I am a Sixteen year old girl who enjoys helping others and sharing my experience and knowledge. I'm here to help anyone and everyone and anyone is welcome to add me on msn or email me. I have been through relationship problems, Family problems (I have recently moved out of home.) I have had many friendship problems and have helped a lot of people through self harm and suicidal thoughts. My career goal is to be either a graphic designer, Visual Art teacher or councellor.
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what do guys consider a good kisser? and what do they consider a bad one? and im talking about french kissing.. with tongue...
guys and girls can answer if they have any information. thank you!! (link)
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To be completely honest each and every guy and girl likes something different. Some like it slow others like it fast and sometimes others like it varied.
I can give you a tip: I've heard that writing the alphabet with your tongue in the other persons mouth is pretty sensational.
Just do what comes naturally.
Good Luck xx
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what can i do to a guy to give him pleasue without us getting undressed? (link)
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Theres a lot of things you can do to give him pleasure without getting undressed this include passionate kissing (Pashing, french kissing) Touching him, especially the neck. Rubbing his penis (stroking)
Hope I've helped...
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Okay so here it goes. I have a guy friend that I really like(I’m 20 and he’s 27), and I am pretty sure he likes me too. I catch him staring at me all the time and he is always playfully hitting me and joking around. He and I will go places together and he frequently pays for whatever we are doing. We live right next to each other so he is usually either at my house or I am at his. I house sat last week and he called me every night that I was gone and we would talk on the phone for hours. He told me that he didn’t want me to be lonely or bored. I also have texts from him saying that He is really shy around me and that I make him blush. I have had quite a few people tell me that they are positive he likes me because they see the way he acts and looks at me. He will sometimes make comments that leave me confused. Like the other day he asked me how far apart my parents were and I told him they are 8 years apart. Then he turned to me and he was like “that would be like if we were dating.” Or another time we were playfully hitting each other and he was like “Damn, if you and I were dating we would be black and blue” So does he like me?
Now here’s for the hard part. He’s engaged. And he has been with her for 9 years. I know what you’re thinking. I’m not a home wrecker. I wouldn’t do anything with him. I want to, but I never would if he was still with her. But anyways he proposed to her last Christmas and they still haven’t set a date. They don’t live together (which I think is strange. If I was going to be married to somebody I’d like to know if I could stand living with them first), and they only see each other once or twice a week. Other than that, they will talk on the phone a couple times a day. Before he proposed to her all she would talk about was how big she wanted her diamond to be and how much she thought it should cost. And she would go on and on and on. My parents (who know him too) think he proposed to her just to shut her up. She is also going to be leaving here for another four years of college in another city, and he’s not going with her. Is that weird? Would you propose to someone when you knew they would be leaving for four years?
I don’t know what to do. I want to tell him that I like him, but I don’t know how or even if I really should. I wouldn’t even know how to go about telling him. And I don’t want to ruin our relationship either. I’m really confused. I find myself thinking about him constantly and I feel horrible because I know I shouldn’t feel that way for someone who’s taken, but you can’t help who you like right? Sorry for making this so long. Thank You to everyone who takes the time to read this. I appreciate it. (link)
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I'm sorry but I have to disagree with that last answer. Firstly the age gap is nothing so don't be wary of that. Okay yes you have let yourself go somewhere you shouldn't but just remember you can't control who your heart falls for. It is a really tough situation. From what you've typed here I do believe there is more in this relationship than friendship on both sides. The comments he's made to me tell me he wants your opinion and could be trying to figure out whether your into him and what your feelings are about you 2 being in a relationship. I feel it is strange that they don't live together or see each other often. And i agree I wouldn't propose to someone I knew was going away for 4 years without me. I seriously do not think you should keep your mouth shut, this situation is eating at you from deep inside and its going to cause you a lot more problems and pain if you don't state your true feelings, you would be lying to him and yourself. Its only natural to be worried about what may happen to your relationship you already have but being that your both in your 20's you should be able to be mature and act appropriately on the situation. One thing I have to ask is what would you do if you 2 got together when he left for college?
Perhaps you could start throwing some comments back at him to give him the picture your into him.
Best of Luck xx
You only live once, take chances.
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Hey People! Can you help me? Well before you start reading this you have to have a experience in dating or have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
What age did you start dating or get your first boyfriend/girlfriend? I really want to know cause it will help me with my prob so please reply and i always leave a good rate and a comment!! (link)
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Personally I don't believe that there is a right and wrong age. I started dating when I was 13 but it was nothing serious. I then got into a six month relationship a month after my 14th Birthday, I then got into the relationship I am in when I was almost 15. I first had sex when i was 15 but when i look back in a way I wish I had of waited. Evryone has there own opinions and morals for example I have a morla that I would not have sex with anyone unless I'd been in a relationship with them that has lasted longer than 6 months.
Hope this has helped...
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Noone helped me with my question so I will ask again. My face gets super red whenever I see the guy I like. Is there a way to prevent this from happening? (link)
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Perhaps no-one answered your question because believe it or not its a hard question to answer (just being honest) No-one has been able to pin point what it is exactly that makes a person go red when they see someone they like or when they get embarrassed. I believe its a natural reaction and I'm not sure that there actually is a way to prevent it. It could be that your shy, I'm not sure. Maybe you need to work on your self confidence around guys once again I'm not sure. I do believe you deserve an answer so i'm hoping this explains a few things... Maybe you shuld do some searching on google or something.
Sorry and Good Luck
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okay the guy i like asked me out today and we were taking he said this"can i flirt with other girls?" and i also asked him"can i?" and he said yeah so i said yes to him is this okay?
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Okay.. Personally I don't believe it is okay. You are meant to be a relationship together, a relationship is meant to be built around trust, intimacy, honesty etc. When your in a relationship your meant to be devoted to that person ONLY. Well of cause this is how i personally see it. I believe that by letting your boyfriend flirt with other girls this could lead to problems such as you feeling jealous, other girls coming between you too, him deciding he's found someone better, him showing other girls more love and affection (attention) than you. Can you see the list of problems you may have caused for your self? I thnk you should probably discuss this with your boyfriend, bring up questions like why he feels he wants to flirt with other girls etc. BEing that you 2 are in a relationship you should be able to be open and honest with each other. Personally I would feel as though I wasn't good enough if my boyfriend wanted to be with me yet still flirt with other girls.
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So this boy Eric has a crush on my boyfriend. He gets calls from Eric in the middle of our dates sometimes and it's completely random. Recently, we heard that Eric told his friend he was gay. The way he was acting and the things he has said, he surely does has the hots for my boyfriend. Besides calling him hottie, sexy, blah. My boyfriend is straight. He really wants Eric to leave him alone [not in a homophobic way, in a flirting way], but the thing is "he doesn't know Eric's gay yet". Eric wanted to speak with him alone for a bit and I'm assuming it was supposed to be about that . Some other chick is trying to hook Eric up with my boyfriend. So he's trying to avoid the guy But he's doing it all wrong. It's making it worse since someone pointed it out that it may look as though, he's playing hard to get. Where & what should my boyfriend tell him? When is the right time? Should my boyfriend just go for it before Eric says he is gay? The guy is beginning to become a bit stalker ish.
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Okay I have to admit this is a bit out of the ordinary. Firstly, I think you should tell your boyfriend you've heard Eric is gay. Your boyfriend should just be honest with Eric and tell him that he's got a boyfriend and that he's not interested in him. Your boyfriend could perhaps that he is feeling a litte uneasy about the fact he feels Eric is flirting with him and the fact that he feels that Eric is being a tad stalker ish. I don't believe your boyfriend is gay 1) because he's with you and 2) he wants Eric to leave him alone but just remember I don't know your boyfriend. As for the girl who is invloved maybe you need to tell her to back off or get your boyfriend to explain he's not interested in Eric. I can understand all this would be a little hard to deal with and I guess in a way you've got playing in your head "he's not gay is he." It may make it easier for you to deal with this situation if you talk to your boyfriend about YOUR feelings about what's going on. Be open and honest!
Best of Luck xx
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so me and my bf have been going out since the begining of summer and i dont like him anymore how do i tell him that?? (link)
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The best advice I can give you is to be honest with him, because if he finds out you've been lying about liking him etc it may make things worse. If you can't tell him to his face, maybe a phone call is the way to go about it. Your going to have to expect him to be angry and upset but he'll get over it. You have to do whats best for you. Be open and honest and express reasons why you don't like him anymore.
Best Of Luck xx
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Want to ask a girl out, but what should we do?
Like what activity, e.g. movie.
For those who are really into answering questions like this, could you please tell me a reason for the activity, like why would i want to do that with her! Thanks so much!
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The movies is a perfect idea. You can get all cozy and lovey- dovey. Plus you can be romantic and show your interested by buying her ticket etc. You may even like to take her out for dinner before hand. This is if you have enough money to be able to do that. Otherwise you could do something like have a picnic at a beach or park and spend the day together, go swimming adn spend some one on one time together to get to know each other a little more etc. This will be a relaxed environment and is very very romantic.
Good Luck xx
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I recently started liking someone, and they want a relationship out of our friendship. This would be my first boyfriend probably, and i don't know what to do. I'm not scared, im just really shy and just nervous about it. He has autism, but it sort of/sort of doesn't affect much. I wanna just be friends for a while. But i don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Cause this is like a first time thing for me.
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I can see your confussed and it seems as though you don't want to loose the friendship you have which is a good thing. First times for everything are nerve racking... Be yourself and follow your heart. I can understand that the Autism may be bothering you a bit but thats only natural. I think you should talk to him about how you feel and what your worries are about having a relationship, just be honest and open :D
Good Luck xx
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Ok, well there's this guy at my school, and i totally like him. Buuut, there's one little problem. I can't talk to him. I'm like, really shy.. I need a way to talk to him without completely making myself look like a fool. How should i start a conversation? and what should i talk about? (link)
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ok... You could use these topics to start a conversation, What did you get up onto the weekend?, or if you've had a test at school you could ask him how he went or ask him what he's doing for the christmas vaccation. Just be yourself, don't try to be someone your not :)
good luck xx
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I'm going on my first ofical "date" with a guy. He's bringing his cousin and I'm bringing 2 friends and we are just going to the movies and mall so it's no biggie, just casual. I'm okay around guys, sometimes I act a bit nervous, I can't help it. I know I just have to act like I normally will but I kinda wanna flirt to show him I'm interested. I'm not into kissing or anything past that, because this is the second time I've seen him outside of school. So how should I act around him to let him know I'm interested? (he doesn't know i like him. i wanna show him not tell him) I'm just really nervous and I know I should be myself but it's more complicated than that. What do guys like for girls to do? And i'm afraid i'll be too flirty around him and forget that my friends are there. please use your past dates to tell me what to do and what not to do! i'm a wreck haha (link)
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Ok act normal, thats the main thing. Make eye contact with him, and giggle at his jokes, perhaps sit next to him and gradually either put you hand on his leg or hold hands with him. When you go to say good bye, give him a hug.
Good Luck xx
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okay there is this boy i KNOW i love. well we were going out then he broke up with me, but like i said i KNOW for a FACT that i love him. but he likes another girl. And all my friends are telling me i dont need him, but i do need him. he doesnt love me back and just every second of the day i think of him, and jsut want to be with him. but i know i cant. so what should i do, and my friends are also saying that i could get any guy. and a few boys have asked me out but i dont want them i want the one i love. so what do i do. i jsut cant get over him. he knows that i love him and he just doesnt care i guess.
so please help me .!! (link)
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Its a tough situation, it seems as though your going through rejection. There is nothing you can possibly do to make him love you, thats the underlying factor here. I know its hard and its going to take time to get over him. Time conquers all. There is no word such as can't. He probably does care that you love him but he obviously doesn't feel the same way and doesn't want to pressure himself into loving you, you've admitted he likes another girl which shows he's moved on. It seems as though you must be really pretty with the fact that a few guys have asked you out. I think you need to accept the fact he doesn't love you and form a friendship with no strings or feelings attached.
Best Of Luck xx
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Alright well....
I have a boyfriend, whom i love and he (says) he loves me back [some background info: this is the third time we're back together and he says he'll change for me this time]. well, when we're together we have fun but only if it's just me and him. when we're at school and around his or my friends, he acts different. he talks to alot of girls and says they're nothing to him but i know and he knows they all like him and want to be with him. i get crazy jealous and i have a reason, but when a guy comments me and says i'm a good friend he flips out. he tells me to be who i am and not worry about what people think [more bkgrnd: he's a punk, the type that smokes drinks but he stopped for me... and i'm kind of a good girl] but when i act like myself he makes fun of me and when i talk to guys who are only friends he gets really mad. i told him i'd NEVER cheat on him and i really mean it, but the thing is..he cheated on me twice and i forgave him because everybody makes mistakes, but he ended up feeling like shit (which is good for my part). i really do love him and don't want to break up with him because i don't want to see him end up like a lot of people i know, but it drives me CRAZY how he says one thing and does another and then acts like it's all my fault. all i want to do is keep him from screwing up his life, but at the same time i'm never the same when i'm around him vs. when i'm with MY friends. i want to concentrate on mine and just have fun, but i can't get my mind straight when i keep going back to my feelings.
the question is...should i break up with him? (link)
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Your in a hard situation here. Firstly, Its not fair on your behalf that he gets angry at you for talking to guys yet he does the same thing with girls and you don't seem to go off at him about it. The fact that this is your 3rd time back together tells me its not meant to be because it would have worked the first or second time, however thats only my opinion. The fact that he cheated on you not once but TWICE is wrong, he should have learnt the first time. He is very lucky that you are so forgiving. I think you need to talk to him, it sounds as though you have been in a relationship long enough to be honest and open with him, express whats on your mind, if you don't it will only get worse.
No-one can make the decision to break up with him other than you, you need to follow your heart.
Good Luck xx
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SORRY IT'S SO LONG!! I have been dating a momma's boy for the past three years. I've been trying to make things work but she hates me and will do anything to make sure her son does exactally what she wants. I want to move in with him next year but I'm afraid he will expect me to take the place of his mother (washing his clothes, cooking, cleaning, etc. and he's 20!!) He fulfills all of her ludacris requests including massaging her back, which he won't even do for me and I'm his girlfriend!! He won't even stand up to her after she stole his identity and borrowed $20,000 in his name!! What should I do? How can I get him away from his mother so he can grow up!!?? and for those of you who have experience with this, will I ever win this battle? Thank you. (link)
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Its a tough one.. Seems as though she is very over powering. Stealing his identity and borrowing that much money is purely wrong. It seems as though he is some what scared of his mother. I get where your coming from with not wanting to take the place of his mum with cooking etc, but just remember that being a girl sometimes thats what we have to do plus sometimes if we don't do it ourselves it will never get done. Hopefully as soon as you move in together he'll start changing and realising he has to fend for himself. I think you should talk to him about your worries because other wise they are only going to get bigger and eat away at you more. After being in a 3 year relationship you should be able to speak openly and honestly with him. Express your thoughts and opinions. Perhaps you could try and talk to his mother as to why she doesn't like you. From my experiences, when you move in with each other it may take a month for you 2 get around each others little qwirks and ways of doing things. :)
Best of Luck xx
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so me and my boyfriend started dating about 7 months ago and during that time he's slowly changed. he used to be the sweetest guy and now he's just mean. he acts like i don't even matter to him. he's always yelling at me and saying well if i make you that mad then break up with me but it's not something i'm ready to give up and talking to him about it doesn't do anything he's the most stubborn person ever. i just want my boyfriend back, what do i do? (link)
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Perhaps he was pretending to be who he was. Just remember people are allowed to change even if it isn't for the best. Its a hard situation considering you say he's stubborn and doesn't listen. You shouldn't stand for him yelling at you and being mean to you. Maybe its time for you to go separate ways although i do think you should try talk to him about it first. Perhaps you could write him a letter expressing your feelings. Maybe he has a problem he is not expressing try and get him to be open and honest with you and vise versa you do it back to him.
Good Luck xx
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My ex-boyfriend is now dating his ex-girlfriend. She was his first love all throughout middle school and for the past two years me and him were a couple. Now, many times he stated how much he was over her, but now I find him dating her and "in love". I don't feel I'm upset by the relationship but I feel confused. We broke up a few weeks ago but they were a couple shortly after. Between the time we broke up, and he dated her, he slept with and dated a couple of girls then finally told me that me and him couldn't be friends any more. I am worried about him because I think his actions may be a result of his parents recent separation. How do I react to this situation? (link)
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It all sounds a bit muddled up. It seems as though your ex- boyfriend can't make up his mind up of what he wants. Did he give you a reason you 2 couldn't be friends? It is quiet possible it could b his reaction to his parents separation either that or it could be his way of dealing with your break up(i'm not sure of the terms you broke up so that is only a possible thought.) Its only natural for you to be muddled and confused especially after he had told you on occasions that he was over his ex but then again he may have been saying that just so you wouldn't get mixed feelings about it or jealous or anything. It seems you have some unanswered questions that need to be sorted out in order for you to move on and have a better understanding of things. I think you may need to talk to him openly in order t get the truth to put your mind at ease. Express your thoughts, feelings and opinions you have a right to be heard.
Good Luck xx
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can u get any disease or anything from fingering. or anything dangerous/ the doctor could see. how bout bj? (link)
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First of all I'm not sure what you mean by bj. As far as I know you can't get any diseases from fingering but be sure that the person who fingers you has clean hands and that their fingernails aren't too long as this could cause scratches and cuts which a doctor may be able to see.
Hope I've Helped...
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okay so i'm dating a guy who is great. he's the first guy i've dated after my last ex who hurt me pretty bad at the time. we've been dating for almost a month. we hold hands and hug but like how can i be more not shy? i'm shy about things like that sometimes, but i'm outgoing with everything else. i think i just have my guard up but i don't know..any advice?
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Why are you shy? Is it because your scared of what others think? Maybe your feeling a little worried after your ex hurting you. Did you hold hands and stuff with your ex? Just give it time, you'll become more comfortable. I think you should talk to him so he doesn't get the impression your not into him or anything. You've been in a relationship for a month so you should be able to be open and honest with him, express your feelings...
Good Luck xx
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Alright, so me and this guy have been dating since the summer. I couldn't ask for a sweeter guy than him. When i am with him i get the best feeling and i just love spending time with him. Well my problem is this, one day at lunch one of my really good friends came over to my table. so we start talking and things and she told me that my man wants to do more things that just makeout. He has done things before with previous girlfriends. And im really not sure if i should or not. I mean yeah, i want to. But then the other part of me doesnt. Im just so confussed and i really don't know what to do. So if you could PLEASE help me i would really appericate it!! Thanks in advance. (: (link)
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Never pressured to have sex. Its a big step and something you will have to live with for life so you need to think carefully about it. I'm going to encourage you to talk to your partner about it, express your thoughts and feelings on the subject. Being that he is your boyfriend you should be able to be honest and open with him. If he gets annoyed and tries to pressure you to have sex, he isn't a very genuine guy.
Bet wishes xx
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