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Is he using me ?
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a week now, and I really like him a lot. I've heard stories about him getting stuff from girls then not talking to them but he wasnt going out with them though. All I've done is kiss him so far only because I'm so afraid all he wants from me is sex or something like that and I dont want to bring it up in case he isnt using me. But I was just wonderin if there was anything I could do besides being a prude to see if he really likes me or not. Thanks!
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Just go out with him a few times more, and you will be able to tell if he's using you or not because, if he was, he would get aggrivated with you not having sex with him already, if he really likes you, he'll wait. after you are pretty sure that he really does like you, go for it.
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my friend has this situation a lot but she always does stuff with the guy and then soon after its like they stop talking to her i dont believe that they were using her for sex tho. wen u do stuff with guys like that before ur in a relationship or evenearly in a relationship it makes them think that ur just a girl they can do stuff with and not have to worry about being tied down in a relationship ....but since ur alreadi with the guy its alil different... i would say wait a month and if he asks u todo stuff before then say no and explain why like say that u wanna wait until u feel comfortable and kno that its not all he wants and say that ud like to wait atleast a month that way if ur not sure ina month u can just say not yet or whatever so just see what he says and then go from there if es like i understand then thats good but telling him in person would be better cuz then itll seem more serious and u can see how he reacts better
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Just don't give it up. If you you give it up now, after only a week, there could be a chnace he may leave you. See how long the relationship will last withouy you guys having sex thats how you will know what he is really about.
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This may sound stupid, but tell him you want to wait. If he dumps you, then there's your answer. If he really does stick around, then he might like you. He may just be sticking around to see if he can still use you. If you tell him to wait and he comes on strong, dump him. He's just using you.
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You should still bring up the subject about sex. Talk about how you're not ready to do it yet and if you want to wait until you're older or until marrage or whenever you think you should lose your virginity. If at any point the two of you are making out and he takes his hand and unbuttons your pants or tries to get his hand down there stop him. Then you'll know he's really using you. If he even jokes about you giving him head. Then that would be another sign. Also you really can't believe what other people tell you! People are a$$holes.This has happened to me before. Not fun. Good luck and i hope everything works out for you!
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Well...you can't ALWAYS believe everything you hear. But before you say anything make sure you know for sure that the rumors you are hearing are true or you might even lose him. So lay low on the situation and if you feel like his pressuring you into something that you don't want to do are not ready to do yet you can tell if he's using you. So just hold your tongue until whenever you need to stop.
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