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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years and he is showing no signs of wanting to get married. I have 2 children from a previous marrage and he has never been married before. We are both 33 years old and we live in Nebraska where people don't generally wait much longer than 2 years. We have had our ups and downs but we do very well with the exception of me wanting to get married and him putting it off. How long should I wait? What do I do now while waiting? _(link)

Enjoy the time you spend together. Everyday moments by themselves whether happy or not can make a relationship stronger and happier. Take baby steps up to getting married; have him move in, or both of you make decisions together about normal things. He might not want to get married right way, because of the fact that the relationship is so great now, but what happens if something ruins it. Over half of all married Americans are devoiced, and what he is probably thinking is that breakups with someone you love is hard, but a thirty-day drawn out divorce is harder. Give it time, if you two are meant to get married that it will happen. But keep in mind you don't need a ring to be happy with him, enjoy the moments you have, and I guarantee those moments will last a life time, whether or not you ever see that ring.

There is a guy down the street, he is over 20 years older than me. I am 16. He is really good looking, funny, cool, calm, and collective. We have the same interests (movies, motorcycles, cars). He sits next to me sometimes at parties. We have had conversations about stuff like Cialis (ED medication, we were joking about it), and once Dirty Jobs with Mike Rowe came on and we joked about the subliminal messaging in that title ;). I took his chair once when he went to the bathroom, and when he came back he laughed and totally pretended to sit on me and put his butt all in my face. I laughed back. Everytime he walks his dog, I go outside for some reason, and he talks to me. Once, I had texted him and he never responded. I went outside the same day, and he cut his walk short (he always walks to the same spot, this time he stopped and turned around waaaay before that) and he came and talked to me. He said he got my text and answered my question about motorcycles, then we talked about age and how I was sick of being young because I needed a parent signature on EVERYTHING. He said the government was just protecting me from myself. I laughed. I have a friend who is helping try and get more friendly with him. Me and her are planning on inviting him over tonight to help us looking for bikes online since he knows more about them than we do. I hope we can be flirty. Can you give me some advice? I want to be able to be flirty with him and be on a more than friend, summer fling, level. I know the age difference is illegal and bad, but I'm not talking about sex or anything. A kiss would be nice. Can you help me? He is single and lives alone, two doors down on my street. _(link)

The best advice anyone could give you is to just be yourself. Think about it, it has got you this far. From reading your question, it seems to me that he is either avoiding you because he likes you and he doesn’t know what to do. Either because of the age difference or maybe he just isn't that good with showing his feelings. Or maybe he is avoiding you because he likes you but he doesn’t want a romantic relationship. Before you start really flirting him, just flirt a little and see if he flirts back, if he dose than he probably likes you. If he doesn’t he might just want to be friends. If he does flirt back than just go with, flirt your way, it is unique and it is a good way to show him who you are, and what you have to offer. Hope I helped.

i'm a girl, 16 years old going on 17, and i have been dateing my boyfriend sense March 27, 2010. The problem with dateing him is there's a age gap... we are 5 years apart, or 4 depends on how you look @ it, which means he's 21.

so in the first month of our dateing everything was cool and all we would do is hang out. in the 2nd month, or the middle of the 2nd month there was a prblem, he wanted to have sex. see i know that if we do have sex it would be counted as rape, and he would go to jail and i would be in trouble, BIG TROUBLE. so i told him we should wait. so during may he tells me he wants to change his life and start going to church with me.

one day after church i went with him to go meet his mom, we met and she is a wonderful lady. Then the week after he jumped back on the subject (which he's been jumping on alot even after i said no the 1st time) and he gives me the same lame excuses, "well, if your mine, why can't i have all of you?" or "baby, i love you, and i just wanna show you how much i do" and ect. And every time he gives me those lame excuses, as if i never heard those lines b4, i tell him the same thing "you can wait, and if you can't leve."

now he's never did anything to make me wanna leve him, except bring up the sex subject like 1,000 times and i'm getting tired of it. i've asked some of my friend and some said they would "have sex with him and leve him." some said "jus stop talking to him, he'll get the clue." and others said "screw him like bunnys do, and make the sex so good he wouldn't dare leve."

but i'm not worried about him leveing. if he does, he does. that's how i feel. i just don't know what to do. i realy do like him and we have fun together but i'm tired of telling him no and always talking about it.

what do i do? should i give IT up, or give HIM up?
please, some one give me some advice. _(link)

I read somewhere that when you are sixteen you can have sex with anyone up to age twenty-four. (You might want to double check this fact.) My best advice for you would be to do what you feel is the most comfortable for you. If you believe that you do want to have sex with him, than you should probably start reading law books and see if my fact is right or not. But if you don't want to have sex with him, tell him it is illegal and he can wait one more year. Tell him, you love him enough to think of the legal consequences. If you choose not to have sex with him, the most likely thing that is going to happen is that he was ask you again and again, hoping that you will give into his request. Whichever decision you decide to make, stick to your decision. If he loves you he will (maybe not like) be accept any decision you make. And if you do loose him on account of this, just remember that someone better might be your next boyfriend.

So I was at this show and it was outside an this one band was there. I never really heard of them or anything, but I was walking past them and I wa like hey you guys sound good. And they were like thanks. And the one guy, was like oh I like your shirt. And then we got in this big discussion about how awesome the artist is and then we started talking about other stuff and we have so much in common. Like he is a really cool guy. And he's done touring right now and is from my area so he asked for my number and we've been testing a lot and he wants to hang out. And then like I want to pursue it but i'm kind of scared too. I mean he is very good looking and I saw so many girls eyeing him up and he tours a lot and I can't go with him because of school. I know I
know I'm thinking way too far ahead of myself but I fall so fast and I just don't want to get hurt"/ _(link)

Not wanting to get hurt is one of the most frequent worries in dating. I know, you know there are many possibilities for him to cheat on you or find someone else. but if you like him don't let your fear of striking out and getting hurt keep you from getting to know him. my best advice for you would to be just to hang out with him and try to decide for yourself if he is the kind of guy to cheat on you, or if he is the kind of guy that would leave you just for the blond in the front row. sometimes this is a very hard thing to decide about a person but you can make the decision by reading his body language and doing a little investigation work,that isn't well, noticeable. what i mean by reading his body language is when you go out somewhere, watch him. see if he is constantly looking around and staring at girls as they walk by. maybe even go to the bathroom and see if he does or dose not hit on the waitress. there are many ways you can read his body language and try to figure out if he is the type to just leave you for another girl. This is just one way you can investigate another way is go and watch him at his shows (if he does any in the area again while he is off tour)when he is not expecting you. whether they are close by or not and just stand in the back somewhere and see if after the show he hits on, or takes home any of the girls what were as you said eyeing him up. I hope i helped you in some way and if you have any questions about my advice please ask me.

15/f ok so i have this amazing bf! i love him to death! christmas is coming up and i need lots of ideas on what i could get him i cant think of anything! any opinions would help. i want it to be something special or sentimental but i just cant think of anything :/ plz someone help me i need all the help i can get. i want to make this a special christmas for him thanks :) _(link)

Well what does he like to do? if you think about it that way you could probably get him something that he would really like. if he is a football player you could get him a custom made sweatshirt of his favorite player or himself. if he is a bookworm you could get him the new kindle digital book thing that just came out. and if he really doesn't have any particular group or activity he really likes, (or likes them all) you could combine different things and maybe create for him a collection of his favorite pictures or memories. or a present that has a little bit of all his favorite things in it. (body wash, movies, games, ect.) or maybe for a really good gift maybe you could arrange for you two to go one a winter horse and buggy ride. or just go on a short vacation. once you get thinking about what he really likes there is a lot of options that could make that Christmas just speculator.

13/f
my freind recently told me that he liked me i didnt make a big deal of it because i think im too young to date. now when i ask him who he likes he doesnt ever give me a staright answer but he makes it seem like its not me anymore. He told a lot of people that he likes this other girl in my school that i think is really bad for him. today i asked him if he really did like her and he said that he was just lying.. i really want him to still like me because i like him back to but i think i lost my chance, how can i get him to tell me who he really likes? i've already askeed him many times and he wont tell me so how do i get him to?? _(link)

you can try having one of your friends ask him. or you can talk to him alone and drive the conversation in that way.

14/f
I've had this huge crush on my best friend (who is a guy) and i've always been to afraid to tell him or anyone. People were always teling us that we should go out cause we act like a couple and we look cute together but nothing ever happened. Last week he told me that he has had a huge crush on me since spring break and he asked me out. i didnt give him an answer but i realized that i didnt like him anymore..is that normal to not like someone after liking them for a year? i dont know what happened. please help me figure out what to do _(link)

Well, to put it this way some people put there whole life into something and than all of a sudden when it suddenly matters it just fades away and becomes unimportant to them. i have no clue why this happens but sometimes it does. if you want to date him and give it a try go ahead that attraction might come back to you. and it might be better than you expect. but if you don't want to try it don't. don't pressure yourself to do something that will bother you in the further.

well i was going out with this boy and we were off and on agian for about a coupel of months. This last time i think it was the 4th or 5th time we are goin out. but, a few weeks ago, he broke up eith me because he belived some other girl. She hates me because he likes well liked me and not her. so anyway, its been at least 2 weeks and i cant stop thinking about him, and i cant help but to like him. my freinds and his friends tell me that he still likes me and wants anthore chance. I dint no what to say. i want to say yes because i do like him but.. i dont want to get hurt anymore. we still talk kinda it took about 12 days to start talking again. its so hard to because most of my friends hang out with him and so im there too. When im with my other friends they all get mad at me because im not with them. so then i try to hang out with more cause we've been friends longer but he's always with them. so then his friend tells me that he still likes me. i do to but i dont wanna. How do i get over him for good? This isnt my 1st bouyfreind but it's still hard. im in 8th grade and about to enter High School. _(link)

Time and distant really level out feelings for one person. it is almost summer so hang out with other friends but don't push the ones that hang around him away. also putting yourself out there again and dating someone else can take your mind off him and make you feel better and it will also make it easier to hang out with him and your other friends. If that don't work you should really try to search inside yourself and sort out your feelings for him. sorting out your feelings can help someone remember but it can also make it easier for someone to forget.

this is mostly meant for those who have been in a relationship for a while, but anyone can answer. when(how many months) did you first tell your boyfriend/girlfriend you love him/her? thanks in advance. _(link)

Four me it normal falls around when i feel it first. but one that i have in mind was around the second to third month if that helps. just know that when you love some one if it takes a year or maybe a day tell them, they might not feel the same thing back right away but give it time. if they are meant for you they will understand.

16/F

I think the guy i like likes me, but i'm not totally sure. There are a lot of signs that could prove he does but I'm still not sure. He doesn't know I like him though. So I've never had a boyfriend, and I like to do things gradually and slowly, I don't feel comfortable just blurting it out to him. How can I gradually hint to him that I like him and how can I lead that up to makinghim figure it out sortof? (assuming he doesn't make a move first). We talk in two particular classes, and one of them is every other day where we talk the most but my friend is also there. so help! _(link)

I think you could hint it by flirting and just joking around, like when he says a joke or something funny, laugh (pretend to laugh) and say it between breaths. it will be a big hint, but he might just take it as so glad were friends. you could also have your friend tell him, or hint it at him sometime where your not there. or invite him on a date with your friends, this will get the message acrossed, i hope, and get you farther in that relationship with out having to come right out and say it. it's not much, but it is a start. hope i helped.

on 2/13/06 i got my first boyfriend. i was 14, he was 17 and we were set up through friends. it was something like..we met on saturday and were going out on monday with no talking in between. we went out for 4 months and it was really akward for a really long time until we got to know each other. we broke up in may.
two and a half years later (Oct/Nov of 08) i had a fling with my best friend. i'm not sure what to call it. we acted like we were dating, if people asked we would say we were together and we were basically together 24/7.
Now today i started going out with one of my best friend's boyfriend's best friend. we met a while ago, october i think, at a party. just a quick introduction. then we all went bowling together this past saturday, and then we hung out monday at my friend's house and then today we all went out to eat after school and then went to his house. and now we're going out. And i just realized that i don't even remember what its like to be dating someone. its been 3 years since i could say "i have a boyfriend". i still don't know him well and we've only hugged, but i can tell he wants to kiss me but hes too respectful to just go for it.

i dont know what to do with a boyfriend! (not like THAT...i know how to do THAT). but i dont know how to act. i know be myself and i've been nothing but myself.

i dont even know what im asking! haha _(link)

You might be feeling this way because of how it ended with the other boyfriends, or you may be acting this way because there's no spark. sometimes cemetery really makes all the feelings in a relationship, you may feel it as soon as the first time your eyes meet or you may feel it when your not expecting it. but if there is a "spark" between you two, you will feel it sooner or later. if the problem is because of the others, you need to get out of your comfort zone and really go for it, this will walk you all those senses that were sleeping and make you feel what you were feeling before or it might even make you feel better about a relationship. also you could be feeling this just because your relationship with him hasn't got that far yet, but if that is the problem you just have to wait it out.
Hope, i helped.

okayy so i like this guy and when he found out he said im pretty, nice, funny, cute but he thinks of us more as friends ........ how do i get out of the friends zone?? and please dont say move on because i CANT!
thanks
loveboys _(link)

Dear Loveboys,
I would say you would have to get closer to him, start flirting, hanging out more. i would even try acting like a girlfriend around him this may make him want to date you or even consider it. I would also consider hanging out with him alone, and trying to possess the certain things he pick out in all his girlfriends like a common denominator. you could do that by hanging out with some of the girls he has dated or by asking him what he like in each girl. This may help.

so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand _(link)

I believe you now feel jalousie because of that new girl that may or may not be his girlfriend. Sometimes i feel like i missed out on something kind of in this way but i believe you did make the right discussion at the time if you don't know the guy why date him? But since you got to know him, what do you think? do you think you would be happy with him? and he with you? or do you only like him because he is dating this new girl and not you? Don't care about what your friends think about any guy you date cause if you let your friends start telling you who you can and can't date you might miss out on some really nice guys. You said last night you kind of thought you liked him, did you feel this way after you saw the girl or before? There is a very good reason for that question because if it is after than i would say your jalousie is making you want him. if it was before than i would say that you have to decide if you like him enough to ask him out when he and this girl are history. Take into consideration before you date him,if you choose, that you may not get to see him as much as you would someone else that could be a real side changer on the matter. need any other help, i am always here.

idk,i'am just so sad right now and like my tears are just coming down :[ last night he was across the street and he had this thing that has a red light and he put it on my window and wen i opened it he was in the other side of th street and i just close the window on him,he didnt even cross the street not even to give me a kiss or to say hi :'[
im soo disapointed,i dont know what to do..
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So your disappointed because he didn't cross the street? See Sweety what i think the reason is why he didn't cross the street is because he is creating space between you two because he knows you need it or that you told him you didn't want to speak or see him and he is respecting that but this is a his way of telling you he still wants you, or wants to talk. So it's like an election right now you don't know which way he is going to turn.

aww tank you,and i talked to him today,but this morning my boyfriend was sitting down at the table and then my best friend came and started giving him a massage on the shulders,then after that she started pushing him and then she stopped.then i stood up because it was time to leave and he stayed there sitting down and i left and then he started chassing me.and everytime i stand up he always stands up too.i just think he wanted my friend to do it again prob because that turns him on or something.idk.i dont know i just need some advice on this one,cuz nobody will help me.i dont even know what type of friend is that. :(
if you were in this situation what will you do..? _(link)

Well it seems to me that maybe you know why he isn't spending that much time with you, ever think he's cheating on you? Or maybe this is a message to you to either do something like this to him also or maybe it is a message to get out of that relationship while you are ahead of the game. if i was you i would be mad, i would try to cool down and then think of my possibility which i just listed. I am not one to point fingers at a cheater but it does sound odd that she would even come up behind him and do that to him and he allowed it, in front of you at the worst. i would think of talking to this girl, and than maybe him. try to find a piece of ground on this subject and if it doesn't look good on either stories i would get out alive with a little bit of dignity left. But on the bright side this could all be a misunderstanding and you'll move on and be happy and work things out with him, like in one of those fairy tales your mother used to tell you. One can only hope.
Always here to help!

ok,so i have a boyfriend and he works from monday to saturday,he only comes to my house on friday,and saturday because on sunday's he has to help his brother at work,when he comes to my house he comes around 7 in dha night.and when there is no school he goes to work he dont even bother to stay with me,but if i tell him oh there is no school tomorrow come to my house to have sex then there he would come right away.is like i dont get it,on saturday he came at 8 in dha night with his friend and i was kind of pist because he came at that time,sometimes i think he dosent'even cares,because i think that if he was a tru man he would come on sundaysz nd spend a litle time with me and then leave.tomorrow i aint even gonna look at him,if yu were in my position what will you do,nd sorry if this si too lonq,i just nedd someone to help me cuz i dont have nobody to help me :[ _(link)

You Know i never see a girl with a relationship as good as gold so your not alone. I will say to you that i think you are wanting what every women wants a perfect man without looking at the flaws. why do you think he doesn't care? is it because of the time he spends with you or is it because of the way he spends his time with you? every one has something they want to work towards so maybe he loves his job and helping his brother but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. i can see where you getting at with the come spend the night thing, but did you every think that maybe that is not what crosses his mind. i can see the reaction in him that says that he wants to but i believe this guy is preoccupied and you need to either talk to him about it, which is what i would do. or you could find something to preoccupy your time as well. another good choice well if you need any more help, i am always here and always wanting to help.

just like the title says. im 17/male. and i guess for a dude, when i find a girl i like, i mean really like. i fall hard for them. then something happens, and it ends. but my problem now is this girl who i've known for about 6 months or so. and around aug. sept. we got serious. but it was wierd b/c, we really wasnt "going out" but we acted liked it. in sept. we went to the fair together, made out, had alot of fun. but we still wasnt "going out".and i asked her out, she said no, and basicly the reason was b/c shes best friends with one of her exs. and that was the reason b/c the dude don't really like me. and me and the girl told each other we loved each other all the time. but still wasnt "going out". and few weeks after we went to the fair, we started drifting apart, and i asked just the other day if she still loved me. she tells me that just as a friend. and basicly she jumped the gun when we went to the fair. so im hurting bad. still love her/like her w/e. and it sucks. can't sleep. don't eat much. and idk what to do really. so just some guideance would be really nice. _(link)

If i were you i would try to be friends with her again. this will help you with the feeling you have. it might draw you closer together though. i would also say that you should move on with someone else or try to get her ex to like you so she would consider going out with you and your current feeling wouldn't be a waste.

I recently lost my virginity to a guy i barely know... He was really feeling me & i really was feeling him, I was comfortable with having sex with him, But now he wont answer his phone tha last time we spoke he wanted to hang out but i had school and i havent spoke to him since. What could that mean? Does it mean he doesnt want to be bothered with me anymore? Gie me some advice.... _(link)

Well it seems to me that maybe this guy is one of those hit and run guys if you catch my meaning. He may just be to busy to answer his phone, or maybe he doesn't want to be bother with you because of the fact he is the hit and run guy. So you can look at your issues in a positive and negative way. But which it is you'll find out sooner or later.

is it weird to look at another girl and have feelingd for that person _(link)

What do you mean? do you mean like a girl you used to know, or date? well if it is in that case than no it's not uncommon because you can never unlove someone and it doesn't matter if your completely over that person or not memories make your emotions want to push and earn to remember that person and feel it all over again. It's weird how the mind and emotions work, and no one has figure it out complete yet.

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