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boyfriends best friend
ok my boyfriends best friend(johhny) is a really good friend of mine also but we are just friends and that is it!! well last night i had a dream that i did some ....."not so nice" things with johnny and now i cant talk to johnny, and i kinda feel bad, if i tell my boyfriend than im scared he will get mad but this dream really bothered me to were i cant talk to johnny, i mean i dont want to brake up with my current boyfriend its just this dream bugged me..do i tell my boyfriend and his friend or what do i do?
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Don't worry! Everyone has dreams of this nature and it is perfectly normal. It's just that when you are in a relationship, it can make you feel very guilty and embarrassed because although you know it was only a dream, you end up feeling as though you have cheated on your partner!
The thing you have to remember is that it was only a dream. It doesn't mean you have any feelings for Johnny, even if you enjoyed being with him in the dream. Dreams are just manifestations of worries, thoughts and so on that we have during the day. Chances are you were just feeling a little...shall we say....wound up? that day and those feelings got placed onto a guy you trust. You already have a good relationship with your boyfriend so you're fulfilled in that area so why dream about him? As you're good friends with Johnny, your brain just picked him to dream about.
So try not to worry about it too much. It didn't mean anything and you have no intentions of doing things with him in real life. Not to mention, if you don't behave normally with him then everyone will really think something is up!
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I think probably the most important thing to remember in this situation is that dreams are just that, dreams. There are some psychological perspectives and even religious perspectives that say that dreams have special meanings, messages your subconscious is trying to tell you. However, in this case, I doubt your dreams tell you what you think they mean. It could just be a subconscious signal that you need more attention from your boyfriend, and in the dream, you got the attention (perhaps not in the way you might want) from Johnny. Then again, it could be a small sign that you might be attracted in some small way to Johnny. I know these are two possible situations that you may not want to think about, but they could be very real. But not talking to Johnny is not the answer, it could only complicate the problem. If this is a one time dream, which it sounds like it is, then it could just be the sign of an idle mind. But if it starts recurring, I'd say more than one or two more times, you may need to invest sometime into exploring your feelings for Johnny, and exploring possible problems in your relationship. My advice, for now, is to just keep the dream to yourself. There is no need to possibly upset your boyfriend, and also no need to not talk to Johnny. If your dream included what I think it might have, you might have just been slightly aroused while you were asleep, which would explain alot.
Best wishes, Jordan
jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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