what should i do?
You say you want to forget about him though you like him. And it seems as if you want to be with him. I have to things you can do. You can do what you want to do and just ask him out. Or you can just live your life that is the on;y efective way for getting over a dude. He doesn't hender your existence. You do you. I know you say your awkward, but some one like that. It might not be him but it will be someone. Go to the dance have fun, even if you don't like the other guy. Do You!
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