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Hi Everyone. I'm Alli. ♥

So after a 3 year break. I'm back and ready to answer any of your questions you may have. I hope to help anyone & everyone as best as I can. Have a good day!

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So my boyfriend and I were hooking up the other night and we were getting really into it and I was pretty turned on and he went to start fingering me, which I wanted him to do, but he kinda just stuck his hand down there and went to town. Like ALL OVER town. I think he actually got lost in town...anyway it so did not feel good and I was totally turned off right away. I tried moving his hand where I wanted and stuff but he wasn't moving it with me. I'm not sure if he didn't know what I was trying to do or what, but either way it didn't work. Eventually (not that long after) I just pulled his hand out. How do I help him get better without hurting his feelings?

Your best bet would to just tell him what you like and what really turns you on the most! I'm sure he would listen to you right away, because if it feels good for you, that really turns guys on and they enjoy it! And if you want to get really kinky, watch some x-rated movies together.. so he can see what to do the right way and then you can say, "that would be really hot if you did that to me like what they just did in the movie." ;)

♥ Alli

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i have had a really bad love past. my first boy friend i dated 15 times, he cheated in me 3 of those times with more then one girl. My 2 boyfriend is just a sex feind he was exactly interested- i was the one that escaped his trap (didnt have sex with him) my 3rd broke up with me over some fake crap. and anyone else i've been interested in simply didn't want me or used my attraction for their own benefit.
i just started dating my newest boyfriend and he is thgee purest bf i've ever had....
he says he loves me but ive heard that so many times that i cant believe anything any guy says anymore.
is this normal???

Yes, It's very normal that you have a hard time trusting boyfriends because you've been cheated on and mistreated in the past. But you need to try and forget those times and take this new relationship as slow as you can, don't rush into anything. Let your new boyfriend know of problems you have dealt with in the past so he knows what you're looking for out of this relationship; trust and compassion. If you don't really believe that him saying "I love you" is for real, don't say it back. Wait and see where your relationship goes and give it time so you both can really mean it. Good luck with everything.

♥ Alli

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i have been dating this guy for over a year & i love him alot and don't want to be with any guy besides him. but, i look at other guys - i talk to them, flirt, etc... and i think it would be fun to kiss one of them, hook up with one of them.. but i don't want to be with them, i just want to be with my boyfriend. i want to be like, a slut for a day, but not a slut.. but i still want my boyfriend.

what should i do?

If you don't want to be with any guy besides him, i highly doubt that cheating on him would be the best thing to do. It's always okay to look at other guys and flirt, but hooking up or kissing another guy is simply out of the question -- It's called cheating.

If you want to be in a serious relationship then your best objective would be to never cheat on this guy, because all that will do is lead to a break up and breaking some guys heart just because of some bad mistakes.

Good Luck.

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so i`ve been dating my boyfriend since july 4th of last year, so it`s almost 1 year.
i love him alot, but we fight ALOT. is that normal? we fight over stupid things and both get pissed off super easy, and it really makes me so mad sometimes. i don`t know how much of the fighting i can take, but i don`t want to break up with him. i`ve talked to hima bout it, but he thinks we`re fine. he knows i hate it, but neither of us can help getting mad.

what should i do?

It's definitely normal to fight and butt heads sometimes. But if it's an unhealthy relationship and it's constant fighting where you can't stand each other, then I'd say end it.

On the other hand, if you two just don't see eye to eye sometimes but you two both love each other, it could just be a rocky time for you guys. I'd say wait and see if you guys can grow out of it instead of jumping and making a big decision.

I'm sure if you take some time and try to go along and try your best not to argue as much as possible, everything will work out as it should.

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all the boys i like r real cute but look nice and innocient and i know looks can be decieveing but im into the quiet boys. they are nice sometimes but when it comes to girs theyre mean can please explain y they probably act like that
thanku

Guys are never mean when their by themselves. Guys have this immature way of impressing their friends if they make fun of some girls in front of everyone, it's male nature. You just have to use your best judgment and find the right guy for you, trust me, there's plenty out there who aren't jerks :]

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oka im really confuse i like this guy right, which is my friend brother and just the other day he found out that i like him. But before he knew i liked him everytime i go to there house he always be fooling around and bumping into me and one time i was laying down and he lay right beside me talkin in a deep voice to me and stuff.And i just want to know if he likes me or what because now he knows i like him and i dont know what to do.

guys show their affections differently than girls do. this could be his way of flirting. if he already knows you like him, and he likes you too, this is pretty normal. so according to your information, i'd have to say yes he does. :]

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I'm 13 years old and I'm a girl. There is a guy in my school who I really like. His name is Nick. Should I tell him that I love him. I'm afraid he won't like me back. What should I do?

You can't be scared of rejection. You just have to go with it.

If you're afraid you two haven't hung out at all, or that much, then maybe you should both become really good friends then go for it.

Good Luck. :]

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my friend saw some girl on his profile on myspace
like the whole ilysfm jazz.
and i asked him why hed cheat on me.
and he said he isnt.
i dont know what to believe.
i even went on hers an she had his picture too saying how much SHE loves him.
i love him alot.
im really hurt.
i pretend to him that it was okay
[we didnt breakup]
i just pretended i was reassured.
why cant he be honest with me?
what do i do?
l:

don't sweat it.
just talk to him, and get the truth.
if you really love him that much, you should trust him that much more.


good luck.
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what if you made out with a guy in party and when you were drunk is that slutty or what? this is your second or third time

Everyone has their own opinions.

I'd recommend making decisions that you wouldn't regret doing.

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I'm a 21 year old Female and I have a very big issue with my weight. This issue is affecting my happiness and love life. My question is how can I NOT let this affect me?

It depends if your UNDERweight over OVERweight.

You just said "your weight" so.. i'll give you two options.

First off, if your underweight, and it's causing problems in your life, you need to eat more balanced foods, healthier foods, and just MORE. If you cannot help your underweight problem, you should talk to your doctor about this.

If your overweight and it's interfering with your life style/love life. You just need to eat better & exercise more! No big deal! Try putting some extra working out into your schedual.. and take it seriously. Get a goal, and when you reach your goal, you will feel so much better. :]

Most people view other people by their looks, it's just what people do these days.

I'm sorry i couldn't help much more.

Take care & feel better.

♥ Alli

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ok well this christmas seems like its going to be terrible... because i'm like gettting older, and all i can think about is who my friends are these days.. so it makes me in a terrible mood the whole time. I don't know what to do, because i'm not even excited. Ugh, somebody help please, what can i do to be happy? and i'm sorry if this didn't make sence..i'm just not really in a good mood =\

It happens to everyone :(

Try and take your mind of those kinds of things during the holidays, spends tons of time with your family, they will always cheer you up. Try doing one of your favorite things that make you relaxed & happy. Sorry i can't say much, but take care.

♥ Alli

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i've been with my boyfriend for over a month and he still hasn't kissed me? i'm his first real girlfriend so i don't think he's ever kissed anyone before. he also still has braces and he's really insecure about them. he desperately wants to get them off and talks about it all the time. do you think maybe he could be waiting for that to happen? that would suck. how can i hint that i want him to kiss me without coming right out and saying it (that would be weird!)?

aww! poor kid!

Give him some time, IF your his first real girlfriend, hes not going to just come right out and kiss you. Hes probably super nervous, and if he's insecure about his braces, than he might just be waiting to get them off, but you never know. Yeah, it would be weird if you said "Kiss Me Already"..heh. But If it's after a while and you realize that hes just not kissing you for some reason, then YOU should go for it! :)

♥ Alli

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I don't know if I like this guy like a freind or MORE then a freind. What kind of emotions do you feel for antoher guy in making this kind of dicision?

--More then a friend?

Your usually really nervous around him, or you can't stop thinking about him & all you want to do is talk to him/be with him. :)

♥ Alli

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Ok well i have been best frineds with this guy forever like since we were babies and i am in love with his sister. her name is alli too she is absolutly beautiful. i see her all the time and sometimes she acts like we r friends and others like she completely hates me. do i tell her how i feel and risk ruining my friendsip with her bro or just keep quiet? her bro is kinda protective

lOl ♥

♥ Alli*

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im only 15 and i feel like i might be like bisexual.....but im scared everyone might find out and everything ... but i dont know why i feel like this?!!?!

Well, have you hooked up or done anything sexual with someone the same gender? And you also like the other gender as well? If you did, then yes.. your bi-sexual.

If you haven't then your not. Its kind of weird how you say you just "feel" like you are. Your either bi-sexual, gay, or straight.

But, if you are, don't worry about what other people think of you.

♥ Alli*

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I met this guy on myspace. He's really nice and hes my age. He was sweet, and he asked for my number. I said maybe tomorrow. He lives far away, like theres a few states in between us. He told me he liked me, and there was something about me. I'm nervous, and I just have mixed emotions and I just dont know what to do right now. Please, any advice.

Heh, i don't know about you.. But i've had an online relationship, and it turned out for the worst for me. But thats just me i guess..

I wouldn't reccomend giving out your number on myspace to some guy you don't even really know, and someone who lives far far away from you.

After all, he could have a fake picture or he can be an online predator.. you never know.

I'm acting like a critic on my behalf, because i am a supporter of C.F.O.P.O. I don't know if you've heard of it, but its for online predators. So on my opinion, i'd say no. Just chat with him online, no phone number.

Take Care, Hun.

♥ Alli*

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14/f
do you do if you like a guy who is a really bad kisser and he wants to make out with you?
i know he bit a girls lip and made it bleep. lol. and also he like of doesn't give you time to break or anything.
plus i have never kissed anbyone before!

Whoaa. Hes bit a girls lip, eww, now.. come on..you can't be that bad. =x

Kissing just comes naturally, especially for girls, find a guy you really like, and have your first kiss with HIM, not someone you know thats going to make your lip bleed..

♥ Alli*

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i love this girl. But not in a love love way. as a friend, and i am a girl myself. but i love her alot. noo not as in girlfriend love dont get the wrong idea. but when i told her i loved her she thought i loved her as in more then a friend and she blocked me on aim. what should i do? i tried calling but she wont pick up

Well, thats kind of weird how she just blocked you. Girls to girls are supposed to say those kinds of things, theres nothing wrong with it. If your friend was a TRUE friend, she would have accepted it, and embraced it. I have no clue what you could do in this situation, because if she blocked you from AIM you obviously can't talk to her, and shes not picking up your phone calls.. hmm.. try talking to one of your other friends, tell them what happend, and let them talk to your friend for you. Take Care.

♥ Alli*

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Does everyone find someone that they love and that loves them?

No. Unfortunitely.

♥ Alli*

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i always call my bf. He nerver calls me! whats up with him?

You won't know what's up if you dont ask him! =)

♥ Alli*

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