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The names Maeghan. Yeap, I spell it weird.I'll admit it; I'm young, inexpirenced, and I make mistakes pretty much everyday. But I learn quickly and try to not to put myself in the same positions the next time around.
Though, I'm a terrible speller and that will never change.
I'm single and actually very happy with it. I've gained independance and a sense of being my own person because of being single and getting out of a bad relationship.
Ask my about anything & I'll try to help as much as I can! :)
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...
I can't admit that I've beaten someone in a real wrestling match or arm wrestling, but once my guy friend said he could easily take me down from behind and he came at me and all I simply did was grab both his arms and flip him completly over me. Lets just say his back was sore and his ego a little bruised haha. Guys are so stuck up about being macho, I hate it. My friend who is also really pretty beats my other guy friend in wrestling all the time and he just never gives up! It's like relax, beating a girl isn't going to help you or make you feel better haha. Hope I helped you out :)
my boyfriend basically cheated on me, now i want to get REVENGE. i dont want to hurt anybody or vandalize property or whatever, i just want to get even and bring him to his knees. any ideas? please dont say oh be the bigger person dont do that.. yeah i am the bigger person im not the one who cheated.. i just need to have a little fun and this will certainly do it. its all in good fun. im 17 hes 18 and we both live with our parents.
Give all your friends his cell number and have them either text him or call him around the same time (Make sure everyone makes their number private if calling) and have them all say something short like "You ass" and hangup. Texting would probably work better since he can't block a text.
Or you could subcribe him to the free gay pride magazines (if you town/city has one)
Or leave one of those naked blow up dolls on his lawn or in his house door with a note attached saying "She's just as fake as you were. Douche" or something like that haha.
I had a terrible ex too and I should have done all the crazy things I wanted to, but I never got around to it :/
15/f
well, i've been with my boyfriend for about 11 months. and the thing is, i'm not sure how i feel at the moment. i KNOW i can do better, because he treats me bad at times, and he gets too overly paranoid. he gets paranoid by saying that i can't talk to guys. -___-" and he got mad at me for going to target after school with my friend, which is a girl. because he says that there are probably guys there... but anywho.. i seem to be annoyed with him often also. but yet when something happens that could possibly break us up.. that's when i start getting scared.. but i don't do anything about it. i don't get as scared as i used to.. but i still get scared and nervous. when he used to say "never let me go" i feel touched and stuff, and he said that to me today, i didn't feel anything.. i just changed the subject. So, what's going on? am i losing feelings for him? am i not getting enough sleep or something? or am i just annoyed with him at the moment..?
what should i do? please & thank you!
I feel like I wrote this question. It matches my relationship with my ex boyfriend at that exact time frame. There's nothing wrong with you, your just starting to realize all the little things he does to you are adding up as if he's controlling. For me, I started seeing signs of my ex being posessive the same way you did. He hated if I talked to guys, he got possesive even if I was with girls, he made me feel like crap when I did stuff without him and he just seemed clingy. He ended up being abusive and controlling nearing our one year when I realized there was something really wrong with him. I'm not saying that's going to happen to you, (this could be completly irrelevant and he's actually just having a bad week and taking it out on you) but I would watch to how he treats you. As for you not saying anything back when he makes romantic comments, that was another thing I started to do when I lost interest in my ex. You might want to step back and look at your relationship and if your the happy person you were when you first started going out with him. If your not happy, you should think over your relationship. I really hope everything works out for you.
15/f.
okay so about three weeks ago i broke up with my boyfriend. we had been going out for 4 months [yes, i know that's not really a very long time] but i honestly was in love with him. i had never felt the way i felt with him with anyone else i had ever dated. he is also the first guy i had sex with. which makes it even harder. the last time i saw him & talked to him was on valentines day when we went to the movies. the bad part is, at the movies we ended up making out and everything. he was even walking around holding my hand like we were still going out. ive always told myself that i wouldnt be in a friends with benefits type relationship; because that isnt something i would want to do. since 2/14 i havent talked to him [called, texted, or seen him] at all. i feel beside myself. i dont go out with my friends anywhere anymore because they all think im a slut when they found out about i had sex with him. i really feel like i want to call him but i dont know if i should. maybe the best thing for us both to do is not to talk, but i honestly feel like i cant let him go. should i try and work things out? HELP ME PLEASE.
You sound just like me when me and my ex brokeup, its so tough dealing isn't it? :/ I don't know why you two broke up so it so I can't exactly say if you should/shouldn't hang around him but I can try. If you think that you two might end up back together, I would say hanging out is okay. But if something drastic happened that made you break up with him (Cheating, he has personality flaws, etc.) I would suggest staying farrr away. Hanging out with someone you know you could never be with again/it would cause you trouble is never a good idea. If you think he's worth it, I would give a relationship another try because you seem to really like him. As far as your friends, don't listen to them. They have no room to judge you and if they are your true friends they should understand you really care for this guy.
Last summer my boyfriend and I of 4 years broke up. I was crushed, but it was for the best. I'm still in love with him. He has a girlfriend now, but we still talk. We talk as friends. But the other night he talked to me about "us." We talked about how much we missed each other, the memories we made, and he told me he still loved me. I don't think he is playing me because he's one of those that don't mess around. Then two days ago after school we hung out all day. It was like old times again. It was the best feeling in the world to tell the truth. Well last night we had a basketball game and a guy I once had feelings for was there. He talked me into going to a party with him. My ex wasn't there. Well the guy I have feelings for and I kissed. It was nice, but now I'm so confused. Since my ex has a girlfriend and I had a good time with another guy does that mean I should move on? I still love my ex, but I'm worried we aren't going anywhere. What should I do?
I know you dated this guy for a way longer time than me and my ex did (We dated about a year and a month) but believe me, finding a new guy was one of the most satisfying ways that helped me get over him. If you know for a fact your relationship with your ex isn't going anywhere, its time to open up your options. If he really wants to get back together, he'll end it with his current girlfriend. If he doesn't, than you have to make the choice whether you believe in waiting for a guy to come to you. Try to open up your options and start thinking about moving on. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this :(
Okay so I really didn't know where to put this question so...
I am so sick of guys!
Like, I love them but I'm sick of not even being able to go into 7-11 for a bottle of water without getting told some derogatory remark!
Like...I'm at my school walking to lunch and a guy (who I don't know) walks past me and says "Ooh".
Sure, I like attention but it's always just because guys want some.
Random guys have asked how much a certain amount of money would get them and stuff but...Don't get me wrong...it feels good knowing that I'm attractive to guys but...how do I get it to stop a bit? Or at least handle it better.
Thanks ahead of time.
XOXO
That used to happen to me all the time during the summer with random, creepy guys. The thing is if your just randomly getting these remarks from guys you don't know, it's not going to change anything because it probably won't happen again by the same guy. Here's how I work out what I say/don't say to guys that are like this. If they go to your school, make a quick and whitty remark to let them know your not intimidated. If they're random guys, do/say whatever you want. It's funny to yell out that you have some some STD like herpes and get a weird reaction or yell something embarasing (to them) like "It's okay to be small down there" If it's guys that you know, ignore them or give them the coldest look possible. They'll get the picture.
Me and my boyfriend lets call him Tom have been together for about a week. We really have a good connection. I have hugged him once. And he asked me if he could kiss me twice, but i didn't answer him. I really want to kiss him so badly, but im nervous. When my friend lets call her Megan kissed her boyfriend lets call him Dan she nearly missed. So i don't want to miss like she did. But however I'm more experienced. And she's only kissed twice.Should I kiss him??
haha this is kinda funny cause my name is Maeghan & I have missed while kissing my boyfriend. Missing really isn't a big deal, I mean it may seem akward but if you just laugh it off it's nothing to be embarased about. Don't worry about kissing now, it's only been a week. But if you feel like you really want to, whynot go ahead and be spontanious?
do girls like it when you look them in the eye when you talk to them
Yeap, makes us feel special :]
Why do people say its special to kiss in the rain?
What makes it diffrent then kissing when its not raining?
Does it feel diffrent or something?.
Thank you
please answer a.s.a.p
I've done it and it's nothing special. (Maybe it just wasn't raining hard enough or something?) It just seems cool because you two are closer together and everyone makes it seem really romantic, but really its not all that exciting & you just end up feeling sticky afterwards (if its a summer rain & you live in humid PA) lol.
Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out??
Both were at age 13
13/f. I’m having a problem. There’s this guy who likes me. He hasn’t told me directly, but it’s still totally obvious. And I don’t like him back. He’s a good student, but the thing is, he’s really unattractive…..he’s got loads of zits, a humongous head, scary blue-gray eyes, and his vocal chords are all messed up. Because of this defect, he talks really quietly in this bizarre falsetto. It’s almost impossible to carry on a conversation with him. I’m a little creeped out that he likes me, and I hate myself for it. He has feelings and can’t help the way he looks and the way he talks. I feel so shallow for not being able to get beyond his physical appearance. I know this from personal experience, because boys used to be freaked out at the idea of me liking any one of them because I’m an unpopular loner, I’m clumsy, I don’t wear nice clothes, and I’m crazy about operas and musicals, and I have a really brutal sense of humor. I had resolved that I’d never judge a person just by trivial qualities, and now I’m being a hypocrite. I feel guilty whenever I have my eye on guys who have…….a normal voice.
Im having a mental conflict. What should I do?
Heeeeeeelllpppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey, you're only human. No matter who you are, from a preppy girl to what you describe yourself as, you're going to know when your phisically attracted to someone and when you're not. Judging people is normal, no matter what the situation. In you case, it's someone you obiously dont have feelings for. Could you build feelings for him? Maybe. But as of now, it's not likely. Don't worry about the thought of him and instead pay attention to those you feel a true attraction to. They're going to be many guys that like you & you won't have those feelings back. Its easier to let the guy know (nicely) that you don't have felings for him than to let yourself feel bad about it.
14/f...ok so i like this guy named Adam. We were at this party and we were playing truth or dare and I was dared to kiss him on the lips. I was like "no", or "i dont want to" or "why didnt you guys have to do this?" but i was obviously just pretending. So i eventually did it but both of our eyes were open and he didnt even kiss bak. His lips didnt even move. He didn't say anything really not anything bad or good just nothing. Do you think that he likes me or is totally just not interested.
ps. he is REALLY REALLY shy and doesn't really "FLIRT" with me but we talk a lot.
Since you were saying you didnt want to, he most likly didnt want to make it seem like he wanted to either. Plus hes shy, so he was probably intimidated. Either way, next time that situation comes around and you know you're going to have to to it, just say "Alright" and see if his actions change. - Meg
okey, so I've been e-mailing back and forth with a crush, and I finally told him how I feel, so I've been waiting nervously to see what he asnwers..and today I found out, I cant!! Someone's hacked into my hotmail and changed all my info. Does anyone know how I can get it back? Or hack into mine just like this person did? I fear if I get hotmail-staff involved they'll take away ALL the emails before I get it back, because they did that last time someone stole my hotmail (an other one) so what do I do? Does anyone know how to hackk? I REALLY NEED TO GET MY HOTMAIL BACK! and like I've saved all his emails, just as a memory, so I dont want to lose those..
Any advice?
Thank you bunches.
Theres really nothing you can do except tell the hotmail staff. My best bet would be to stop using hotmail and use another email service (Yahoo maybe) since its been causing you problems. Make sure you get your crushes email and tell him what happened (in case the person who hakced you sent him something) Sorry, but its really the only thing you can do :[
hi i'm 13 years old, almost 14..and i've never been kissed before in my life. not on the cheeks or lips or ANYWHERE! and i've never even had a boyfriend in my life either. but i want one SO badly! i dont care if my first kiss isnt "real" or whatever..i just want puppy love! i dont care! i just want it to happen..i dream about it so much everynight. and i feel like such a loser because it feels as if every other 13-14 year old girl in the world has been kissed except me. even some of my more unattractive friends have...idk. i dont think i'm hideous or fat or mean or any of hte above...but i dont know ..something about me must turn guys off..just please help idk what to do. and if i'm ever going to get my first kiss soon
Don't worry about it, I was in the same situation. Throw a party, or go to a party where they're playing spin the bottle and put yourself out there. Bring it up when your with your friends and just go with the flow. Usually its not that guys find anything thats a turn off, they just dont know that you want to kiss, hooked up, etc. Show them that side of you :]
I've never made out before and ive kissed just on the lips loads of times but how do you know when he's going to start using his tongue, and how do you know what to do when he starts to do it and how do you know he is going to do it? And where do you put your hands?
Thanks for all the help!
Usually most guys go right into making out. Most arent into just kisses on the lips or anything. You'll feel his tounge, and everything will fall into place. Really, I asked questions like this to my friends too about what you do and all they told me is you'll know what to do when it happens; Which is completly true. Usually you keep your hands around his waist. Never use teeth, period. Making out is for your lips and tounge lol, keep it that way. - Meg
i met this girl on a school trip to another city. well we hung out a bit n danced a little n i think shes cute. well when i got back to my city all i knew about her was her name and that she went to a school near where i went to, cuz i forgot to ask for a number. well i asked a friend that goes to that school about her and turns out she lives down the street from him, so iono should i go visit? would that be stalkin? cuz i didnt mean to find out where she lived, i juss asked about her. would it be weird?
if it is weird wat else could i try, she dont have mysapce n other stuff
honestly, any girl would love that.
bring the friend along if you feel werid, but make sure he knows when to leave so you two can be alone, and make sure to get her number this time lol
- Meg
On here I just read that guys have their first kiss before girls. Ive had my first kiss but only for a dare though (that sounds sad but it was with a really hot guy i'm into so its ok really) . I just wondered why guys have their first kisses before girls?
well think of it as this way ..
How is that possible that they get kissed first when a guy needs a girl to kiss with? (Unless their gay) Neither sex gets kisses first or last or whatever.
OK i think this guy that I have been bffs with forever likes me. I wicked like him too. Only problem is, i could be wrong cus like, im fat. Hes cute too. I guess my question is .. does weight matter to everyone. And im a really big tomboy, i dont wear cute preppy clothes like all of my friends because i dont like things w/ a tight fit, im like a DD. Just please help !
true fact: guys love girls with a little "meat" I couldnt believe how my old ex liked me, but I relized its your personality thats draws them in. Screw other girls. He likes you, not them. Dont put yourself down, build up confidence and talk to him about your feelings :)
hi, my name is sarah and im 13 i finally have my very first b/f and we have been going out now for about 14 days and last monday at religion i wanted to kiss him but i had a huge cut on my face that looked like a zit and my older brother who is 14 was acting like a 2 year old stabbing me with a pencil and trowing my shoe across the room that kind of stuff and then he ruined the part where i was sopposed to kiss him so tomorrow i want to go and kiss him not a peck and not to long and i want to know if i should just do it in front of everyone or go on the stairs at the end of religion and kiss him long or short? and he is kinda shorter than me so i want to know lik what to do so he doesnt have to reach if u know what i mean? and how do i get my brother to stay away from me at religion so i can hold my b/f 's hand and not be bored in class!?
Take it from me; kissing in class is not a good thing. Wait until you're out of class or somewhere a bit more private since your classmates (and brother) will not let you live it down. A quick kiss can’t really hurt, but if you’re looking for a longer kiss (like hooking up) don’t make it public. As for the height problem, sitting down is the best as you can lean back and he can become "taller" so everything equals out. Do little things to keep yourself entertained during class like sending him text messages (or real notes), maybe touching his arm and holding hands underneath a table so your brother won’t see.