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im 16/f. i've been really lonely, and single, for a long time now, and since i'm too shy too go up to guys, i've decided to finally take action, while taking another approach. i recently created an account on espinthebottle.com, but i've been debating on wether or not i should post pictures. since my teachers are young and most of them go on dating sites, i'm scared that they, or anyone else that lives nearby who might know me, will by some chance come across me. i'd be humiliated. will anyone else who has an account, or any expertise at all on the site give me some advice [i have other questions about it]. thanXx in advance. (link)
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well since you are 16 as long as you put that on your profile you should be fine. your teachers won't have your profile show up, because I imagine that they have put an age limit on how young they want the person to be, and I imagine the lowest age they would put would be 20.
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14/f
im stressed out a lot. a lots been going on for the past year and i cant handle a lot like i use to. so i cry easily. i cry a lot because stress and stuff. and i know my boyfriend is tired of me crying,and so are my friends. i dont want to cry no more but i cant handle all of this crap. it seems like nothing worse can happen and it gets 10xs worse.
what i can i do to stop crying all the time? ill be so completely happy one second and the next i think of one thing thats happened and i then i start feeling depressed then i cry.
i dont have time or money to seek professional help. i dont want my mom to know because i need to be strong for her and my brothers. And i cant talk to any one at my school or an adult because i cant trust any of them,and i dont feel comfortable talkin to them because their people ill have to see and i dont want them to think of me like that.
What do i do?
I dont want my boyfriend to see me or hear me cry no more. he doesnt want me to be sad but i cant help it.
Thanks in advance.
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you should set aside, 10 min. in the morning and 10 min. at night to cry. this way you can be sad and get all you crying out, but not let it control you. and in those 10 min. cry as hard as you want. then when the 10 min. is up, make yourself stop crying. and when you are with your boyfriend and you start to feel sad just think about how he is there for you and cares for you, this will make you smile. and I'm sure that if there is the ocassional time where you want to be comforted be your boyfriend he will be there for you.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I care about him alot. With the Christmas season here he has been having to work about 60 hours a week with no days off(since about the begining of November). Now all we do is fight. I know it is because he is stressed and exhausted and I never feel like I get to see him; I also know that it will get back to normal after holiday season calms down in about a month. I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time. I don't want us to break up but I don't know how to calm my mood swings and fighting so he won't get tired of me. Please help... I have been so depressed because of this. (link)
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if he has to work so much, why don't you try bringing him lunch and/or dinner to work. this will show him you care, and will give you a chance to see him. this will calm you down, and not make you so angry. and remember he might be working as much as he is to get you something really nice for christmas. he isn't doing it to be mean. so try the bringing him lunch and/or dinner thing. and if he gets off late, you could try waiting up for him, and be at his house, and have something like dessert, or his favorite food, and movie. this is perfect for him to relax after a long day of work, and it will give you guys a chance to hang out, even if you both just fall asleep, at least you guys will be falling asleep in eachothers arms.
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So, as you might predict, i like a boy.
And we flirt nonstop, and are both ridiculously attracted to each other. Thing is though, the way we flirt is a blatantly sexual--- though kind of joking--- way. Like, we're all over each other, but we laugh about it. We haven't kissed or anything, though we've gotten close to it. My worry is that he just wants to hook up or whatever, when I'm thinking more along the lines of seriously dating him. This guy is king of mixed messages, and I'm having trouble telling whether he thinks of me only in a sexual way, or as a potential girlfriend.
How do I make him think of me as a prospective gf? And how do I tell what he's thinking about me, short of reading his mind?
Answers from guys would be great, but all are appreciated.
(because advicenators told me i should: i'm 16 and a sophomore in high school) (link)
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try hanging out with him just one on one, and stay away from the sexual flirting. try to just hang out with him, and talk. if you guys keep flirting sexually, all he will ever think of you as is a hook up. see what happens. and make sure that when you hang out that you look casual but hot. this will allow him realize that he is not only attracted to you, but that he likes you.
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In 3 days I will have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, so its semi-serious.
Yes I do love him, with all my heart,and no I couldnt imagine life without him.
I see him every evening for a few hours.
My problem is that I just cant stop shouting at him, or losing my temper, even when he hasnt done a thing wrong I find I will get in the car in a bad mood for no reason..all of these things I have no reason to do...
There is a few things which he needs to not ''change'' but flex a little with to suit my needs as well as his, so does everyone in a relationship.
Ive told him how I feel but hes stuck for what to do. He has changed SOOOOOOOOO much as I'm his first ''proper'' serious relationship. Sometimes I think it is because I feel I get more attention when Im angry or upset. But I always end up crying. I feel by doing this my feelings towards him are slighly changing. And Im scared of this because I don't ever want too lose him..
I know we should see each other less. But when I don't see him, I don't sleep, I just cry and cry, which upsets him, also I suffer from panic attacks, and hes usually there in the evening to make sure im okay...
Any suggestions as too why I am feeling this? And any solutions? or even temporary solutions to help regain my life.
I suffer from mental mood swings and cry for no reason at the best of times... (link)
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well first of all, you are trying to changing him, that is never good. if you love him, you should except him as he is. and mabey you think that he is too good to be true, so you start arguments to test the relationship. this isn't good, because if you keep doing this, it will ruin you relationship. so just except him, and have faith. and love him, and you relationship will be amazing.
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So about 3 weeks ago i met a guy through a friend and i guess we both liked eachother from the first time we saw eachother... so 2 weeks ago i went to a club and saw him there but nothing really happened between us all we did was speak he told me he liked me and wanted to get to know me.. alhtough i did want to go further i really liked the guy and decided to wait. Last friday however we all went out .. a group of us to a club (him included) and everyone could tell something was going to happen that night between us even i did.. . So anyway that night we made out basicaly the whole night and although he went out with his friends he was always keepin on eye on me and making sure i was ok. and reasuring me if it was ok for him to be with his friends. so at the end of the night we held hands and seemed like things progressed he took me home although it was out if his way and then we kissed more in his car. So its Tuesady today and i havent heard anything from him like he hasnt sent me any text messages or anything... so i really dont know where we stand... do u think he was playing with me? or that he is taking it easy.. or waiting for me to call?? should i be the one to iniciate things or will that look desperate? i only hope it wasnt a one night thing cause i like the guy!!
many thanks for taking the time to read :D (link)
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ok well guys can get that way. his friends might have ragged on him for getting so close to you so fast..they probably called him whipped. give another day or two, and if he still hasn't called, call him. but keep it casual. ask him if he wants to hang out. if he says no, then at least you know. if he says yes set something up like hanging out at someone's house, or lunch, that way you can talk, unlike in a club. then you guys can reconnect
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Theres this boy ive known for about a year now. You could say we're really good friends almost best friends. Thing is i like him and people say that they think he likes me too just cause of the way he acts but i dont know! Like he always smiles at me and ill catch him starin at me sometimes and yesterday at school he kept tellin' this boy "get the blonde girl" and when i turn around he'd just look at me nd smile. Then he wrote on my binder "devon was here lol!" and he said there that way you can think of me when your walking to class. And on the weekends he asks if im going to hang out with him and i did and he told me to come back at 830 and to make sure i did and i did but he wasn't home. What do you guys think given by the information and what should i do? i like him alot but im scared to tell him but my friends have told him. THANKS! (link)
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well if your friends jave told him, then he might think you do, but doesn't want to tell you just yet, because he might not be sure whether or not your friends were telling the truth. that is why he flirting with you, he is probably trying to figure it out. keep flirting back, and try when you guys are hanging out to look at him in the eyes, make sure you are close to eachother. this way it will give him the oppurtunity to kiss you. you can also try like a tickle war, this will get you guys in close contact. then when there is a stop in the tickling look into his eyes, make sure you are smiling. this will also present another oppurtunity to kiss you.
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Okay, I'm kind of confused in the middle. my boyfriend asked his parents to pick me up tomorrow so i can see him, since i don't get to see him that much. and something happened, he said his dad said "no" so my boyfriend started crying. then he texted his mom saying "I never thought i would say it but i hate my life now i never wanted to move I'm probably gonna loose my girlfriend soon cause of this you're the one that promised to take Mary to our house and back in the first place! and it may not seem like a big deal to you guys but it is to me!!! she's the only person that makes me smile if ya'll take that away from me I'll do something very drastic i promise.. you better not mention to this to dad." and he told me that his dad said that him seeing me is enough once a week, and that his mom back stabbed him, by dragging him out of his room into the living room and started yelling at him and saying that if i really did love him then i wouldn't leave him or anything. and that they might come to my house and tell my parents about us and then break us up. (my parents don't allow me to have a boyfriend especially my dad because I'm the daddy's girl). which kind of confuses me, because he says that his parents LOVE me... i mean LOVE me. then all the sudden his dad texts me, saying: "Mary, please try to help Adrian (he's depress) we can't understand why? if his relationship with you is affecting him then we need to take care AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, since we want the BEST for you guys, PLEASE don't forward this message to him, otherwise we will think you don't REALLY love him.... thank you for your understanding, Please respond." so then i was confused.. and his dad called me to tell me to help my boyfriend and stuff like that.. and that they have reasons why they can't take me and stuff like that. and i understood.. but i don't understand why all of this is happening. they say it's because my boyfriend(Adrian) is depressed about it.. and doesn't do anything besides sit in his room. then his mom texts me saying: "Please don't think that we are blaming this on you it's Adrian that don't understand that we can't take him to see you everyday and we had our reasons to move here. he will be able to see you more often i will get his driving permit on Friday so he can learn how to drive but i just need you guys to be more patient"
they told me to help him on school & etc.. but yet it's kind of hard to believe who and stuff.. help me please? how can i help him? and what is the right thing to do?
PLEASE & THANK YOU. (link)
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ok so it is kind of shitty that his dad said that you wouldn't forward his text to your bf if you really loved him..watch out for him, that's manipulative. but all you can do is be there for him. talk him down. remind him how much you love him, and that you won't just leave him. remind him that very soon he will have his permit, and will then get his liscense. just be patient. and you might want to talk to your parents about the fact that you have a bf. I know it might be hard, but if his parents, and your parents are trying to contribute to you two seeing eachother, then you guys will get to spend more time together.
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My BF of three years says I am too needy. I really do not understand how I am too needy! Any ideas how I could possibly get to be any less needy/clingy? (link)
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try not always hanging out with him. If he doesn't mention plans to you at least three days in advance make plans with one of your friends. and let him call you. by doing this it will make him miss you.
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okay so i really need help.
i really like this guy.
weve been friends since the beginning of Freshmen year.
but over the past couple of months ive started to see him as more than a friend. well i talked to a couple of my close friends about what to do. They told me to tell him, all he could do was say no. that he didnt see me as nothing but a friend. sooo i told him this past friday night. i typed 4 paragraphs about how great he was, how he deserved better than someone he was talking to that screwed him over, big time, and telling him that i really liked him. well all i got in return was "your so fn sweet and cool" then today when i walk into 5th he grabs me and gives me this huge hug, then i go sit down to do my bell ringer and he comes by me and starts hitting a bunch of keys. (He sits infront of me, in keyboarding) after that he messes my hair up. then he leaves to go donate blood 15 mins after 5th started and he stairs at me the whole time hes walking to the door/out it.
soo yeahh does this mean he likes me as more than a friend??...wouldnt he have told me??....am i not good enough for him???...why hasnt he told me anything, whyd he leave me hangin and then today do all that?...should i ask him if he likes me as more than a friend?? or just wait and see??
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it sounds like he might just be messing with you. so pull away, just act nonchalaunt, and like you don't care. it will drive him nuts, and show him what he is missing.
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There is this guy I've been crushing on for about a year. We are friends, but everytime we are like, "Let's hang out." it kind of just never happens, because there is nothing to do around here. Well, people have been telling me to just tell him I like him, but I'm scared. So for Christmas, I was thinking of doing something like getting him a hersey kiss and putting it on a piece of paper saying, "I don't have the guts to give you a real one, so I guess this chocolate kiss will have to do. Merry Christmas." Is that too cheesy? What other things can I do that will make him smile? (link)
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that is so perfect. If he likes you that will give him the perfect oppurtunity to make a move, and if he doens't than you can just play it off as a joke.
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14/f -- i'm not prude, but i don't hook up with people alot. the last time i did was in october, and before that in may. i don't know if i'm a bad kisser, but one of the guys i hooked up w. told his friends i was but he changed the story. so i don't know -- but getting to the point, is there anything i can do with my tongue that people generally like to improve my kissing? or my hands, or basically anything that will make the experience for more pleasureable for both of us. i know that everyone likes different things, but just from your experiences or what you've heard, i guess. (link)
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make sure to relax your mouth. don't be tense. try using burt bees lip balm. it is minting and will make both of your lips tingle. try putting your right hand on his cheek while kissing, and will be very lady like and make him feel special. take little 2 second breaks from kissing every now and then, that way he can look at your beautiful face and eyes, it will make him want you more. but most importantly like I already said make sure that your mouth is relaxed.
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Hi,I'm 15, male and very shy. I like this girl in my class and I think she likes me back because i caught her staring at me serveral times and i some time stare back at her but I'm still not convinced that she likes me to ask her. what should I do? (link)
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you should causually go up to her and say that you didn't understand what the teacher was talking about in you class, and could you two go over her notes together. This will give you some alone time with, and help you figure out whether or not she is interested in you.
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I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 26. We've been together for 3 years.
He's always getting text messages from girls. Girls that I've never heard of, that don't live in our town, let alone our state. He watches porn when I go to bed (which I don't really care about, he is male.) He's just really secretive about things. Like when he's on his computer, he won't do anything when I'm around.. but as soon as I go to another room he's typing away. And I'll come back in and he'll close everything he's doing. I always ask him if he loves me and means it, and he always says yes. I just sometimes feel like he isn't being honest or faithful to me. I worry a lot. I feel like maybe this relationship has been a waste of time.
I don't know what to do. Like I want to talk to him about the girls and the text messaging and all, I just don't know how to bring it up to him at all. (link)
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these aren't good signs. but I don't think you should end it if you guys have been together for 3 years. just sit him down and tell him you need to talk to him about some things. there is no real good way to bring it up. so talk to him about it, and if he doesn't have any answers, or squirms, or gets defensive, then he is probably hiding something. and you deffinately don't deserve that.
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Okay, so I'm 15/f
I have a feeling that this guy I like is going to ask me out, mainly because everyone's been saying he likes me and he keeps on asking to be alone with him for a few minutes sometime this upcoming week. I know, I shouldn't get my hopes up because I can get disappointed majorly. But to be prepared:
What are some good ways to say "yes" to him if he asks me out nonchalantly. Not excited/naive sounding but at the same time not "I'm not interested but I'll go out with you out of pity" sounding. Help!
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if he does ask you, you don't want to act nonchalantly. you should smile and say yes and then kiss him. it is the perfect "yes".
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