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Is this healthy in a relationship?
I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 26. We've been together for 3 years.
He's always getting text messages from girls. Girls that I've never heard of, that don't live in our town, let alone our state. He watches porn when I go to bed (which I don't really care about, he is male.) He's just really secretive about things. Like when he's on his computer, he won't do anything when I'm around.. but as soon as I go to another room he's typing away. And I'll come back in and he'll close everything he's doing. I always ask him if he loves me and means it, and he always says yes. I just sometimes feel like he isn't being honest or faithful to me. I worry a lot. I feel like maybe this relationship has been a waste of time.
I don't know what to do. Like I want to talk to him about the girls and the text messaging and all, I just don't know how to bring it up to him at all.
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I would just flat out tell him your concerned. That you don't want to be a obsessive spying girlfriend, but that you think he's hiding things from you. If he truly isn't, I'm sure you'll be able to tell. Just go with your gut feeling. If you think things just aren't right, end it. You don't need a guy sneaking around behind your back.
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Spy on him one day while he is in the computer or go to his email and read them. If he has msn and talks to them through that theres a way you can save the conversations and then read them when you can. When comes to the text messages get his phone one day and just read them and call the girls. It is for the better.
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Well i think you should get down to the bottom of it .That doesnt sound like a healthy realationship to me at all.Question him about his odd doings and if he gets mad that you are askings then he's doing something behind your back.Ask to look through those text messages that he gets from those girls.
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these aren't good signs. but I don't think you should end it if you guys have been together for 3 years. just sit him down and tell him you need to talk to him about some things. there is no real good way to bring it up. so talk to him about it, and if he doesn't have any answers, or squirms, or gets defensive, then he is probably hiding something. and you deffinately don't deserve that.
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