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I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. we've been long distance for 3 of the months. [yes, it's crazy but I truely love him]. I sent him a box of goodies for valentines day & a present for his birthday. He's never sent me anything... not for anniversaries or anything. 5 months back he got me a bracelet for my birthday & then a scrapbook & stuff for christmas. I don't want to sound snobby or anything... I would love a ring from a 25 cent machine... just something to show he's thinking about me. Any ideas on how to do it wihout sounding rude? thanks!
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I understand where you're coming from, but some guys just aren't into buying gifts. Still, it's great to receive them.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how much you love and appreciate him, but that you love receiving little trinkets to let you know he's thinking of you. Make sure you tell him that it doesn't have to be expensive, just that you'd love to get little packages from him. You can even say, "I'll make you a deal. I'll send you a little package every time you send me one. That way we always know that we're thinking about each other."
Hopefully, he'll take the hint but won't think you're trying to get his money or be a gold-digger. =]
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This shouldn't bother you so much. Yeah, you've been buying things for him, but he might not have the money to buy you things. Just because he isn't poor doesn't mean he'll always have cash on him.
You shouldn't even expect gifts out of the blue. Just appreciate what he does get for you. Gifts aren't everything.
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Nope. It'll sound like a gold digger.
You just have to tell him how you feel about token gifts and consider his income and money-- I mean he may have debts and things and no spare cash for gifts.
Don't expect a gift if it is not your birthday or Christmas.
A card for an "anniversary" and Valentine's Day is appropriate.
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Next time you talk to him just say something like "Hey did you get the stuff I sent you?" and he'll say "Yea" and then say "Oh well I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you, but (jokingly) I guess you never think of me since YOU don't send ME anything. (then giggle)" Just do something like that and I'm sure he'll get the hint. If not just tell him you don't think he's showing you he's still into you and that it's hard because of the distance.
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