Hey everyone, my name is Jordan. Im going to be a sophomore at Oklahoma State University this year, currently studying Hotel and Restaurant Management. I graduated with a 3.42 GPA from Cinco Ranch High School in Katy, Texas, my home of ten years. I am a singer, a cook, a brother, a son, a friend, an employee, and a student. I have alot of background with problems with friends, parents, siblings, teachers (long stories), employers, and of course, with myself. But ask anything you want, if I can help just one person, than I've made a difference, and I'll be happy! Please rate me based on the advice I give. I want to know if I need to change anything! Thanks to everyone who has rated me so far! I'm sorry about my period of inactivity on this site, school, my girlfriend, and other aspects of my personal life have kept me away for longer than I wanted, but I'm back and ready to answer your questions!
E-mail: jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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15-f: well ive been dating a guy for 4 months and my parents are divorced...My mom says that i cannot hangout with him outside of school unless he comes over and "has dinner with us" an she meets his parents as well. My dad told me that unless he's "putting a ring on my finger" then he doesnt have to meet him like the way my mom wants to. soo thats the only way i see him is on my dad's day's..and im not with him that much. I guess my question here is should u continue seeing him at my dads, or should he finally meet my mom...[ps]my mom and i dont get along at all. (link)
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Hey,
I feel for you, my mom and I don't get along either, and she has yet to meet my girlfriend of over a year and a half. Granted we are in a long distance relationship, my parents aren't divorced, and I am nearly 21, the point stands that your dad is right, it isn't necessary until you have the ring on your finger. While it would be in a way respectable for him to meet your mom, it could also open a world of trouble for you and him if your mom dislikes him. I've seen it happen before, and it can only open the rift between you and your mom more, trust me. In the end, its really your choice. If you think you and your boyfriend are up for it, you could have him meet your mom, but personally, your dad seems the more sane one in the relationship, as my dad is in my family. I would stick with dad's opinion, and if you and your boyfriend decide to tie the knot, then let your mom meet him, cause by then, she won't have much say in the relationship anyway. But I could be biased. Anyway, best of luck to you and your boyfriend in the future!
Jordan (jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu)
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Hey sexy!
its me again! ;-)
...well, i have a question about guys....... since you are one.. and what a guy you are!
well, would you say that guys ever really let go of their ex's???
or are they often reminded of them?
Because my friend is expiencing some similar problems with her bf, and asked me... but what do i know about a guys way of thinking???? right? wtf?
so, whats you're input sexy?
Ur the greatest!
I would IM you to ask you one on one... but you never seem to be on :-( so sad.....
maybe soon though ;-)
thanx for the advice in advance!
oh.. and its not just for ex's but old crushes too! I know a girls perspective on the ossue, but dunno if guys r the same. thanx! (link)
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Hey again!
I'm very flattered that you think so highly of me, I'd hate to let you down, but I'm just one man, but I do try my best. As for guys letting go of their ex's, it really depends on the guy, the length of the relationship, and how much it meant to them. Some guys easily get over their ex's, some that are longer relationships stick with them for a while, there are just different factors. I know that I've personally moved on past my ex's and am solid rooted in my current relationship and its future. As for old crushes, yeah, most guys tend to move on past them..and yes, even movie star crushes fade in time, and those are more of fantasies, unattainable fantasies, so not to worry there. So to your friend with the bf troubles, time heals all wounds. There was a time when I was still wounded and remembered my first girlfriend who screwed me up, but my current girlfriend helped me get over it and restored my self-confidence. So being supportive to your guy can really help bring him around too, if he is in a hurt way. If he is still pining over her, then it may be a lost cause.
And as for not being online, I'm currently on an internship in Santa Fe, and the only real internet access I get is from my workstation back at the switchboard, and it doesn't have AIM or AOL, but I try to access my email at least twice per shift when I'm not answering phones. So email is always good for contacting me, or the advicenator's site. Hope I was able to help out!
Jordan (jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu)
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hey you =)
I noticed that you tend to give some pretty damn good advice.
Well, this is my dilema... there's this guy that i'm really into, andI believe that he is into me too. We talk all the time and everything, we're practically the best friends! He knows like evry little thing about me....
In a way, do you think that that's bad?
I love the guy to death, but is it really that good for him to know me like that deeply?
and... can i get a picture of you? I read your header i guess you can call it, and i'm oh so very attracted to you....
I certaintly wouldn't mind you being my personal consultant ;-)
Thanks in advance sexy! (link)
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Hey, thanks for the compliment! I try my best to help people in any way that I can. Unfortunately, due to school, girlfriend, and being on internship in Santa Fe, just don't have as much time as I used to to give advice, but I'm more than happy to help those in need! Sounds like you have a good thing going with this guy, and its good that you love him. If he didn't love you, he probably wouldn't care enough to want to know every little thing about you. It can be good to have someone who knows you so well, because they are usually people you can trust to keep you on the right path, people you know will be there for you, who've got your back through thick and thin. And in an opposite sex friend, or significant other, that is a very good trait. If you two love each other, then you have the basis of a long lasting, loving relationship, something that many people, while they may not say it out loud, envy. Couples that build a solid relationship through friendship and loving and caring are much more likely to stay married throughout the course of their life, compared to others who don't have that solid foundation. I'd say its definetly not a bad thing, especially if feelings are mutual, and it seems like they are. And I'm betting this guy is one lucky guy to have you.
As for a picture, I might be able to post one in the future, as I don't really have full access to internet here on my internship, just some basics. And I'm always willing to give advice to those in need, so if you need a personal consultant, I think I'm up to the task. But just fair warning, I am a happily taken guy. Sorry, but hope I can help you with whatever other advice you need!
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ok my boyfriends best friend(johhny) is a really good friend of mine also but we are just friends and that is it!! well last night i had a dream that i did some ....."not so nice" things with johnny and now i cant talk to johnny, and i kinda feel bad, if i tell my boyfriend than im scared he will get mad but this dream really bothered me to were i cant talk to johnny, i mean i dont want to brake up with my current boyfriend its just this dream bugged me..do i tell my boyfriend and his friend or what do i do? (link)
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I think probably the most important thing to remember in this situation is that dreams are just that, dreams. There are some psychological perspectives and even religious perspectives that say that dreams have special meanings, messages your subconscious is trying to tell you. However, in this case, I doubt your dreams tell you what you think they mean. It could just be a subconscious signal that you need more attention from your boyfriend, and in the dream, you got the attention (perhaps not in the way you might want) from Johnny. Then again, it could be a small sign that you might be attracted in some small way to Johnny. I know these are two possible situations that you may not want to think about, but they could be very real. But not talking to Johnny is not the answer, it could only complicate the problem. If this is a one time dream, which it sounds like it is, then it could just be the sign of an idle mind. But if it starts recurring, I'd say more than one or two more times, you may need to invest sometime into exploring your feelings for Johnny, and exploring possible problems in your relationship. My advice, for now, is to just keep the dream to yourself. There is no need to possibly upset your boyfriend, and also no need to not talk to Johnny. If your dream included what I think it might have, you might have just been slightly aroused while you were asleep, which would explain alot.
Best wishes, Jordan
jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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I go to an all-girls school so I don't know a lot of guys. I've recently become really interested in them, and I'm dying to meet one! I hang out with my friends a lot in the city, and there are a lot of guys my age there, and I was wondering if it's alright if a girl just randomly approaches a guy? Like, you're a guy, so you'd probably know, right? Would it seem attractive, or just really weird?
Thanks! LoVe, ~E~ (link)
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Hey ~E~,
There are a few different ways to approach your predicament. One is to just go up to a guy, and just say "Hi, my name is (your name here), what's yours?" Granted, some guys may not be as open to that approach, but it could be just the opener you need. Another is to pick a guy you kinda like, then flirt a little bit. If you are a little young for that one, just try the straight "Hi, my name is," but please, don't make it sound like the Eminem song. Perhaps trying something a little bit more simple could be the key. Try walking up to a guy you might be interested in and complimenting something about him. By that, I mean his shirt, his jeans, maybe his sense of style in general, etc. Don't try a pick-up line that a guy might use on a girl at a bar. Those can be really lame, but one that might work is asking a guy for his opinion. Something simple like, "My friends and I think Axe body spray smells really great, but we wanted a guy's opinion. What body spray do you think is better?" Something like that may show a guy you are interested in what he thinks, or has to say, which makes a great conversation starter. Try to be yourself, guys can sometimes tell when a girl is just trying to get their attention by being flashy. If you need more help, or just want to talk, feel free to email me at my school email address. Good luck.
Best wishes, Jordan- jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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the guy i really like just got asked out by this girl. i'm not sure if he said yes or no or wheather or not hes going to say yes or no. but im just trying to be suportive to him no matter what but really its killing me inside and i hope to god he says no. i have no clue what to do im so confuesd. (link)
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Hey! I have to tell you, Ive been in your shoes, but reversed roles before. Me as the guy liking the girl, of course. But it seems to me that you have the greatest weapon of all, no, not Excalibur, but the element of surprise. Before you think "surprise attack," let me clarify by saying surprise as in this guy must have no clue you like him. I have been preaching this for who knows how long, but many teenaged males are STUPID when it comes to women. I am getting better, cause I am almost 19, plus I learned alot about chivialry, etc., stuff that is dying out of men of our generation. To go off on a Jeff Foxworthy tangent here, ladies, you are smarter than men. Why are you smarter? Because you think about stuff. You are smarter than the creature who tries to catch his underwear by flipping it off his foot, you are smarter than that! (Still feels good when you catch it on the first try!) If you are not wearing a big NEON sign that says "Hey, dummy! I like you!," teenaged males may not catch the message. If you are going to get a teenage male to get the point, you are going to have to sit him down and spell it out for him. Tell him you like him, and why. The worst case scenario happens everyday to millions of people around the world-you will like him, but he wont like you in the same way. Best case scenario, you two will go out, but if you are still teens, dont bet on a happily ever after. Few teenage relationships make it that far. But telling him is the best way to go. Just be honest, don't worry about the rest. Good luck, and don't be afraid to drop me an email if you need more help.
Best Wishes, Jordan-jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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sorry if this is long but i really need help.
ok im 14 and i will be 15 september 13. this guy name tyler is 12 and will be 13 september 1. he is goin to 8th and im goin to 9th. he doesnt hang out with 12 year olds, he looks and hangs out with 14 and 15 year olds. we are really good friends, and tuesday night he asked me out but i said no. i like him, but i am scared to go out wtih him. i mean if we break up, then it will be weird. and he isnt really cute. but i like him alot. last night he got mad at me because he thought that i was gonna go out with this other guy, but im not! and then his mom told him to get off the phone and he told me he would call me back at 1 and he never did. he hasnt called or got online today either. i think hes still mad at me and i dont know what to do. i told him i didnt like the other guy but i dont think he believed me. what should i do?? should i go out with him if he asks me again? some people say i should and some people say heck no. i have no idea what to do! (link)
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Hey. Ok, I can't tell people how long I have been preaching this, but you CAN NOT BASE A MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP ON LOOKS!! Age cannot be a major factor either, unless you are like in our 20's and he is still in his teens and it is banned by law. If you two break up, but have a relationship based on friendship first, then it shouldnt get weird. You have to keep the lines of communication open. Tell him that you were not interested in the other guy, and that he is the one you want to persue a relationship with. Just remember, you two are two years apart. You are both emotionally and physically more mature than him, keep that in mind if you two try to move forward. Don't go too fast, and you may end up lasting much longer. Keep friendship your first priority! Good luck.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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Ok, say that you like this guy a lot and you wish that you could tell him how you felt. There is no way that you can get a hold of him, and you want to tell him everything that there is to know what can you do?????
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Hey. Well, your situation is particularly difficult, since you have no way to contact him. I'd say "When you wish apon a star, makes no difference who you are..." but obviously that won't work too well either. One way to at least document how you feel about him, to tell him whenever you next see or talk to him, is to write a letter. You don't have to mail it, necessarily, just keep it someplace you wont lose it. Or, if you know his email address, try emailing it to him. You say that you can't get a hold of him, so email and snail mail probably won't work very well. Just try to keep a record of how you feel about him, then when you can contact him again, tell him exactly what is on the record. That is really the best thing you can do, except for pray to God to bring him back into your life sooner. I'm sorry I can't help more, but there is not much you can truly do in this situation. Good luck with this guy you like so much.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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I dont have exact proof...but my friend told me she thinks he likes her. She doesn't like him though, he's dropping hits like smiling --- hitting on her! And i even saw them. It's ridiculous -- what do I do to get over it? PLEASE ANSWER --- Will r8 high!!! (link)
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Ok, I'm a guy, so let me try to put in some male explanation into all this. First, I'm not trying to defend him, just trying to put this in a different light. Second, what applies to me does not apply to every guy. Let's get on with this then. Is he just smiling on her, and you infer that as hitting on her, or is he smiling AND hitting on her, two completely different scenarios. If smiling is considered flirting, then I've flirted with hundred girls over my short 18 years of life, few successfully, I might add. Perhaps he is just trying to be friendly with her, after all, you did say your friend doesn't like him. I had that exact same problem with my first girlfriend and her best friend. The girl actually went so far as to push me in my pool! Had to take off my shirt and shoes to retrieve my glasses, forgetting that I had my dad's cell phone in my pocket. Anyway, your boyfriend could just be trying to get your friend to like him as a person. It is all too common for couples to split because of best friends clashing with boyfriends or girlfriends. My advice is this, gather your evidence properly before acting on it. Just because your friend says that she thinks he likes her doesnt mean that he is two-timing you. Try talking to your other friend to see if this is an isolated incidence, or possibly ask one of them to flirt with him, just to rate his reaction. Don't jump to unsupported conclusions is probably the best hint of insight I can give you. Good luck with whatever happens. Feel free to update me with the situation, or ask me for further help!
Best Wishes, Jordan
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ive been talking to this guy for 5 yrs. but weve never been together and he lives in flordia right now. Well he just asked me to marry him,i really love him....but i don't want to get married, ive never wanted to get married. I don't know what to say.
HELP
-twiSTed (link)
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Ok, so you two have never been together, yet he still asks you to marry him? Thats a new one by me, usually, if I were gonna propose, I would have wanted to be officially be with that person, not just talk to him. If you know you love him, that should be your first step, be with him, as a girlfriend. As far as distance in relationships goes, distance can be overcome. Thats why we have those things called cars and airplanes. As for not want to get married, that can be a major psychological issue. It could be that you dont want to be tied down, that you have never seen yourself as a wife, or even a mother someday, or it could be an issue from earlier in life. Seeing as I am not studying psychology, I won't delve any farther than that. Here is what I would do, tell him that you do love him, that you want to be with him, but you dont want to be engaged first. Make it clear that you want to "date" first, then, maybe in a year or two, you can make an educated decision as to whether you are honestly not comfortable with the idea of marriage, or if you are just scared. Good luck, no matter what happens.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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idk what to do...i was "together" with this guy.(im 13/f-hes 14/m) hes a grade older than me but we got to know eachother this year and started going "together" this march i think. well hes really really really busy w/ sports and we used to talk atleast like 3 hours everyday. now hes going to hs and hes been acting like a jerk lately. he hasnt talked to me in a long time, and he was talking to my friend and said that its not gonna work out, but he wont talk to me so hes leaving it up for me to figure it out even though i know already. what should i do, cus im having a hard time moving on...thanks.
-emily (link)
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Hey, dont worry, you situation is completely typical of "relationships" at your age. I agree with the people telling you to move on, guys at that age can be complete jerks, with the onsets of maturity and all that. Trust me, been there, done that. I didnt have terrible twos, I had the terrible early teens. My advice is this, forget about him. I know its hard, focus on school, friends, hobbies, anything else. At your age, the relationships that you have aren't even learning relationships, they are basically ways to screw things up. Older guys tend to focus on older girls, thus the move to high school probably symbolizes, at least to him, that he is a "bigger man," thus he is trying to move away from junior high things. You need to wait until maybe 15 or 16, really get to know the person you want to date, then build a relationship on friendship, not just because the guy is "hott" or athletic. Date for character, not for looks, and I guarantee, your relationships will go much farther.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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