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Why is this guy rejecting me?
About a month or two ago one of my co-workers and I started talking/texting pretty much everyday. HE STARTS THE texting. We will text for hours. I recently got out of a long relationship, and I am not looking for a boyfriend. It is just nice to talk to someone I guess, because he is a really cool guy. I am 20 years old, and I am not the kind of girl that just talks to whoever because I am bored. I think I am actually interested in the guy. He is cool with my ex, who does not know we have been texting a bit. I suggested friends with benefits ( we had sex once, and again I do not get around) until one of us got into a relationship because I do not want to get hurt. He was excited about the idea. I asked him if he had a crush on me and he said i am funny, hott, and cool but he does not see me as a future girlfriend. I don't even want a boyfriend right now anyway, but I have never really gotten rejected before. I don't think I am all that or anything, but now I feel so insecure like what's wrong with me! I'm confused, please any advice?
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Ok wait. Let's break this down:
1)you say you don't want a boyfriend right now
2)you suggest 'friends with benefits'
3)He says you are not girlfriend material...
And you're hurt? You're the one who said he could use you for sex. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? You're confused because the truth is, you are not cool with casual sex. You said as much yourself. You are not comfortable with it. There is a part of you that wants to be treasured and only wants to give yourself to a guy that will see you as a gift and a prize. If you want to have meaningless sex, go right ahead. But don't act surprised when it feels like something more important to you than him, and don't feel confused when he says he's cool with sex but not with a relationship. Every guy will make that choice if you let him. The girl that stands out is the girl that stands up and says she's different, she's not like everyone else. As soon as you do the 'friends w/ benefits' thing, trust me, you're just like everyone else. And like I said, if you're fine with that, great. Your choice. Go for it. But I don't think you are fine with that.
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I don't care if your a ugly person or the most beautiful person in the world. Whenever any one gets rejected its kind of painful, its just a part of life. So nothing is wrong with you. But the key thing is to think positive. Think of the rejection as an opportunity for someone better to come.
Lillian
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