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If you discovered that your drunken boyfriend had gotten a blowjob at a party from a stranger whose name he didn't even know, would you be bothered by this? I might add this was a couple of years ago, before we knew each other. He just admitted it to me and I've been weird about it ever since. I haven't even been able to talk to him. I can't get it off my mind. I've just totally lost respect for him for it. I realize people make mistakes but it's really bothering me. =/ He does regret it at least but still.
So..uh.. what's wrong with me? How can I stop holding this against him? Do I have a right to look down on him for this?
19/f
well im a 20/f and m y boyfriend definately has a past that i dont like and like you i find it hard sometimes wen i think about it Its hard not to hold it against him, but you just have to realize people change...A lot of people guys and girls have a crazy past or whatever you wanna call it and the fact that your boyfriend seemed to have had that stage in his life its probably a good thing and will keep him more loyal to you. Thats how I try to look at it... I mean I still make jokes to my boyfriend saying he was a pig for some stuff he did but I know those days of his lives are over so I try not to be too hard on him. so my advice to you is try not to think about it and make sure he knows how you feel about it and im sure youll eventually get over it and be able to laugh about it.
me and my ex-boyfriend just started talkin again. i like him again and i think he likes me again but im not sure.he says he wants to have sex with me. he always says it so i went to his house and all we did was watch his brother play a video game for 2 hours then i had to leave. i asked him y he didnt do anything and he said he didnt want to do it while his brothers were sittin right there becuz his room is in his basement and both of his brothers were sittin right there. does he really want to do this with me and does it look like we will ever go out again?? we flirt all the time and before we stop talkin to each other we always say i love u.i really like him so i need sum help. sorry its so long!!
no, you probably wont go out again....he just wants to have sex with u and probably have a friends with benefits relationship which is ok if u can handle it and want it
okay so ive been goin out with this guy for like 2 months and we're both 14. i really like him alot and i want to invite him over to my house. but i dont know how to keep him entertained... because its not like i can have him in my bedroom because my parents will b home. what can we do? i never had a boy over to my house before so im kinda new at all this. please help me quick. and i dont want some things like play board games... cuz thats lame... or do alot of people do that with their boyfriends and girlfriends?
wen i have guys over we usually just watch tv or a movie or sit and talk or hang out in my basement cuz we have a pool table or u could go outside if its nice out
Weird question, but okay.. do you find it normal to like someone alot that you've never met? I think that its normal to an extent- like a celeb.. but what do you think?
I think its normal....I use to like this guy alot that I never met b4. after like 3 years we finally meet and I still like him...
I like this guy that I went to school with last year and went out with him last year and the beginning of this year. I'm 17 and he is 16. And I don't know if I should tell him that I still like him alot because I don't know how he feel anymore. We still talk and he gives me hugs when he sees me, and we're still cool and all. But I have no clue what to do anymore. I want to tell him but I'm scared to because I don't know how he will react. PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I'll rate really good!!!!! Thanks in advance!!!!! Blessed be!!
~Candy the Wiccan
well before u could tell him u could ask him how he feels about u or if he thinks theres a chance u guys could ever get bak together...and then just tell him that u would like to get back to gether with him and u stil have feelings for him but i do think u should tell him because otherwise ur gonna have to keep it all inside and never kno if he likes u back or not
Ok, here is my situaton. I am a 14/f and in 9th grade. Well, i take a foods (cooking) class and there is this guy AJ who is in my group. Well the other day Garth, also in my group, asked me who I was going to the X-mas dance with and I said no one and that I wasnt even sure I was going. Well, AJ, an 11th grader said he was doing the same thing. He then asked me if i wanted to go with him. He said he would pay for it (It is $35 to go as a couple)and he would pick me up. He also said that he wouldnt ditch me for someone else at the dance b/c I was his date. Well, AJ is a really nice guy but he isnt the most attractive guy if you know what I mean. Also, he is really immature...he acts like a lil kid a lot. Anyway, he said he didnt want to go as boyfriend/girlfriend. Just so he'd have a date. So now, I dont know if he wants go with me b/c he wants to or because he wants a date. I don't know what to do! I dont know if i should tell him yes or try and find another date. My friend Kayla said she was going to ask her friend Bunion if he would go with me. But she said that if he didnt want to go then to go with AJ and then ditch him at the dance just so he can pay and so i'll have a ride. I don't want to do that but maybe i should? I dont know. I dont want to hurt him but i want to go. I told her i wasnt going to go if i didnt have a date b/c I didnt want to pay $20 to go by myself.
Should I go with AJ or find another date? Im confused about what to do! Please help
HEC
if ur not into AJ then dont go with him because u wont have a good time....but if ur not sure then its worth a try...but dont ditch him ....cuz then other guys will look at u as some like mean girl...and im sure that once uve spent more time with him u might not even want to ditch him ....i hate going alone to dances by myself and paying it totally sucks and wenever i doi always wish i had a date there but i dont so i think ud be better off going with him and then if ud rather go with someone else and he hasnt already bought ur ticket then cancel on him ...yea i guess thats mean .....but im not sure how far away the dance is but if its soon then chances are u might not get any1 else to go with
hey kelsey well im a female and im 14 and i really like this guy in my school who i went out with but he broke up with me a week after he asked me out and he said it was because he wasnt really ready for the realtionship and he didnt think i really liked him butim like in love with him after i told him that he said that he still likes me and everything but he wants to get to know me more and then go out but i think its really stupid because he already went out with me so yea i dont think its going to be any different when he get to know me more and anyways i really dont want to wait and like now when i ask him if he likes me he doesnt say yes he says may be and its pissing me off
please tell me how do i get him back because i know he likes me its just something standing on the way between us
i really need to know what should i do to get him back
love ya lots!!!!
well im not positive u can get him back..but trying can be fun....first of all he says he doesnt want to be with u right now and he wants to get to know u more...which is a really good thing....he wants to spend more time with u and talk to u and really get to know u ...actaully knowing a person and like knowing what their favorites are differ very much...u really want him to be your boyfriend.....basically u guys almost are but u want the label of him as your boyfriend...why? to tell people u have a boyfriend to feel more secure like he ownt just leave u ...the list is endles... i believe that ur need for him is more than ur love....u feel like u need him...u shouldnt need anyone but urself....honestly i dont think u will get him back until u can understand his point of view... a realationship willwork better the more you know someone...and ur only 14 ....u have so many more years of ur life why dont u date different guys because im sure u can find someone more like you who wants to be with u and then get to know u even more while dating because thats what u want so find some1 who agrees more with u
Okay about a week ago I started going out with one of the most hottest guys you will ever meet and I have liked him for a long time. Well on Tuesday he broke up with me but told my friends all over the school to tell me that it was over. So I was hecka mad and started crying when I got home. But then on Wednesday I was better and was laughing and saw him and he said he wanted to talk to me. I asked him y he broke up with me and he said because i was cheating on him andI really wasnt and I hecka like him and want to go back out with him. Wut should I do? I am a 13 year old female!
well first of all i dont think he broke up with you just because he thinks u were cheating...and if he realli liked u and found out that u were cheating he shouldve asked u about it first and talked to u about it...it doesnt really seem like he cares that much about u just to dump u so quick on a rumor he heard...but if u really want him back talk to him about it ...talking is something that can solve and help almost any problem....try to get to the base of the problem...gain his trust back...flirt a lil...and remember ur only 13 u will me plenty of more guys before finding the right one ...not saying that he isnt the right one....but the chances are slim....dating is about finding the right guy and having funa nd meeting new people...the more people u date then u will get to kno more about what u like in a guy and what u dont ....and stuff like that ....as u say u like this a guy alot what do u like about him? the fact that he dumped u based on a rumor? well of course not so im sure he has a lot of good things about him but make sure that they outweigh his bad aspects.... goodluck
ok there is two boys i like and they both have a gf. one of them is my ex and the other said that he loves me. i wanna go wit my ex and him and his gf dont look like theyr doin good but then i want to go wit the other one but hes goin wit dis hoe and he had no clue bout it. i really love my ex though cause when we broke up i went home cryin and i still havent got over him and its been like 2 months. wat should i do im 13 too and a female
well personally i think if both of them are taken then u should try to find someone else and i know how hard that can be but its not going to help likeing two boys who both arent single...the one is your ex and u still like him remember that ur only 13 and u will meet alot more boys before u find the right one...he is taken he has a girlfriend that im sure he likes alot ...even tho it looks like theyre not doing well they probably still have feelings for eachother and will try to get over their problems....the other guy also has a gf but says he loves you if he really loved you he wouldnt be with that other girl...and do u really want to be with a guy who would tell another girl that he loves her wen hes with you? i know i wouldnt ....my opinon in this is to try and forget about both guys ....meet someone knew ....atleast until one of them is single again....good luck
Ok, there is this boy at school that I think I love and I want him to be my boyfriend but he thinks he's to young to have a girlfriend, Well I kept on trying to tell him in secrets and notes that I love him and I want him to be my boyfriend, But he just wouldn't listen, so then I would start saying it out loud that I love him and stuff so everyone could here but now he is getting anoyed and now I dont know what to do and I realy need advice on what to say, and I dont want to ruin his and mine friendship!
first of all u should never say that u love him like that cuz that could scare him away....which that seems what happened....but dont worry about it u can change it... first of all back off for awhile because most people get upset or disapointed wen people dont like them anymore and sumtimes they start to like them as in people always want what they cant have...then just flirt with him a lil and if he flirts back then gradually flirt more....if u feel that ur friendship is going to be runined talk to him about it and if ur too scared too then just be like some daay ur such a great friend or be like ur the bestest friend in the whole world and then he will get the idea that u want to be his friend atleast but if u talk to him about it u can prolli get more answers and see his viewpoint on things....good luck
I'm 15 and female and I've never kissed a guy. I go to an all-girls Catholic high school, and I haven't kept up with ANY of my very few guy friends from when I went to co-ed schools.
*reads question, cringes at own stupidity*
So . . . how can I meet new people? I have a lot of really great friends, but it would be nice to meet some new people, and possibly get a boyfriend.
Any ideas?
i meet a lot of guys at the mall and snowboarding....u should try to meet guys doing sumthing u like to do cuz then u alreadi kno u have one thing in common...if any of ur girl friends have a boyfriend u could try to get them to get one of their friends for u and go to a movie or sumthing...or search guys from your area online and arrange to meet them with a friend at the mall or movies.....
I was talkin to a girl online and i had to go and she typed gtg, lybe. So...What does lybe mean when talkin on aim?
i think she meant to type lyfe...love u forever ...dont kno just a guess cuz the b and e are pretti close on the keybord
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a week now, and I really like him a lot. I've heard stories about him getting stuff from girls then not talking to them but he wasnt going out with them though. All I've done is kiss him so far only because I'm so afraid all he wants from me is sex or something like that and I dont want to bring it up in case he isnt using me. But I was just wonderin if there was anything I could do besides being a prude to see if he really likes me or not. Thanks!
my friend has this situation a lot but she always does stuff with the guy and then soon after its like they stop talking to her i dont believe that they were using her for sex tho. wen u do stuff with guys like that before ur in a relationship or evenearly in a relationship it makes them think that ur just a girl they can do stuff with and not have to worry about being tied down in a relationship ....but since ur alreadi with the guy its alil different... i would say wait a month and if he asks u todo stuff before then say no and explain why like say that u wanna wait until u feel comfortable and kno that its not all he wants and say that ud like to wait atleast a month that way if ur not sure ina month u can just say not yet or whatever so just see what he says and then go from there if es like i understand then thats good but telling him in person would be better cuz then itll seem more serious and u can see how he reacts better
Tomorrow is my 15th birthday. Im in a pagent and i dont think that my boyfriend is going to come to it. Also, he didnt come to my little party yesterday either. What do i do? How can i get him to want to be with me on my birthday after the pagant? I dont even know if he knows its my birthday tomorrow. His whole family knows but i dont think he does. Should i be with him tomorrow or would that just be a bad idea? I just want it to be special.. ya know?
If you can help me id really appreciate it.
Sorry so long i just have a lot of different things on my mind
i think wen u talk to him next just be like im so excited tomorows my bday and be like itd be so cool if u came to my pagent ud get to see me do(whatever u do at ur pagent) and be like its be so fun to see u on my bday u should realli come ....or u could just be like what r u doing tomorow and wen hes like blah blah whatever belike noooooooo ur coming to my pagent to see me and hang out with me on my bday
Hey,
so i am so totally in love with this hottie, and he knows my name and all, but he doesnt really know me, we're in one class together, but it might sound random if i just start talking to him.
luv,
Will Never Be Noticed
just start off by talking to him about little stuff about homework or make a joke or sumthing about the class or ask to borrow a pen or sumthing and then ask him questions like are u taking this class or who do u have for math or something and then sum day u guys will just start talkin n whatnot
Hi my name is jess and theres this boy in my school that new i got to know him good and he started to like me than i think we went out now hes saying that his dad says he's to young to go out wit anyone is he saying that for a eccuses or do u think its true.
ps can you tell me what i could do to go out with him
well this would be easier to answer if u told us how old he was.....but lets say hes atleast 16 then i would have to say hes lying because most parents are more strict about their daughters dating than their boys ...but maybi if hes younger than it could be true but persoanlly to me it sounds like hes lying......is he telling u that u guys have to break up because of this? well if so i would aslo say hes lying because if he wasnt lying hed prolli try to make it work without his dad knowing.....sorry to sound so negative but its just my opinion...good luck
hey its me the one that asked about having a bf and liking another guy and well i broke up with my bf and the other guy asked me out and well i need help because he asked me to the movies tomorrow (friday) and i mean i want to go and my mom said i can but im scared cause i have never been out before ah help please
aww dont be scared...ull have a great time.... wear clothes that u feel comfortable in sitting for the whole movie but look good !!! u should bring money even tho hell prolli pay...i just went to the movies with a guy like 2 days ago and i had like no money i had 2 dollars and a dollar in change and i was pretti sure hed pay buti was scared if he didnt but he did so i didnt have to worry about that. for my first date and many other i usually just hold his hand and stuff and flirt...i also tend to talk alot during the movies...if he doesnt hold ur hand right away ways to get him to are knock his arm off the hand rest and then put yours on it and then take yours off and knock his off again and eventualli hell prolli hold your hand and if he doesnt grab it for a few secs then let go and see if he grabs your hand back n stuff like that... other ways of flirting are look for old guys or girls in the movie and be like to him i bet u want him/her or be like ooo hes hott talking bout sum old guy n stuff but make sure he knos ur just joking..... n good luck and im sure ull have lots of fun hope i helped
I dont understand how all these younge kids come on here and ask for love advice and say how they are in love and "falling" for people. I dont think you kids really know what your talking about. Maybe instead of saying love so freely you all should start saying lust. thats what it really is.
I believe that kids can be in love and fall for people.... Being in love and loving sum1 are 2 different things. Being in love is having both people love one another....loving sumone is not having the love being returned... these kids can be in love... love can be used towards a friend and means that u care about sum1 alot ... falling for sum1 of course they can ive fallen in love many times....but just because u fall in love doesnt mean everything always works out perfect.....these kids are young and if they believe they are in love then let them believe it many people meet their partners at a young age so who are you to say these kids arent in love.....theyre young let them live and love for themselves and decide whats love and what isnt
Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. I don't know if sending that letter was rash or not. The thought that he'll never talk to me again also makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.
if u still like him u could try talking to him aboutit and say that u atleast want to try and be friends and then maybe if u get to kno him again u can see if u still like him or dont ....if u do u should just take things slow and make sure u can trust him before things get too serious if u cant get his trust then dont try to make things work because without trust u cant have nething. i think u should talk to him again because it might u not like him anymore and realize hes a jerk or sumthing or if u talk to him u guys might be able to work something out.. good luck
okay i really need help on this...me n mah boyfriend have been together for a year n 3 months since sunday...but it seems like all we do is fight...but i know deep down in my heart we r meant to be....but we fight over the most dumbest things...like tonight...we was at the fair n i didnt wanna ride this one ride...n he got all pist n shit...n we fought n like always..he ended up cryin n i told him i was tired of fightin wit him n that things was gonna havet to change n he asked me if i was gonna break up wif him..n i said no...of course...cuz i love him way to much...but sometimes i feel like i should just to see what else is out there...but i cant bring myself to it...its like god is tellin me not to...like we r meant to be and just stick wit it..and also he claims that he dont know why he acts the way he does...(in yellin and cryin all the time bout stupid shit)...and i dont know what to do or what to believe or anythin else...someone plz help me!
personally i think u should take a break from each other it might help the fighting alot ...u may feel that u love him bcuz ur with him but if u break u and still need him n want him and he does the same for u then ull kno it wa smore meant to be ......it sorta soinds like ur in love with the idea of being in love and trying to make it work wen its simple not meant to be