This guy seems like the kind of jerk that thinks men are above women and own them. What an asshole.

To be honest, you're 14 and you have a lot of life ahead of you. You should spend your time with someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated, isn't selfish and demeaning, and truly cares about you [and shows it].

If this guy's only 14-ish and he's already acting this way, then two things are going to happen:

1] He's not going to change, and if he does, it's going to get worse, and
2] He'll begin to make YOU think that it's okay for him to act that way, and that's just taking you down with him.

Please, drop this guy.

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Well, I honestly think you're too young to be thinking about sex... but if you're sure then no one can stop you, so I might as well give the best advice I can. That being said...

Your first question -- is this a good thing? I'm not sure if you're asking if it's a good idea to do more things with this guy, but that's what I'm assuming you mean. Anyway, if you're 100% sure that you are ready and you are not being pressured to do something you're not sure about, then yes, it can be a good thing. I just want you to make sure that you are completely ready to do this, and that you aren't going to regret it afterwards. Only you can decide if YOU think it's a good idea.

As far as your second question... the answer is sometimes. It all just depends on the girl (and the guy). I'm willing to bet that unless you're very sporty and active, your hymen is still intact, which means that there will probably be a little bit of blood (which is nothing bad or nothing to worry about. As far as pain goes, like I said, it depends. If it does hurt, it will probably be a very sharp pain but only for a second, until your body gets acclamated. A woman's body is made to stretch to accomodate a man's body, so it won't hurt for very long.

All that being said, please make sure that you use a condom when and if you choose to have sex with this boy. I'm sure you'll regret it if you don't at least take that step to protect yourself.

First of all, stop typing like an idiot. It's hard to understand, and it makes people not want to answer your question. I almost didn't.

As far as advice goes...

If you don't want to tell your friend that you like him... tell him.

None of that sounds very whore-ish to me. You're not selling your body for money, and if she's using the term 'whore' to insinuate that you're being slutty or whatever, she's wrong.

You've been going out with the same guy for 7 months now, it's perfectly okay for you to kiss him, wherever you want. It's not like you're kissing 4 different guys every day, or having sex with a bunch of people.

I think she's either jealous of your relationship or she's just a bitch. You need to cut out your relationship with her, or she's going to say even worse things to hurt your reputation. Just tell her you don't appreciate the way she talks about you behind your back, and that you don't want to speak to her or hang out with her any more -- and leave it at that. She doesn't need any explanations, or your forgiveness. Just drop her.

I think you should take a break. Don't get me wrong -- I don't think you should give up in any sense of the word. But I've learned a few things over time:

1] If you keep having failed relationships, there's a common denominator -- yourself. You should work on making sure you are whole WITHOUT a man, and being happy with yourself before you try to add someone else into the mix.
2] Good things happen to those who wait. There's someone out there for you, but if you look, you're not going to find him. Ever hear about the people that find love when they weren't even looking for it? That's the kind of love that lasts forever.

Take a break from guys and relax for awhile. Try to focus on other things -- school, family, church, whatever. You will find other guys, and there will be other heartbreaks, but if you just let it come to you naturally, it won't be so hard.

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You're not going to like what I have to say... but I hope you really consider it.

I think you need to distance yourself a little from both of these guys -- and from guys in general. Your ex still cares about you and you care about him, and because of that, you're finding yourself comparing these two men, when in actuality that's never a good thing to do because everyone is different -- for good reason.

I think that if you're having this much trouble deciding what you want to do with your OWN heart, then you shouldn't string their hearts along with it, you know what I mean? If you continue your relationship/lack of relationship with either of these guys, you're only going to hurt both of them, and yourself.

I suggest telling both of them that you need some time alone to figure yourself out, before you try adding another person to your life. If they both truly care about you like it seems they do, then they'll understand and give you your space -- and if they don't, then you don't need to be with either of them anyway.

Actually, I think I'll be the first one to tell you that you ARE a little wrong.

Did you tell him beforehand that you never wanted him to talk about your relationship with his parents? If you didn't, then he probably thought it was okay and I see why -- he's got a great relationship with his mother, and it's built on TRUST.

I understand that you feel kind of embarrassed that he told his mom, but I don't think you should be upset with your boyfriend. Still, I think you should talk to him. Maturely. Ask him to just listen and not interrupt until you're finished talking, and then calmly (as in not yelling) tell him why you're upset. Make sure to tell him that you understand why he told his mother, but ask him to please refrain from telling her any more details about your sexual relationship in the future, unless he discusses it with you first.

Well, this can go different ways.

First of all, why won't you date? Does he not want to be tied down? Do you guys date OTHER people, or are you just making out with each other and that's it? If you're in love with one another, what's the problem in making it official?

I don't think it's inherently WRONG that you guys are friends with benefits, but you have to understand that people are going to think other things about you (in other words, some people might think you're a slut for making out with someone you're not dating, and they might think he's a player). If you guys don't have a problem with that, then it's fine in my opinion.

Still, if you're so in love and whatnot, I don't see the problem with dating him.

Sounds like you're trying to control him, and I can see where that could be a huge problem. Look, I'm sure you're trying to be a great girlfriend by not letting him hang out with this person, but your boyfriend's a big kid and he can make his own mistakes. You need to stop trying to control who he hangs out with -- or he's going to end your relationship. Trust me, it's happened to me for the EXACT same reason. Do you wanna risk that?

Don't write anything in his yearbook because... well, I don't want to burst your bubble, but not all high school relationships work out and it would kinda suck to look back at his high school yearbook and see that his ex wrote about kissing him (and what if his future wife read it?).

So what I suggest is, well, what I did to my ex... haha.

I wrote in his yearbook, just how cool he was and all that, and then started to hand it to him and just said, "What'll you give me for this?" And just made some playful flirting out of it until we kissed. =]

Women are nuts, and I can say that because I am one. To be honest, you can never tell with us, whether we're being sarcastic or arguing. I think your safest bet is to not respond harshly to her in any situation, and simply ask, "Are you serious?" Either way, try to avoid an argument though, because fighting sucks. =]

A false negative can happen when the levels of hCG (the pregnancy hormone) aren't high in your body. That could mean it's too early to take the test, or you aren't pregnant.

False positives happen when the hCG level is higher than normal -- which doesn't necessarily mean you're pregnant.

When did you take the first test? Even though it says a test can be taken up to 4 days before your missed period, that's not necessarily true. Wait until either:

1] A week after you took the first test, or
2] Your period is 5 or so days late.

That way, if you are pregnant, you're more likely to have a high enough amount of hCG in your system.

Also, to get a higher level of hCG, use your first morning urine -- as in, the very first time you pee in the morning. That's when the hormone is the most concentrated.

If you don't get your period within 3 weeks of its normal time, and you're still concerned, go to a gynocologist to get a blood test. They tend to be more conclusive.

Yes, you can get pregnant. Here's why:

1] Men release 'pre-cum' during sex, which is basically sent out there to get rid of any urine that might still be in his urethra, because urine kills sperm. However, that pre-cum DOES contain sperm, and you can get pregnant even if he doesn't actually cum inside you.
2] Obviously, if he didn't wipe his penis off, there was still sperm it. You can also get pregnant from that.

Long story short, yes. Chances are smaller than if he came inside you, but that doesn't mean anything. Right now, it's too late to take the morning after pill and you're obviously not on birth control (or you'd have said something). I'd suggest keeping tabs on yourself and praying that you get your period on time. If you end up being more than 3-5 days late, then take a pregnancy test. Try not to stress about it too much, because you can create a false negative or a false positive on a pregnancy test.

I understand where you're coming from, but some guys just aren't into buying gifts. Still, it's great to receive them.

I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how much you love and appreciate him, but that you love receiving little trinkets to let you know he's thinking of you. Make sure you tell him that it doesn't have to be expensive, just that you'd love to get little packages from him. You can even say, "I'll make you a deal. I'll send you a little package every time you send me one. That way we always know that we're thinking about each other."

Hopefully, he'll take the hint but won't think you're trying to get his money or be a gold-digger. =]

1] You shouldn't feel slutty. You did something that felt right at the time, and if you regret it a little, that's fine -- but don't beat yourself up about it.

2] If you still regret it, then stop doing it. 'Nuff said.

3] If you want to tell your friend, then you should. It's your business and your decision whether you tell her.

Okay, so let me get this straight. You're with a guy that you have absolutely no future with -- you're from different religions, your parents don't like him, you don't find him attractive, and he doesn't satisfy you sexually. So why the heck are you with him in the first place?

If you don't want to be with this guy, then break up with him; no matter what, he doesn't deserve to be with someone who doesn't appreciate him and want to be with him.

If you break up with him, then you can get with Guy #2 and keep your self-respect -- AND you don't get labeled as a "Cheater."

Either way, don't cheat.

Some guys -- some girls, too -- just don't like talking on the phone. If he talks to you in person, and uses other methods of communication, then I don't think he's nervous or doesn't know how to talk to you. Mostly I just think he doesn't like to talk on the phone. It may be impersonal, but that's just the way some guys are. You can't make him want to talk on the phone.

Well, most girls probably won't say yes, because most girls aren't sluts. =]

But from my experience, most girls do enjoy sex and sexual acts; they just don't express it quite as much as guys do, because girls worry a lot more about their reputation and people think about them, then guys do.

Hey there. I'm Holly, and I'm 19. I've been through a lot in my life -- literally, if you can name it, I've probably dealt with it or know someone who has. Unfortunately, it sucks, but fortunately, it puts me in a great position to help people that need advice. Feel free to ask me anything about anything. =]

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